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Ahmed0336:
My grandfather told me never to marry any lady out of pity and I followed his advise. It worked for me and I can tell you I ll soon celebrate my 15yrs in marriage. Try it, you might be lucky. As for the Yoruba lady there's one Hausa proverbs that say "kora da hali ta fi kora da sanda" meaning chase that Yoruba lady with bad characters you know she can't stand.

blesskewe:
I think ur Yoruba babe is just manipulating u cuz u care about her, and wow u are the money making machine of a girl u aren't married to.................................
Seems lazy, like u said


Wire me something na

Remaboy:
Traffic puller, this your story no cook well.No mind am. He is cooking story but he forgot to add salt to taste.

Gaggi:
You entered uni at 14 or what? Hope this isn't a fake story? Too many aspiring writers on NL lately.

melodynk01:
You're being manipulated bro.(By the Yoruba lady) Like they say, she don get your mumu button. Dump her like hot charcoal cos it won't end well. You mentioned stuff about her blowing up your phone. Guy, yux block her number and move on. As for Ibom, well what can I say, you taking up a responsibility that ain't yours while yo not married yet, hmmmm. What happens when things don't work out. You mentioned that she ain't really matured. I'll advice you to yux take a break from women issues.

timagentms:
I will advise you to take a little break for now and put your mind off from any of them. sit-down and think if any of them can be useful for you as a mother to a child relationship, if you see any one of them like a mother to you, then go for her.

Relationship is not just I will marry you and bear me child's, relationship has a long way to go, is not just a day journey but a life journey, so you have to think deeply before you choose your life partner. A good relationship must have a good communication, both of you have to see your partner like mother that have to communicate just like a relationship between mother and child.

If you can go for that Ibom girl, if you see she worth what you need in life, it is ur choice don't let anything stop you.

For that Yoruba lady, I will advise you to systematically give her a break, because any lady that treating to commit suicide must be very careful with, because if you marry her one day before she kill herself she might kill you first and then later commit suicide. That lady is desperate and you must avoid her. Also don't let anylady capitalize on your weak point.

For your ex wife, you said you are still in good mood now, may be she has realize her mistake and understand the outer world of marriage. There is one Yoruba proverb that says Esu ti a ti mo tele, o San ju angeli ti a ko ti mo. Meaning a devil we know is better than the new angel we just meet, because whom know maybe the new angel might have a bad behaviour that Even worst than the devil.

I don't know much about divorce, but if the law can still allow you to remarry, you can go ahead because I can still sense a love from you to her.

Before I go remember this is a life partner and you must sentence yourself wisely in choosen your life partner.

To ba kowaju si e ki o pa, toba ko eyin si e ki o pa, sugbon to ba ku Iwo nikan tun ero ara ra pa

Good luck.

timagentms:
I will advise you to take a little break for now and put your mind off from any of them. sit-down and think if any of them can be useful for you as a mother to a child relationship, if you see any one of them like a mother to you, then go for her.

Relationship is not just I will marry you and bear me child's, relationship has a long way to go, is not just a day journey but a life journey, so you have to think deeply before you choose your life partner. A good relationship must have a good communication, both of you have to see your partner like mother that have to communicate just like a relationship between mother and child.

If you can go for that Ibom girl, if you see she worth what you need in life, it is ur choice don't let anything stop you.

For that Yoruba lady, I will advise you to systematically give her a break, because any lady that treating to commit suicide must be very careful with, because if you marry her one day before she kill herself she might kill you first and then later commit suicide. That lady is desperate and you must avoid her. Also don't let anylady capitalize on your weak point.

For your ex wife, you said you are still in good mood now, may be she has realize her mistake and understand the outer world of marriage. There is one Yoruba proverb that says Esu ti a ti mo tele, o San ju angeli ti a ko ti mo. Meaning a devil we know is better than the new angel we just meet, because whom know maybe the new angel might have a bad behaviour that Even worst than the devil.

I don't know much about divorce, but if the law can still allow you to remarry, you can go ahead because I can still sense a love from you to her.

Before I go remember this is a life partner and you must sentence yourself wisely in choosen your life partner.

To ba kowaju si e ki o pa, toba ko eyin si e ki o pa, sugbon to ba ku Iwo nikan tun ero ara ra pa

Good luck.

Ximenez:
At 27, you already have a failed marriage, a Telemundo-esque "ibom" , a Yoruba drama-queen. You are not doing well.

Break up with all of them and focus on your child for now.

mrblessed:
The title of your thread is a giveway of how irresponsible you are. The annoying part is that you feel proud proclaiming to the world that you a shameless Casanova. Since you have a lot of girlfriends, what stops you from discarding the one that comes with a lot problems and making do with others that are docile and tractable. Or are there bebefits you won't disclosed?

missimelda01:
Op are you not tired of all this drama?, take a deep breath and stay away from relationships for now till you understand yourself.. you're obviously confused.

taiwosamwell:
He might be saying the truth, Cos one of my friends sister finished Masters at 19 yrs, buh na private uni she go

TheEnlightenedO:
Biko help me tell bros... I’m surprised people think it’s a weird thing to graduate at that age... It’s practically a common norm

Khomed:
It is stories like this that use to pain my brain....

OP! Op!! Op!!! How many times have I called you? Mr Op ask yourself what you want then you know the answer to the question and what to do already.

Please what sort of NGO are you operating so I can come and apply? Cause its obviously that is what you have become to the Ibom gal. The fact that you have the resources now should you become a spendthrift people are looking to consolidate there fortune you turn NGO.... Not your fault sha seems you have mommy issues.

For the Yoruba lady tell your friends to kindly block her number then for you when next she threatens suicide ask her which does she want. The sniper version, 3rd mainland bridge version, phone charging version or trailer version...... Anyone she chooses kindly assist her in achieving her dreams because you have turn to savior of the world.



Instead of you to use your young 27year old brain to be thinking forward its leeches and idiot that you bothered about.... Flush the both of them off your life if not for your self remember you have a child who should not be a victim of stupid people.

taiwosamwell:
Which uni did you go

TheEnlightenedO:
BellsTech

TheEnlightenedO:
I honestly am... Hence me seeking unbiased advice

BilltheDON:
I've been in ur shoe with the Suicide bs... I have to contact her family members through FB... So that even if she drop note... I will have witness

shamsin6300:
So if she eventually commit suicide now, na your soul the will carry in place of her's?

Shormiey:
Don't be a beggar.........

mrblessed:
The title of your thread is a giveway of how irresponsible you are. The annoying part is that you feel proud proclaiming to the world that you a shameless Casanova. Since you have a lot of girlfriends, what stops you from discarding the one that comes with a lot problems and making do with others that are docile and tractable. Or are there bebefits you won't disclosed?

TheEnlightenedO:
Hi All,

I've been a Nairalander for years, since 2008, I never signed up until now because I never had to post anything really, so kindly bear with my narrative...

I have been dating this Akwa Ibom girl for over 2 years now, she's relatively young 22 (still a student but obviously still in that dreamy state; spends most of her time reading novels, completely dependent on me, in fact the entire family is: I got them their 3 bedroom apartment, I send money to her uncles, her mom and send them monthly stipends for food; I most times even ask her to take home the food she stocks up for me in the freezer cuz I'm not going to lie I am lazy with having to get stuff out and microwave, I'd rather eat a snack cuz of my busy schedule, even bought everyone of her sisters the phones they use, sometimes I just send funds to her loved ones whenever I am sending money to my exwife for my child). For reference purposes; I turn 27 this year.

Sometime in November I met this nice Yoruba lady, 30 (intelligent, master's degree, works in an Oil & Gas firm, very dramatic). This yoruba babe had full knowledge of the existence of my Ibom babe from the jump, but we liked each others company and spent time together after work sometimes. I love our mature conversations, but you could tell shes been through alot, Daddy issues, heartbreaks and has a terrible habit of always threatening to commit suicide everytime we have a dispute; it's a very crazy chain of events when this happens, it goes like this: For instance, if we are physically together and we had a small disagreement over how perhaps my worker spoke to her, she starts to rant, I've been married before so I know to walk away when this starts cuz I no get time honestly, she usually either steps in front of me, does that yoruba style 'holding my hand that I'm not going anywhere stance' and if I proceed to leave, she would go as far as showing up at my house even if she knows the Ibom babe is there, all to ask me the same question: 'Are you breaking up with me?' I learnt the hard way to say No to this question after she attempted suicide the first time. I was out of the country and had to beg my friends to go to her home and make sure she was okay, this thing has taken a toll of my friends even... This babe is a standup babe however, amazing and pure heart of sorts but is very petty, she would fight me over posting my exwife who is also the mother of my child's photo on mother's day, all just to say Happy Mother's Day... That led to a 2 hour rant, I had to hang up, then she called my friends and vented about it to them, and threatened suicide again.

My dilemma is this, I love Ibom, but I have spent 2 years trying to build her into something she obviously isn't, I have been married before and my exwife showed me pepper even though we are on decent terms now. I invested alot into that, I also have invested alot into this too but I feel like I may be wasting my time. I am at a point where I have gained it all before, lost it after my divorce, and finally gained it all back, I have helped her and her family without complaints but I feel like perhaps she cant imagine the possibility of losing me in the regard of somewhat losing their breadwinner, truth is I dont feel sexually aroused by her anymore, I have to watch porn or think of someone else to be able to sleep with her.
Even the Yoruba one, she always wants to be on the phone, I am a busy person usually and cant be on the phone all day like I'm a teenager or a fresher in Uni... she expects me to simply dump Ibom and start having babies with her. Besides her always threatening suicide if I dont marry her or get her pregnant, she always uses things I tell her in confidence against me.

I honestly just want my peace... I need advise

TheEnlightenedO:
Hi All,

I've been a Nairalander for years, since 2008, I never signed up until now because I never had to post anything really, so kindly bear with my narrative...

I have been dating this Akwa Ibom girl for over 2 years now, she's relatively young 22 (still a student but obviously still in that dreamy state; spends most of her time reading novels, completely dependent on me, in fact the entire family is: I got them their 3 bedroom apartment, I send money to her uncles, her mom and send them monthly stipends for food; I most times even ask her to take home the food she stocks up for me in the freezer cuz I'm not going to lie I am lazy with having to get stuff out and microwave, I'd rather eat a snack cuz of my busy schedule, even bought everyone of her sisters the phones they use, sometimes I just send funds to her loved ones whenever I am sending money to my exwife for my child). For reference purposes; I turn 27 this year.

Sometime in November I met this nice Yoruba lady, 30 (intelligent, master's degree, works in an Oil & Gas firm, very dramatic). This yoruba babe had full knowledge of the existence of my Ibom babe from the jump, but we liked each others company and spent time together after work sometimes. I love our mature conversations, but you could tell shes been through alot, Daddy issues, heartbreaks and has a terrible habit of always threatening to commit suicide everytime we have a dispute; it's a very crazy chain of events when this happens, it goes like this: For instance, if we are physically together and we had a small disagreement over how perhaps my worker spoke to her, she starts to rant, I've been married before so I know to walk away when this starts cuz I no get time honestly, she usually either steps in front of me, does that yoruba style 'holding my hand that I'm not going anywhere stance' and if I proceed to leave, she would go as far as showing up at my house even if she knows the Ibom babe is there, all to ask me the same question: 'Are you breaking up with me?' I learnt the hard way to say No to this question after she attempted suicide the first time. I was out of the country and had to beg my friends to go to her home and make sure she was okay, this thing has taken a toll of my friends even... This babe is a standup babe however, amazing and pure heart of sorts but is very petty, she would fight me over posting my exwife who is also the mother of my child's photo on mother's day, all just to say Happy Mother's Day... That led to a 2 hour rant, I had to hang up, then she called my friends and vented about it to them, and threatened suicide again.

My dilemma is this, I love Ibom, but I have spent 2 years trying to build her into something she obviously isn't, I have been married before and my exwife showed me pepper even though we are on decent terms now. I invested alot into that, I also have invested alot into this too but I feel like I may be wasting my time. I am at a point where I have gained it all before, lost it after my divorce, and finally gained it all back, I have helped her and her family without complaints but I feel like perhaps she cant imagine the possibility of losing me in the regard of somewhat losing their breadwinner, truth is I dont feel sexually aroused by her anymore, I have to watch porn or think of someone else to be able to sleep with her.
Even the Yoruba one, she always wants to be on the phone, I am a busy person usually and cant be on the phone all day like I'm a teenager or a fresher in Uni... she expects me to simply dump Ibom and start having babies with her. Besides her always threatening suicide if I dont marry her or get her pregnant, she always uses things I tell her in confidence against me.

I honestly just want my peace... I need advise

TheEnlightenedO:
Hi All,

I've been a Nairalander for years, since 2008, I never signed up until now because I never had to post anything really, so kindly bear with my narrative...

I have been dating this Akwa Ibom girl for over 2 years now, she's relatively young 22 (still a student but obviously still in that dreamy state; spends most of her time reading novels, completely dependent on me, in fact the entire family is: I got them their 3 bedroom apartment, I send money to her uncles, her mom and send them monthly stipends for food; I most times even ask her to take home the food she stocks up for me in the freezer cuz I'm not going to lie I am lazy with having to get stuff out and microwave, I'd rather eat a snack cuz of my busy schedule, even bought everyone of her sisters the phones they use, sometimes I just send funds to her loved ones whenever I am sending money to my exwife for my child). For reference purposes; I turn 27 this year.

Sometime in November I met this nice Yoruba lady, 30 (intelligent, master's degree, works in an Oil & Gas firm, very dramatic). This yoruba babe had full knowledge of the existence of my Ibom babe from the jump, but we liked each others company and spent time together after work sometimes. I love our mature conversations, but you could tell shes been through alot, Daddy issues, heartbreaks and has a terrible habit of always threatening to commit suicide everytime we have a dispute; it's a very crazy chain of events when this happens, it goes like this: For instance, if we are physically together and we had a small disagreement over how perhaps my worker spoke to her, she starts to rant, I've been married before so I know to walk away when this starts cuz I no get time honestly, she usually either steps in front of me, does that yoruba style 'holding my hand that I'm not going anywhere stance' and if I proceed to leave, she would go as far as showing up at my house even if she knows the Ibom babe is there, all to ask me the same question: 'Are you breaking up with me?' I learnt the hard way to say No to this question after she attempted suicide the first time. I was out of the country and had to beg my friends to go to her home and make sure she was okay, this thing has taken a toll of my friends even... This babe is a standup babe however, amazing and pure heart of sorts but is very petty, she would fight me over posting my exwife who is also the mother of my child's photo on mother's day, all just to say Happy Mother's Day... That led to a 2 hour rant, I had to hang up, then she called my friends and vented about it to them, and threatened suicide again.

My dilemma is this, I love Ibom, but I have spent 2 years trying to build her into something she obviously isn't, I have been married before and my exwife showed me pepper even though we are on decent terms now. I invested alot into that, I also have invested alot into this too but I feel like I may be wasting my time. I am at a point where I have gained it all before, lost it after my divorce, and finally gained it all back, I have helped her and her family without complaints but I feel like perhaps she cant imagine the possibility of losing me in the regard of somewhat losing their breadwinner, truth is I dont feel sexually aroused by her anymore, I have to watch porn or think of someone else to be able to sleep with her.
Even the Yoruba one, she always wants to be on the phone, I am a busy person usually and cant be on the phone all day like I'm a teenager or a fresher in Uni... she expects me to simply dump Ibom and start having babies with her. Besides her always threatening suicide if I dont marry her or get her pregnant, she always uses things I tell her in confidence against me.

I honestly just want my peace... I need advise

TheEnlightenedO:
Hi All,

I've been a Nairalander for years, since 2008, I never signed up until now because I never had to post anything really, so kindly bear with my narrative...

I have been dating this Akwa Ibom girl for over 2 years now, she's relatively young 22 (still a student but obviously still in that dreamy state; spends most of her time reading novels, completely dependent on me, in fact the entire family is: I got them their 3 bedroom apartment, I send money to her uncles, her mom and send them monthly stipends for food; I most times even ask her to take home the food she stocks up for me in the freezer cuz I'm not going to lie I am lazy with having to get stuff out and microwave, I'd rather eat a snack cuz of my busy schedule, even bought everyone of her sisters the phones they use, sometimes I just send funds to her loved ones whenever I am sending money to my exwife for my child). For reference purposes; I turn 27 this year.

Sometime in November I met this nice Yoruba lady, 30 (intelligent, master's degree, works in an Oil & Gas firm, very dramatic). This yoruba babe had full knowledge of the existence of my Ibom babe from the jump, but we liked each others company and spent time together after work sometimes. I love our mature conversations, but you could tell shes been through alot, Daddy issues, heartbreaks and has a terrible habit of always threatening to commit suicide everytime we have a dispute; it's a very crazy chain of events when this happens, it goes like this: For instance, if we are physically together and we had a small disagreement over how perhaps my worker spoke to her, she starts to rant, I've been married before so I know to walk away when this starts cuz I no get time honestly, she usually either steps in front of me, does that yoruba style 'holding my hand that I'm not going anywhere stance' and if I proceed to leave, she would go as far as showing up at my house even if she knows the Ibom babe is there, all to ask me the same question: 'Are you breaking up with me?' I learnt the hard way to say No to this question after she attempted suicide the first time. I was out of the country and had to beg my friends to go to her home and make sure she was okay, this thing has taken a toll of my friends even... This babe is a standup babe however, amazing and pure heart of sorts but is very petty, she would fight me over posting my exwife who is also the mother of my child's photo on mother's day, all just to say Happy Mother's Day... That led to a 2 hour rant, I had to hang up, then she called my friends and vented about it to them, and threatened suicide again.

My dilemma is this, I love Ibom, but I have spent 2 years trying to build her into something she obviously isn't, I have been married before and my exwife showed me pepper even though we are on decent terms now. I invested alot into that, I also have invested alot into this too but I feel like I may be wasting my time. I am at a point where I have gained it all before, lost it after my divorce, and finally gained it all back, I have helped her and her family without complaints but I feel like perhaps she cant imagine the possibility of losing me in the regard of somewhat losing their breadwinner, truth is I dont feel sexually aroused by her anymore, I have to watch porn or think of someone else to be able to sleep with her.
Even the Yoruba one, she always wants to be on the phone, I am a busy person usually and cant be on the phone all day like I'm a teenager or a fresher in Uni... she expects me to simply dump Ibom and start having babies with her. Besides her always threatening suicide if I dont marry her or get her pregnant, she always uses things I tell her in confidence against me.

I honestly just want my peace... I need advise