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| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Renida: 3:00pm On May 14, 2020 |
Ybaby:Invariably if a working man can't make ends meet and the attitude of his lover changes doesn't this qualify as psychologically unstable and only conditioned to stick around in good times. Common I just said your story and truth be told your marriage and the Ops marriage aren't far apart during those trying times except the mentally sick and unbalanced woman the OP calls a wife. For even Jesus said, if you don't/can't suffer with me, you can't share in my glory Whatever happened to loyalty, honor, integrity, dignity, faithfulness, honesty Cc Liliantalks |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Genset: 3:00pm On May 14, 2020 |
Simbrixton:That won't be a problem so far the man is bringing his 50% : that is both money and doing house chores and the woman like wise |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by sosospence(m): 3:01pm On May 14, 2020 |
faithfull18:Believe it or not,things are really happening. |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by jaymichael(m): 3:02pm On May 14, 2020 |
tunmiluabi:You will have to tell them because she will tell them herself and it will not be as you put it here. I salute your courage and restraints. |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Nobody: 3:02pm On May 14, 2020 |
tunmiluabi:reading your story was like me reading my own story. Only three diff. 1) I am younher 2) fortune has not smile on me yet but am hoping and praying. 3)for eight years, I was the only one doing the whole sponsoring, she was jobless. Now she is living in a fools, paradise, I created another account on fb and chatted her, a rich guy's profile. I told her to break up with me and she did last night. I was just laughing. It's a very bad thing for the bread winner to go broke, I am a living testimony to rhag |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Simbrixton(m): 3:03pm On May 14, 2020 |
Genset:good luck in your journey mate Like funny bone said most igbo girls mentality is I am beautiful a rich man will marry me |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Nobody: 3:03pm On May 14, 2020 |
On a bad day, the best husbands are MONSTER, while the best wives are Devils. Food for thought. |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 3:03pm On May 14, 2020 |
Renida:You want the truth? Any woman will act like OP wife... the husband may just never find out but she will seek masculine energy somewhere else Usually from her boss at work. |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ghostmode2two(m): 3:03pm On May 14, 2020 |
tunmiluabi:OP I salute your maturity but one thing I have come to understand about women of today is that they get married with the mind set of seeing the Union as a business venture where their calculations is that the man or husband will do this and all that for me so when little set backs is experienced then they show their ugly character. Continue to take care of your kid and move on. Forgive her and follow your heart that is all I can say. YOU ARE REAL MAN. |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Edzy: 3:04pm On May 14, 2020*. Modified: 7:57pm On May 14, 2020 |
You can only relate to this story when u bin there. When the man is the bread winner, the woman complain he is not lavishing enof on her, and when the chips are down even if she can assist she changes the goal post. The worst is they are very good at giving the impression their man is difficult to deal with. Shameless beings |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Renida: 3:06pm On May 14, 2020 |
Ybaby:You haven't answered the question. Why didn't you tow her line during your husbands moments of trial? Trust me. I know atleast ten women around not given their husband this treatment even in similar trying moments |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by StivoeDevoe: 3:06pm On May 14, 2020 |
It is really not easy : |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by emmaodet: 3:07pm On May 14, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED:I think you need to rephrase it to Never be with a woman in the first place. There is no point been with one if when my finance dips, she will start disrespecting me. I don't need such respect, please they should keep it to themselves. I can save more being alone with rest of mind while we can date as FWB, babymama, bedmates etc. I feed myself, you feed yourself. I face my own problems and carry my cross, you carry yours. No point marrying a lower income earner because if they promote her tomorrow and earn more than me, she will disrespect me. If my business dips tomorrow and she earns more, she will disrespect me. I value my rest of mind, sanity and a life devoid of competition or regularly running because i don't want my woman to earn more than me to any Fvcking Marriage. Make marriage sit down one place, make i dey my lane too |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Cherez: 3:07pm On May 14, 2020 |
linnyx:You will never understand For a man to explain that his wife is the one who provides us a huge stigma |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by abbey621(m): 3:08pm On May 14, 2020 |
So many mistakes, so many signs. There's no forgiving a cheating woman because what caused her to cheat is more complex than what causes men to cheat. It is emotional, it is a connection that transcends the physical. When you now add the 170k into the mix, did you ever query the source of the raise? Any woman that can convince you to move to a bigger place while still struggling, will never be good for you. In as much as the woman is to blame for most of the calamity, you also have to share blame as well. You were not your own man and clearly self confidence faded hence the physical and emotional abuse you suffered, Anyways life is a series of lessons, HOPE YOU LEARNT YOURS WELL WELL ![]() |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Nobody: 3:08pm On May 14, 2020 |
TUNMI THANKS FOR SHARING THIS. MEANS A LOT TO ME. HAVE SOMEONE AM DATING FOR A YEAR NOW. WE ARE NOT SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE AT ALL. SHE DOESN'T LIKE THIS SHE DOESN'T LIKE THAT AM TIRED OF ALL THIS. SO AM GONNA CALL IT QUITS. CAN'T GO INTO MARRIAGE WITH SOMEONE AM NOT SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE WITH. I HAVE BEEN SO UNHAPPY. SHE'S A GOOD GIRL THOUGH BUT THAT DOES'T CUT IT ALONE. I NEEDED THE COURAGE AND I FOUND IT IN THIS STORY. |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by OlawaleBammie: 3:08pm On May 14, 2020 |
Ybaby:What u said is just the final answer. I know some with perforated brain would have bashed u for this but trust me, u nailed it. |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Nobody: 3:09pm On May 14, 2020 |
Ybaby:I hope to have a marriage like the picture you painted one day. |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Oyiboman69: 3:09pm On May 14, 2020 |
Vyolet:
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| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 3:09pm On May 14, 2020 |
Renida:My husband did not have moments of trial longer than 3 months. Join those women ma. Feel free to feed him for 100 of years. It is a free world madam |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by TheSuperiorRace: 3:09pm On May 14, 2020 |
tunmiluabi:You tried your best as a human, but the scripture says, "By strength shall NO MAN prevail." Based on all what you have said I have realized that you aren't spiritual. You believed in yourself and not God, and so you refused to give God a chance. Your quotation may sound nice: "On a bad day, the best husbands are monsters, while the best wives are devils." But it from the pit of hell. That it sounded nice doesn't mean it is ideal or divine. On a bad day, even the worst day the best of a godfearing man is exhibited. You can't be doing same thing and be expecting different results. Your family is under serious attack... Accept Jesus! He is the Prince of Peace. Ask Him to take the wheel and you'll see that your family will turn into the ideal family you'd desired! |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by pauloskilala(m): 3:09pm On May 14, 2020 |
To heir is human,to forgive is devine. All is well my brother. |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by YemyTemmy: 3:09pm On May 14, 2020 |
tunmiluabi:So much to learn from this!! Really, your ex wife was never a good woman, the little change she got #170k as salary brought out her real attitude. Pls very important, make sure you take the kids from her. How I wish I can hang out with you to see how the movie is actually playing out. I must confess I appreciate your maturity |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by atoleybaba(m): 3:10pm On May 14, 2020 |
faithfull18:actually, biblically if adultery is involved, he has every right to divorce most especially if the offending partner isnt willing to change. So madam don't come and quote wrongly here. And oh yes, he can remarry cos they are no longer married. The woman has broken her vows so there is no commitment holding them anymore |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by weedfada(m): 3:10pm On May 14, 2020 |
emmaodet:Honestly I don't get it o walai... What's the point then. Make everybody then hold their side na... Eat alone, die alone! |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 3:11pm On May 14, 2020 |
OlawaleBammie:My bro as they are bashing me I am bashing them too You sound like a provider man. God bless and increase you. |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Renida: 3:11pm On May 14, 2020 |
Ybaby:Bad vibes swerve. Don't be quick to brag just yet. You have sons I believe. And you can't guarantee a day of your future Peace |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by OlawaleBammie: 3:11pm On May 14, 2020 |
Ybaby:Ahh guy u get brain, u too get brain abeg. opolo e ko ni jóbà |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Bulletproof: 3:11pm On May 14, 2020 |
CHoccolaTE:This doesn't give her the leverage to cheat |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Nnemuka(f): 3:12pm On May 14, 2020 |
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| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Sam4eternallife: 3:12pm On May 14, 2020 |
Ephesians 5:21-33 [21]Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One). [22]Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as [a service] to the Lord. [23]For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, Himself the Savior of [His] body. [24]As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands. [25]Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, [26]So that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word, [27]That He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things [that she might be holy and faultless]. [28]Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. [29]For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, [30]Because we are members (parts) of His body. [31]For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. [Gen. 2:24.] [32]This mystery is very great, but I speak concerning [the relation of] Christ and the church. [33]However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. [I Pet. 3:2.] Brother, your marriage can still be restored. For the sake of your children. Ask God for mercy. He'll help you. Sincerely humble yourself and go reconcile with your wife. If possible fast and pray, God can change her. You're not supposed to leave the home. This is purely satanic attack against your home using your wife against you. You couldn't discern it on time. Nevertheless, the damage can still be repaired. Your marriage is not irreconcilable. I pray for you and your wife that God will bind both of you together again in Jesus name. |
| Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 3:12pm On May 14, 2020 |
Renida:Let me add that those women are abhoring infidels So says the bible Sorry they are abhoring worse than infidel So says the bible |
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