sweetmelanin:


The gang up I'm seeing here is so nauseating. As if it's by force to believe what they believe. Bukatyne it's either you start fighting back or report to Se.un.

Imagine the same people insulting you are the same ones reporting others to mynd4. SMH.

Women power, feminism style..

- Look out for all women ONLY when they all think like you.
- Destroy any woman who does not conform, she's a tool of the patriarchy, a deserter, a disgusting flea meant for the sole of our boots.
- The women who exalt their marriages and lick the feet of their husbands are the vilest of the vilest, they must be extinguished.

These are some of the codes of conduct straight out of the gender equality (feminism) handbook. And that's one of the reasons I've always known that a lot of them are sham, full of Hades' shít...

As for Bukatyne, she's too nice... fighting back is against her faith

Lwkmd @the turn the thread took

fuzzywuzzy:
Lwkmd @the turn the thread took

Mission accomplished shey?
Now clap for yourself and await your Nairaland award from Seun!!

deleSayo:


"They" are not as many as they may appear. All these accounts combined are probably run by no more than 2 people.

I know for a fact that big.litlelois is behind that Kaa.misha account. Just as she's behind fuzzy.wuzzy.

Erotomania can make a girl go to any lengths for revenge

deleSayo:

the thread is already derailed bro - might as well have some fun up in here
none of these dummies are ready for a reasonable discussion.

Lol, carry on...

bukatyne:


Temi yemi

I understand myself and I have a focus.

My topics are to pass across a message so I will not let them distract me. I do not have any 'gang' or 'group' so there is no need to 'feel among.'

Unlike them, I live in the real world and see people's concerns: I see ladies in their late 20s, 30s and 40s with good jobs praying for husbands; I see people with well paying jobs burn out and resign looking for that thing; I see people only focused on families feel empty at the end of the day; I see people who regret their choice of husbands and tell everyone to look well; I have seen women dragged back by bad husbands; I have seen directionless youth and girls just drifting looking for an anchor.

A lot of people were just laid off due to COVID-19 which has actually been a wake up call to others that you need to find yourself, what you are here for etc.

How this topic became marriage vs job/career is beyond me.

@ThothHermes:

You asked a question, can't find it anyone.

My message is to the Nigerian youth/woman and so NL is the best platform to share it.

These threads are permanently there. If it transforms the life of just one person, I am grateful and happy.

Leave the noise makers alone.

My people say you don't mind the distraction of the noise makers, you face the person you are bargaining with.

Enough said...

sweetmelanin:


That's why I don't contribute much to this section.

The ladies here are so unreasonable and have a bully culture towards women who don't agree with their wapped thinking.

So much for "women's empowerment".

The fact that you're female and still able to see this and speak against it, arouses me...no pun intended.

It has been like so for a long time here, just that a few more recruits have been added to the fold while some of the older ones are gracious enough to act friendly on the surface.

I know them very well...

fuzzywuzzy:
Lwkmd @the turn the thread took

Dearie,

The message has never been in the threads, It is always in the opening post .

Are you a pastor or a pastor's wife?
Your statements are too definitive and biased.
let me just give you twolines from ur post;

1. Whatever variation of the advise, it generates laughter in me
2.Work in itself cannot give satisfaction hence replacing your family with 'work' always ends in tears


with these two statements, you have laughed at women who put their careers ahead of a marriage==man and you have stated as a fact, that they will always end in tears.

How does your opinion differ from the northerners who believe a girl child is only good enough for marriage?
How does your opinion encourage the education of a girl child since her ultimate goal is marriage, should she stop at secondary school?

Working a job to earn a living has never been the solely a man's job. In most cultures in Africa, women run the farms and markets. They have always been busy for the benefit of their family.
let me quote proverbs 31 for you.

She finds wool and flax
and busily spins it.
14She is like a merchant’s ship,
bringing her food from afar.
15She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household
and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.
16She goes to inspect a field and buys it;
with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17She is energetic and strong,
a hard worker.
18[b]She makes sure her dealings are profitable;
her lamp burns late into the night.[/b]
19Her hands are busy spinning thread,
her fingers twisting fiber.
20She extends a helping hand to the poor
and opens her arms to the needy.
21She has no fear of winter for her household,
for everyone has warm clothes.
22She makes her own bedspreads.
She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
23Her husband is well known at the city gates,
where he sits with the other civic leaders.
24She makes belted linen garments
and sashes to sell to the merchants.
25She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.
26When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness.
27She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness.


The advise to face your career is never wrong. A cursory look around nairaland will tell you a lot of guys today want working women, they need support. The economy is tough and there is so much uncertainty. It is more likely that a young educated working woman will have more suitors than the havenots.
The working woman of today is not in competition with the man. Her purpose is to build without fear for the future, both for herself and her household.
Any lady who diligently gets up everyday to make an honest living should be encouraged. "Work"today, career tomorrow. we will all reap the fruit of our labor.

bukatyne:
Happy Sunday peeps.

I see, hear and read a lot of ladies been advised to 'face their career (which is actually work sef) and think of marriage later'.

Or just the short form 'career before marriage'.

Whatever variation of the advise, it generates laughter in me because:

1. Work/tilling the ground is actually a man's curse;
2. Work is just a means to an end: survival, sustenance etc.

Work in itself cannot give satisfaction hence replacing your family with 'work' always ends in tears.

There is a reason work is often described as 'soul sucking'.

I watched an interview of Kourtney Kardashian where she said as she turned forty, she was afraid to die empty and felt she wasn't living enough.

That is a work/job: it gives you money and the fine things of life however, it can never give fulfillment. That's why even the very rich after they have made money start to look for causes how they can touch the lives of people positively or negatively.

That is not to say we should not be productive or resourceful. Every human should to the best of their ability be productive in a job, vocation or their calling.

Now, there is something called 'calling or purpose'. This is the reason why you were created on earth. People's purpose range from pulling drugged kids off the street, inventing something to make our lives easier to writing lyrics that touch the soul. It can as well be spiritual as per pastors, evangelists, teachers, etc. etc.

How do we discover this purpose or calling?
1. God tells you;
2. You discover what you do effortless or what you are always drawn to. Some people would say what you can all day got free and be satisfied;
3. You discover your talents or gifts.

Some people are extremely lucky that their calling is their work. E. G. Someone whose calling is taking off drugged youth off the streets working in a NGO into rehabilitating drug addicts etc.

Every body has the duty to discover their purpose and fulfill it.

In summary, work is just work: a means to an end of living a better life and fulfilling your purpose/assignment in earth.

crackkhaus:

Enough said...

Thank you *in r.kelly's voice*

Miarose:
Are you a pastor or a pastor's wife?
Your statements are too definitive and biased.
let me just give you twolines from ur post;

1. Whatever variation of the advise, it generates laughter in me
2.Work in itself cannot give satisfaction hence replacing your family with 'work' always ends in tears


with these two statements, you have laughed at women who put their careers ahead of a marriage==man and you have stated as a fact, that they will always end in tears.

How does your opinion differ from the northerners who believe a girl child is only good enough for marriage?
How does your opinion encourage the education of a girl child since her ultimate goal is marriage, should she stop at secondary school?

Working a job to earn a living has never been the solely a man's job. In most cultures in Africa, women run the farms and markets. They have always been busy for the benefit of their family.
let me quote proverbs 31 for you.

She finds wool and flax
and busily spins it.
14She is like a merchant’s ship,
bringing her food from afar.
15She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household
and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.
16She goes to inspect a field and buys it;
with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17She is energetic and strong,
a hard worker.
18[b]She makes sure her dealings are profitable;
her lamp burns late into the night.[/b]
19Her hands are busy spinning thread,
her fingers twisting fiber.
20She extends a helping hand to the poor
and opens her arms to the needy.
21She has no fear of winter for her household,
for everyone has warm clothes.
22She makes her own bedspreads.
She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
23Her husband is well known at the city gates,
where he sits with the other civic leaders.
24She makes belted linen garments
and sashes to sell to the merchants.
25She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.
26When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness.
27She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness.


The advise to face your career is never wrong. A cursory look around nairaland will tell you a lot of guys today want working women, they need support. The economy is tough and there is so much uncertainty. It is more likely that a young educated working woman will have more suitors than the havenots.
The working woman of today is not in competition with the man. Her purpose is to build without fear for the future, both for herself and her household.
Any lady who diligently gets up everyday to make an honest living should be encouraged. "Work"today, career tomorrow. we will all reap the fruit of our labor.

Miarose,

You read my OP with an open mind and concluded that the subject of the post is that women who put their jobs ahead of marriage/husband will end in tears?

Did you see the summary bolded at the end of the OP?

Ok, I would like you to point out the lines that led you to that conclusion.

bukatyne:


Dearie,

The message has never been in the threads, It is always in the opening post .

How on earth is this statement connected to what I said ?

sweetmelanin:



Aah!

We dare not mention the queen's name hence we get banned. Her royal highness Co......

M***44 has turned S.eun's platform to a joke. Even if your recent comment violates no rules, he will go digging through your old posts from 100 years ago and ban you based on that. Just because you mentioned his "master's" name.

Lmao... This comment might get deleted, so let me just quote it without the name.

I remember early last week when a comment I made was deleted simply because this line was in it, "malevolent moderators" without any name attached...yet it still got deleted

The god-complex associated with some people who are given some sort of control, can be massive.