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RamessesIV:
This is what happens when have comprehension issues go and read up "civil rights movement"
And they were denied certain rights doesn't mean they were sub-human better carry your inferiority complex to one side

linearity:
Beyond denying of rights, blacks were treated, seen and counted as sub-humans by law.

The Three-Fifth Compromise bears that out. As they were regarded as 3/5th humans.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Three-Fifths_Compromise

RamessesIV:
Lol latinos are nice ohh but they have family wahala,try nonsense she go call her brother to f you up

Resivim:
People don't change they're revealed. So, shine your eyes and don't choose for wrong reasons.

MenGoingThereWay:
I know some guys who married Latinos and they are having a good time they tell me the Latinos have that naija mentality about family the only difference is that they are Latino. Those guys also tell me that Latinos are ride and die chicks..Good times in bad times she dey with you

XhosaNostra:
I get it, Lefulefu. Yeah well, break a leg lol.

humilitypays:
The op is writing jargons!! Complete nonsense!!



He should change the topic to:

My Bad Experience Dating Nigerian Women Living in America!!!


Most Nigerian guys living abroad are their own problem, they are the reason Nigerian ladies show them pepper once they land abroad.


These guys will never tell these ladies the truth of what they do and how much they earn.


They will be saving money for months or years and maybe after some years they gather the cash which is hard currency, change it when they land Nigeria and it becomes huge money in Naira and they start to spend it anyhow forming rich guys when they are just nobody in the US but because of exchange rate difference and good environment they stay to snap pictures and post online to deceive these Naija based ladies, these ladies assume them to be rich guys working with US President lol.


On arriving the US after they use money they don't even have much to entice and lure these ladies into marriage, these ladies discover that these guys are like the downtrodden people, the lowest of lowest in the US and you know women, they feel betrayed and start to harbor anger against these guys that brought them to the US and these guys will never tell people the truth of what happened, they will start telling people that the Nigerian girl they married and brought from Nigeria no longer respect them, how can she respect you when u lied to her from the beginning and used fake life and lies to lure her into marriage

MenGoingThereWay:
I know some guys who married Latinos and they are having a good time they tell me the Latinos have that naija mentality about family the only difference is that they are Latino. Those guys also tell me that Latinos are ride and die chicks..Good times in bad times she dey with you

abbey621:
Y'all ned to chill out with these scare tactics. I've been married to my wife for 5 years now in this America and she still cooks, serves me food and even water to wash hands. It's all about what you have to offer and how well trained your wife is. Any woman abroad or at home that feels such is beneath them can go to hell, yes in the USA women reign supreme but there are ways to be diplomatic yet be in charge. Give a woman access to bank accounts, let her control the shopping in the household, maintain your sexual prowness and continue to bring in good income and I emphatically tell you as a man you can get away with almost anything. Let her think she's driving the ship, for example, give her access to your bank accounts and credit cards but keep certain accounts private for rainy days. This is America , most people have 4 or more accounts. Get life insurance and investments list her and the children as beneficiaries, this kind thing will sweet her die. Encourage her, build her up, let her have a career. In short let her win the many numerous little battles while you win the war. As time goes on, you'll realize you've gotten her to do exactly what you wanted without force...This is how real men in America operate....BE PREPARED FOR THE WORSE WHILE HOPING FOR THE BEST, SEE IT AS A BUSINESS ARRANGEMENT, EVERYONE MUST DO HIS OR HER PART!

humilitypays:
Op, in as much as you made some valid points, I am sorry to say you are assuming a lot of things based on your personal experience and also making up things by exaggeration.


America is not as bad as you paint it for guys when it comes to dating women or getting married to American based Nigerian women or exported ones.

8 of my childhood friends who stay in my own house whenever they return back to Nigeria before traveling to their villages or destination in Nigeria are all living happily in the US with their wives whom they married from Nigeria; mostly their old girlfriends and some ladies they married after they relocated and none have any issue. In fact their wives still respect them and accord them the respect they deserve.

One is a nurse, his wife still serve him food even when they return too and she too is working as an insurance broker.


Another is a force guy and married to a nurse and she respect him just like a Nigerian wife in Nigeria respect her husband.

Then if I come to my family side, all the ones married and living in the US for years with their wives have no issue.


This thing is about the lady you married.


Even in Nigeria some ladies disrespect their husbands, we read hundreds of such stories here on Nairaland....so its not just about America that the ladies you are making reference with changed, they are bad ladies with bad upbringing and didn't cherish the men they married that much, maybe they married them for some hidden selfish reasons best known to the ladies alone.


America or UK or Canada does not change Nigerian ladies, bad Nigerian ladies who live pretentious life in Nigeria due to poverty, etc make it seem so when they leave Nigeria.


One of my friends I am talking about, the wife he married from Nigeria and took to the US don't wear trouser till date because she was a staunch Deeper Life girl born and raised by a strict parents and she is still a dedicated born again Christian over there no change.


The last time they came back, I was just smiling because of her, if you see her, a practicing medical doctor in the US, she looks like mgbeke that has no kobo but you need to see her achievements and investments and still she respects her hubby even in the US and they are living a wonderful life.



Please stop corrupting already corrupted Nigerian ladies and making them feel they can treat guys anyhow abroad, this your thread is a negative influence, it is nonsense.


And for guys taking care of their home, doing dishes, cooking etc, of course modern Nigerian guys in Nigeria do that.


I do my laundry, I cook my meals, sometimes I wash my cars myself when free and have the strength, I clean my house....only foolish guys today will marry and over labor their wife while watching football and allow your wife to overwork herself in the name of forming big boy.


My elder brother that works with a top IOC babysit his own kids....the last time his wife gave birth he is the one that babysit the baby, changes his diapers, wear him his rompers and more. He also helps his wife in several other ways like doing laundry all thanks to washing machines today. So stop painting Nigerian men in Nigeria as lazy men or archaic or as men that maltreat their wives its a lie because many men in Nigeria treat their wives like queens to the envy of their friends and relatives, it depends on the man you married and also on the lady you married. Not when you marry mami iwota Lady pretending to be human and she starts to misbehave you blame it on America or exposure to western life.


Yes some Nigerian ladies change on tasting western life and culture but it still boils down to the lady, marry a virtuous woman and you won't worry even if you take her to Queens palace.


All you wrote is your own individual experience and circle of friends don't generalise it okay

oluwaahmed:
Also, Gym is quite affordable in US. Make out time to look fit, don't blow outa proportion simply because u can buy a full roasted chicken for $4.5 and 6 packs of beer for almost same amount. Naija girls will always love a guy who is fit, not round and lazy
Bye.

RamessesIV:
That's my point they were treated like sub-humans doesn't mean they we're,they were denied rights and these rights were given to them

This was the point I was making.

AfroKnight:
See, marriage is a lose-lose situation for any straight manly man in the US.

Two ways to be happily married as a man.
1. Be lucky to find a good wife. ( Good luck finding one)

2. Learn how to be happy with (and for) yourself regardless of good or bad energy from your wife. Derive your joy from your everyday small wins.

There’s one last option but it involves being a foôl
3. Be a simp.


Women have arm twisted that society to hand them the keys of the kingdom. Being masculine puts you at a disadvantage. You must take shît or they’ll grind your àss. It’s so bad that raising your own son to be a man is deemed toxic. But you’d see them applauding you if your little boy grew up to be a woman.

Hierarchy of importance in the American home:
1. Your children
2. Wife
3. Pets
4. Furniture
5. And finally You, the man.

humilitypays:
The op is writing jargons!! Complete nonsense!!



He should change the topic to:

My Bad Experience Dating Nigerian Women Living in America!!!


Most Nigerian guys living abroad are their own problem, they are the reason Nigerian ladies show them pepper once they land abroad.


These guys will never tell these ladies the truth of what they do and how much they earn.


They will be saving money for months or years and maybe after some years they gather the cash which is hard currency, change it when they land Nigeria and it becomes huge money in Naira and they start to spend it anyhow forming rich guys when they are just nobody in the US but because of exchange rate difference and good environment they stay to snap pictures and post online to deceive these Naija based ladies, these ladies assume them to be rich guys working with US President lol.


On arriving the US after they use money they don't even have much to entice and lure these ladies into marriage, these ladies discover that these guys are like the downtrodden people, the lowest of lowest in the US and you know women, they feel betrayed and start to harbor anger against these guys that brought them to the US and these guys will never tell people the truth of what happened, they will start telling people that the Nigerian girl they married and brought from Nigeria no longer respect them, how can she respect you when u lied to her from the beginning and used fake life and lies to lure her into marriage

humilitypays:
Op, in as much as you made some valid points, I am sorry to say you are assuming a lot of things based on your personal experience and also making up things by exaggeration.


America is not as bad as you paint it for guys when it comes to dating women or getting married to American based Nigerian women or exported ones.

8 of my childhood friends who stay in my own house whenever they return back to Nigeria before traveling to their villages or destination in Nigeria are all living happily in the US with their wives whom they married from Nigeria; mostly their old girlfriends and some ladies they married after they relocated and none have any issue. In fact their wives still respect them and accord them the respect they deserve.

One is a nurse, his wife still serve him food even when they return too and she too is working as an insurance broker.


Another is a force guy and married to a nurse and she respect him just like a Nigerian wife in Nigeria respect her husband.

Then if I come to my family side, all the ones married and living in the US for years with their wives have no issue.


This thing is about the lady you married.


Even in Nigeria some ladies disrespect their husbands, we read hundreds of such stories here on Nairaland....so its not just about America that the ladies you are making reference with changed, they are bad ladies with bad upbringing and didn't cherish the men they married that much, maybe they married them for some hidden selfish reasons best known to the ladies alone.


America or UK or Canada does not change Nigerian ladies, bad Nigerian ladies who live pretentious life in Nigeria due to poverty, etc make it seem so when they leave Nigeria.


One of my friends I am talking about, the wife he married from Nigeria and took to the US don't wear trouser till date because she was a staunch Deeper Life girl born and raised by a strict parents and she is still a dedicated born again Christian over there no change.


The last time they came back, I was just smiling because of her, if you see her, a practicing medical doctor in the US, she looks like mgbeke that has no kobo but you need to see her achievements and investments and still she respects her hubby even in the US and they are living a wonderful life.



Please stop corrupting already corrupted Nigerian ladies and making them feel they can treat guys anyhow abroad, this your thread is a negative influence, it is nonsense.


And for guys taking care of their home, doing dishes, cooking etc, of course modern Nigerian guys in Nigeria do that.


I do my laundry, I cook my meals, sometimes I wash my cars myself when free and have the strength, I clean my house....only foolish guys today will marry and over labor their wife while watching football and allow your wife to overwork herself in the name of forming big boy.


My elder brother that works with a top IOC babysit his own kids....the last time his wife gave birth he is the one that babysit the baby, changes his diapers, wear him his rompers and more. He also helps his wife in several other ways like doing laundry all thanks to washing machines today. So stop painting Nigerian men in Nigeria as lazy men or archaic or as men that maltreat their wives its a lie because many men in Nigeria treat their wives like queens to the envy of their friends and relatives, it depends on the man you married and also on the lady you married. Not when you marry mami iwota Lady pretending to be human and she starts to misbehave you blame it on America or exposure to western life.


Yes some Nigerian ladies change on tasting western life and culture but it still boils down to the lady, marry a virtuous woman and you won't worry even if you take her to Queens palace.


All you wrote is your own individual experience and circle of friends don't generalise it okay

humilitypays:
Op, in as much as you made some valid points, I am sorry to say you are assuming a lot of things based on your personal experience and also making up things by exaggeration.


America is not as bad as you paint it for guys when it comes to dating women or getting married to American based Nigerian women or exported ones.

8 of my childhood friends who stay in my own house whenever they return back to Nigeria before traveling to their villages or destination in Nigeria are all living happily in the US with their wives whom they married from Nigeria; mostly their old girlfriends and some ladies they married after they relocated and none have any issue. In fact their wives still respect them and accord them the respect they deserve.

One is a nurse, his wife still serve him food even when they return too and she too is working as an insurance broker.


Another is a force guy and married to a nurse and she respect him just like a Nigerian wife in Nigeria respect her husband.

Then if I come to my family side, all the ones married and living in the US for years with their wives have no issue.


This thing is about the lady you married.


Even in Nigeria some ladies disrespect their husbands, we read hundreds of such stories here on Nairaland....so its not just about America that the ladies you are making reference with changed, they are bad ladies with bad upbringing and didn't cherish the men they married that much, maybe they married them for some hidden selfish reasons best known to the ladies alone.


America or UK or Canada does not change Nigerian ladies, bad Nigerian ladies who live pretentious life in Nigeria due to poverty, etc make it seem so when they leave Nigeria.


One of my friends I am talking about, the wife he married from Nigeria and took to the US don't wear trouser till date because she was a staunch Deeper Life girl born and raised by a strict parents and she is still a dedicated born again Christian over there no change.


The last time they came back, I was just smiling because of her, if you see her, a practicing medical doctor in the US, she looks like mgbeke that has no kobo but you need to see her achievements and investments and still she respects her hubby even in the US and they are living a wonderful life.



Please stop corrupting already corrupted Nigerian ladies and making them feel they can treat guys anyhow abroad, this your thread is a negative influence, it is nonsense.


And for guys taking care of their home, doing dishes, cooking etc, of course modern Nigerian guys in Nigeria do that.


I do my laundry, I cook my meals, sometimes I wash my cars myself when free and have the strength, I clean my house....only foolish guys today will marry and over labor their wife while watching football and allow your wife to overwork herself in the name of forming big boy.


My elder brother that works with a top IOC babysit his own kids....the last time his wife gave birth he is the one that babysit the baby, changes his diapers, wear him his rompers and more. He also helps his wife in several other ways like doing laundry all thanks to washing machines today. So stop painting Nigerian men in Nigeria as lazy men or archaic or as men that maltreat their wives its a lie because many men in Nigeria treat their wives like queens to the envy of their friends and relatives, it depends on the man you married and also on the lady you married. Not when you marry mami iwota Lady pretending to be human and she starts to misbehave you blame it on America or exposure to western life.


Yes some Nigerian ladies change on tasting western life and culture but it still boils down to the lady, marry a virtuous woman and you won't worry even if you take her to Queens palace.


All you wrote is your own individual experience and circle of friends don't generalise it okay

jerryunit48:
Many of them will always take advantage of the system even more than the Americans themselves because she has found a new freedom just to make life miserable for the guy

pDudd:
Next tip: the fake life guy who deceives a naive Nigerian girl and bring her to US and she then discovers that all that glitters isn't gold.

bezimo:
True story..thats why men are advised to sign prenup when dealing with Nigerian women..to avoid been burnt in the end.

ednut1:
yes both are backward. But over there many have turned to baby mama or singleness. Over here many ladies are still desperate for that same marriage. The matter tire person

Toks2008:
The moment you are leaving naija to settle abroad be it any EU or American country or Canada,... Just sign away marital dream.

Only 1 out of every 50 couples enjoy marital bliss if you marry from there no matter how careful and romantic you may be.

Its like these countries are cursed with marital problems.

lefulefu:
hmm pDudd does preup work in american marriage?

bezimo:
Offcourse nah..many dont know this so they are ignorant and up been wrecked by their razz 9ja wife.

emmaodet:
Bro i understand you clearly and let us look at it this way -
If we say the african culture or setting is backward simply because a man has the ability to chase out the woman if she commits then same can be said about the western culture which is the opposite of african culture that it is a backward society that encourages and empower women to chase out men when they commit or Even when they didn't commit.
Atleast, you will agree with me that a woman can just pick up a phone and call the police, inform them that the hubby wants to kill her or molesting her and they will kick his ass out.
Please tell me, is there any difference between a man that can call his family to kick his wife out in nigeria and a wife that can call the police to kick her hubby out abroad? Am just flipping the scenario, same story but different players.
So if you agree nigerian culture is backward because the law is tilted towards men then you need to agree that the western culture is Backward and Archaic for tilting towards women, children and animals before men.
We shouldn't let the hate we have for nigeria becloud us.

lefulefu:
aghhh this topic will be sweet .good enough u will be giving heads up to those naija babes who fall once dem see a jardon or yankee guy on suit and dark glasses posing behind a cadillac or benz uploading the pix on his facebook page.dem no know say the cadillac na company car wey im dey drive as a cheauffur