Children Obey your parents in the "Lord" this means you should make sure you do whatever they say that God instructs too, honor they father and mother means turning them down politely and giving reasons and letting them see why you can't obey them.

SultanOfAbia:

I know lots of people that fight with parents more end up being happy and successful in life.
Do you know that if you take their advice and become miserable later in life. They will attribute it to devil blocking your progress. It's an unending loop of had I know, what if, and regrets.
But if you go against them and prove them wrong and become successful. They will be the ones to boast about you nonstop.
That is to show you the level of bias that most parents have.

1. African parent though in some cases are not educated but they are most enlightened in the world in terms of child upbringing .. for no reason should in any case use the word ‘unwise’ for parent they may not be educated but they are enlightened
2. Business, especially in Nigeria terrain of these days is dicy .. unpredictable. I know a friend that once have a gas filling station but now down to zero cos of Nigeria ‘uncertainties’. His is not to be used as ‘bench mark’ just need to mention
3. Please for no reason should you leave your Dad home to pursue your ambition ‘you will be out of cover’ unprotected .. you may end up with bad gangs when you face ‘real life’ challenges
4. My advice. While you are working on your proposals.. and ideas .. take up your Dad advice. Tell him you will go for the masters ( after all you’ve got nothing to lose, what education does is; it ‘enlarge your capacity’ it ‘opens your inner eyes’ to see farther and clearer, ...during and while you are are working on your masters .. attend seminars, conferences, do your ‘ masters research/seminars/thesis on your business proposals .. in doing this you are using one stone to kill 2 birds
5. On a final note.. be warned! Business terrain in Nigeria is not ‘rosy’ as you think don’t get out of the ‘cocoon’ before your time .. otherwise you may not be able to fly .. develop your wings under the guidance your parent; it may not be easy but you will not regret it in the future.

LORDofODDS:
Well sometimes, parents do make wrong decisions for their children. Just like my junior bro who is really good at playing football, finished his secondary school and he was approached by a football manager who wanted to manage him. He came with lots of offer for my bro to play abroad (USA, South Korea, Qatar and Slovakia). But my parents were against him playing. The man grew tired and left managing my bro due to frustrations coming out from my parent. Well my bro is in uni now feeling frustrated.

The problem with African parents tho, I've sworn never to make my child go through such. Incan only advice and support him without trying to bend his ambition.

These things actually starts from the early stages where parents force their kids into studying certain courses against their wish .. oh i want my son to become a doctor, I want him to become an engineer, he must study criminal law.

Na from there problem dey start.

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr Isoright
Bros op is right
But whether ignorant or not
Our parents mean well for us
It is up to you to use your discretion

well said, bro, theirs is to talk, the final decision lies in our palm....

SultanOfAbia:
African mentality is that you should respect your parents no matter what because they sacrified all they had for you.
This is a tactics used to Guilt Shame you whenever you don't agree with parents

Lol, duhhhhhh. Before nko??
If you bring a child into this world then you must sacrifice to keep it alive.
It's not rocket science
If you don't want to sacrifice then don't go and insert your dick and give birth to kids.
You don't owe your parents for taking care of you..
That is a duty they both agreed to do once they decided to have kids
If I request for a puppy, of course I have to get ready to feed and raise the puppy.
It is my responsibility and duty since I requested for it.
You can never achieve anything if you cling too much on your parents advice
They are biased on many many levels
Some are blinded by doctrine
They had no access to Internet and a large amount of information unlike us.
That is why White people are far ahead of us. They allow their kids to explore life and in doing so these kids become their best selves with great potential to the community and the world.

If any idiot that says they owe their parents nothing after birthihg and upbringing them is not only evil but an ungrateful Ingrate.
Your parents could have decidesd o juat terminate you when they had to, but they didn't.

As a Muslim I will never abandon my parenrs no matter what.
Whatever advise they give I will see were I can work. with it and if not, I humbly decline such advice, but saying you owe your parenrs nothing is the height of foolishness.

You think everything the white man does should be copied even when he acts stupidly.
Nobody is dying you shouldn't go for your potentials and see how you can explode doesn't equate abandonimg the very hands that made you who you are.
If we start telling you what these white parent are suffering because of neglect by nitwits like you will see the rottenness your arguments
Only dunce indomie generation with plastic minds will take you rubbish advise serious.


People juat4 come onlne to mouth off rubbish and you see simple idiots cheering him on with likes and shares.

overseer1:
How?

Suddenly, your parents become ignorant because you have meet one woman who you are not sure of her sincerity and genuineness to you.

My bro better have a rethink before you rush to classify your parents as ignorant.

Arindin

SultanOfAbia:
African mentality is that you should respect your parents no matter what because they sacrified all they had for you.
This is a tactics used to Guilt Shame you whenever you don't agree with parents

Lol, duhhhhhh. Before nko??
If you bring a child into this world then you must sacrifice to keep it alive.
It's not rocket science
If you don't want to sacrifice then don't go and insert your dick and give birth to kids.
You don't owe your parents for taking care of you..
That is a duty they both agreed to do once they decided to have kids
If I request for a puppy, of course I have to get ready to feed and raise the puppy.
It is my responsibility and duty since I requested for it.
You can never achieve anything if you cling too much on your parents advice
They are biased on many many levels
Some are blinded by doctrine
They had no access to Internet and a large amount of information unlike us.
That is why White people are far ahead of us. They allow their kids to explore life and in doing so these kids become their best selves with great potential to the community and the world.

You are out here living in 2050 while Nigerians are stucked in the 90s.

Nice comment, you are wise.

Juliearth:
Ignorant or not, they are your parents. If you cannot convince them otherwise, you must obey them. Even the Bible affirms that obeying and honouring your parents is key to living a long life.

Are you trying to throw the word "convince" for total obedience. Do you know how exceedingly difficult it can be to convince someone of facts, not opinion or desires. It is not as cut and dried as you'd like to think. If I cannot convince my parents that x is best for me or x religion is my calling, then I have to obey them?

Samirana360:
yes ooo because na their ignorance brought u to the world

How old are you ?

xcabczyxabczzzz:

You are out here living in 2050 while Nigerians are stucked in the 90s.

Nice comment, you are wise.

See them?indomie generation always claiming to be wise.

SpecialAgent:


No need for disobedience, just explain why the said thing is wrong & why you can't do it. If them forced you, just pretend to go along with the flow. Or find some one they respect to aid you explain stuff.

There is nothing like ignorant parents. Learn to communicate. Western education is not an avenue for you to be an arrogant prick in d name of know it all.


Bros dukeprince50 thread carefully woh, You can achieve both goals thereby making everybody happy. No need to disobey ur parents, Just make solid business plans as you continue ur education

Just explain will not do it sir. It doesn't work like that. How do you explain to an educated father who wants you to further to Ph.D level that you want to go into something else? Two mutually exclusive preferences are not necessarily wrong. Otis just their preference and you also have yours.

Listen to them but weigh matters within your heart and do what you want. .

alphaRego01:







U have said it all..thats why de whites are ahead of us and will continue to be.nice post

One thing about me is hate toxic comments.

Materially and in certain aspect they are ahead of us, but in terms of respect and upbringing we are better than them.

Can you imagine a child you raises with your own sweat and money suing you because he feels you can't reproach him or her.
This kind of rotten behavior is what you people are endorsing?

Spits

Friend22:


See them?indomie generation always claiming to be wise.

Can you please tell me where he got it all wrong? Forget wiseness make I learn from you.

KingAzubuike:

The problem with African parents tho, I've sworn never to make my child go through such. Incan only advice and support him without trying to bend his ambition.

These things actually starts from the early stages where parents force their kids into studying certain courses against their wish .. oh i want my son to become a doctor, I want him to become an engineer, he must study criminal law.

Na from there problem dey start.

is
Therer anything bad in your child becoming those?
Are there bad choicest in and of themselves?

REMEMBER YOUR PARENTS NOW!

While buying new clothes for your wife and children, do not forget the one that bought you same when you were a kid (if he is alive or rather pray for him if he has passed away).

Equally, do remember that woman that dressed you in the morning of Eid day, she always wore smiles on her face while doing the job. She always makes sure that you look nice in your dress on that Eid day.

Please buy her something for the Eid if she is alive or pray for her if she has returned to her Lord.

May Allah forgive our parents and shower His mercy on them.

xcabczyxabczzzz:

Can you please tell me where he got it all wrong? Forget wiseness make I learn from you.

He got it wrong when he said we din6t owe our parent anything.
We do, because they would not intentionally mislead us.
That's what I mean.

They can advise you, and you can humbly decline their advise if you feel you have something better and explain to them the advantage of your choice over theirs in a convincing manner not this ungrateful approach of brushing them off as if they are nobody.

Who does that!.

Friend22:
is
Therer anything bad in your child becoming those?
Are there bad choicest in and of themselves?

It's not bad but it's bad when it's against his wish

Soar2019:


1. African parent though in some cases are not educated but they are most enlightened in the world in terms of child upbringing .. for no reason should in any case use the word ‘unwise’ for parent they may not be educated but they are enlightened
2. Business, especially in Nigeria terrain of these days is dicy .. unpredictable. I know a friend that once have a gas filling station but now down to zero cos of Nigeria ‘uncertainties’. His is not to be used as ‘bench mark’ just need to mention
3. Please for no reason should you leave your Dad home to pursue your ambition ‘you will be out of cover’ unprotected .. you may end up with bad gangs when you face ‘real life’ challenges
4. My advice. While you are working on your proposals.. and ideas .. take up your Dad advice. Tell him you will go for the masters ( after all you’ve got nothing to lose, what education does is; it ‘enlarge your capacity’ it ‘opens your inner eyes’ to see farther and clearer, ...during and while you are are working on your masters .. attend seminars, conferences, do your ‘ masters research/seminars/thesis on your business proposals .. in doing this you are using one stone to kill 2 birds
5. On a final note.. be warned! Business terrain in Nigeria is not ‘rosy’ as you think don’t get out of the ‘cocoon’ before your time .. otherwise you may not be able to fly .. develop your wings under the guidance your parent; it may not be easy but you will not regret it in the future.

take did advice at ur own peril.....it's Betta one does what he/she has passion for and fail than for one to do what he/she doesn't have passion for and still fail

IME1:
that word ignorant itself is dishonourable

for want of a better word, kindly suggest a better word...don't just condemn.

Righteousness89:


The Bible is Very Clear about this!

Eph6 :1-3

Obey Your Parents " in the LORD "

That simply means Disobey them if they go off the Way of The LORD..

However it shouldn't be done anyhow.

Carefully and Respectfully tell them why u are refusing to do it. You let them know it's against Your Faith and Belief!

No parent will answer before GOD for the Child and no child also will answer for the Parent!

You made a good point. However what if they are not asking you to carry out actions contrary to God's command. Just personal preference.

Like, you father wants you to stay in his shop and he pays 25k, month end. He says for the umpteenth time that he cannot entrust his business to anyone else but you. He showers praises on you each time.

However, you're Lionel Messi in the making. A club in Ibadan wants to sign you for 5k per month with potentials for higher pay. It is believed that if you continue really good, big teams in Europe will sign you and you know what that means. A career in football, which is like blood money.

Now, for dad's personal interest and preferences, he wants you to have nothing to do with football. It is not a bad or ungodly desire, though. Just one he doesn't fancy. He still insists that you have to stay in his shop; after all, he pays 5 times as much as the team pays you monthly. Popsy no gree oo, calling football a waste of time and energy despite repeated calls from relatives and co. Would you advice a friend to stay put in the shop where there's no potential for more pay?

Friend22:
is
Therer anything bad in your child becoming those?
Are there bad choicest in and of themselves?

I see where you are coming from, don't bother replying my other question. Won't want to get an answer from a Brian dead dude.

Yes l am a millennia and wiser then you dumb fvck who think forcing your dumb ideology on your kid is cool.

Follow your heart in doing the right thing whatever rock your world

Friend22:


He got it wrong when he said we din6t owe our parent anything.
We do, because they would not intentionally mislead us.
That's what I mean.

They can advise you, and you can humbly decline their advise if you feel you have something better and explain to them the advantage of your choice over theirs in a convincing manner not this ungrateful approach of brushing them off as if they are nobody.

Who does that!.

You can't just pick on his comment out of context and from your own perspective to nail him to to cross.

Anybody that is rise right won't abandon his parent, his point is that when you feel you owe your life to your parent you are bond to do whatever they say; I have friends still passing through that.

Do what it is right by you and when you succeed you show them love.

This is Nigeria bro, most of us are choosing our path quickly to shower them with much love before age take a turn on them.

SultanOfAbia:
African mentality is that you should respect your parents no matter what because they sacrified all they had for you.
This is a tactics used to Guilt Shame you whenever you don't agree with parents

Lol, duhhhhhh. Before nko??
If you bring a child into this world then you must sacrifice to keep it alive.
It's not rocket science
If you don't want to sacrifice then don't go and insert your dick and give birth to kids.
You don't owe your parents for taking care of you..
That is a duty they both agreed to do once they decided to have kids
If I request for a puppy, of course I have to get ready to feed and raise the puppy.
It is my responsibility and duty since I requested for it.
You can never achieve anything if you cling too much on your parents advice
They are biased on many many levels
Some are blinded by doctrine
They had no access to Internet and a large amount of information unlike us.
That is why White people are far ahead of us. They allow their kids to explore life and in doing so these kids become their best selves with great potential to the community and the world.

Best comment on this thread
You made my day

SultanOfAbia:
The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.

What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong
Will you obey him or disobey him?

What if your mother supports your father in every negative thing he tells you to do?

Some parents are not wise and are easily manipulated by pastors and imams.

I think you should only Respect your parents if they are WISE

I think u can object respectfully especially when u know it’s clearly wrong. The Bible says obey meaning they (ur parents l)know what they are doing and they are inline with same bible or close.

Ur parents can’t be opposite of the Bible teachings or proper conduct and u foolishly obey them. I completely disagree.

I'm saddened by the barrage of insult and disdain these children have for their parents.
Some even brag about beating up their father to the delight of others who liked his comments. This can only come from children who are from a dysfunctional home.
I had expected them to narrate specific experience where their parents advice yielded bad results. No. They couldn't!
You think you owe your parents nothing? That it's their right to take care of you and they shouldn't expect obedience in return?
There are old pilot, and there are bold pilot. But there are no bold old pilot.
You guys should enjoy your folly.

SHOULD YOU OBEY TO EAT A ROTTEN TILAPIA SMELLING 7DAYS BABY SHIT OOZING KUKUNASE?

Eulalia:
My parents were not ignorant. In fact all they ever taught is still guiding and keeping me up till today even though they are no more.

I am sorry about that!

My parents are fighting me hard on who to marry Insiting I have to marry from my tribe.. I will not in this world listen to all their useless excuses of same tribe marriage is the best.. Instead I will not even get married.. Bleep any random person get her pregnant and have children..

Listen to them but trust your HEART the most.