xyz123456:

But it's not selfishness from a woman to deny her husband when we know the husband hormone is higher abi?? Come back for comment when you are able to keep a man for 5 years (in marriage)

Obviously, many of these NL ladies have low mentality. They think marriage is some past time. Silly comments here and there.

Some won't keep a husband for one year sef. It's a wonder those who PM them.

tell your husband to get second wife . so that sex will reduce

Give him 3 days straight...
Go and take Spanish fly..
And give it to hubby in a fierce way... You won't feel pains and you will enjoy it... And after giving him the full dose he won't disturb you that much...

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Sex sex sex......

Lack of it causes wahala, too much of it causes wahala.

What I have learnt is, no matter how much it gets, if its done right, you won't get tired of it.
Have you talked to Oga, about the pain you feel ?
Maybe its your mindset ?
You could try opening your mind to enjoy it too, it would make a lot of difference.


If you see it as a chore, or "disturbance", you would end up feeling pain, because its not been done with the right frame of mind


Please tell oga to read my post here, you can read it too, it would help.

https://www.nairaland.com/5727914/not-been-able-sex-yet#87318647



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Ur husband has high libido
U have low libido obviously
Go and marry another man you will still complain. You better give to cesaer what belong to Cesar

WUdec:


This is rape. The sex was not fully consensual. Do not get used to it or it would damage the way you feel about your body and could damage your self esteem. It could also damage you psychologically.

You might not agree to this now but if he ever walks away or leaves, these would kick in. Hopefully that won't be your case

Who says its rape..because its not, I enjoyed 90% of it. Am used to it. My self esteem is intact . If he walk away or anything, I will be very fine. I don't know if you are married or married but we should all learn what works for us

LilMissFavvy:
Ohh.... God pls help married women o, it's like nigerian husband's are so unfaithful to an extent that those commenting are telling the woman to be grateful that her husband still finds her attractive, or is having sex with her alone. So a Nigerian man is not supposed to be having sex with his wife alone or find her attractive, huh!

That's not the issue raised by the OP,
A wife is not finding it easy coping with her marital duty to her husband who's exercising his marital obligations.
What other people say is irrelevant so leave them alone...neither these comments or the "busy" husband is the issue.

Don't you eat everyday? Madam open that thing for am.u better let him get used to it now cos when the lockdown finally relax another club go buy the player if him perform foe training.

Equal2DeTask:






Your husband na my type....


You said he is a good man, maybe he will listen to you if both of you can decide to be making love like thrice in a week....Talk to him...he is a good man that will understand your feelings and not been selfish ...

Gbam

Am a married man with 6 years experience, I will advise you to kindly comply with your husband as time goes on he will be tired. Do other things with him than sex, watch movies together, cook together and pray together. Distract him with other things and most importantly don't confront him when he approaches you. Don't seek counsel from your single friends cos they will mislead you.

Wendybrown:




And I assume a "white man's" genetic composition is different from an "African man"? Please let's stop justifying what's not. U say our forefathers married more than a wife, I wasn't born then but from all I've heard and read I was made to understand that for most it was mainly for farming as that was the major occupation for them.

Women are humans too my dear and it's grossly unfair to demand her to stick to a man all d days of her life while d man is allowed to marry as much as he wants and even philander about.

No need for all this story. I was only pointing out that “norm”is a relative term not absolute. One man’s norm is another man‘s strange. The same people that brought the concept of one man one wife to your forefathers are now trying to sensitize your generation to same sex marriages and gender neutrality.

Be careful when you talk about what is normal and what is a product of social conditioning

LilMissFavvy:
Only a numbskulll would say that sex on a daily basis is a normal thing. I have read severally in write-ups from experts that 2-3, times sex in a week is is normal for healthy married people. it's a pity when a lady does the right thing by abstaining till marriage, then ends up with these kinds of issues. Anyman who has sex everyday has a serious issue and should seek medical help. I don't know why any male should say that a woman cannot experience pain due to daily sex, who told you, are you a woman to speak? The word nymphomaniac still exists in the dictionary, the OP should seek counselling and be hopeful for the lockdown to end so that her husband can get busy again, and life goes back to normal.

"Ogbeni, save your rants. It's a pity she abstained and found herself in this situation bla bla bla".

She can get a divorce and simply goan find her match. He too will surely find his match... Life is easy.

Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

Madam sorry about ypur ordeal okay but just a little mire patient by Saturday the lockdown will be over and he'll not have the time to always be at home with you making love to you.

Try have a kid as well, im sure when the responsibilitu and effect of raising kids adds up he will naturally loose interest about sex.

But for the now enjoy it while it last ok because a time will come when you'll need it and wont have it.

Madam, u are very lucky to have such good husband and he still faithful to u. There is a lot way to please him and u too still have pleasure because there two ways woman do made her home( is either make work or break it).

Miner13:
that strategy/ies /are what julietsim needs. sex everyday when there is work can't even think or imagine it

There is time for everything, she should create the time for it. She should not listen to those telling her its bad to always give in because am sure most of them are going through worst. If the husband is caring and takes good care of her, then she should take as his fault and help him. Another thing is attractiveness, am over 50 and getting dress in my husband's presence is war because he will sha want to do in. She should love her husband for who he.

Dumbo. ........go back and read my posts. I don't spell abusive words correctly, in my second comment on this thread I typed the word u.gly as ''uggllyy'' bullshi.t as bullseet, etc, it's all fun to me, Common sense which you lack should have let you know that my phone dictionary can easily type that word. I will keep typing this way to avoid a 'ban'. Twerps like you should keep ranting.

holyfather:

All your comments are all nonsense and please go learn how to spell NONSENSE before you type another nonscence here.
Stupid girl.

MrBrownJay1:
you cant have your cake and eat it too... this man does not cheat and instead likes to get his groove on with his wife. you should be happy and find ways to reward him for his fidelity (as we all know many men out there cheat). actually, you should be undressed and ready to "receive" as soon as he comes home, as a thank you gesture for being a good man.... unless you would prefer he goes out sexually frustrated because his wife cant cope with sex daily?

SOLUTION: why dont you instead try to make this sex enjoyable for the both of you? open up to him, tell him what you like, tell him what you fantasize about, let him do the things that YOU like too.

I will urge u take this advice, sex is meant to be enjoyed by both parties, tell him how u too enjoyed it , If u like sucking tell him to licki licky u, anything u want tell him unless u don't love him, if u are the dry type use "ky jelly lubricant" , tell him also what makes u wet, "sex is so enjoyable my wife have never resisted me or complained , even when she gave birth she still gives me Mouth Action and MouthAction till I c**m" says a specialist

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

Ogbeni, life is easy.

You're a wrong match for his libido, simple!

Stop complaining like he has committed some crime.

Your options are pretty straightforward:

1) He's entitled to more than one wife. So you can let him get a second wife to relieve you of your burden.

2) Or you can just divorce and goan find your own libido match. He'll find his own match to.

If you can't do any of these, please keep quiet and find a way to live with it.

KomonSense:


Please share the strategies you developed with us as an experience...

You don't know who will be benefiting from this...


Pls it's very important

I just replied a mention now..read up pls

Jesuisbelle:
Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat

Too sorry your marriage is really a sad one. It shows well on your write up.. Take heart dear.

Wow. going through this thread got me shaking my head. imagine people saying she's lucky he finds her sexually attractive and doesn't look outside, like is he supposed to look outside before? isn't her his wife? can't he compromise? woman's complaining of pains told husband about it and he's like guilt trapping her. nawa o. I don't have any experience in this but the man's just being selfish. Doesn't want to know if his wife's enjoying it or not. is this what marriage is about?

Stupidd, dead brained failed loser. My dad is an exception...... Carry your irritating self out of here.

BerlinGado:

So your papa sef ugly since all African men are uggly beefy
Were, frustrated evening newspaper

Emmanuelhector:
Too sorry your marriage is really a sad one. It shows well on your write up.. Take heart dear.

Lolz people are funny ooo

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

Best thing to do is to start dressing like an expired woman.
Unparallel wrappers, big blouses or gowns (the Lord's Chosen specs), unkept hair, wear bogus pants.
But please oh... Don't come back here to shout that your husband is cheating on you.

MansoryMX:

And which food is that?

Animal proteins, vegetables and fruits like pineapple, watermelons

Lizboh:




There is time for everything, she should create the time for it. She should not listen to those telling her its bad to always give in because am sure most of them are going through worst. If the husband is caring and takes good care of her, then she should take as his fault and help him. Another thing is attractiveness, am over 50 and getting dress in my husband's presence is war because he will sha want to do in. She should love her husband for who he.

You're really blessed with wisdom. I can only wish your marriage more success.

It's really bad of the OP to be complaining about what's simply an inherent nature of her husband.

It's not like he's taking enhancements to deliberately punish her. So I see no reason for this public shaming.

If she can't find a way to cope, she should make way for another woman who will be his match.

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

Remember to warn his that in as much as he loves having sex with you there inherent danger of dying in 'active duty'

ubcandid:
You mean your husband is still active on you for 20 yrs? Abeg take am easy. Na 16 yrs you marry.

I don't think I should reply you, I will only tell you that everything is not joke. Go to comedy section if you want to play around. This section is for matured mind

Iamundisputed:


Well, it's a good thing that your husband finds you sexually attractive and doesn't hide his feelings.

If he wants sex everyday and you can't handle it, there are other freaky things you can do to spice up the relationship. Encourage him to kiss and handle you more instead of the main sex and with time, he'll get used to it. You can also tell him when you're too tired to have sex or you're uninterested. No big deal...

But make no mistake, a man with a high sex drive will demand for it most times, so you need to also get used to it. It's part of your marital rites.

Except......

You learning...

Since when?

Perogbangba:
learning

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

He is not cheating on you that's why, no one else is helping you outside, so you decide what you want. To carry your cross alone or allow Joseph or Arimatia (side chick) to help you carry your cross.

I THINK YOU HAVE A DUTY. IT COULD LOOK SIMPLE BUT NOT EASY. since you said he is a good man, try talking to him with chearful face not quarreling him. tell him how you feel, not schooling him. My wife once asked me, can you not just stay with me when am naked without having sex with me? that question made me to prove to her that we can actually stay together naked without sex. so the manner inwhich you approach him, give you the solution. i was once like that. no side chick and never will.

It's a pity that you don't find your husband sexually attractive otherwise you won't come here to complain about sex every day..

Another reason is that your estrogen level is probably low hence you are not easy to to turn on sexually.

Solutions. Eat more of estrogen boosting foods and fruits. E.g, soya beans, walnut, garlic, cucumber. Etc