There is this particular family in our street that love my family and we love them too,the parents of the family takes me and my siblings as thier children and vise versa.
The relationship between both families started when they relocated to our street (thier house)last year I was in school then,I travelled home to celebrate the Ramadan festival with my family when I noticed this strange faces coming to our house freely my siblings also go to thier house anyhow I asked my mom she said that is our new family friend, the parents of the family came to greet me for my arrival prayed and said when my siblings said they have brother who is in school they had all been longing to see me, On Eid day they sent me drinks and food and the relationship keep growing stronger.
Late last year after the painful death of my mom I thought the relationship between the family will at least reduce but instead it continues to grow stronger,the family had four beautiful children, first born is a guy 21, second is a girl 19, third a girl 16, fourth a girl 10.
The second born 19 is black and very beautiful with pointed nose, recently in this lockdown I noticed she's inlove with me and she has been developing this feeling since the day she saw me, it will take forever if I should start telling you guys how I found out,I studied her to be very intelligent and straight forward in her behavior.
Very pretty embellished with brain that's what arouses me and I started developing feelings for her too,I don't know if this relationship is going to work because we are too close,her mom loves me alot though she noticed her daughter behavior towards is different I think she knows her daughter loves me,her dad respect me gidi gan,I know if I ask her out she'll accept but I'm afraid I don't want our relationship to affect both families relationship,even my dad noticed her feelings for me but he kept mute, some of my friends knows about it and they ask me if I love her and I said yes, some told me to ask her out some said it will affect both families relationship I should continue if I can face the consequences.
Here is my question my NL famz should i forgo the relationship or proceed by asking her out.
I'm 23

If na boyfriend/girlfriend thing,i go sey make u no try am,but sey u wan marry her,go ahead.

The only thing I want to tell you is that you shouldn't play with her heart. If you are certain the love is real go for it. But if the love is just lust on the long run the relationship will certainly affect your family's relationship.

creating problems where there are none
in marriage two families become one so there is nothing better than marrying into a family which loves you from the start

donbachi:
If na boyfriend/girlfriend thing,i go sey make u no try am,but sey u wan marry her,
ahead.

I don't know what future holds but I go like serious with her if it work out

Just make sure you guys are init for long term.... Breakup is what will hinder the family friendship....

If you're both into eachother, there's no questions needed to be asked. Everyone will understand and family relationship will be safe.

Modified.




Hey, firstly, I will love to let you know that being in love is not something you can forgo easily. You said it all, you guys are both in love.... Why are you holding yourselves down because of your inter families relationship. Do you know you are playing with the girl's heart, which could lead to hatred and the hatred will hinder the family friendship, quote me right.
According to you, Am 80% sure that they will wants you guys to be together.... So why don't you go with your heart.

She's 19

She's not ready for a relationship


Don't stress yourself

Scootoo:

There is this particular family in our street that love my family and we love them too,the parents of the family takes me and my siblings as thier children and vise versa.
The relationship between both families started when they relocated to our street (thier house)last year I was in school then,I travelled home to celebrate the Ramadan festival with my family when I noticed this strange faces coming to our house freely my siblings also go to thier house anyhow I asked my mom she said that is our new family friend, the parents of the family came to greet me for my arrival prayed and said when my siblings said they have brother who is in school they had all been longing to see me, On Eid day they sent me drinks and food and the relationship keep growing stronger.
Late last year after the painful death of my mom I thought the relationship between the family will at least reduce but instead it continues to grow stronger,the family had four beautiful children, first born is a guy 21, second is a girl 19, third a girl 16, fourth a girl 10.
The second born 19 is black and very beautiful with pointed nose, recently in this lockdown I noticed she's inlove with me and she has been developing this feeling since the day she saw me, it will take forever if I should start telling you guys how I found out,I studied her to be very intelligent and straight forward in her behavior.
Very pretty embellished with brain that's what arouses me and I started developing feelings for her too,I don't know if this relationship is going to work because we are too close,her mom loves me alot though she noticed her daughter behavior towards is different I think she knows her daughter loves me,her dad respect me gidi gan,I know if I ask her out she'll accept but I'm afraid I don't want our relationship to affect both families relationship,even my dad noticed her feelings for me but he kept mute, some of my friends knows about it and they ask me if I love her and I said yes, some told me to ask her out some said it will affect both families relationship I should continue if I can face the consequences.
Here is my question my NL famz should i forgo the relationship or proceed by asking her out.
I'm 23

I am thinking of how you are going to manage this relationship if and when it develops to live affairs

Considering they are good family friends

She is in her late teens

What if the family gets to know that you are dating her and the relationship just ended like that

How will you feel or face them and how will you expect them to trust you and your family again

The worst is that you are all in the same street

I will advise you play the duty if a big brother, ask her about further details on her education plan

Advice her I how to be a woman and keep her self

Scold her when she goes wrong or you see her in the mist of boys or see her hanging with boys

It's better for you to be her watch dog than for you to devour her

Ask her out.

Goodluck.

Gallantfortune:
Modified.




Hey, firstly, I will love to let you know that being in love is not something you can forgo easily. You said it all, you guys are both in love.... Why are you holding yourselves down because of your inter families relationship. Do you know you are playing with the girl's heart, which could lead to hatred and the hatred will hinder the family friendship, quote me right.
According to you, Am 80% sure that they will wants you guys to be together.... So why don't you go with your heart.

How can not dating her cause hatred btw the two family

frozen70:


I am thinking of how you are going to manage this relationship if and when it develops to live affairs

Considering they are good family friends

She is in her late teens

What if the family gets to know that you are dating her and the relationship just ended like that

How will you feel or face them and how will you expect them to trust you and your family again

The worst is that you are all in the same street

I will advise you play the duty if a big brother, ask her about further details on her education plan

Advice her I how to be a woman and keep her self

Scold her when she goes wrong or you see her in the mist of boys or see her hanging with boys

It's better for you to be her watch dog than for you to devour her

U want make i sister zone her be dat

lilmax:
She's 19

She's not ready for a relationship


Don't stress yourself

You are a mumu man. How old was queen Elizabeth when she was in love with her husband or when she married him Dey dere dey yarn nonsense

Go for your heart. Prince Philip was 18 while he was in love with queen Elizabeth 13 years old, so don't let some people that are ultra-right tell you it's wrong to love and be with a 19 year old girl, since the feeling is mutual, go for it. 18 is the age of marriage in Nigeria so don't mind those people saying she's too young, they are he'll wrong.

Scootoo:
I don't know if this relationship is going to work because we are too close,
Here is my question my NL famz should i forgo the relationship or proceed by asking her out.
I'm 23

When you get to this bridge, you will cross it. True LOVE shouldn't care about whatever the relationship the two families might be having.

Go for the girl when she's still at hand.

LovelyDude:
Go for your heart. Prince Philip was 18 while he was in love with queen Elizabeth 13 years old, so don't let some people that are ultra-right tell you it's wrong to love and be with a 19 year old girl, since the feeling is mutual, go for it. 18 is the age of marriage in Nigeria so don't mind those people saying she's too young, they are he'll wrong.

Ok bro
But how are we going to cope dating a girl from same street it will have been better if she is a little bit farther

frozen70:


I am thinking of how you are going to manage this relationship if and when it develops to live affairs

Considering they are good family friends

She is in her late teens

What if the family gets to know that you are dating her and the relationship just ended like that

How will you feel or face them and how will you expect them to trust you and your family again

The worst is that you are all in the same street

I will advise you play the duty if a big brother, ask her about further details on her education plan

Advice her I how to be a woman and keep her self

Scold her when she goes wrong or you see her in the mist of boys or see her hanging with boys

It's better for you to be her watch dog than for you to devour her

Thinking the same advice � u just got here first.


@OP.. no rizon am! everywhere fit jollof if u con break her heart afterwards.

hmmmm

LovelyDude:
Go for your heart. Prince Philip was 18 while he was in love with queen Elizabeth 13 years old, so don't let some people that are ultra-right tell you it's wrong to love and be with a 19 year old girl, since the feeling is mutual, go for it. 18 is the age of marriage in Nigeria so don't mind those people saying she's too young, they are he'll wrong.

For the fact that it worked for Prince Phillip doesn't give the guarantee that it will work for the op..

No be every girl wey come your way or show you green light you go date. The op mustn't date her as there's nothing to gain or lose, nothing special and I don't think any good would come out from such relationship if not that same heart break and s*x which may at the end imperil the peaceful relationship between both families.

@op, the best gift to gift that girl is a gift of friendship and not some infatuations that may turn you both to enemy.

sanesta:
For the fact that it worked for Prince Phillip doesn't give the guarantee that it will work for the op..

No be every girl wey come your way or show you green light you go date. The op mustn't date her as there's nothing to gain or lose, nothing special and I don't think any good would come out from such relationship if not that same heart break and s*x which may at the end imperil the peaceful relationship between both families.

@op, the best gift to gift that girl is a gift of friendship and not some infatuations that may turn you both to enemy.

Thanks but
U know sometimes making friends with someone u have feelings for can be difficult

You both just going to Fvck the whole relationship both family built trust me

Gallantfortune:
Modified.




Hey, firstly, I will love to let me the family friendship, quote me right.
According to you, Am 80% sure that they will wants you guys to be together.... So why don't you go with your heart.

hmm

Mayannar:



Thinking the same advice � u just got here first.


@OP.. no rizon am! everywhere fit jollof if u con break her heart afterwards.

Lol

Exactly ❗

Scootoo:

U want make i sister zone her be dat

No be every meet them they eat

It cannot last. Love is different from marriage. If it doesn't lead to marriage, the friendship btw the families will be gone.

At this age, both of you can't be sure of what you want. My elder brother did same thing and is regretting it till today.

GreenDestiny2:
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At this age, both of you can't be sure of what you want. My elder brother did same thing and is regretting it till today.

Hmmmm

Scootoo:

Thanks but
U know sometimes making friends with someone u have feelings for can be difficult

bros, no be every girl wey you get feelings for you go date.

you must not date that particular girl.

sanesta:
bros, no be every girl wey you get feelings for you go date.

you must not date that particular girl.

lol

You’re 23.

You’re young. Ask her out. Don’t be afraid of the future.

AfroKnight:
You’re 23.

You’re young. Ask her out. Don’t be afraid of the future.

Thanks bro