₦airaland Forum

Kingarthur21:
Why should a sane guy given the golden opportunity to travel to the states and meet dope babes over there still date this tasteless dimers?

pDudd:
First tip: Leave that your native brain in Nigeria.

Next tip: All you old men that have spent 20 years following AKATA and are now looking for unmarriedd younger girls in Nigeria who you want to turn into RNs and use her as your ATM, believing that she is a "good girl" and that she will be a good obedient wife, who will be at your beck and call.

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XhosaNostra:
Yeah well, other races will never stop undermining & looking down on us because we don't even appreciate or celebrate our own. It's disheartening.

SIRTee15:
The society should protect the weak and the vulnerable......
The justice system gives voice to victims and the helpless.....
Most domestic violence victims are women, NOT men....no matter how much u try to twist the narrative....

Its hard for single mothers anywhere in the world....Imagine if they are now left without any support.....
African patriarchal culture is evil and retrogressive....it should be challenged.....

heniford2:
hmm am scared of marriage talk more of this thanks op for bring this topic up i have learned alot na baby mama sure pass

Alooone:
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Jaqenhghar:
So true. I think we need to borrow a page from the Asians on this. Over here I hardly see any Chinese guys dating white girls. They keep to themselves and fate their own.

wany:
Your eye go neat wen you enter Yankee.continue to they splash saliver

AfroKnight:
See, marriage is a lose-lose situation for any straight manly man in the US.

Two ways to be happily married as a man.
1. Be lucky to find a good wife. ( Good luck finding one)

2. Learn how to be happy with (and for) yourself regardless of good or bad energy from your wife. Derive your joy from your everyday small wins.

There’s one last option but it involves being a foôl
3. Be a simp.


Women have arm twisted that society to hand them the keys of the kingdom. Being masculine puts you at a disadvantage. You must take shît or they’ll grind your àss. It’s so bad that raising your own son to be a man is deemed toxic. But you’d see them applauding you if your little boy grew up to be a woman.

Hierarchy of importance in the American home:
1. Your children
2. Wife
3. Pets
4. Furniture
5. And finally You, the man.

MOnkeyBabe:
more white is the thing. I feel trapped in this black body

Pray tell, how does being “more white” feels like ..Na identity crisis Dey worry you.

Trapped in a black body ..... You can tow the Michael Jackson path, let’s see if it will favor you more than the king of pop.

Sterope:
You should become a religious leader. You will have more women worshipping your egotistical ass.

One4me:
Haaa! at 60yrs, you still want to give him stress?

pDudd:
Gotta love Nairaland.

Thanks for reading

lefulefu:
if na u u go gree lose ur asset to a woman
just imagine u have been doing 4 jobs in the US without sleeping and u able to build ur assest then one mgbeke wey u marry for village carry come US come divorce u then collect that ur beautiful expensive house wey u use ur sweat buy,she also collect ur children then the courts come give her ur expensive cadillac plus the exotic bulldog u bought on ur trip to england the courts still order u to hand ur bulldog to her plus to add insult to injury she go come to invite her boyfriend wey dey smoke weed with dreadlocks to be fucking her inside ur house and inside that ur expansive bedroom and ur beautiful bed......all wetin u use ur sweat buy ...tell me how will u feel ;

abbey621:
Y'all ned to chill out with these scare tactics. I've been married to my wife for 5 years now in this America and she still cooks, serves me food and even water to wash hands. It's all about what you have to offer and how well trained your wife is. Any woman abroad or at home that feels such is beneath them can go to hell, yes in the USA women reign supreme but there are ways to be diplomatic yet be in charge. Give a woman access to bank accounts, let her control the shopping in the household, maintain your sexual prowness and continue to bring in good income and I emphatically tell you as a man you can get away with almost anything. Let her think she's driving the ship, for example, give her access to your bank accounts and credit cards but keep certain accounts private for rainy days. This is America , most people have 4 or more accounts. Get life insurance and investments list her and the children as beneficiaries, this kind thing will sweet her die. Encourage her, build her up, let her have a career. In short let her win the many numerous little battles while you win the war. As time goes on, you'll realize you've gotten her to do exactly what you wanted without force...This is how real men in America operate....BE PREPARED FOR THE WORSE WHILE HOPING FOR THE BEST, SEE IT AS A BUSINESS ARRANGEMENT, EVERYONE MUST DO HIS OR HER PART!

Kingarthur21:
Why should a sane guy given the golden opportunity to travel to the states and meet dope babes over there still date this tasteless dimers?

Plead:
Cococandy is this true?
I know it’s not but want you to confirm

starrygal:
That is why the women when they get to the states treat u like thrash. cos even u the man become tasteless to them.

XhosaNostra:
I wouldn't say it's like that over here because for one, we're not in awe of them & with good reasons, are very wary of them as a rule of thumb. There're a few people married to white men though, but they usually date or marry foreign white men, not the ones over here lol. Black South African men rarely date outside of their race or nationality for that matter.
Personally, I don't think I'd ever date one. I just don't find them attractive for some reason. Remember the other one that said something on messenger & got me irritated a while back? Yeah, not my cup of tea. I got a few of them trying to start something, but I'm not interested or desperate enough to leave my country for someone that could be crazy or a killer. I got one from the US & one from Australia that think I'm such a delight Taking time off FB to avoid them Yeesh! Ain't nobody is going to live their "ebony" fantasies through me.

oshaosha2014:
That’s funny. I just hope the African men overseas, especially in places where a man is second class citizen to a woman, will not sign away their lives in the name of marriage. That is the only way they can escape the wrath of this power hungry, feminist who are not qualified to be wives in the first place. You don’t wife another man like you. The western world have turned their women to men. Don’t go and marry another man like you.

veykey:
Until those "dope" babes frustrate you especially if they are citizens. The best thing is finding someone good.

Kingarthur21:
oh please stop using the you-have-mothers-and-sisters card for me.

I can't marry someone like my sister,the honest truth.

Just like how you ladies want to marry as woke women who is equal to men but you want your sons to marry traditional women.
I will love someone else to marry my sister but not myself(if I were not her brother)

Amazo1:
a story is told of a man who wanted to marry, I will never marry any of this city girls, they are too wayward he would say.he contacted his mother who quickly found him a bride. Bride price was paid all marriage arrangements concluded. The new bride moved to Lagos to live with her husband. Night came and the husband was expecting to unveil his virgin bride. pre-intimacy started, the husband casually touch his pubic hair, he noticed a large growth,why not think of shaving it one of this days ask the husband. No no no I will not touch it , that's why I am called[b] afro baby by all the village boys

Nephilim:
you right! Caucasian all the way

Everest9:
I wonder, when I came to hustle, I will even be looking for wealthy white people to correct their own wealth, what concern me with over Sabi Nigerian girls over there. Go ask CR7 why he never marry officially.

Look at one of ‘em house niggas that can’t take sh*t from a black woman but can take the same sh*t from other girls just because they are white and wealthy....

The white girls you simps love to hype are not all that it but inferiority complex no go let you see road

Kingarthur21:
aside the court of law(due to divorce or child support) they can't treat you wrongly. You don't have to spend a kobo on them,enjoy free sex because they are liberal (you can go a whole year without paying ashawo).

Just don't get them pregnant,or marry them, you are safe

Sterope:
Lmao. Some of you just like to yarn rubbish.

Eniolakiite:
Really, The law is useless because it favors women ? LOL

pDudd:
First tip: Leave that your native brain in Nigeria.

If you're the kind of man that will sit on the sofa and be watching UEFA champions league and be telling a woman that she should go and cook, serve you, bring you water to drink and wash hand, you are in for a rude shock. Nigerian women in US have opened eye now o. They are not going to serve you like master and servant while your stretch your legs on sofa and be watching football.

If your mother did that for your father, please go and marry your mother so she too can come and be serving you like a king. Nigerian women ain't doing that for you.

Before you leave Nigeria, better learn how to cook, clean house, do laundry, go to buy groceries, take care of kids, and learn humility.

Learning humility is of utmost importance because the day you step your feet into America, you are now second to every woman. The American society favors women over men. They placea lot of value over men. So if you didn't respect women in Nigeria, you may need to reconsider that stance. And if you can't see yourself having a woman above you or respecting women, then better stay in Nigeria.



Next tip: All you old men that have spent 20 years following Akata and are now looking for unmarriedd younger girls in Nigeria who you want to turn into RNs and use her as your ATM, believing that she is a "good girl" and that she will be a good obedient wife, who will be at your beck and call.

You guys are looking for to go to an early grave and lose everything you have worked for since the 20 years you've been in Yankee. I implore you, please stop doing that nonsense.

There is nothing like a humble Nigerian girl. The ones that appear humble are just broke. The day money enters her hand is the day you will know her true colors. Now in US, you will find an elderly guy in his late 40s or 50s. They came to US in their 20s and hustled Akata for paper, and thereafter became legal. Instead of going to school, gain an education, and improve their standard of living, they take up security guard jobs, CNA jobs, and taxi driver jobs. They spend gruelling years doing these low paying jobs and saving pennies to eventually go to Nigeria and do big wedding and marry a small naive village girl, thinking that they are investing in her so that she will yield fruits and serve him in his old age.

Notice that Nigerian men are always looking for women to serve them cheesy

Well, these small naive girls come to US, go to nursing school, become LVNs or RNs. They then begin to make lots of money and they will begin to open eye grin

Lefulefu come and back me up here.


Those small, naive, village girls suddenly begin making about $3500 or more every 2 weeks. Back in Nigeria, they weren't even making 3500 naira every month. This kind of money blows their minds and they don't even know how to spend it anymore. The man who is her husband and invested in her now wants to control the money and keep her in a subservient position.

At that point in time, that is when the girls father in the village knows that he wants to receive chieftaincy title. Also that is the time the mother knows that she wants to become Lolo of NdiOhia. . That is also when the girls brother wants to open spare parts shop in Alaba. That is the time when the girls sister wants to get married. The entire family of the girl begins to pester her for money. Also at this same time, the girls husband wants to start to build block of flats in Nnewi. Also he feels that he is old enough to receive chieftaincy title in his village as well. All these things costs lots of money.

The pressure on the poor girls starts mounting. She has one or two kids at this point but she starts to work extra hours and overtime at work. Putting in a lot of exhausting energy into trying to fulfil the dreams of everyone. Instead of the husband to understand, he is not sympathetic to her. After all she is his investment and she better yield fruits. She begins to burn out slowly but surely. She needs support at home but the husband expects her to work for 12 to 13 hours, come home, prepare eba and ogbono soup for him, take care of the kids, and then open toto for him to Bleep cheesy. Tomorrow again it is back to the same routine up to 7 days a week.

One day all the pressure gets too much and then the bubble pops. The woman, under intense financial pressure from her extended family coupled with her unsupportive husband and work-family life, crumbles under it all. And what usually kicks it off? Money of course. Or the lack thereof.

The man, wanting to control the finances of the woman, starts a quarrel about how much he invested to bring her to America. Because of all the stress upon the woman and women being very emotional creatures, she snaps. She insults the husband with the greatest insult of his life. She neglects all he has done and acts on emotion. The man too, unable to stomach the insult, verbally and physically attacks the woman.

Now it always ends in 2 ways. If the woman is still alive after the physical attack, she calls the police and they arrest him for domestic violence. She files a restraining order against him and he cannot return back to the house he bought and the home he built.

The second way it ends is that the man attacks his wife and kills her with his security guard job service pistol or he strangles or stabs her to death with a kitchen knife.

In both cases, the police arrive and arrest the man. And then the family breaks up and most times can not be rebuilt anymore. It becomes a broken home with shatters dreams.