Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

You should be lucky hes having sex with only you,if you want him to stop then let him go have it somewhere else

humilitypays:
Why must they complain

twice a month is okay for married couples....they should devote their time to other things of life, life for a married couple is not just about sex.....if there are kids, let them devote more time to playing with their kids....teaching their kids computer appreciation, how to paint, and other stuffs.....people are making sex sound too much of a big deal....something they have been having since they were teenagers, na wa o

The fact that you have been doing since you were a teenager and lost interest does not mean some people did not wait so they can enjoy it in marriage.

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

1. Make sure he is not on any sex enhancement drugs.
2. Draw a time table i.e Monday sex, Tuesday Mouth Gig, Wednesday masturbation etc.

NB: is his type of working too demanding?

Ariza:
This is serious

seriously serious

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

1. Make sure he is not on any sex enhancement drugs.
2. Draw a time table i.e Monday sex, Tuesday Mouth Gig, Wednesday masturbation etc.
3. Have sex on Monday skip Tuesday, then do it on Wednesday and skip Thursdays..
4. He will surely adjust since your marriage is just 2 years old.



NB: is his type of working too demanding?

domino4211:

Yes she should've fornicated..
Don't let religion make you marry blindly..
Some may get lucky and end up with compatible partners while most won't and have to endure marriages that should be enjoyed for the rest of their lives.
After dating for years and you're certain your personality goes well with your boyfriend or girlfriend's personality and you two plan to marry,have sex and find out if you can cope sexually before you marry,it is very important.
Even if there's money in the family,sexual frustration destroys homes faster than poverty.

so bold,so compatibility cannot be known until you fornicate abi?change your mindset sir

LilMissFavvy:
You like Islam because you cannot control your third leg. Instead of you to advise that the man should seek medical help and develop self control, you are talking shittt.

Better to have a valid solution for my third leg than engaging in infidelity.

Polygamy is legal so long as you have the finances to cope with it. Its religion that interferes in such process. But Islam agrees with polygamy. It however has its ups and downs though, I must admit but it helps all the women in the marriage balance thier needs and feel less stressed like the woman in question.

Thats my opinion. You can state yours without any insults. Basher8583 is in a good mood today oh. Dont change it for me cuz you wont like it.

Emmanuelhector:
As if you know how the pastor is dealing with his wife.. or you thinks the mother can't be suffering same fate? .. Women and their thinking self

no pastor will ignore his wife's complain as this man is doing to his wife

Hmm Bola, can you cope if you were in her shoes?
You wey sabi tire for that matter

Bola146:
You must learn to like it ni o please.

Second wife is the solution.lobatan

Do you have a baby with you?if not that's the reason for sex everyday

LilMissFavvy:
Ohh.... God pls help married women o, it's like nigerian husband's are so unfaithful to an extent that those commenting are telling the woman to be grateful that her husband still finds her attractive, or is having sex with her alone. So a Nigerian man is not supposed to be having sex with his wife alone or find her attractive, huh!

My dear... Listen and listen very carefully.
Cheating in marriages has been going for only God knows how long. But in these last days it has become so rampant that its gradually becoming a norm (you don't have to agree with me) but it is the fact.
In 10 marriages, 8 of them have one cheating spouse: one or both of the spouses will definitely be cheating.
Sad but true, infidelity has eaten so deep into marriages the world over.
Having said that, if you find a home where the man who is oftentimes considered polygamous in nature, and the most likely to cheat sticks to his woman and refuses to cheat or adapt to the modern day "norm". Shouldn't the woman be grateful or thankful she has a faithful and God fearing man.
Do you have an idea how many sexual temptations men (single and married alike) face daily? If you know, you know. If you don't know, explaining to you will only be an effort in futility.
The point is : If you have a faithful man, vigorously thank God for him and still pray for him not to fall into temptation. The world is going berserk and abnormalities are gradually becoming the norm.

Aunty you said it’s too much, you didn’t say you didn’t like sex. Just explain to Oga that you like the sex but you don’t like having it everyday which is ridiculous to me because Oga go go outside go find another woman so him no go wound him wife for house, till sounds ridiculous to me.


My own advise don’t tell OGa you are tired oooo

I encourage you to have your husband read the book: how to make her ask for more.

I forgot the name of the author. But if you ask book shop keepers they should help you find it easily.

The reason you want your husband to read that book is, enjoying sex for most women means lots and lots of romance. Yourself, you don't know better and you must have concluded sex is always dry and painful.

Get the book, read it yourself and have home read. That will be a turning point in your marriage. Most men see sex as a sprint : they hit down hard on the honey pot and that can come with lots of inconvenience .

If done right, everybody is capable of enjoying sex.

Will you rather, he gets it from another woman outside?.your married to a man with high libido..due to over secretion of testosterone..talk to him, communication is important..perhaps to reduce the frequency..don't nag or complain..Trust me babe, if he's not getting it from you he would get it from some random women.

Lizboh:



Jeeezzz..you think its exaggeration ?, then am a very luck woman since my husband still see me good enough for sex 50+. When your wife is 40, pls cast her out. Age is in the head. I married my friend and age grade. Wish you good luck with your marriage, byeeee

you're just beating around the bush and deviating off course.

If you're 50+, it means you married at least, age 30. I'm done with you here.

Even if you find your husband unattractive, or you're the bread winner - who see's sex as a favour to your husband. You're still exaggerating. I'm done with you. BTW, I can deduce I'm having a convo with no 50+ lady.

Davash222:
Advice him to get a second wife, so you can be relieved of your DUTY!!

Mad o!!!

Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

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The fact that he respected you enough not to have sex till marriage means u should find ways to spice up your sex life now that you are bonded together. This is no time for excuses.
He has been dying for you since and can't get enough. Go and buy sex lubricant at any pharmacy. This will reduce vaginal friction and make u enjoy sex more

Jesuisbelle:
Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat

Las Las, your type will lose their man to other women who are lurking around and praying that you take your home for granted. Go out there and research into the statistics of single women In desperate search for a place perch.
So on top of the very integral issue of sex.. All you have to say is the nonsense you spewed up there. Later the Op, will come back here to lament that her husband is no longer coming home.
You're wicked, if you're careless with your marriage (that's if you're even married) don't advice others to be careless with theirs. Dialogue has always been the solution, not some defiant, ignorant and stupid attitude like you posted.
If you're tired of pleasing your man or being called "Mrs" go back to your father's house. Your mother can't possibly keep her home intact if her attitude to her husband is the nonsense you posted as advice. Don't ruin people's homes with your 21st century stupidity.
Ciao!!!

Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

Now pre- marital sex advocates would love this reply now.

Divert the sex into more pre-intimacy.

Else you keep nursing bruises on ur privates.

sassysure:

Well, she said her vaginal walls have no feelings and are constantly dry. I don't wear the shoe so I wouldn't know.

Her mother should talk to the man, yes. It's a woman to man talk and an elderly woman is needed to send the message home with its consequences.

My friend missed the opportunity when her mum came for the first òmùgwò and noticed what was happening. She begged this girl and she was busy doing my husband my affair.
Her biggest mistake. Six yrs down the line, she was giving me a frantic call. Shame wouldnt allow her to call her mum. All.the feelings she had for this guy were just melting away.
Worst is that if she is not with this guy for like 3 or 2 days, he will go out and do it.
Is that not madness?

I want to assume everyone is not the same in terms of their libido, some men have very high sexual libido and there are women that have very high sexual libido too, they didn't make themselves that way, I know a girl that banged my friend so much that he would run to my house to escape too much sex, it wasn't just an everyday thing it was more of they nack now, the guy wash off, she come back rolling in on his dïck for more, I can't say it was bad because it's how her system demanded it, even if she holds off from it, she might still give in to the urge, they broke up and she con dey show sign of wanting to get close to me, I jejely severed our friendship a little so we would not end as bedmate which would lead to my untimely death due to overdrive on sex, she didn't know I knew she was banging my friend cos we were all office friends, today she's married, if her husband sexdrive isn't as crazy as hers, he would probably breakdown in no short time, she sef go breakdown cos she would not get enough of what her body desires


Sex should be enjoyed by a husband and wife and it is a must for both to find ways to please each other but when it becomes too much for the other party to handle then there's a problem, but he too might complain she doesn't satisfy him, two way thing

In my own marriage, we both get down whenever our bodies long for each other, so counting the number of times is irrelevant but it's not really an everyday thingy cos in reality cos is sometime exhausting, me no be really fück fück man but who doesn't love sex

Compromise and understanding is the best option for the op, not just in sex but everyother avenue, how would she feel if her husband say she eats too much cos she eats 3 times a day, to you 3 times is ok, to her husband pocket it might be too much, while some eat uncountable times a day, we're all wired differently

I don't think you married your best friend, my wife was the one exhibiting your husband's trait,she wants me to pound her like everyday, sometimes She'll even wake me up in the dead of the night and ask for it,I am a very busy person and it is difficult to meet such demands daily so what I did was sat her down and explain things to her,it took more than a dozen tries but at last she started cutting down those urges and we drew up a timetable, sex once or twice a day finally reduced to twice a week.
So you should be able to sit your oga down and explain things to him,he is a man and I know if he loves you he'll try to cope With things, libido or not it's all about determination.

Julietsim:
My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. He is a very good man . He is not a cheating type. The only thing is he likes sex so much that he always wants to have it everyday. I am tired. This lockdown has even increase the issue.

Please how can one cope? Is there any married lady that has experienced this. How did you handle it?

Make him work harder so that he can dispense his energy elsewhere. I bet your husband is one of those working in government with little to no energy exerted.

Its unfortunate many couple couldn't distinguish between 'love-making' and 'sex'. In a normal marriage with mutual respect, we make love, we don't sex. Love-making involve so many sexual acts that both partners enjoying doing not necessarily/always 'Penetration' thing. You guys need education on love-making. 2years into the marriage is not too late (if you guys can work together) for learning to commence. Acts of love making should be mutually enjoyed. if not, there's a need for redress. Someone may be suffering from some form of complexes or usage of stimulants without the other party's knowledge. Try talk together and study the book 'acts of marriage' together.

I will be frank with you, you married a satirist and now you have to deal with it.

The incompatibility is now evident. If you refuse your husband's sexual advances, he will definitely go outside to get it because he has a stronger libido than yours.

And I have learnt that marriage has a finality to it which makes men feel entitled to sex and refusal of such advances will bring replacement or search for alternatives.

What you can do is eat a lot of crayfish, oysters, lobsters and seafood to serve as aphrodisiacs. Tell your husband to get them for you.

Secondly buy Maca root, watermelon, pineapples and dates; and eat fruits regularly, especially towards the night before the action begins.

Any woman who gets on this diet will tolerate sex, as this will partly reduce the pain and induce more pleasure into the act.

Well said bro.... Is very normal for a faithful man really. All my life I have only slept with 2 ladies my ex that we dated for few months and my wife... I have been married for 13 years now... I have not cheat on my wife since we got married... I started this way with my wife. She's a vigil when I met her... So imagine how difficult it will be for her with no experience... But she keep bearing it... Now na me dey run self.... Na like two times I dey do now a month some times self I no dey remember... Long story shot bear with him.... Na him go taya...

talkwithfobi:
Your marraige is two years . such is normal, for a faithful man. The sexual life will naturally adjust after a while.

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Excellent7:


What a solution!

Might not be the best but, always learn to understand certain people behavior and try to have a counter to things like that. She can play dead when getting laid, mute, no initiations, staring at him during the act like she's been used or just clean up after and do other stuff so, it won't look like she's okay with his daily attitude. Sometimes practicing partial silent treatment e g will talk only if he ask her about anything or want something but, keep the conversation brief. She can start preaching to him, sometimes the Bible or God's word are huge turn off to people.

LilMissFavvy:
Welcome to Africa means what? A wife married to an uglyyy beefy Nigerian man is expected to be faithful and still find such a man attractive, yet men cannot stick to their wife. Is it a curse or something? Because I don't believe that it means Africn men have a higher libido, or special libido

You're just another 21st century immature I'd!ot with no idea what marriage or even life is about.
Tell me is your mom still married and lives with your father? If YES.. Go back to her to teach you how to handle issues like this because you still have a lot to learn. Work towards ending stvpid!ty and ignorance so you don't end up as another single mother. It's already becoming a problem in the world.

Graxie:
I think you and whosoever that is calling me cococandy alternative handle is mad. Check when I registered on nairaland. It's obvious some of you are sick. I made up my mind that I will never quote your role model, stop involving me in your stupidity.

Wow, ur defense is beyond reasonable doubt

I sometimes wonder why peeps go around accusing others of using plenty monikers, though I know it would be happening

Unik3030:
[s]so if d man decide to have sex with another woman,will heaven fall?

She have to count herself lucky cos the guy is only doing it with her,some guys will not complain they will just go out n satisfy themselves low-key n d wife won't know

[/s] satanic advice! this is bad, you dont celebrate evil, that every other man does it doesnt justify a wrong thing right. there are also very good men out there (me inclusive) that dont cheat... its a life style you choose to take... fear God, stick to your wife you have taken by oath (marriage).