₦airaland Forum

One4me:
Everyone should be happy with the way Technology is helping shape human relations.
Women like you want to "subdue" men by all means necessary, hiding under the pretext of "equality and protection", when in actaul fact, what you are aspiring for is "subjugation and oppression" of the men folk!

The trend has been on the rise for sometime now, especially in the West.
And a lot of people wonder: Why do men go into this arrangement called MARRIAGE, that seeks to emasculate, subjugate and oppress them?
The answer is that most Men are created to want "Love/Sex and Children.
Most men see Women as THE ONLY MEANS fo realising those two things.

What else does a man want froma woman, apart from those two, think about it for a minute?
Your wife will give you regular sexual satisfaction (as much as you would give her too though they like to pretend that it is just for your own benefit!) and then she will be pregnant with your child and bear children for you, to continue your lineage.
That is what majority of Men cheirsh in marriage that keeps them falling into the same trap of marriage, despite the very visible dangers it poses to their health and life. But that is changing radically now and l am loving it McDonalds
Men is very desperate situation who lose their mind when they cannot take the female oppression of their wife anymore, resort to violence as a counter-measure but l think and see it as an act of weakness in that losing control of yourself will always be a negative, an act weakness over "self".

Now, l am certain that in about five years or ten at the most from today, a man will no longer go into marriage solely because he thinks he cant have SEX or CHILDREN, unless he marries or engages a woman in any manner that requires responsiblity ot a woman.
This is the best thing that can happen to women, since the invention of The Pill.

A man can have unlimited Sex and have his own Children, .....yes, his own children, without the need for the drama and dangers of women!
You dont need a WIFE to have sex children and ensure your family name is carried to the next generation.
From surrogate Mothers, to outright in-vitro ferterlisation of a donor egg (which we can soon be buying off Amazon or Ebay, in afew years time ) with your own sperm!
Who needs to bother his head with laws that seek to cage men or give his sweat to an ex-wife or make him pay Child support to fund the wayward lifestyle of a bitch?
I watched Andersen Cooper on CNN the way he held his baby and there was not single mention of "his Mother"....... and that blew my mind!
Women will just have to live in their own lane (Yes, have their own Children and sex, without Men) and Men to will live in their own lane.
No more taking advanatge of any law to "protect women" or give them a leg-up.

And l also forsee one thing: Very soon, just like the clash of the planet of Apes, we are going to have an open, physical, bloody war between men and Women, and at the end of that war, one gender will be conquered and out in their place.
It could be the male or it could be the female gender!

That's why there is a sperm bank also. Most people marry for companionship with the aim of wanting to grow old with their spouse. Now if a man thinks marriage is all about sex which can be gotten from anybody else then he is doomed to fail from the onset because that's a stupid reason. What makes a marriage work is compromise, understanding, mutual respect, but if one marries and think life will still go on as it was then he or she is a joker. The children you're just talking about you think it's easy taking care of them? Ask the single mothers and fathers out there let them inform you especially if you don't have someone you trust helping out from time to time.

josh2297:
These talks here in mine opinion does not have a solid legal standing...firat and foremost There are no laws in the USA or in africa(Nigeria) dat sets different standard for men and women anybody can b a victim of any law whether man or woman anywhere let me highlight these few points
1. In d event of a divorce in d USA d spouse who recieves d highest income gets to pay alimony...things tend to get complicated wen children(if still very tender) gets involved then the partner who gets d custody of d children is entitled to a child support which is very fair considering d fact dat a single parent will definitely have to work less hours
2.. Any laws dat are seen to b tilted towards in d USA are in marriage amd unmarried man is free to live his life anyhow he wants and treat women anyhow he wants...u are not being forced to get married to any woman overhere so u can as well get a babymama from diffrent women(dere are free and plenty of sweet punanis here)
3... If u as a man must get married then insist on protecting ur livelihood savings and investment by insisting on aigning a pre-nuptial agreement
4...most of these liberal laws in d states and some other places are just to target the institutuion of marriage and create societal problems...they encourage children to b very stubborn...they tell u dat u dont have to condone anyrin even an agrument in marriage they offer u divorce at ur fingertips and d gullible ones fall into...why not ask y d top people in hierachy most times are always married while those at d lowest cadre of d society are busy divorcing demselves at slight provocation
5....Lastly these shld not b seen as a gender tin...this is clearly agendas...take 4 instance...if u want to b crucified villified and ridiculed as an american(whether man or woman)...then try having a serious legal issue qith a homosexual by dat time u will seriously feel dat u are really a second class citizen.... Real Women in sports today are complaining dat transgender females are beating dem to their games which is unfair they are been told by this same law to go to hell....or d issue of Joe biden which is still an ongoing one....d law, liberals,even so called rights group will work very hard to silence dat lady...so d liberals laws here a actually pointing to sometin that is not very clear yet...but d fact is very soon hetrosexual male and female will b victims of their own circumstance.....I dont blive people change,i blive they get to show their real charcacters wen they get d opportunity

With all your write up, I didn't see any mention of child support. By the time you pay through your nose, you'll bottle your willy.

pansophist:
Generally speaking, women are socially inclined. They evolved to effectively adapt to their surrounding to advance their status. By design, women assimilate towards social consensus (lifestyle), while men lean towards creating that consensus.

Women do better than men in language learning, cultural understanding, are community-oriented, bond easily and strongly, less competitive, more agreeable, and have a lesser tendency for violence. All these are a perfect recipe that makes women easily integrate into any society than men.

Lots of diasporan Nigerian men who went back home to pick a wife back to western countries learned this lesson when the women changed and are exactly like the western women they are running away from. Like the old saying, men marry women hoping they do not change (but they change), meanwhile, women marry men hoping they can change him (but he doesn't change).

The female basically waits at the finish line to roll with the winners and will integrate seamlessly into the lifestyle, and live happily, ever after. Easily. There is no such thing as a tip to dating Nigerian women abroad, since her behaviors is predictable, based on the context of the society where she domicile.

This is a great piece. Am wowed.

XhosaNostra:
They always seem to have a sticky looking mouth, IDK lol. I do like their sarcastic humour though, minus the tawdry bits.
I get you

On a lighter note, how many Whites have you kissed? And by sticky looking, do you mean "dry"?

Havemercylord:
Most peaceful thing is to remain single...adopt or have a stray girl who doesn't need a baby give birth for you.
It's as simple as that. To me if one is not favored to have a good wife or good husband, stay single and be happy. If you feel Hot, you know what to do.

its like thats the strategy oprah adopted

TonyeBarcanista:
Who told you the emboldened is slave-master relationship? You prefer a man serving the woman instead while the law gives her his legitimate earnings and assets? You are simply sounding like a victim of neocolonialism. Rubbish

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Why not have relationship where you serve one another, as equals.

Zoie:
On a lighter note, how many Whites have you kissed? And by sticky looking, do you mean "dry"?

None.

I don't know how to explain the mouth thing, but the only way I can describe it is it looks gluey. I've noticed it in every single one of them, male & female. Maybe it is dry mouth, IDK.

Thank you,every race with their issues,lots of asian women i have seen chase after white men,come to thailand,vietnam,even hong kong and see ugly looking white men coming to satisfy their sexual fantasies,same with white women too I don't know why black men allow themselves to be sexualized,i knew a guy who had issues with a whitey he wanted to date,she said she didn't like that he wasn't "big enough" or good in bed,just go to gambia old fat white women in beaches with young black men.

XhosaNostra:
Asian women love white men though lol. It's like they feel like they've made it in life when they date or marry one.
I really don't have a problem with interracial dating, it only disgusts me when people act like it's an achievement marrying someone of a different race.

Lool, na wa

So much wailing

Its like 80% of Nigerian men have intentions of bring cruel to their wives and are scared of being in a system that supports women

As if we don't know people who are happily married for years in this same abroad and their wives have not divorced them .

Its very simple treat your significant other with all fairness, be considerate, be kind and whatever country you guys find yourselves all will be well.

But no you want to keep on misbehaving and squeezing life out of her gradually like a lot of men do here without consequence.

Zane2point4:
Thats exactly why many of them hates trump,blc he behaves bossy and acts masculine,they instead love someone like obama for obvious reason.

Oh please stop that talk


Trump's behaviour is a reproach to masculinity

Dont even go there

Kobojunkie:
What is the essense of the welfare office, if I may ask? Why not allow women to make their case in court once and for all?

the welfare is to help poorer women who can't afford lawyers. If financially okay they can sue thier husbands anytime . And most times win.

RamessesIV:
Thank you,every race with their issues,lots of asian women i have seen chase after white men,come to thailand,vietnam,even hong kong and see ugly looking white men coming to satisfy their sexual fantasies,same with white women too I don't know why black men allow themselves to be sexualized,i knew a guy who had issues with a whitey he wanted to date,she said she didn't like that he wasn't "big enough" or good in bed,just go to gambia old fat white women in beaches with young black men.

Lol, I've heard about the sex tourism thing. Apparently they do it with Caribbean men, as well, paying the young island studs large sums of money to have sex. What can I say? The black man must have something others don't have if these people travel all around the globe to get some of it

ednut1:
how many people did court wedding. This is Nigeria some men abandoned their homes and moved on. Cant be traced and all. Not possible abroad. Most times courts award 10k for upkeep. So what are you on about

10k?? Are talking from experience or you are insinuating?? I know far a fact assets are evaluated .also even in aAmerica some men abscond and start new families never to be seen .

XhosaNostra:
None.

I don't know how to explain the mouth thing, but the only way I can describe it is it looks gluey. I've noticed it in every single one of them, male & female. Maybe it is dry mouth, IDK.

Lol. You're one funny lady. Gluey

can you imagine,am sure of it was an indian woman from his country that did the whole family will here

XhosaNostra:
Even their men have that kind of a superiority complex & don't take it too well when you don't eagerly throw your panties at them. I also understand why they feel that way though, some people feel honoured when a white person takes interest in them, like they're not another human being full of flaws like everybody else.
There's this friend of mine (she's black married to an Indian)...her husband's friend (another Indian) is married to a white lady. So this one time I met this white lady for the 1st time at my friend's place. They had just arrived from india & she was telling us about how "nice" (aka ass kissing) the people over there were to her on that trip. They showered her with gifts & even took photos with her because she's white. I'm talking random villagers who came over to her mother in law's house just to see her, also bearing gifts. She says she felt like a celebrity. LOL! Anyway, the same lady couldn't even make a decent meal & her husband was always complaining about it to friends, but I guess he's only tolerating it because she's a status symbol to him in the eyes of his countrymen. She was also very untidy. My friend says during the week they spent at her house, one evening my friend went to use the bathroom & when she flushed the toilet, the water came out red. She said she wondered why the water was like that & decided to open the water tank thingy, inside she found the lady's bloodied underwear. When she asked her why her underwear was in there, she told her that she was on her period & the sight of blood makes her queasy, so to avoid the mess, she simply stuffs her soiled undies in there...to wash themselves, basically. She even said Kashief (her husband) has no problem with it. It's amazing the kind of things people overlook & tolerate when white people are involved

Zoie:
Lol. You're one funny lady. Gluey

It does look it though lol. Pay attention to the mouth next time you talk to one. I wouldn't put my tongue in that even if it was Clooney himself!

With my plans of traveling outside Nigeria, whomsoever I marry,which must be out of love and respect, be it a white man, Indian, Chinese, Caribbean, African, Divorce is not an option except you are a psycho.I no dey for that marry and remarry. We muuusssttt work everything out.

What nonsense fantasy being reduced and sexualized cause of my supposed "penis",sexual prowess and masculinity never,the painful thing is they are mostly middle aged or old white women,do know how many white men go to thailand yearly some retire and even marry there,well me I know that if black women got that level of attention all these "black solidarity" you guys form for black men will be thrown out of the window

XhosaNostra:
Lol, I've heard about the sex tourism thing. Apparently they do it with Caribbean men, as well, paying the young island studs large sums of money to have sex. What can I say? The black man must have something others don't have if these people travel all around the globe to get some of it

Lol. Traditional wife is so foreign. Women in most cultures in Nigeria had a job. These women were also expected to make the home right.

You may not know this, a woman can move mountains herself if she so desires exception include where it requires strength. It is down to biological differences. We actually had chilvary in the world, there would be less women talking about more rights.

Wake me up where Chilvary include actual respect for women not some pseudo respect to keep women subdued.

I don't give masculinity a bad name, I am not responsible for that. I appreciate the gender differences. However, it doesn't stop me from calling out actions that harm the other gender on the umbrella blanket of 'masculinity'.

I really don't know what the problem is though, you used a very derogatory word on Nigerian women now you are trying to flip it on me. There are many Nigerian women that are ready to become traditional wives anyways. Find one and marry..

Kingarthur21:
where did the issue of doormat or disrespect come from in our conversation? Its obvious you don't know what a traditional wife is.
Men have moved mountains and sacrificed their lives for traditional women. If you can't differentiate between doornar and not a traditional wife then I can't proceed with this conversation.

You ladies give masculinity a bad name always,you always omit chivalry from masculinity and define it in terms of oppressing women

XhosaNostra:
It does look it though lol. Pay attention to the mouth next time you talk to one. I wouldn't put my tongue in that even if it was Clooney himself!

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RamessesIV:
can you imagine,am sure of it was an indian woman from his country that did the whole family will here

I'm sure. But in his defense, he does call her out on some of her behaviour. A lot. He even tells her to take a bath, when she's busy walking around oblivious to her cave woman smell. In all honesty, that is a marriage of convenience on his part from what I've observed. She was also disowned by her own racist family because of him, so he has no choice but to stick with it. Indian men tend to be very traditional, it must not be easy for him living with someone that can't even cook or keep house. I guess that's why he's always snapping at her. Shrugs.

He was the one that put himself in trouble,why marry someone that doesn't share the same values with you Marriage is more than love,romance and sex,indian women are very loyal,and they are alot of educated ones around the world he should have just looked for his type,anyways sha people will marry who they love,I used to do this black nonsense till I saw the number of somalian women who marry arabs,is all about value and attention

XhosaNostra:
I'm sure. But in his defense, he does call her out on some of her behaviour. A lot. He even tells her to take a bath, when she's busy walking around oblivious to her cave woman smell. In all honesty, that is a marriage of convenience on his part from what I've observed. She was also disowned by her own racist family because of him, so he has no choice but to stick with it. Indian men tend to be very traditional, it must not be easy for him living with someone that can't even cook or keep house. I guess that's why he's always snapping at her. Shrugs.

RamessesIV:
What nonsense fantasy being reduced and sexualized cause of my supposed "penis",sexual prowess and masculinity never,the painful thing is they are mostly middle aged or old white women,do know how many white men go to thailand yearly some retire and even marry there,well me I know that if black women got that level of attention all these "black solidarity" you guys form for black men will be thrown out of the window

LMFAO. Some black women get the same attention from people abeg However, men from other races imo, when they go for black women, they tend to go for ones with less curves. Majority of black women are curvaceous, so that alone may be too much for other men to handle. I've heard some call Beyonce "fat" Those women black men usually find unattractive because there's not enough wobble to grab on to, are surprisingly very attractive to white men, in particular

RamessesIV:
He was the one that put himself in trouble,why marry someone that doesn't share the same values with you Marriage is more than love,romance and sex,indian women are very loyal,and they are alot of educated ones around the world he should have just looked for his type,anyways sha people will marry who they love,I used to do this black nonsense till I saw the number of somalian women who marry arabs,is all about value and attention

True that @ bolded.

Yeah that's why ethiopian women get alot of attention,last last if black women get half the attention asia women get hell will break loose,just look at black women in Europe many of them low key chasing white men around,even my Nigerian sister love anything white even indians,that's why sometimes I don't condemn interracial relationship cause tomorrow I might end up like asian men with their country over run by old whites males taking over their women.

Reminds me on Instagram on of your sisters got married to a white south african and all the ladies where congratulating here saying "it will bring unity amongst races" "best ways to end racism in SA is to marry whites" disgusting

XhosaNostra:
LMFAO. Some black women get the same attention from people abeg However, men from other races imo, when they go for black women, they tend to go for ones with less curves. Majority of black women are curvaceous, so that alone may be too much for other men to handle. I've heard some call Beyonce "fat" Those women black men usually find unattractive because there's not enough wobble to grab on to, are surprisingly very attractive to white men, in particular

abbey621:
Y'all ned to chill out with these scare tactics. I've been married to my wife for 5 years now in this America and she still cooks, serves me food and even water to wash hands. It's all about what you have to offer and how well trained your wife is. Any woman abroad or at home that feels such is beneath them can go to hell, yes in the USA women reign supreme but there are ways to be diplomatic yet be in charge. Give a woman access to bank accounts, let her control the shopping in the household, maintain your sexual prowness and continue to bring in good income and I emphatically tell you as a man you can get away with almost anything. Let her think she's driving the ship, for example, give her access to your bank accounts and credit cards but keep certain accounts private for rainy days. This is America , most people have 4 or more accounts. Get life insurance and investments list her and the children as beneficiaries, this kind thing will sweet her die. Encourage her, build her up, let her have a career. In short let her win the many numerous little battles while you win the war. As time goes on, you'll realize you've gotten her to do exactly what you wanted without force...This is how real men in America operate....BE PREPARED FOR THE WORSE WHILE HOPING FOR THE BEST, SEE IT AS A BUSINESS ARRANGEMENT, EVERYONE MUST DO HIS OR HER PART!

I like this except the account part is kind of grey. My wife and I are both professionals so we both bring home descent incomes. We have seperate checking accounts. We have separate savings account. Then we have a joint investment account and joint bills account. We both contribute equally into the joint investment and joint bills every month. I do not know how much she keeps in her personal checking and savings neither does she knows mine except we tell each other.

This is how we have been able to maintain sanity around our finances at home. Prior to this method when we had access to each other's account, we would often argue/fight about our spending which was seriously straining the marriage.

If i see who love me I will go as far as I am attracted to them,if my hustle pays,I am going to south africa,tanzania,ivory coast one of those countries I will personally want a black wife from,and maybe morocco for arab

XhosaNostra:
True that @ bolded.

Sterope:
Lol. Traditional wife is so foreign. Women in most cultures in Nigeria had a job. These women were also expected to make the home right.

I am glad you used the tense "were". Women go to work now,have nannies at home,lesson teachers for kids. There are cases where your stance is true; when the lady couldn't secure a job so she manages the home while he goes to fend for the family or a stark illiterate man who makes such arrangements with his wife.

You may not know this, a woman can move mountains herself if she so desires exception include where it requires strength. It is down to biological differences. We actually had chilvary in the world, there would be less women talking about more rights.

one of the reasons I call your lots tasteless because you are ingrates.You just revealed the subtle agenda of feminism, you don't want equal rights but chivalry, to be treated as Queens

Wake me up where Chilvary include actual respect for women not some pseudo respect to keep women subdued.

you are not to determine what chivalry is. Your understanding of chivalry is your business. A man who saves a lady in distress doesn't respect her?men that give up their seats for ladies don't respect them? Men that run into burning houses to save their ladies want them subdued? Men that write risk writing exams for ladies don't respect them?
If you have never being privileged to be loved and taken care of by a man ask ladies who have been.
Ingrates!

I don't give masculinity a bad name, I am not responsible for that. I appreciate the gender differences. However, it doesn't stop me from calling out actions that harm the other gender on the umbrella blanket of 'masculinity'.

no one gives a rat ass of what you call masculinity. So don't bother me for calling naija ladies tasteless dimers. We both have rights to our opinions.

I really don't know what the problem is though, you used a very derogatory word on Nigerian women now you are trying to flip it on me. There are many Nigerian women that are ready to become traditional wives anyways. Find one and marry..

I tried to draw a margin between misogyny and having a traditional wife. You seem to call our traditional wives doormats. A doormat is the wife of a wicked or terrible man,you had to drag masculinity into it.
There are couples who live that way (traditional roles ) and happy... Good people who genuinely love each other are what makes a good home(whether traditional way or "woke" way)

Ryocaj:
If u know d law.. u will know Wat I am talking abt exactly.. in d case of divorce.. no matter d circumstance.. it still favors d lady.. even if she was d one that cheated.. d guy will still pay her huge sums.. Most of d women know this n use it to their advantage.. there is a celeb that us famous for marrying celebs n dumping them.. she is very rich.. she has no job but got her wealth from Alimony.. I think Sylvester Stallone was her 4th hubby.. most women do this.. slot of them make money from divorce.. that was y d prenuptial agreement was brought by smart lawyers.. most of d women over there decline to sign it. they start acting up that d guy doesn't love them..

Stallone is still with his wife and three daughters.

MOnkeyBabe:
Guys Cool it .lol.
Here's an interesting one for you Ramses. I left Nigeria to the U.s at 14. Now 24. Exactly 10 years. I wasn't born in the U.s., neither am I a fReSher. What Does that make me?

it makes you a Nigerian Bred na

Ejusni:
How did you pass waec English? Lack of punctuation, total disregard for the basic rules of English. I shouldn't be engaging you in an argument it's evident you're very ignorant.

OMG! U are obviously not a gentle man

xcabczyxabczzzz:
Stallone is still with his wife and three daughters.

Is it that u didn't see the "was" or u don't know what it means..