crackkhaus:
That man she's married to who has not done a DNA test in the past 5yrs, is actually the only stvpid person here.
You have all the power at your disposal should you decide to cause problems in her marriage, and her innocent husband will be the only victim.

As some of these men have decided to let puccy erode their sense of self-preservation, they will keep becoming fathers to children of other men.

.....It's a pity how most commenters here are only seeing this issue only from one angle.
Let's agree that the op made a mistake thereby breaking her heart which led her to jump into marriage with someone else.
Does that justifies the act of pinning someone's else child unto another man deceitfully?
She should be the one asking for advice here and not the op.
@Op. Please do anything possible and legally to make her see reasons on why she should understand the implications of her act.

LilMissFavvy:
Why are people telling this man to go get his child? You all want him to ruin the girls marriage? Oga stay away from that lady's marriage, you did not want her as a wife, you were busy rocking gals in camp and school. She will definitely confess her crime to her husband when the time comes, let her do it willingly, carry your badluck and leave her alone. What if the lady had taken morning after pills to get rid of fertilization, would there be any baby to look out for today? Mind your business and keep off that woman whom you frustrated emotionally, if you need children, go and marry.

....And you don't see anything wrong with her deceitful act of pinning someone's else child on an innocent man bah?

The OP is catching his cruise with the responses.

You want your baby, the lady most likely did not tell the current man the true state of things. Only God knows how this your calls to this your ex might have distracted her from her current husband.
I kept telling ladies in this situation to always tell their husband the truth incase something like this happens.
If he had lied to her husband about this or may be insisted that the man must take her with another man's child, is this not the beginning of the end of the marriage if there is no true love between the lady and the current husband

Some will still be here shouting "You take the mother and the baby as total package" as if they are goods for sell.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....It's a pity how most commenters here are only seeing this issue only from one angle.
Let's agree that the op made a mistake thereby breaking her heart which led her to jump into marriage with someone else.
Does that justifies the act of pinning someone's else child unto another man deceitfully?
She should be the one asking for advice here and not the op.
@Op. Please do anything possible and legally to make her see reasons on why she should understand the implications of her act.

I am hardly concerned about the OP... If he wants, he should go claim paternity of the child or if he decides to forget it, still his cup of tea.

It's the other man who married his ex and is playing daddy to a child he didn't father, he's the one in my mind... I just don't know why.

What a tool.

Cuddlebugie:
Paternity fraud!
Another case of a woman pinning the other man's child on her husband.

Well, it takes both sides to build a bridge. Both of you are at fault here.
She wasn't good enough for you to marry because she's an illiterate. At the mention of marriage, you took to your heels.
She was already pregnant with your child but another man was disturbing her for marriage. Since you went AWOL on her, she thought it wise to get married to the man who was ready and pin the baby on him.

In as much as you are sure the child is yours and she isn't refuting the claim, do well to get involved in your child's life. You have to be diplomatic about it since her marriage is at stake.

I only pity the innocent man who is raising another man's child as his.

The innocent man will probably don't know what's going on. And when you tell these ladies not to insist that a man must marry you with another man's child, they will start shouting "you must accept the total package or nothing".

Climatology100:

Thank you for this, I know my ex very well, we've be together right from our innocent age.
There was a time she called me around 10pm, I was shocked as I couldn't pick her calls so I called her back afternoon the second day as I told her she shouldn't call me at that wee hours because of herself and marriage.
She told me I shouldn't worry about that, that she's free to call me anytime she like irrespective if her husband is aware or not.
I think she's the one calling the shots in the union.

That makes sense.
If that's the case then keep talking to her to let you know if her daughter is yours.
Explain to her that you don't want to miss out on your daughters life.
Irrespective of what is going on between the parents, children need both their parents.
Unless one is toxic and can harm the child.

Just keep pleading.

crackkhaus:

I am hardly concerned about the OP... If he wants, he should go claim paternity of the child or if he decides to forget it, still his cup of tea.

It's the other man who married his ex and is playing daddy to a child he didn't father, he's the one in my mind... I just don't know why.

What a tool.

What if the lady had sex with the current husband the same period and the lady have assured the man that the baby is his, you now blame the man for trusting someone he loves(if he actually do)?

crackkhaus:

I am hardly concerned about the OP... If he wants, he should go claim paternity of the child or if he decides to forget it, still his cup of tea.

It's the other man who married his ex and is playing daddy to a child he didn't father, he's the one in my mind... I just don't know why.

What a tool.

...Not a small tool.

Mindlog:
The OP is catching his cruise with the responses.

Catching cruise? Like toying with the intellects on this forum with fake lines or what?
Anyway, I still thank you for your input.

Cuddlebugie:
Paternity fraud!
Another case of a woman pinning the other man's child on her husband.

Well, it takes both sides to build a bridge. Both of you are at fault here.
She wasn't good enough for you to marry because she's an illiterate. At the mention of marriage, you took to your heels.
She was already pregnant with your child but another man was disturbing her for marriage. Since you went AWOL on her, she thought it wise to get married to the man who was ready and pin the baby on him.

In as much as you are sure the child is yours and she isn't refuting the claim, do well to get involved in your child's life. You have to be diplomatic about it since her marriage is at stake.

I only pity the innocent man who is raising another man's child as his.

...You are a very sincere lady. Just keep it up. Remain blessed.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....It's a pity how most commenters here are only seeing this issue only from one angle.
Let's agree that the op made a mistake thereby breaking her heart which led her to jump into marriage with someone else.
Does that justifies the act of pinning someone's else child unto another man deceitfully?
She should be the one asking for advice here and not the op.
@Op. Please do anything possible and legally to make her see reasons on why she should understand the implications of her act.

Hmmm, thanks sir for the kind response, I appreciate.

JONNYSPUTE:
...Not a small tool.

Big one...

I have not seen the woman that will be able to successfully pin a pregnancy on me. Godddamn!! The one who tried to do it before cannot see my face and remain the same.

If she sees me coming, she dey quickly change her route.

nnamdibig:


The innocent man will probably don't know what's going on. And when you tell these ladies not to insist that a man must marry you with another man's child, they will start shouting "you must accept the total package or nothing".

... They feel they are too wise. ( All knowing) Look at what she brought upon herself. People blaming the op are very funny. Is it a crime that you must marry a lady you dated? NO.
If this thing escalates,who do you think will bear the brunt? She offcourse.

LilMissFavvy:
Why are people telling this man to go get his child? You all want him to ruin the girls marriage? Oga stay away from that lady's marriage, you did not want her as a wife, you were busy rocking gals in camp and school. She will definitely confess her crime to her husband when the time comes, let her do it willingly, carry your badluck and leave her alone. What if the lady had taken morning after pills to get rid of fertilization, would there be any baby to look out for today? Mind your business and keep off that woman whom you frustrated emotionally, if you need children, go and marry.

He wants to have his cake and eat it

Climatology100:

The first pregnancy came at the down I was down, I was having problems in school as I was about to be rusticated for leading a revolt and I'm having a bad time with my mum so the pregnancy news just caged me and I was powerless.
Thanks for your input, God bless.

Akuko Mike Ejeagha

Please listen to your sister, she has told you the truth

Saintmary:

He wants to have his cake and eat it

Most of you ladies are evil. So is it fair for an innocent man to be training another man's child thinking she is his?. Be honest and objective here?

nnamdibig:


What if the lady had sex with the current husband the same period and the lady have assured the man that the baby is his, you now blame the man for trusting someone he loves(if he actually do)?

I shouldn't have use this line but I'm confident that the girl is mine, it's just too obvious, I'm sure if I'm the picture type maybe the husband would have find out through old pictures or something but I rarely do pictures and if I do,it will be in group and I will be at the back because I have this phobia for pictures as it will seems that the camera light will strike me down.

Amanee:


Akuko Mike Ejeagha

Please listen to your sister, she has told you the truth

I don't understand the meaning of the first paragraph though but my sis words always ring in my head.
Thanks once again.

.....Why is it that anytime issue concerning paternity fraud comes up,all most all the ladies here execpt for very insignificant few will want to support their fellow women?

Is there something these ladies are not telling us?
Does it mean that they are all cheats and doesn't see anything wrong in that?
Are they saying that non of them is trustworthy?.
Men,make Una open Una eyes. Oo.

JONNYSPUTE:
Most of you ladies are evil. So is it fair for an innocent man to be training another man's child thinking she is his?. Be honest and objective here?

The main purpose of this thread is about this guy who wants his daughter back, as for the issue of paternity fraud, its between the woman, her husband and their families. As for the evil in your eyes....

nnamdibig:


What if the lady had sex with the current husband the same period and the lady have assured the man that the baby is his, you now blame the man for trusting someone he loves (if he actually do)?

There's no such thing.

Unless the woman was a virgin (confirmed) when the man met her, there is no reason under the sun to trust that she's having sex with ONLY him or will continue having sex with ONLY him.
He doesn't have to act on it or start suspecting all her moves, it's just a mindset...something engraved deep inside the mind of any man who is socially aware.

That same ego that makes us MEN, is the same ego that makes it so easy for us to convince ourselves that a woman cannot cheat on us - it's a double-edged sword.

If a man is someone who is not good at keeping tabs, observing the behaviour of his wife/partner OR perhaps he simply does not have the time for all that - then he must have DNA tests done for every child born to him.

Saintmary:

The main purpose of this thread is about this guy who wants his daughter back, as for the issue of paternity fraud, its between the woman, her husband and their families. As for the evil in your eyes....

... So does your answer that he wants to eat his cake and have it make any sense to you Inrespect of the topic line you pointed out?

JOHNNYSPUTE and saintmary, you guys are so wonderful as I respect you both, please let's shield the sword.
JOHNNYSPUTE, you're a real G bro, thanks.
saintmary, I understood your perspective sis, thanks as well.

Climatology100:

The first pregnancy came at the down I was down, I was having problems in school as I was about to be rusticated for leading a revolt and I'm having a bad time with my mum so the pregnancy news just caged me and I was powerless.
Thanks for your input, God bless.

This point makes your story achingly familiar, now that I'm reading this, gosh.
Goosebumps....

crackkhaus:

There's no such thing.

Unless the woman was a virgin (confirmed) when the man met her, there is no reason under the sun to trust that she's having sex with ONLY him or will continue having sex with ONLY him.

That same ego that makes us MEN, is the same ego that makes it so easy for us to convince ourselves that we are more than enough for the woman we're with - it's a double-edged sword.

If a man is someone who is not good at keeping tabs, observing the behaviour of his wife/partner OR perhaps he simply does not have the time for all that - then he must have DNA tests done for every child born to him.

...You are absolutely right. Like. With the kind of comments from the ladies here,no man should be caught sleeping on bike. Period.

JONNYSPUTE:
...You are absolutely right. With the kind of comments from the ladies here,no man should be caught sleeping on bike. Period.

Na today you dey know say girls for here no get sense? Mitchewww.

Climatology100:

I messed things up but I never leave her alone when ,..

Listen my brother, secret is the only thing ONLY you knows. There are people who can absolve a shock and some that cannot handle things. There are men who can handle this issue if blown up and a lot who can take it.

Look, no way that u go to claim this child that will not shake the foundation of this marriage. If the guy is bad, he might end up to either divorce or end up to take the life of this lady nd child or the child and keep the lady, whichever way that pleases him.


If I were you, first, I'll keep this bw us, since she is a female child, it will be easier to handle than male child. I'll keep this secret of this child bw both of u-the lady nd urself for life. When the lady comes of age, both of can take her out codedly and disclose her status and she can handle it. Any form in bringing her up, do same codedly, but don't get emmotional wit ur ex 2 bleep her again since she is married.

Justbehave:
Na today you dey know say girls for here no get sense? Mitchewww.

....It's very disappointing reading their comments. I only pity those men that still trust their girlfriends and wives. As per me . D N A all the way if my wife doesn't like my decision,she is free to go back to her parents house.

Climatology100:
JOHNNYSPUTE and saintmary, you guys are so wonderful as I respect you both, please let's shield the sword.
JOHNNYSPUTE, you're a real G bro, thanks.
saintmary, I understood your perspective sis, thanks as well.

Now, I'll tell you what I would have told someone close to me
Keep in touch for now, she is already married, so, unless you want to marry her and be a father figure to your child, don't rock the boat yet.
Make your own family with someone else.
Once she has had other children for her husband, start persuading her to come clean.
Everyone will be alright with careful planning.
Be ready to make all necessary amends with her husband once the truth comes out.
If she wants to come back to you, that's a whole different ballgame, please don't be rash unless you are ready to provide a landing net for her.
P. S. I hate what she did, pinning a baby on someone else. I would never have done that.

crackkhaus:

Big one...

I have not seen the woman that will be able to successfully pin a pregnancy on me. Godddamn!! The one who tried to do it before cannot see my face and remain the same.

If she sees me coming, she dey quickly change her route.

Small men often feel a need to prove their courage with unseemly boasts,"

bross just calm down.

Listen my brother, secret is the only thing ONLY you knows. There are people who can absolve a shock and some that cannot handle things. There are men who can handle this issue if blown up and a lot who can't take it.

Look, no way that u can go to claim this child that will not shake the foundation of this marriage. If the guy is bad, he might end up to either divorce or end up to take the lives of this lady nd child or the child and keep the lady, whichever way that pleases him.


If I were you, first, I'll keep this bw two of u as secret and nobody else or at most ur mom, since she is a female child, it will be easier to handle than male child. I'll keep this secret of this child bw both of u-the lady nd urself for life. When the lady comes of age, both of can take her out codedly and disclose her status and she can handle it. Any form in bringing her up, do same codedly, but don't get emmotional wit ur ex 2 bleep her again since she is married.