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LovelyPoison:
I know sha sincerely I don't blame u or any guy who has commented on this post some girls are really mean, got some friends who date guys for money nd still treat them lyk scumbags. Back in sec schl. i had some male besties who will buy gifts worth of 5k or 10k for their gf for valentine and in my mind I'll be lyk beta buy shoes, clothes or other stuffs rather than spend on a girl who will still put it in her bucket list to break up with u lyk its a game.
Always had a rule of not collecting cash or gifts from guys in sec schl. especially when I know they re into me except maybe b-day gifts sha. Even though d notion has slightly changed now personally I don't fancy d idea of asking my bf for money cos I'll feel lyk a liability nd a burden to d guy, I prefer to ask my parents or siblings or even hustle for it.
My advice to all guys and ladies out there is that don't be stupid for love and at d same time don't be stingy( not in the monetary aspect) for love when u find d right person ur heart will surely give u a notification.
My 2 cents though

Westernlove:
Lol I dey tell you bruh, I'm not a misogynist but the way I put on my defensive look when I sight a naija lady giving me green light Is very obvious because I'm quite attractive. I only have some of them as friends, No any emotional attachment. even some of these friends are always trying to take It to the next level, but as a sharp guy wey don wisen up well well, Na to use Scope change Topic lol......I don't even understand how things got to this extent. We the few good Samaritans with good heart wey remain don lock up now....

DNSPro:
I do not attach anything to it. I didn't do it because we were "dating". I did it for a mother. I am an orphan and if there is anything I can't withstand, since I lost mine, is to see a mother in pain and not be able to help.

If i see you insulting your own mother in my presence, dude, I will fight you to the ground.

It had nothing to do with her but for the sake of "a mother"

irumanle:
I hate this line.

Westernlove:
I'M VERY CERTAIN YOUR INBOX GO DON FULL OF PMs BY NOW. GOD BLESS IF YOU ARE GENUINE AND SAYING THE TRUTH. BUT IF THIS IS FALSE. I COMMIT YOU INTO GOD's HAND AS WELL. HAVE A BLISSFUL NIGHT REST

DNSPro:
I am not your God to make you happy. Go meet ur God for that.

Westernlove:
Good afternoon dearie. Trust your weekend Is going on fine? Sorry about your relationship plights. We seems to have the same heart. People like us are very rare nowadays. I wish us best of luck In our endeavors..... Stay safe and take care....

Westernlove:
Thanks we can be friends though, You can send me Pm on the email on my signature....

irumanle:
Weakling go and do giveaway for family and friends before shouldering olosho's responsibility. Shalom

DNSPro:
lol family and friends like u abi? Beast walking as humans. So much bitterness but hide under threads like this as if they are humans.

Who is the olosho here? Come and answer.

irumanle:
Oga you are the one shaming Nigerian girls here. You spent on her thinking she must love you in return. Bro wake up money can't buy you love.

MelaninSkinGirl:
It's a jungle out there, men and women alike are so dishonest and disingenuous. I am getting a dog as a companion. I cannot deal with this bullshite. Divorce rate is even at 50%. Married couples are unhappy and cheating on eachother so what is the point?

Eniolakiite:

Nwamaka1419:
. So na dog go satisfied you, I hope say the dog get big gbola.

Kingosytex:
A Nigerian girl of course, but I have no back ups because I see it as unnecessary distractions.

DNSPro:
Recently,

I discovered that a lot of Nairalander men have been wailing about their sour relationships with Nigerian girls and it is not surprising to me.

You would be foolish if you do not have a backup when dating a Nigerian girl and I do not say this because I am a flirt or womanizer, at least I can boast that girls I have dated is laughably very very very low in comparison to what is obtainable out there.

It is no news that most Nigerian girls are unstable mentally and emotionally.

For the ones who lamented about money they spent or how they almost went bankrupt, I am not surprised about one not let other guys bully you as if they never fell "mugu" to any Nigerian girl.

However, you will run into problems when start treating them like wife instead just a girlfriend. This is were we make mistakes.

Early this year, I was chatting with my girl and before I know what's up, her whatsapp line became inactive. This was surprising to me and I called her immediately to know whether she blocked me to which she said why would she block me. I told her to check and she said she will cos she was charging her phone. Next morning it was still same thing so I kept calling because I thought maybe the phone had been stolen.

I didn't think she blocked me. Why would I? Eventually, she picked the call and told me she checked but the whatsapp is not on her phone and some other things were wiped off. I believed this because he had been complaining about the phone for which I sent her money to fix it prior to this.

Anyway, I didn't bother about it after while and I stopped asking and just kept communications on normal calls, at least she didn't block me there and that didn't give me any reason to suspect I was blocked. I also didn't want to seem like a pest if prop further (you know how Nigerian girls react when you do)

So last month, I was calling her and when I do, she would cut the call. This was unusual to me. She did this for almost a week until I reached out to her friend in order to know what was happening. The friend let me know that the mum's health is bad. Her friend sent me pictures of the mums condition and it was an eyesore.

I know my girl(I may not be her guy lol) to be one who does not like bugging you with her problem but why would her friend know this and I do not? I thought about this for some seconds and waved it off. I probed the friend further to know the expenses and the friend told me about 300k is needed. I wanted to sent 100k but for some weird reasons, I sent 60k with a plan to send 40k after a while. At least that will help start something.

few days after that, I noticed that the friend was getting response from her faster and relaying them to me on whatsapp since when I called she does not pick. I had to ask the friend if she is communicating with my girl (I may not be her guy lol) on whatsapp and the friend said yes, she is. I said okay.

Thereafter, my girl (I may not be her guy lol) called me, probably to thank me for the money, but I missed it so she left a text message. She told her friend that she called but I didn't pick and wondered whether I was angry. The friend messaged me in the morning and queried why I didn't pick the call or whether I am still angry. I told the friend I missed it because the phone was not with me and that I am not angry.

So this is where it got interesting...

last week, the friend upload a picture that looks like one from my girl's status wishing her happy birthday and today the friend uploaded another thanking my girl (I may not be her guy lol) for the cake.

At this stage, I was wondering whether I did anything wrong that made this girl not give me her "new" whatsapp number because that was what I thought. I looked at the status of her friend again, saw old pictures of both of them and concluded it is impossible to have new phone and still have this old pictures that were stored in an old phone.

I called her today after that and asked her whether there is any reason for not giving me her "new whatsapp number. That was all I asked and she went defensive and aggressive, saying am I not aware of what happened to her phone blah blah.. same phone I gave her money to fix? Was she expecting me to bring out another money to fix it again? She ended by saying she is not ready for this talk and that we talk about this later.

I said I know but it is just a question. She refused to answer a simple question. I told the friend her reaction when I asked and guess what the friend did? She tried to blackmail me like Nigerian girls do and said my girl is trying to make me understand something and that women like to be listened to all the time. That I should listen instead of reacting. I smiled and within me, I said this one think I am a JJC. What she meant is that I didnt do anything about my girl's phone and that is what she (my girl is reacting to ). WTF?

So, I installed whatsapp on a new line to check her status. Lo and Behold, the profile is active, which means I was blocked all along. I didn't waste time to let the friend know my findings that I was blocked. Same friend only replied "it is well"

Well, I went back to the new whatsapp line and told her I am aware she blocked me and it is good. At least I now know I was blocked instead of assuming

I am not so pained though because when dealing with a Nigerian girl, I have learned to always have backup... we move!

DNSPro:
Ode, where did I say I spent on her to love me? U think u are talking to baby who just started having girls just recently?

What if I tell u this is the only money she has gotten from me this year?


What I tell u there was a whole year she didn't get 1 naira from me?

Dude most of you are bitter and angry but always hiding under a threads like this.

If u talk about helping friends, dude I do that a lot when it is convenient.

Firstandonly:
Bros na that ur 60k where that babe chop the pain me

irumanle:
If you didn't spend on her thinking money can buy you love then what is intention of opening this thread, to praise her or shame her? And while doing that you generalized that all Nigerian girls are cheaters. Who is a pained ass motherfucker between you and I for God sake? Go through my postings on this forum and show me where I bashed or encouraged bashing of the female folks.

victorian:
Well that's you.

Other guys who used such formula of starving me for whatever are now begging and crying to date me. But sorry , it too late .
While my boo whose head is screwed right , a man of few words and lots of action is now the one in charge of my heart and body. His nickname is Mr capable . No wasting , no fake promises , his own way is Action paves way!
God help me to keep him so happy and at peace ,with the way he has blossomed my life with great joy and contentment .

So dnspro, all women are not the same likewise all men cannot and will not be like you.

MelaninSkinGirl:
Why would I want sex from a dog? Please get your mind of the gutter. Dogs are the perfect companion.

Nwamaka1419:
perfect companion ke haba, babe I never here this one before

DNSPro:
To be honest, me I Don tire to dey address this un "vexation" over 60k

MelaninSkinGirl:
;DYou are hilarious, Dogs are man's/woman's oldest friends.

Nwamaka1419:
ohh, I just check you profile you are still new of nairaland, your bone never thick enough.

MelaninSkinGirl:
Sis, my bone is thick, just because I signed up recently doesn't mean I don't have anything to offer.

DNSPro:
Oh, I see where the confusion is coming from and why u guys are fixated on the money.

Bros na the WhatsApp blocking be my concern not money.
I didn't give money to her as far as I am concerned... I gave to the mother. How that affects and you choose to react to it is none of my business.

Na WhatsApp matter make create thread, not money.

If I was pained by the money, you would have seen that.

But I learned something from you all... Which is we humans read meanings base on our biases not true or intended meaning.

That is why I am more concerned about the WhatsApp ish, but majority of you are fixated on money and are angry.

Sad...

Guy, I don save person wey mock and ridicule me when we dey school. I saved his ass financially at die minutes so he can secure a job. This is making it 2 shared stories of helping friends on this thread. But I know your mind is fixated on the girl and money even when I have mentioned I did not attach anything to the money.

The weirdest thing is I have have made over 300k since I gave that money for inside this Corona, Believe it or not...

MelaninSkinGirl:
Sis, my bone is thick, just because I signed up recently doesn't mean I don't have anything to offer.

Nwamaka1419:
. Respect, but there's nothing to offer here on nairaland, you better offer it in real life, cause people way they here no gbadu, na rough men full here, them go lash you here anyhow even dough you are right or wrong, just a peace of advise.