Tookool:

I'm in a worse situation

PrimadonnaO:
There’s a way to go about these things. God is Wise.
Yes, it is true that we’ll be more knowledgeable than our parents in certain areas, but we won’t in entirety be wiser than our parents so much so that they should be outrightly disobeyed.

Wisdom is profitable to direct. If you find that your parents are asking you to do something that’s not the best, and you know better, calmly explain things to them. If you’re not succeeding, involve someone else who they respect, to make them see reasons. This is especially when you’re still under their roof.

You can’t just go about saying your parents are ignorant and should be obeyed only if they are wise. That statement in itself shows that you are not even wise.

SultanOfAbia:
African mentality is that you should respect your parents no matter what because they sacrified all they had for you.
This is a tactics used to Guilt Shame you whenever you don't agree with parents

Lol, duhhhhhh. Before nko??
If you bring a child into this world then you must sacrifice to keep it alive.
It's not rocket science
If you don't want to sacrifice then don't go and insert your dick and give birth to kids.
You don't owe your parents for taking care of you..
That is a duty they both agreed to do once they decided to have kids
If I request for a puppy, of course I have to get ready to feed and raise the puppy.
It is my responsibility and duty since I requested for it.
You can never achieve anything if you cling too much on your parents advice
They are biased on many many levels
Some are blinded by doctrine
They had no access to Internet and a large amount of information unlike us.
That is why White people are far ahead of us. They allow their kids to explore life and in doing so these kids become their best selves with great potential to the community and the world.

Isoduwa:



Show us your dad picture in London

djon78:



That's why you should hustle on your own and look away from there money.
That you focused on business doesn't mean you will succeed. All still dey for God hand.

But one of the personal lesson I learnt is you have to use wisdom in having scuffle with your parents lest it turns to dishonoring them.
The Bible enjoins us to honour thy father and mother that it may be well with thee that your days may be long. Your success and long life on earth is tied to honoring your parents.

You can disagree with them but never dishonor your parents or hold a grudge against them. It never ever ends well.

dukeprince50:
thanks man, I saw it. It was a motivational message.
Parents should allow us choose our path, reading ur story, I remembered a guy who his father was hellbend on forcing him to study medicine, cut the long story short, he couldn't make it and he ended up taking his own life when the pressure on him became unbearable.

jnrbayano:
That's where wisdom come to play...

Don't refuse them outrightly to their face but when you depart you do the right thing

Just like when your boss instructs on the way a task is to be carried out which you are certain is a wrong approach. You don't go about schooling him in order to expose his ineptitude and enthrone your ideas.

You just need to apply the right approach and give him feedback on the success of the execution of that task without insisting you didn't get the task done not following his guidelines

Wisdom!

SultanOfAbia:
African mentality is that you should respect your parents no matter what because they sacrified all they had for you.
This is a tactics used to Guilt Shame you whenever you don't agree with parents

Lol, duhhhhhh. Before nko??
If you bring a child into this world then you must sacrifice to keep it alive.
It's not rocket science
If you don't want to sacrifice then don't go and insert your dick and give birth to kids.
You don't owe your parents for taking care of you..
That is a duty they both agreed to do once they decided to have kids
If I request for a puppy, of course I have to get ready to feed and raise the puppy.
It is my responsibility and duty since I requested for it.
You can never achieve anything if you cling too much on your parents advice
They are biased on many many levels
Some are blinded by doctrine
They had no access to Internet and a large amount of information unlike us.
That is why White people are far ahead of us. They allow their kids to explore life and in doing so these kids become their best selves with great potential to the community and the world.

SultanOfAbia:
The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.

What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong
Will you obey him or disobey him?

What if your mother supports your father in every negative thing he tells you to do?

Some parents are not wise and are easily manipulated by pastors and imams.

I think you should only Respect your parents if they are WISE

SultanOfAbia:
The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.

What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong
Will you obey him or disobey him?

What if your mother supports your father in every negative thing he tells you to do?

Some parents are not wise and are easily manipulated by pastors and imams.

I think you should only Respect your parents if they are WISE

TuFab:
There's a stage one gets to in adult life that u don't just gullibly obey everything your parents tell u, especially if u have valid and logical reasons not to.
But one has to explain to them in a respectful manner so as not to offend them.
At d end of d day, life is personal.

gbebodye:
My grandfather was a very rich but illiterate chief in abeokuta, he never believed in education so he instructed all his children to go into farming and not waste time with school but my dad was the only one that successfully disobeyed him which got him disowned but my dad fled to Lagos, slept on the streets/uncompleted buildings, finished school, started working as a labourer, the owner of one of the house he was doing bricklayer for noticed he always study during break time and got him employed at the airport, got scholarships to further his studies in London and later became the breadwinner of the family.

SultanOfAbia:
African mentality is that you should respect your parents no matter what because they sacrified all they had for you.
This is a tactics used to Guilt Shame you whenever you don't agree with parents

Lol, duhhhhhh. Before nko??
If you bring a child into this world then you must sacrifice to keep it alive.
It's not rocket science
If you don't want to sacrifice then don't go and insert your dick and give birth to kids.
You don't owe your parents for taking care of you..
That is a duty they both agreed to do once they decided to have kids
If I request for a puppy, of course I have to get ready to feed and raise the puppy.
It is my responsibility and duty since I requested for it.
You can never achieve anything if you cling too much on your parents advice
They are biased on many many levels
Some are blinded by doctrine
They had no access to Internet and a large amount of information unlike us.
That is why White people are far ahead of us. They allow their kids to explore life and in doing so these kids become their best selves with great potential to the community and the world.

Eulalia:
My parents were not ignorant. In fact all they ever taught is still guiding and keeping me up till today even though they are no more.

SultanOfAbia:
The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.

What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong
Will you obey him or disobey him?

What if your mother supports your father in every negative thing he tells you to do?

Some parents are not wise and are easily manipulated by pastors and imams.

I think you should only Respect your parents if they are WISE

SultanOfAbia:

I know lots of people that fight with parents more end up being happy and successful in life.
Do you know that if you take their advice and become miserable later in life. They will attribute it to devil blocking your progress. It's an unending loop of had I know, what if, and regrets.
But if you go against them and prove them wrong and become successful. They will be the ones to boast about you nonstop.
That is to show you the level of bias that most parents have.

Isoduwa:



Show us your dad picture in London

Asadujames202:



Wow! you look ravishing

Reference:


I hear a lot of these stories and comments above and below seem to indicate that charting a course that led to a better life in the eyes of the explorer justifies the course.

I beg to differ with the assumption of success based on a differing path with perhaps some empiric evidence.

Who says such fellow will not have been more succeasful if they had not made those choices and set out along those parts. The very definition of success can be beclouded by sentiment when you feel you have escaped something.

By your definition a London education leading to the breadwinner status is success. Who ultimately says he could not have been better than that staying on that farm.

In life you can NEVER TELL. That is why every person must obtain a neutral opinion presented him by an unbiased party as what success is and is not.