Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

If you knew what would you have done?

To my own understanding, Ma, you are so lucky to have that kind of husband at your disposal..... So many marriages end up just because their husband can't just make it up to their wife...... Ma pls you have married for 2years now and you are enjoying it pls don't do what will make an end come to that happiness, talk to your man as a wife make him understand your pains, apart from sex some many things you pple can do to be satisfied, pls be wise and think on how to go about it, is your home, don't make your husband lost interest in having sex with you, coz if he do sister your marriage is going little by little, pls express your mind to him in a lovely way......pls don't let him go outside to look for it, coz ladies outthere will not complain and they will give it to him in full, 92.5 percent of woman love to have husband that can deliver very well. Pls be wise.

LilMissFavvy:
Welcome to Africa means what? A wife married to an uglyyy beefy Nigerian man is expected to be faithful and still find such a man attractive, yet men cannot stick to their wife. Is it a curse or something? Because I don't believe that it means Africn men have a higher libido, or special libido

That's how you know them, unmarried, men hating and frustrated.
This Op didn't insult or describe her husband with any of the fowl words your imaginations is spitting out now.
Neither did she accuse him of unfaithfulness or unkind, why are you taking it personal, na your own?
If you are so frustrated with other's opinion leave the thread and read another one.
All these "feminists" sef...

Ingredient88:
To my own understanding, Ma, you are so lucky to have that kind of husband at your disposal..... So many marriages end up just because their husband can't just make it up to their wife...... Ma pls you have married for 2years now and you are enjoying it pls don't do what will make an end come to that happiness, talk to your man as a wife make him understand your pains, apart from sex some many things you pple can do to be satisfied, pls be wise and think on how to go about it, is your home, don't make your husband lost interest in having sex with you, coz if he do sister your marriage is going little by little, pls express your mind to him in a lovely way......pls don't let him go outside to look for it, coz ladies outthere will not complain and they will give it to him in full, 92.5 percent of woman love to have husband that can deliver very well. Pls be wise.

THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE AND THE MOST MATURE HERE.
OP, TAKE THIS ADVICE SERIOUSLY.

Lizboh:




My sister, some of us are having the same experience. I've been married to my husband for the past 20yrs, and its sex sex everyday except on my period. We've had series of issues because of it but oga no gree change. Most times I start fights because I don't want to do but he will still come for it. What I've doing for more than 2yrs now is just to lay back and allow him do what he want without participating ( he no kuku dey mind again)..I also pretend to sleep when he is doing it. Most people here will not understand what you are going through, just learn to live with it. Thats my own advise

I hope when he stops disturbing you for sex ( after getting a slay alternative) you won’t come to Nairaland to disturb us at the front page. Women wanting to eat their cake and at d same time have it.

how come all this unmarried men know so much about sex, na WA ooo

Is it not too early to take alcohol this morning? Filthy disgusting thing. You lack comprehension, otherwise you would have known I was not referring to anyone, i only gave an example, blindd bat.

DeRay98:


That's how you know them, unmarried, men hating and frustrated.
This Op didn't insult or describe her husband with any of the fowl words your imaginations is spitting out now.
Neither did she accuse him of unfaithfulness or unkind, why are you taking it personal, na your own?
If you are so frustrated with other's opinion leave the thread and read another one.
All these "feminists" sef...

LilMissFavvy:
Ohh.... God pls help married women o, it's like nigerian husband's are so unfaithful to an extent that those commenting are telling the woman to be grateful that her husband still finds her attractive, or is having sex with her alone. So a Nigerian man is not supposed to be having sex with his wife alone or find her attractive, huh!

Report 1: 30% of Nigerian men aren't the biological father of their children.

Report 2: Nigeria has the 2nd highest rate of paternity fraud in the world after Jamaica.

Report 3: Most first borns in Nigeria are bastards – DNA expert Abiodun Salami.

majilore:

who asked whether you had sex or not before wedding. guilty conscience

Don't mind the hypocrite. Very useless self entitled woman.

No sex before marriage, u come here come they typed rubbish.

Guilty conscience kill u dia.

Thats what you had prayed for at some time in your life so, dont run away and also he may found your body attractive.

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

In an American voice, YOU WANT TO BE OFF DURY (duty)?
Risky I must say...
You're a woman, make him understand,
I'm very sure he will.
I got married last year, I'm like your husband too, my wife talked and I understood her.
Sometimes, I study the Bible and read novels... It has helped. I'm reading one now, Black wind by Clive Cussler.

Lmao



Wetin ashawo dey collect three times daily and they pray make market move more




Sorry o

This is very small compared to their cheating, don't you think they deserve this?

Youngzedd:



Report 1: 30% of Nigerian men aren't the biological father of their children.

Report 2: Nigeria has the 2nd highest rate of paternity fraud in the world after Jamaica.

Report 3: Most first borns in Nigeria are bastards – DNA expert Abiodun Salami.

Julietsim:

I thought married women who have experienced this will advise me but it is clear that it is only unmarried guys who are talking. Maybe I wasted my time coming to ask here. I have discussed it with him severally. His reply is "would you prefer I get it outside?. I cannot allow my husband to cheat. Because it hurts alot

If you would just calm down to read the comments from those unmarried men you would realise that they expressed the same sentiments as your husband. They zeroed in on the core of the matter.

Would you rather let him cheat? Your answer is no, cos it hurts.

Whatever you do, don’t weaponise sex. Don’t make it a tool to control him cos It will backfire. I assure you.

So you don’t let him have sex with you. He has 3 options.
1. Porn and masturbation
2. Cheating
3. Ignoring his urges.

Which of the above do you think he will pick?

bdchange:

what do you mean by saying she is lucky? is the man supposed to start having sex with other ladies apart from his wife..because people do it does not mean it is the norm.

She's lucky actually, in this current generation, most married men cheat, it is difficult to find one that does not, those that cheat are in the majority. She's lucky I must say. To be married for two years and your husband doesn't find you boring, monotony doesn't set in, such a wife is lucky. The bitter truth is men get tired over time with one particular pussy, the urge, the drive, that initial burning fire gradually winds away, but don't make a mistake, the Love may still be intact. Love and sex are two different things to men. Though I feel for the woman sha, because excessive sex could be very irritating, sex is energy sapping. If her husband energy level is more than hers, it will weigh her down. Too much of everything is bad.

Romanoff:
I'm not married yet but I'd like to think you're lucky you're the only one he's having sex with.

Maybe now that you know, incorporate other fun activities into your lives that can give you some space.

Maybe binge watch some series, especially during this lockdown.

I will like to be ur friend.

Why are you pretending as if you don't know also?

Rozz:
how come all this unmarried men know so much about sex, na WA ooo

Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

Lol, u did not know he was like this fire for fire e was saving all his strength for only you just u.....and am sure e his d quite type na dem get high libido pass, madam enjoy ur marriage... D best solution is to sit him down and talk to him about it esp after a good meal....though am not sure if he will not fire down again immediately after d discussion..just continue talking to him it will work out...enjoy ur marriage.... Lol

LilMissFavvy:
This is very small compared to their cheating, don't you think they deserve this?

Women cheat more than men. There are many research on this online.

Read this one >> https://www.pulse.ng/lifestyle/relationships-weddings/relationships-facts-stats-that-show-that-women-cheat-more-than-men/8ey0q67


Deserve it or not, DNA test is A MUST for me.

It now cost 60k, additional person is 40k.

The price is still going down.

bdchange:

what do you mean by saying she is lucky? is the man supposed to start having sex with other ladies apart from his wife..because people do it does not mean it is the norm.

She's lucky actually, in this current generation, most married men cheat, it is difficult to find one that does not, those that cheat are in the majority. She's lucky I must say. To be married for two years and your husband doesn't find you boring, monotony doesn't set in, such a wife is lucky. The bitter truth is men get tired over time with one particular pussy, the urge, the drive, that initial burning fire gradually winds away, but don't make a mistake, the Love may still be intact. Love and sex are two different things to men. Though I feel for the woman sha, because excessive sex could be very irritating, sex is energy sapping. If her husband energy level is more than hers, it will weigh her down. Too much of everything is bad. If only the man can do things with moderation and consideration for his wife, the marriage will be blissful.

Rozz:
how would she have known that or are you saying she should have fornicated with him before marriage?its not the right thing to do even if it has become a norm,there are still people who obey God and will wait till marriage before having anything intimated to do with any man.The man should adjust and consider his wife's pain

Yes she should've fornicated..
Don't let religion make you marry blindly..
Some may get lucky and end up with compatible partners while most won't and have to endure marriages that should be enjoyed for the rest of their lives.
After dating for years and you're certain your personality goes well with your boyfriend or girlfriend's personality and you two plan to marry,have sex and find out if you can cope sexually before you marry,it is very important.
Even if there's money in the family,sexual frustration destroys homes faster than poverty.

Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

Why is his penis not paining him also. Abeg give the poor man the thing joor.

The both husband and wife should be ready to adjust.
Sitting down to talk and meet at middle level for both.
Nobody should be expecting to get one hundred percent of desires (fantasies) from marriage.
But commitment to the marriage make it work well for both.

rtdCivilservant:
At least he should know he is not making love to a machine.

She should've showed him her sexual capacity before marriage
That would've avoided u necessary problems.

Lizboh:



Who says its rape..because its not, I enjoyed 90% of it. Am used to it. My self esteem is intact . If he walk away or anything, I will be very fine. I don't know if you are married or married but we should all learn what works for us

Good to know. As long as it works for you, whatever rocks your boat.

It disgusts me to see men that crave for sex every minute of every hour of every day of the week. I mean what other time do you spend thinking of prolific measures to better your life as a Man. Don't be a fuckboi all your life.

One negative effects of marriage before sex, you never can tell the other person's sex drive until you're married to him or her. My sister try and talk to him in the middle of the night about it, pick your words wisely and don't fight with him. If he's truly a Good man, you will find out.

Soft!

Julietsim:
Married women who who experienced this, please advice me. I am getting tired

Mrs can I ask you a question, do you enjoy it too despite the daily sex action? The problem is he has high libido while yours is a bit low but you have to adjust cos this is marriage not dating so you're going no where and sex is one of the important ingredient in marriage, I experienced same in my first year of marriage but it wasn't a problem to me cos I'm equal to the task, just try and find a common ground and don't try to complain to anyone cos they'll only laugh at you, enjoy your sex filled marriage cos many are looking for such

SirKomA:
It disgusts me to see men that crave for sex every minute of every hour of every day of the week. I mean what other time do you spend thinking of prolific measures to better your life as a Man. Don't be a fuckboi all your life.

One negative effects of marriage before sex, you never can tell the other person's sex drive until you're married to him or her. My sister try and talk to him in the middle of the night about it, pick your words wisely and don't fight with him. If he's truly a Good man, you will find out.

Soft!

That you have a lower libido doesn't mean people who have a higher one doesn't make them fuckboys...
And you don't know a person's sex drive when you're married.
You know it when you two have sex,which can be known even before marriage.

LilMissFavvy:
Is it not too early to take alcohol this morning? Filthy disgusting thing. You lack comprehension, otherwise you would have known I was not referring to anyone, i only gave an example, blindd bat.

This is how you know those broken, loveless ghetto girls.
They take every opportunity to spew trash at any one because that's all they got....
You need a psychological rehab to fit into society and think better without frustration

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

If he is not getting it at home, he must definitely get it elsewhere. It's your choice oh!

Jesuisbelle:
Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat

In a day everyman and woman have sexual urges so doing it everyday is not d issue the issue for her is doing it 3times a day back to back....this can be easily resolved with talks.....if na me too na everyday something besides its my duty to please DAT booty...plus she is my wife