Their is this lady I have come to develop feelings for. She is a graduate and intending to go for service before November... it's just this pandemic
that is delaying things. She is also a member of my church and serving in one of the service units. I have been observing her for a while and in the course of time grew feelings for her.

I took courage and approached her and she told me she is engaged to be married this December but the problem is that after that our chat she has been tailing me. She always comes around me to sit close to me during service meetings. Some times she'd be starring so much at me that you'd wonder. I'm beginning to think wether she actually told me the truth about her relationship status earlier or she is just trying to hold on to me as alternative just incase here marriage plans with the other guy goes south.

Please friends I need your sincere advice on what to do as am confused. I really love the lady and would like to marry her.

Ndeoma:
Their is this lady maynationI have come to develop feelings for. She is a working class nairalander... it's just this pandemic
that is delaying things. She is also a member of my church and serving in one of the service units. I have been observing her for a while and in the course of time grew feelings for her.

I took courage and approached her and she told me she is engaged to be married this December but the problem is that after that our chat she has been tailing me. She always comes around me to sit close to me during service meetings. Some times she'd be starring so much at me that you'd wonder. I'm beginning to think wether she actually told me the truth about her relationship status earlier or she is just trying to hold on to me as alternative just incase here marriage plans with the other guy goes south.

Please friends I need your sincere advice on what to do as am confused. I really love the lady and would like to marry her.

Before you recompose

she told you she's engaged, Oga move on with ur life, u will be glad u did.
no be say next year January, u go come create a thread explaining how ur long time crush send u a wedding invitation card and disturbing lalasticla.la to move it to front page. Just move on, If things with her guy goes south and u are worthy to replace him, she will come for u if otherwise u will be glad ur not hurt.

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It'll end in tears man.

Fashi the babe bro..

dukeprince50:
she told you she's engaged, Oga move on with ur life, u will be glad u did.
no be say next year January, u go come create a thread explaining how ur long time crush send u a wedding invitation card and disturbing lalasticlala to move it to front page. Just move on, If things with her guy goes south and u are worthy to replace him, she will come for u if otherwise u will be glad ur not hurt.

Let him create the thread I will read and pass

Dont ruin others happiness for your feelings,that's bein selfish.

once lady fine na marraige b d next tin... after marriage now, Op go say him don tire. bro marry a girl full of wisdom nd not the beautiful types...na dem dem o

dukeprince50:
she told you she's engaged, Oga move on with ur life, u will be glad u did.
no be say next year January, u go come create a thread explaining how ur long time crush send u a wedding invitation card and disturbing lalasticlala to move it to front page. Just move on, If things with her guy goes south and u are worthy to replace him, she will come for u if otherwise u will be glad ur not hurt.

See bro am not the one going after her again. After she told me she is engaged I immediately withdrew myself but the situation here now is that she is the one coming for me. I don't even look at her face in church but one way or the other she will try to come around me. She watches my every move in church just in case I want to try out another lady in church. Most times when am smiling and chatting with my phone you'd clearly see this frown on her face. I've been observing this trend for a while now.

And you know once you love someone, definitely you'd fell like trying your luck once again to see whether their is a chance something could be established between you both. That's the state of dilemma I am in now. And also the lady too fine bro.

I value your advice bro and I will try to restrain myself from her at all cost. Funny enough I don't even call her on phone.

She wants to check if you are a better option.

Afterall she is engaged not married, So......

omoiyamayor:
Dont ruin others happiness for your feelings,that's bein selfish.

I haven't ruined anybody's happiness neither do I intend to do so. Try and read my post well and my reply to other comments.

woman matter ehh

xendra:
She wants to check if you are a better option.

Afterall she is engaged not married, So......

Are you saying there a possibility she might still be interested in my proposal? You are a lady you'd be in a better position to tell me how you guys operate because am not understanding again. Lol

VicM6:
once lady fine na marraige b d next tin... after marriage now, Op go say him don tire. bro marry a girl full of wisdom nd not the beautiful types...na dem dem o

She seems sensible bro... She is also a graduate and I know it might sound weird but I love fair pretty ladies.

She told you the stand of things in the beginning, you should be happy about that for not letting you waste your resources.
Maybe you should move on, you definitely ll meet someone you like much more than her..

Ndeoma:


See bro am not the one going after her again. After she told me she is engaged I immediately withdrew myself but the situation here now is that she is the one coming for me. I don't even look at her face in church but one way or the other she will try to come around me. She watches my every move on church just in case I want to try out another lady in church. Most times when am smiling and chatting with my phone you'd clearly see this frown on her face. I've been observing this trend for a while now.

And you know once you love someone, definitely you'd fell like trying your luck once again to see whether their is a chance something could be established between you both. That's the state of dilemma I am in now. And not the lady too fine bro.

I value your advice bro and I will try to restrain myself from her at all cost. Funny enough I don't even call her on phone.

U don't need a sorcerer to tell u she thought about what u told her and she's now into u, I think u should try ur luck one more time, if she's truly engaged and love the other guy,she will give u the red light again, this time move on for good, find another girl but biko do not be a second guy and have a secret affair with her, cos there's only two things that could happen if u do that. 1. U will destroy someone's else relationship or u will regret at the end wen u are already into her and then still loose her to her fiancee, I've been in such situation where I loved the babe but didn't know she was engaged and pregnant for her fiancee.

dukeprince50:
U don't need a sorcerer to tell u she thought about what u told her and she's now into u, I think u should try ur luck one more time, if she's truly engaged and love the other guy,she will give u the red light again, this time move on for good, find another girl but biko do not be a second guy and have a secret affair with her, cos there's only two things that could happen if u do that. 1. U will destroy someone's else relationship or u will regret at the end wen u are already into her and then still loose her to her fiancee, I've been in such situation where I loved the babe but didn't know she was engaged and pregnant for her fiancee.

Bro you don't know how much your advise means to me since you've been in the same situation before. Even to try again sef my mind dey shake. Getting the red light twice from a lady is a no no for me ooo

I know women can be very cunning that's why I threw this to the house so you guys can shed more light on it for me. My head is full right now

Ndeoma:


Bro you don't know how much your advise means to me since you've been in the same situation before. Even to try again sef my mind dey shake. Getting the red light twice from a lady is a no no for me ooo

I know women can be very cunning that's why I threw this to the house so you guys can shed more light on it for me. My head is full right now

If u truly love the babe and want something with her u shouldn't have any problem trying the second time but with a different approach. If u feel embarrassed asking the second time, U can just ask her how about her fiancee in a friendly manner, if she replied with "he's cool, he's fine etc" then u should just give up but if she doesn't have any fiancee, she will tell u the truth this time cos she also want something with u. Women always use this strategy to find out if their male crush has a gf. They will be like "how ur babe na" or "Abeg free me o, I no want ur babe to come break my head,i no get strength", u should use this method to start, from there I think u can take things on all by urself

dukeprince50:
If u truly love the babe and want something with her u shouldn't have any problem trying the second time but with a different approach. If u feel embarrassed asking the second time, U can just ask her how about her fiancee in a friendly manner, if she replied with "he's cool, he's fine etc" then u should just give up but if she doesn't have any fiancee, she will tell u the truth this time cos she also want something with u. Women always use this strategy to find out if their male crush has a gf. They will be like "how ur babe na" or "Abeg free me o, I no want ur babe to come break my head,i no get strength", u should use this method to start, from there I think u can take things on all by urself

Thanks bro... I'd do as you said and see how it plays out.

Ndeoma:


I haven't ruined anybody's happiness neither do I intend to do so. Try and read my post well and my reply to other comments.

I'm sure my comment will stop you from intruding into their lives

Ndeoma:
Their is this lady I have come to develop feelings for. She is a graduate and intending to go for service before November... it's just this pandemic
that is delaying things. She is also a member of my church and serving in one of the service units. I have been observing her for a while and in the course of time grew feelings for her.

I took courage and approached her and she told me she is engaged to be married this December but the problem is that after that our chat she has been tailing me. She always comes around me to sit close to me during service meetings. Some times she'd be starring so much at me that you'd wonder. I'm beginning to think wether she actually told me the truth about her relationship status earlier or she is just trying to hold on to me as alternative just incase here marriage plans with the other guy goes south.

Please friends I need your sincere advice on what to do as am confused. I really love the lady and would like to marry her.

Sò whàt do you want us to do? steal her engagement ring?

Ndeoma:


See bro am not the one going after her again. After she told me she is engaged I immediately withdrew myself but the situation here now is that she is the one coming for me. I don't even look at her face in church but one way or the other she will try to come around me. She watches my every move in church just in case I want to try out another lady in church. Most times when am smiling and chatting with my phone you'd clearly see this frown on her face. I've been observing this trend for a while now.

And you know once you love someone, definitely you'd fell like trying your luck once again to see whether their is a chance something could be established between you both. That's the state of dilemma I am in now. And also the lady too fine bro.

I value your advice bro and I will try to restrain myself from her at all cost. Funny enough I don't even call her on phone.

Bro, bro, broooo. Calm down I know how love feel.. It's difficult letting out on love... You just have to smart to make wise choice. Since she told you she's engaged it's not your fault. Even though she's joking. Over move on.. Don't because of her stop chatting with other ladies.

Because you will later regret .. Trust me.. No matter how close she comes. Keep searching for other ladies and ask others out. She's having a wonderful time at home with her fiance. While, you go home sober, single and no lady to comfort you.. Bro move on .. If she like she should remold her face with anger... It's none of your biz.


Incase she comes around tell her you can't continue because she's engaged and you might get really close to her and you don't want that because it's addicting and such attention could destroy her relationship. That you don't want..

Bros flow with other ladies, or you'll later regret you didn't. She's getting D* from her fiance.


She's using you bro.. Don't be her puppet.

xendra:
She wants to check if you are a better option.

Afterall she is engaged not married, So......

A lady that's engage haba

Frankicent:



Bro, bro, broooo. Calm down I know how love feel.. It's difficult letting out on love... You just have to smart to make wise choice. Since she told you she's engaged it's not your fault. Even though she's joking. Over move on.. Don't because of her stop chatting with other ladies.

Because you will later regret .. Trust me.. No matter how close she comes. Keep searching for other ladies and ask others out. She's having a wonderful time at home with her fiance. While, you go home sober, single and no lady to comfort you.. Bro move on .. If she like she should remold her face with anger... It's none of your biz.


Incase she comes around tell her you can't continue because she's engaged and you might get really close to her and you don't want that because it's addicting and such attention could destroy her relationship. That you don't want..

Bros flow with other ladies, or you'll later regret you didn't. She's getting D* from her fiance.


She's using you bro.. Don't be her puppet.

That's the same thing that's been going through my mind. This set of people called women can be manipulative. I will just shun her straight and try out other ladies. I think its better that way than to allow her hold me ransom. Thanks bro

Bros lockup, if she want a relationship with you she'll tell you by her self as a matter of fact stop acting like you still have feelings for her even if you do.

Ndeoma:


That's the same thing that's been going through my mind. This set of people called women can be manipulative. I will just shun her straight and try out other ladies. I think its better that way than to allow her hold me ransom. Thanks bro

Am telling you bro... Free her except she want to flirt with you.. Flirt with her and woo other ladies make you no lose

If you want something serious, tell her you do. If she refuses, make love to her and move on life is not that hard.

Oga go and make your feelings known to her. Just try your luck. Na so BankyW own pass.

make true friendship with her.
if it works out to become a relationship then that your luck. else you've nothing to lose because in friendship it always a win win

oga let her go and move on. Forget about how she stares at you, women can be so strange in behaviour sometimes. Use your 6 before 7. No talk say I no tell you. Peace