tyup:


I don't pity you rather would I give an Advice

next time learn to know Leopards don't change their skin and next time always know Bros before hoes and lastly Love with ur Head and not necessarily ur heart.

You got what you wanted nigga so enjoy just ur meal and leave us Tf alone

error4040:
My advice for you is to trick her into going back to nigeria Once she’s there Bros Slam the Door And shut her out for Life.
Forget about Mother of my kids issue here bruh, she threatened to End your Career for Petesake!
No go End up lose all wetin you labor for All your life to some Jazebel of a Woman


Think!
Think!!
Think!!!
Your life is at Stake here Either you Win or you get loseguarded.



No say I no warn you Ooo

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I succeeded and they finally arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my issues and I have now seriously calmed down as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me. First thing she did when she got here was to cut all my family members off. She said she did not want to have anything to do with any of them again and they should all mind their businesses. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, all she does is endless picture taking and social media hyping of herself. You would never even think that she is a married woman!

She has become a more toxic person that she ever was, very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, always ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with her constant noises and door slamming, and finally her threats have tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for al the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with this by constant police calls and spooky career ending accusations and allegations.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that signed up on dating sites just within a few months of arrival here and when I caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that ''Na only chat you see me dey chat with guys abi, you will soon see them fucking me in your own house! Wait for it and let us see what you would do about it''

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them herehoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my Pali and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

OUR SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I succeeded and they finally arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my issues and I have now seriously calmed down as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me. First thing she did when she got here was to cut all my family members off. She said she did not want to have anything to do with any of them again and they should all mind their businesses. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, all she does is endless picture taking and social media hyping of herself. You would never even think that she is a married woman!

She has become a more toxic person that she ever was, very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, always ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with her constant noises and door slamming, and finally her threats have tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for al the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with this by constant police calls and spooky career ending accusations and allegations.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that signed up on dating sites just within a few months of arrival here and when I caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that ''Na only chat you see me dey chat with guys abi, you will soon see them fucking me in your own house! Wait for it and let us see what you would do about it''

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them herehoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my Pali and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

OUR SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I succeeded and they finally arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my issues and I have now seriously calmed down as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me. First thing she did when she got here was to cut all my family members off. She said she did not want to have anything to do with any of them again and they should all mind their businesses. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, all she does is endless picture taking and social media hyping of herself. You would never even think that she is a married woman!

She has become a more toxic person that she ever was, very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, always ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with her constant noises and door slamming, and finally her threats have tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for al the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with this by constant police calls and spooky career ending accusations and allegations.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that signed up on dating sites just within a few months of arrival here and when I caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that ''Na only chat you see me dey chat with guys abi, you will soon see them fucking me in your own house! Wait for it and let us see what you would do about it''

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them herehoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my Pali and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

OUR SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

error4040:
My advice for you is to trick her into going back to nigeria Once she’s there Bros Slam the Door And shut her out for Life.
Forget about Mother of my kids issue here bruh, she threatened to End your Career for Petesake!
No go End up lose all wetin you labor for All your life to some Jazebel of a Woman


Think!
Think!!
Think!!!
Your life is at Stake here Either you Win or you get loseguarded.
No say I no warn you Ooo

Firefox01:
I didn't read this before typing mine. Ship the agent of Satan back to Nigeria, burn her passport and fly back a free man.

You're Valid man.

J111333:
I hope you know that If you are the sole sponsor in her affidavit of support and you decide to divorce her now, she will be sent back home straight unless you are still a permanent resident and not a citizen yet.

Your case will only get worse and I suggest you install spy cameras in your home to record her abuses else I see you living on streets or prison soon.

The greatest mistake you made was taking a toxic wife to the States despite the stories you've heard on the internet.

TechSpot:
The issue with some men is that they rush into marriage due to societal pressure, they get to marry a stranger cos time is not on their side or cos their parents kept comparing them to their peers or cos they don't want to fornicate and have to get married to 'hit it'.

How will you not be able to please someone that you got married to, made children with and went further to actualizing her "porting from Naija" dream by relocating her to the dream country of most Nigerians, Canada... How!?

If you will look inward you will find the solution to your problem. Stop feeling depressed, stop competing with an angry woman instead make her happy. Little things go along way in pleasing a woman except the woman has finally ran mad that's when she wont appreciate those little gestures like a warm massage, a wink, a forehead kiss, a leg rub, sweet names calling, occasional gifts, surprise dates, helping with meals, taking care of the children and more and more compliments; These are some of the few things those "whatsapp boys" does better to get their attention... If you want to have peace you need to learn some of it too... Stop taking everything your woman does to you so personal, try and develop some humor and be a bit flexible.

Women after giving birth usually feel they are less wanted by their man/husband cos he has seen them before the changes to their body occur so they start to resent the man and sometimes they want to do likewise to the baby that has affected their once high physical beauty and high self esteem... You owe such woman alot of commitment and constant reminder that despite all the changes childbirth caused she hasn't lost her beauty or that you still value how same way you did pre-childbirth.

Learn to live in love with your woman and she will replicate the love and if it has gone beyond salvageable then you need to leave for a while, give her all enough time and space to experience differently from what she is used to then she can compare, contrast then decide.


Time heals everything.

LinLinGentle:
Ouch! that hurts!

Dande55:

Isn't that what you needed to know? Bringing your family here so little idiots can call her names like hoe and olosho.
Then, go ahead to bring Nigerian ladies to your mess.
You are in this situation cos of how you treated her back in Nigeria that aids patriarchy system. Over there in abroad, she's reciprocating all you did to her in a bid to get back at you.
You were the one that started all of these, no good man will be treated poorly by her wife. Submission comes naturally when a woman is treated right.

In your next world, learn to treat women with love and respect.

LinLinGentle:
All the people here kept saying I did not treat my wife right in Nigeria don't actually know what they're saying. The answer is NO. In Nigeria, she never touched her salary, I never leave house chores to her alone, I did most things men do to show love to a woman. She has always had a pathological attachment to her extended family and has never painted me in a good light. Her family expect more from me but did not nurture the kind of relationship where more could happen. Throughout our stay in Nigeria, none of her family ever visited our matrimonial home, cos my wife cannot stop staying things like ''He drinks too much'', ''he never stays at home'', ''I think he is cheating'', ''his mother is a witch'' etc. We were both young and professionals and we had busy lives back in Naija so we had a maid, a driver etc. It was not really what you would call a patriarchy at all, just that I had a lower threshold for nonsense. The only difference between when we were living in Nigeria and now is that I cannot keep up with her gbas gbos here, and have to back down most of the time for peace to reign, but back in Nigeria, she dared not do or say some things to me cos I would reciprocate swiftly.

adigun98:
Op I don't know if this is true or not but if it is you're In one deep poo,I'm not married yet but let me first commend you for your patience all these while cos you would have had different bad thoughts against her ...
Don't mind those telling you to convince her to come back to Nigeria cos that bullshit won't work , person wey don dey find opportunity to do all she's been doing now won't want to move an inch ..
Here's the only solution, like someone posted above she's your wife and you can still woo her and you should know her soft spots try exploring that and talk sense into her ,make her know you're not the only one who's gonna go down if things go south but she and her kids too but if she doesn't change bro I suggest you go spiritual about it before she ends you .

TechSpot:
The issue with some men is that they rush into marriage due to societal pressure, they get to marry a stranger cos time is not on their side or cos their parents kept comparing them to their peers or cos they don't want to fornicate and have to get married to 'hit it'.

How will you not be able to please someone that you got married to, made children with and went further to actualizing her "porting from Naija" dream by relocating her to the dream country of most Nigerians, Canada... How!?

If you will look inward you will find the solution to your problem. Stop feeling depressed, stop competing with an angry woman instead make her happy. Little things go along way in pleasing a woman except the woman has finally ran mad that's when she wont appreciate those little gestures like a warm massage, a wink, a forehead kiss, a leg rub, sweet names calling, occasional gifts, surprise dates, helping with meals, taking care of the children and more and more compliments; These are some of the few things those "whatsapp boys" does better to get their attention... If you want to have peace you need to learn some of it too... Stop taking everything your woman does to you so personal, try and develop some humor and be a bit flexible.

Women after giving birth usually feel they are less wanted by their man/husband cos he has seen them before the changes to their body occur so they start to resent the man and sometimes they want to do likewise to the baby that has brought changes to their body that now affects their once high physical beauty and high self esteem... You owe such woman alot of commitment and constant reminder that despite all the changes childbirth caused her body she hasn't lost her beauty or that you still value her same way you did pre-childbirth.


Learn to live in love with your woman and she will replicate the love and if it has gone beyond salvageable then you need to leave for a while, give her all enough time and space to experience differently from what she is used to then she can compare, contrast then decide.


Time heals everything.

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT HERE TO TELL YOU THAT I AM A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS THE DEVIL, I AM JUST A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY WOMEN LIKE TO PRACTICE WHEN THEY MOVE ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I succeeded and they finally arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my issues and I have now seriously calmed down as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me. First thing she did when she got here was to cut all my family members off. She said she did not want to have anything to do with any of them again and they should all mind their businesses. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, all she does is endless picture taking and social media hyping of herself. You would never even think that she is a married woman!

She has become a more toxic person that she ever was, very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, always ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with her constant noises and door slamming, and finally her threats have tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for al the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with this by constant police calls and spooky career ending accusations and allegations.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my Pali and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

OUR SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

LinLinGentle:
I thought I was the devil but she is a bigger devil now. Problem is that her actions would send us all back to Nigeria broke and battered. We have had a few good times and more bad times. The marriage hasn't been an easy one and we've both been at fault. I thought that by moving them abroad and eliminating the distance, some of our problems could be easily worked on, but this is apparently creating bigger problems that can ruin us. Are you married bro? Sorry to ask you but you sound like a single guy, no offence.

LinLinGentle:
I have tried to convince her to come back to Nigeria before the lockdown, but she said she would never step out of the country until she gets her Pali. She said she has no business in Nigeria and even if her mum dies before she gets her Pali, she would not move an inch.

I have honestly tried almost everything. I have begged for peace, prostrated, cried, moved out, moved back in when I was piling up more debt, called pastor and his wife who have now given up on her case due to her non-compliance with spiritual advice. I have made multiple attempts to sit her down to have a heart to heart, but it's always the same roadblock. She sees me like some piece of shit that doesn't deserve her. I have seen some chats where she was talking to family and friends about how she plans to divorce me and re-marry here once she gains her grounds.