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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Nobody: 7:12pm On May 15, 2020
gentlemate00:
But you NL account is 24hrs old grin grin grin grin grin grin



You missed the part where I said that I needed to ensure my privacy. A new account was opened specifically for this post and that does not make it fake or make me a troll. I honestly feel so much better since reading all the comments here, not because my problem is solved but because I feel like I have off-loaded some heavy stuff that have been weighing me down. Like I said, the post was created purely to rant and vent.

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by emmaodet: 7:30pm On May 15, 2020
CAPSLOCKED:




THIS IS WHY CONSUMING THE REDPILL (KNOWLEDGE) IS IMPORTANT FOR ALL BOYS STARTING FROM AGE 15.
YOU'RE TO BE BLAMED FOR ALL THIS. WHEN YOU SHOULD HAVE CUT OFF FROM THIS WOMAN YEARS AGO YOU KEPT LISTENING TO PASTORS AND FAMILIES, NOW SEE WHERE YOU ARE.
SHE WILL RUIN YOUR CAREER AND THERE'S NOTHING YOU CAN DO BECAUSE YOU ALREADY FUKED UP FROM DAY ONE, BY IGNORING THE PILLS.
BEST OF LUCK.

Hehehheheheeee

Omo this thread is really shocking.
The woman giving it to him Gbas-Gbos!!!!!
Na waaaaaaaaaaa
Wahala dey oo

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by emmaodet: 7:42pm On May 15, 2020
Martinez39s:
More men are beginning to wake up to what women really are and more are beginning to question marriage. Those who for whatever reason bring their wives/girlfriends abroad are in for rude awakening.

It is really saddening that our so called beautiful angels, african queens with african cultures are really not what we think they are.
Also, i noticed there is this Deep seated hatred for men by women but they quietly and silently mask it by been submissive and respectful when in nigeria but abroad you will see a full blow lion ready to pounce on you at any minute.
Oooohhhh nooooooooo
This is not what i envisage in our dear women, how did we get to this stage? Which devil is inspiring our women aginst us? They have become Rebellious.

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by gentlemate00: 7:47pm On May 15, 2020
Okay make sense then....i did give you my own opinion na the 24hrs you kon quote grin grin grin grin grin



LinLinGentle:
You missed the part where I said that I needed to ensure my privacy. A new account was opened specifically for this post and that does not make it fake or make me a troll. I honestly feel so much better since reading all the comments here, not because my problem is solved but because I feel like I have off-loaded some heavy stuff that have been weighing me down. Like I said, the post was created purely to rant and vent.
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by emmaodet: 7:50pm On May 15, 2020
Martinez39s:
As I suspected, her behaviour has nothing to do with your "gra gra." Her behaviour is just who she is. She is using the excuse of your "gra gra" to justify her toxicity. Developed western countries are not the best places for married men. Many women show their toxic and demonic aspects when their boyfriend/husband bring them over.

Your wife already understands the system, your situation will reach its nadir when she lands you in the divorce courts and alienate you from your kids. If you can, go back to Nigeria and never return.

It pays to take the red pill.

Aye oooooooo, go back to nigeria keee
Ipada si ese aro?
My God!!!!!!!!!
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Arthur2021: 8:09pm On May 15, 2020
emmaodet:


It is really saddening that our so called beautiful angels, african queens with african cultures are really not what we think they are.
Also, i noticed there is this Deep seated hatred for men by women but they quietly and silently mask it by been submissive and respectful when in nigeria but abroad you will see a full blow lion ready to pounce on you at any minute.
Oooohhhh nooooooooo
This is not what i envisage in our dear women, how did we get to this stage? Which devil is inspiring our women aginst us? They have become Rebellious.
lol...not really hatred per say.They are deep seated:
1)envy and resentment towards men because they believe we enjoy privileges.
2)disappointment in men because we no longer value and treasure woman like before. We dont move mountains for ladies like before. Mist guys now are fuckboys

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Martinez39s(m): 8:19pm On May 15, 2020
emmaodet:
Aye oooooooo, go back to nigeria keee
Ipada si ese aro?
My God!!!!!!!!!
Well, he has so much hell and misery awaiting him in the hands of his diabolic wife and the gynocentric system over there. Remember, the wife clearly understands the system, and she has made it clear that she is out for blood. When she has given him enough hell and torment, and she has gotten her career up and running, she will demolish him in the divorce courts, and alienate him from his children. When a man gets divorced over there, he gives up half of his net-worth to his wife, pays child support, pays for his wife's divorce lawyers, gives up his house, etc. In many cases, the man pays alimony for the rest of his life.

The wilderness in Nigeria is better than the missile approaching him over there.

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Martinez39s(m): 8:20pm On May 15, 2020
emmaodet:


It is really saddening that our so called beautiful angels, african queens with african cultures are really not what we think they are.
Also, i noticed there is this Deep seated hatred for men by women but they quietly and silently mask it by been submissive and respectful when in nigeria but abroad you will see a full blow lion ready to pounce on you at any minute.
Oooohhhh nooooooooo
This is not what i envisage in our dear women, how did we get to this stage? Which devil is inspiring our women aginst us? They have become Rebellious.
grin grin grin

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Arthur2021: 9:17pm On May 15, 2020
LinLinGentle:
I wasn't a devil incarnate back in Naija abeg. I was just a normal young married professional who is not a perfect human being. She is not here to tell her own side of the story but there is a high probability that she has hurt me more overall if we were counting. Someone asked about my happiness earlier, but the truth is that I have never been happy since I married this lady. I have always slept with one eye open since day 1, cos I have never seen any hint of her love, loyalty or respect. It was merely a marriage of convenience and strategic planning. The only thing that have kept me going through the years and caused sentiments that led to bringing her abroad despite her toxic nature back in naija is my children, a decision I am now paying for dearly!

I am strongly looking into taking the red pill if I can successfully navigate this divorce/separation with minimal disruption to my life. I am one of the few guys I know who have never really felt that ''TRUE LOVE'' people talk about. Everyone I have ever dated including the one I married have always turned out to be using me as a part of their hustle.
ignore the dolts blaming you.

As a rule,note;
a woman is never wrong in any feud with a man
When a woman complains of her man,it must be true . if you question what she did to warrant the man actions,you are a misogynistic/pick mesh a
When a man complains of his woman,it is attributed to past oppression.

Have this ideology that a man is always the oppressor and woman the victim. That is how the world works


Save yourself the stress of explaining

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by hammed71(m): 10:06pm On May 15, 2020
hmm, this is serious, I don't even know what to say. but that woman don mean you.
guys after God fear women ooo.Because a woman love you today doesn't mean she won't kill you tomorrow, just pray you find the right one

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Eberechiru: 10:26pm On May 15, 2020
Spanishmilf:
Another foolish talk

For your information am a guy and the other day I saw a post where a man beat up his wife and decided to post it online saying she can call the police you can imagine the height of insolence.

Just because in Africa it’s the norm to treat women as trash and if she speaks out they’ll say she being rude. His talking about the woman he married for Christ sake he must have seen something in her that he like its not like she proposed to him, he proposed to her and why would she in just month act up in such a horrible way... And as usual we are saying it’s all the woman’s fault typical black stupid mentality......

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Shinny1: 10:32pm On May 15, 2020
Have you asked her for forgiveness regarding to all you did while in Nigeria??
If not ask her and make her to understand that you are now a changed person... send your family members to go and meet her people to abeg them to pled with their daughter to forgive you and stop all these... before they bundle you back to Nija o
Most importantly give God a chance both in your life and family...put everything in his care through prayer...your wife's heart is in God's hands and believe me you will enjoy her....
What about the Pastor she listens to while in Nigeria??
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Nobody: 11:03pm On May 15, 2020
Shinny1:
Have you asked her for forgiveness regarding to all you did while in Nigeria??
If not ask her and make her to understand that you are now a changed person... send your family members to go and meet her people to abeg them to pled with their daughter to forgive you and stop all these... before they bundle you back to Nija o
Most importantly give God a chance both in your life and family...put everything in his care through prayer...your wife's heart is in God's hands and believe me you will enjoy her....
What about the Pastor she listens to while in Nigeria??
Once again, neither of us was saintly back in Nigeria. I visited from abroad one time and discovered she was on dating websites and attempting to be with men amongst other disgusting things. This was one of the reasons why we almost got divorced. Her family elders went with her to our family house to beg me and my people not to proceed with the divorce cos I had actually filed and sent the petition.

I forgave her for the sake of our children. They're my usual weak point that everyone uses to box me into a corner to get me to do something stupid. We resolved all issues and she and her family made several promises regarding her behaviours. I thought that it night be time we started planning on their relocation abroad as eliminating distance would be best for us all, only to get to this country and started dealing with even bigger sh**t

So there is really nothing like "Ask for forgiveness for all you did in Nigeria". I wasn't bashing or maltreating this woman. She is tougher than someone that could be maltreated sef. I have my occasional outbursts every now and then when I'm at my wit's end, but that's just about it.

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Nobody: 11:50pm On May 15, 2020
Martinez39s:
Well, he has so much hell and misery awaiting him in the hands of his diabolic wife and the gynocentric system over there. Remember, the wife clearly understands the system, and she has made it clear that she is out for blood. When she has given him enough hell and torment, and she has gotten her career up and running, she will demolish him in the divorce courts, and alienate him from his children. When a man gets divorced over there, he gives up half of his net-worth to his wife, pays child support, pays for his wife's divorce lawyers, gives up his house, etc. In many cases, the man pays alimony for the rest of his life.

The wilderness in Nigeria is better than the missile approaching him over there.

Just sign a prenup before marriage and avoid all this

smiley

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Nobody: 11:52pm On May 15, 2020
Eberechiru:


For your information am a guy and the other day I saw a post where a man beat up his wife and decided to post it online saying she can call the police you can imagine the height of insolence.

Just because in Africa it’s the norm to treat women as trash and if she speaks out they’ll say she being rude. His talking about the woman he married for Christ sake he must have seen something in her that he like its not like she proposed to him, he proposed to her and why would she in just month act up in such a horrible way... And as usual we are saying it’s all the woman’s fault typical black stupid mentality......

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Martinez39s(m): 12:24am On May 16, 2020
Fastestmanalive:
Just sign a prenup before marriage and avoid all this

smiley
Prenups are nothing but glorified toilet papers over there. A judge could toss them aside for whatever reason. If the wife claims she was made to sign the prenup under duress, she would be automatically believed even if there is no evidence to back up her claim, and the prenup would be annulled.

smiley

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Martinez39s(m): 12:28am On May 16, 2020
Eberechiru:
For your information am a guy and the other day I saw a post where a man beat up his wife and decided to post it online saying she can call the police you can imagine the height of insolence.

Just because in Africa it’s the norm to treat women as trash and if she speaks out they’ll say she being rude. His talking about the woman he married for Christ sake he must have seen something in her that he like its not like she proposed to him, he proposed to her and why would she in just month act up in such a horrible way... And as usual we are saying it’s all the woman’s fault typical black stupid mentality......
You just gave yourself away. He didn't ask your gender, and he never asserted you are a female. It is now clear that you are a female.

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Nobody: 12:37am On May 16, 2020
Martinez39s:
Prenups are nothing but glorified toilet papers over there. A judge could toss them aside for whatever reason. If the wife claims she was made to sign the prenup under duress, she would be automatically believed even if there is no evidence to back up her claim, and the prenup would be annulled.

smiley


Wow...

These are the kinda things that make me wanna stay in Nigeria

And how can you be made to sign a prenup under duress

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Luckymama: 12:47am On May 16, 2020
LinLinGentle:
I don't need you to feel sorry for me as the main purpose of the thread is to vent publicly while maintaining my privacy. Please read the thread carefully again and find where I said we're both young middle class professionals back in Naija and even while I was here alone, she was working in Naija. No one brought anyone from the gutters madam. Also, the only people cheering her on are her family and some "friends" of questionable character pushing her to her doom.

From your tone, you seem to be misdirecting some form of inbuilt aggression to men wrongly at me. You believe that all women are beautiful creatures and angels and only men are to blame when a marriage breaks down. That is your opinion and it is noted and highly respected.

Look the simple truth is that if you treat your woman like a queen you will be the king of your house. There are so many inconsistencies in your story abeg. With one mouth you admit to doing “gragra”. With the other you claim to have helped her with chores and child care. So in what form was your gragra? You were hitting her abi? Serves you right if so.

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Martinez39s(m): 12:50am On May 16, 2020
Fastestmanalive:



Wow...

These are the kinda things that make me wanna stay in Nigeria

And how can you be made to sign a prenup under duress
The divorce court system isn't bothered by that. As long as the woman claims she was made to sign the prenup under duress, the court will toss the prenup aside.

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Luckymama: 12:53am On May 16, 2020
emmaodet:


It is really saddening that our so called beautiful angels, african queens with african cultures are really not what we think they are.
Also, i noticed there is this Deep seated hatred for men by women but they quietly and silently mask it by been submissive and respectful when in nigeria but abroad you will see a full blow lion ready to pounce on you at any minute.
Oooohhhh nooooooooo
This is not what i envisage in our dear women, how did we get to this stage? Which devil is inspiring our women aginst us? They have become Rebellious.

Stop treating women like inferior second class citizen. Everyone has feelings. Whatever you know you cannot endure don’t dish it out to your woman. If you do do when in Nigeria because you have the upper hand here, when you get to a country where women are well regarded she will repay you double. And if you refuse to carry your Nigerian woman abroad because you don’t want revenge, abeg marry the ones there and try to treat them the way you treat your Nigerian wife. See if you will survive it.

And even if you stay in Nigeria just know she is just waiting until you are old and feeble and can no longer attract those side chicks that don’t let you see road. Be ready to be an abandoned old man in your old age grin

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Martinez39s(m): 12:55am On May 16, 2020
Luckymama:
Look the simple truth is that if you treat your woman like a queen you will be the king of your house.
BULLCRAP.

There are so many inconsistencies in your story abeg. With one mouth you admit to doing “gragra”. With the other you claim to have helped her with chores and child care. So in what form was your gragra? You were hitting her abi? Serves you right if so.
Shouldn't you have asked this before jumping into conclusion? There is no contradiction in his story except you don't understand his use of the phrase "gra gra."

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Luckymama: 12:59am On May 16, 2020
Martinez39s:
BULLCRAP.

Shouldn't you have asked this before jumping into conclusion? There is no contradiction in his story except you don't understand his use of the phrase "gra gra."

So please enlighten me what did he mean by gragra?
Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Martinez39s(m): 1:05am On May 16, 2020
Luckymama:


So please enlighten me what did he mean by gragra?
Read all of LinLinGentle's posts on this thread, and you will understand what he meant by "gra gra"?

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Luckymama: 1:21am On May 16, 2020
Martinez39s:
Read all of LinLinGentle's posts on this thread, and you will understand what he meant by "gra gra"?

I read them. Initially I thought it was the usual African mans mentality of not helping out at home and treating the wife like a maid. But he claims he didn’t do that? What other type of gragra is left? If you know please enlighten me.

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by leokid866: 1:31am On May 16, 2020
LinLinGentle:
You are right bro, I had plenty gra gra back in Naija and I think she has psychologically programmed herself before arrival to come take her pound of flesh here. There is complete breakdown of communication with her family as they are on her side, always encouraging her to call the police on me. All they say is ''No gree for am o, he think say na Naija he dey. Show am well well, you have rights there and the govt. would support you''
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My advice, stay humble, take care of your kids, if she wants to break everything in the house let her, just stay calm and remember it's a trap. Get your green card and divorce her after, if you play your cards right you might even get child custody . By the time you leave her to vices she will have no choice but to sit up and work on her life. Remember stay humble.

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Nobody: 1:53am On May 16, 2020
Martinez39s:
The divorce court system isn't bothered by that. As long as the woman claims she was made to sign the prenup under duress, the court will toss the prenup aside.

Chai

Make I just manage my country like that biko

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by Nobody: 2:36am On May 16, 2020
Luckymama:


Look the simple truth is that if you treat your woman like a queen you will be the king of your house. There are so many inconsistencies in your story abeg. With one mouth you admit to doing “gragra”. With the other you claim to have helped her with chores and child care. So in what form was your gragra? You were hitting her abi? Serves you right if so.
The anger and aggression in your tone are very palpable. I can see that you're a perfect human yourself, so judge on Anty.

You're right about one thing though; "serves me right" Yeah. They warned me, everyone who knew us and our challenges did warn me "Do not marry her, she is aggressive" I did. "Do not buy her a car" I did; "Do not take her abroad she'll ruin you" I did and now paying the full price after just a few months. Forming family man has put me in trouble and my eye don finally clear now!

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by OldSoul1: 4:20am On May 16, 2020
My only advice for you is to separate from this woman ASAP! If truly she said she was going destroy your career, and she is truly behaving these ways you claimed, please don’t take it lightly as she will do way more than that! If you live in a country like US or someplace in Europe, believe you me, she will destroy your entire life!
She already had a game plan all this while she was in Nigeria. She seems to be a woman on a mission and she won’t stop until she achieves her aim.

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by OldSoul1: 4:29am On May 16, 2020
Martinez39s:
Prenups are nothing but glorified toilet papers over there. A judge could toss them aside for whatever reason. If the wife claims she was made to sign the prenup under duress, she would be automatically believed even if there is no evidence to back up her claim, and the prenup would be annulled.

smiley
Prenups no be moimoi guys! First it’s for wealthy people to safeguard their wealth, plus it usually involves lawyers and fees are quite expensive!

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Re: Wife Trying To Ruin My Career Within A Few Months Of Arriving Abroad by OldSoul1: 4:36am On May 16, 2020
Martinez39s:
The divorce court system isn't bothered by that. As long as the woman claims she was made to sign the prenup under duress, the court will toss the prenup aside.
Get your facts right bud! No one signs prenup under duress! The process is clearly Explained to you before you sign on the dotted lines. You either sign or not. You sign if you have no hidden agenda or decline if you have one; or in some cases feel spited.

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