Blackmiserable:


You made a good point. However what if they are not asking you to carry out actions contrary to God's command. Just personal preference.

Like, you father wants you to stay in his shop and he pays 25k, month end. He says for the umpteenth time that he cannot entrust his business to anyone else but you. He showers praises on you each time.

However, you're Lionel Messi in the making. A club in Ibadan wants to sign you for 5k per month with potentials for higher pay. It is believed that if you continue really good, big teams in Europe will sign you and you know what that means. A career in football, which is like blood money.

Now, for dad's personal interest and preferences, he wants you to have nothing to do with football. It is not a bad or ungodly desire, though. Just one he doesn't fancy. He still insists that you have to stay in his shop; after all, he pays 5 times as much as the team pays you monthly. Popsy no gree oo, calling football a waste of time and energy despite repeated calls from relatives and co. Would you advice a friend to stay put in the shop where there's no potential for more pay?

As long as you are an adult who can cater for himself, you can take your own decisions.

But the Truth also is that you should be Prepared to bear the Consequences if any Arises..

If your Mind is Made up and you are sure that is what u want, Respectfully tell dad that this is your desire and what you have decided to do

Righteousness89:


As long as you are an adult who can cater for himself, you can take your own decisions.

But the Truth also is that you should be Prepared to bear the Consequences if any Arises..

If your Mind is Made up and you are sure that is what u want, Respectfully tell dad that this is your desire and what you have decided to do

exactly!!! I am with you on this one.

This is a very serious issue ..but all I will say is . Wisdom is needed!!!..
You don't cling too much on your parents advise..
Also learn to take steps in your own hand .
What if they are both dead.. won't you move on.
Of course you will.. ..
So learn to take actions yourself too... Don't just be a mummy & Daddy's (boy / girl)..
Everything in life is a risk!!.. but you can make them know about your plans etc.. and if you wanna surprise them with results too..the ball is in your court
Be wise..life is a game, you risk everything in life .
You need your parents.. don't be rude to them..
And also.. be wise yourself..

SultanOfAbia:
The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.

What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong
Will you obey him or disobey him?

What if your mother supports your father in every negative thing he tells you to do?

Some parents are not wise and are easily manipulated by pastors and imams.

I think you should only Respect your parents if they are WISE

Blind obedience to anyone is irresponsible and st*upid, no matter who's involved!

It is ok to disobey your parents whenever they instruct you to do a crappy stuff.

The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.



What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong

Will you obey him or disobey him?

Redirect the question should you obey an irresponsible and failed government like Buhari's?

Honour your parents always does not mean that you can't make them change their minds or decisions. In all things but evil, you are to obey them by giving them the honor they deserve

overseer1:
How?

Suddenly, your parents become ignorant because you have meet one woman who you are not sure of her sincerity and genuineness to you.

My bro better have a rethink before you rush to classify your parents as ignorant.

So you just rushed and concluded that it's all about a woman.

The truth is that most parents still think that things still work as it use to back when they were growing up. They think education and federal government job is the best thing that can happen to someone. What percentage of civil servants that didn't embezzel money or had a side hustle built a good house without using their gratuity. How many civil servants can handle an emergency like sickness and still pay house rent or school fees without breaking the bank. Worst of all they think getting a federal job is easy once they know someone in one not so big position in a govt agency and you will see them complaining that the person doesn't want to help their son while the person in question is even having difficulty getting the same job for his/her own son. I know a PhD holder in my street that is yet to get a good paying job.
Some parents are really ignorant and it's left for the child that is more current with happenings to decide when to take a good advice and when to put aside the misguided bad ones they give

Friend22:


If any idiot that says they owe their parents nothing after birthihg and upbringing them is not only evil but an ungrateful Ingrate.
Your parents could have decidesd o juat terminate you when they had to, but they didn't.

As a Muslim I will never abandon my parenrs no matter what.
Whatever advise they give I will see were I can work. with it and if not, I humbly decline such advice, but saying you owe your parenrs nothing is the height of foolishness.

You think everything the white man does should be copied even when he acts stupidly.
Nobody is dying you shouldn't go for your potentials and see how you can explode doesn't equate abandonimg the very hands that made you who you are.
If we start telling you what these white parent are suffering because of neglect by nitwits like you will see the rottenness your arguments
Only dunce indomie generation with plastic minds will take you rubbish advise serious.


People juat4 come onlne to mouth off rubbish and you see simple idiots cheering him on with likes and shares.

Idiotic submission above. Next time qualify these statements with 'in my opinion'

Let me start by appreciating the OP for bringing this topic. In all honesty, some parents advices don't deserve second taught before you say No, I am having similar problem right now which is affecting my career bitterly and my personal self.. There is nothing bad in parents giving advice to their children but they should allow them to use their own initiatives as well to develop themselves, had it been our parents advices are worth entertaining, then there is no reason for the backward society we are living in... There is a cousin of mine whom is Mum gave birth to five children and each with different father and the same woman is trying to give me advice on how I will manage my matrimonial home... Can't you see something is missing

Honor your parents

Choice! Obey your parents so your days will be long

gbebodye:


Uncle, ur English too much abeg
When my father was in primary school Nigeria's agricultural sector was still booming and was known world wide, by the time he was in secondary school Nigeria was already starting to concentrate on the oil sector, as the only educated he could predict the nearest future, all his brothers and sisters proceeded to own lands etc but the economy eventually took the turn he predicted and they all sold their lands and went bankrupt so you tell me if his story would have been the same if he had not insisted on completing his education.

I can imagine the way your father's brothers will enforce education on their kids.. Did they force their kids to go to school?

It takes wisdom not to offend them, because some of them can be so imposing, ehn

SultanOfAbia:
The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.

What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong
Will you obey him or disobey him?

What if your mother supports your father in every negative thing he tells you to do?

Some parents are not wise and are easily manipulated by pastors and imams.

I think you should only Respect your parents if they are WISE

Pls Don't. Ignorance kills faster than any disease

Righteousness89:


The Bible is Very Clear about this!

Eph6 :1-3

Obey Your Parents " in the LORD "

That simply means Disobey them if they go off the Way of The LORD..

However it shouldn't be done anyhow.

Carefully and Respectfully tell them why u are refusing to do it. You let them know it's against Your Faith and Belief!

No parent will answer before GOD for the Child and no child also will answer for the Parent!

And as usual you never disappoint..On point!!

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright

Bros op is right

But whether ignorant or not

Our parents mean well for us

It is up to you to use your discretion

Have you heard of Franz Kafka.

I can only obey you if what you say I should do is right in its own way. But I cannot live my life according to how you want it to be this is what parents fail to understand they set up their miserable plans for their children and push it to them without asking what is your opinion. Sometimes I actually understand my father's death was maybe for the good of me or else I would have been in one useless private university studying a useless course like medicine or architecture.

Friend22:


If any idiot that says they owe their parents nothing after birthihg and upbringing them is not only evil but an ungrateful Ingrate.
Your parents could have decidesd o juat terminate you when they had to, but they didn't.

As a Muslim I will never abandon my parenrs no matter what.
Whatever advise they give I will see were I can work. with it and if not, I humbly decline such advice, but saying you owe your parenrs nothing is the height of foolishness.

You think everything the white man does should be copied even when he acts stupidly.
Nobody is dying you shouldn't go for your potentials and see how you can explode doesn't equate abandonimg the very hands that made you who you are.
If we start telling you what these white parent are suffering because of neglect by nitwits like you will see the rottenness your arguments
Only dunce indomie generation with plastic minds will take you rubbish advise serious.


People juat4 come onlne to mouth off rubbish and you see simple idiots cheering him on with likes and shares.

Judging by the use of grammar in this sentence we already know where to put you. Read about Franz Kafka please (I hope you can understand simple English) and tell me if his father meant good for him, his mother was stupid too to stand by and let the rubbish happen to the poor boy.

Faithful4real:
Let me answer this in a Christian way.

If what your parents is telling you something that is against God's words or what God told you. You can reject their advice .

God's injunction is for me to obey them. If faced with the instance you shared above, I would commit that to prayer and let God do the rest.

Juliearth:





God's injunction is for me to obey them. If faced with the instance you shared above, I would commit that to prayer and let God do the rest.

Continue waiting for God to show you that you have your own choice and life to live.
If your parents are gone, who will make decisions for you??

You don't read your Bible. Obey your parents in the lord they must be in the lord and therefore bring guided by God.

But to honor your parents no matter what so your days may be long is the command with promise. The command is in honoring them

FeliciaOja:

Continue waiting for God to show you that you have your own choice and life to live.
If your parents are gone, who will make decisions for you??

You clearly do not understand my comment.

gbebodye:


Uncle, ur English too much abeg
When my father was in primary school Nigeria's agricultural sector was still booming and was known world wide, by the time he was in secondary school Nigeria was already starting to concentrate on the oil sector, as the only educated he could predict the nearest future, all his brothers and sisters proceeded to own lands etc but the economy eventually took the turn he predicted and they all sold their lands and went bankrupt so you tell me if his story would have been the same if he had not insisted on completing his education.

Right. So the education instead of the farming is your definition of success. But look around you right now. At the moment the only industry working round the world is agriculture. They were never locked down anywhere because they are essential.

Your definition of success in this case is comparative. That is it has taken one brother and compared his state to the other brothers. This is a very limited perspective. Life is much wider than this and the definition of success much deeper. Not saying he could have been any diffetent if he stayed, but there is every possibilitu he could also have been morw successful today if he did.

There is a secret in knowing this and charting courses.

SultanOfAbia:
The Bible says obey your father and mother so ye shall live long.

What if you're father is telling you to do something you know is very wrong
Will you obey him or disobey him?

What if your mother supports your father in every negative thing he tells you to do?

Some parents are not wise and are easily manipulated by pastors and imams.

I think you should only Respect your parents if they are WISE

Mr. Poster. There are no ignorant parents in this world except a bastard who feels he knows better than his parents.

If you were allow to grow by yourself without your parents, you would become a greater bastard.

Remember, they shall forever be wiser than you. You believing you know more than them is just an illusion.

If you are a already a bastard, then you are not to blame. But if at all you look at men and women today good, you would see that the parents are behind that development since when they were 0 years old till their current age.

sexylassie2:
i hardly obey my parent but they are proud of me

who dash monkey banana

NO ! Our parents are not ignorant. Bad word to use to describe parents who went through thick and thin, deprived themselves to raise us.

We will also be parents someday and i'm sure no one wants their own kids to describe them as ignorant,as the world keeps evolving. Those of you who think you know it all, imagine 40 years down the road when you will be old and your children who have newer ideas would use same ignorant verbiage on you. Be careful !

Our parents give advice within the ambit of what they know. They mean no harm but are not perfect. Mistakes will be made but most of them give advice from a place of love.

In Nigeria, we place all emphasis on material wealth. And if one's parents are not wealthy,then they are automatically ignorant.

Do you think Dangeote or other billionaire parents would be described as ignorant by their kids I think not..

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright

Bros op is right

But whether ignorant or not

Our parents mean well for us

It is up to you to use your discretion

Yes... Our parents meant well for us, but in most cased, ignorance can make them mislead us.

SultanOfAbia:
African mentality is that you should respect your parents no matter what because they sacrified all they had for you.
This is a tactics used to Guilt Shame you whenever you don't agree with parents

Lol, duhhhhhh. Before nko??
If you bring a child into this world then you must sacrifice to keep it alive.
It's not rocket science
If you don't want to sacrifice then don't go and insert your dick and give birth to kids.
You don't owe your parents for taking care of you..
That is a duty they both agreed to do once they decided to have kids
If I request for a puppy, of course I have to get ready to feed and raise the puppy.
It is my responsibility and duty since I requested for it.
You can never achieve anything if you cling too much on your parents advice
They are biased on many many levels
Some are blinded by doctrine
They had no access to Internet and a large amount of information unlike us.
That is why White people are far ahead of us. They allow their kids to explore life and in doing so these kids become their best selves with great potential to the community and the world.

Our parents are the first people to program our minds right from infancy. Though, they meant well for us, ignorance can sometimes make them to program us wrongly.
This is why CHANGE is a the greatest requisite for SUCCESS.
You can't have the same mindset of your parents and succeed more than them.
Every child that want to succeed must CHANGE along with the modern world, and such change start by rejecting all or some of your parent's old fashioned advise. But don't do this with disrespect. Explain to them why their advice is no longer valid in today's world.

"GO TO SCHOOL, STUDY HARD, GET A DEGREE... GET A JOB... SO THAT YOU'LL SUCCEED"
The statement above is one of the worst advise any parents should give their children today. Some parents will even suggest what their children should study in school. In most cases, they only suggest a course that will make them proud; not the one that will make you succeed.
I pity those that still obey this advise in this 21st century.

eni4real:
I am sorry about that!

Thanks eni.

SultanOfAbia:
African mentality is that you should respect your parents no matter what because they sacrified all they had for you.
This is a tactics used to Guilt Shame you whenever you don't agree with parents

Lol, duhhhhhh. Before nko??
If you bring a child into this world then you must sacrifice to keep it alive.
It's not rocket science
If you don't want to sacrifice then don't go and insert your dick and give birth to kids.
You don't owe your parents for taking care of you..
That is a duty they both agreed to do once they decided to have kids
If I request for a puppy, of course I have to get ready to feed and raise the puppy.
It is my responsibility and duty since I requested for it.
You can never achieve anything if you cling too much on your parents advice
They are biased on many many levels
Some are blinded by doctrine
They had no access to Internet and a large amount of information unlike us.
That is why White people are far ahead of us. They allow their kids to explore life and in doing so these kids become their best selves with great potential to the community and the world.

i agree 100%.look at tribalism in Nigeria our parents are the once who basically holds on to such ideas and have indoctrinated their children.