Mstick:
Your God must be a crack head then, why not punish the parents for their do called evil instead of the child that has nothing to do with it?

I am guessing you feel you're well trained right?! If you were you would know this simple rule, if you've nothing nice to say don't say anything.

una no see as I Dy look am? All these people that will make you to be ashamed to identify yourself as a Christian. I don't know when she turn to God spoke woman

star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God
I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.

Readmit him to psychiatric hospital, while on admission..seek the face of God on his behalf , you can do this as a family or goto a man of God you know, please don't just pray any prayer.... do like 3 days fasting to seek God's face and let your prayers be "Lord What caused it and what is the solution " Dan 2:22

He knows the cause and the solution to all problem

Please ask Him for solution.

adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

This comment off me....

adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

if this is the only Advice u can give,then you have a big problem you don't know

star4ever:



Most of his friends that started this lifestyle with him later abandoned drug abuse. All of them are now married and have education, families and means of livelihood.

As you recommended, we may need to change to another Psychiatric hospital. Please can you recommend any?

are you sure he always take his medication after being discharged? depression has taken over him so, he needs something that will keep him busy and Happy. am not sure he sleep well at all cos inadequate sleep can trigger such behaviour.

Larryallfather:
you mean tenth chance.

Larryallfather:
you mean tenth chance.

How do I write a topic on nairaland?

ZionZoe621:



You are talking rubbish!

And in the nonsense

He needs to go to jail for like two years where he can't get access to drugs, he will come back to his senses having learnt his lesson the hard way.

I have a brother exactly this same issue . The last rehab he undergone cost us over 1M . When he came out we rented an apartment for him now the rent has expired he never worked or think of renewing his rent or utilities. Now we are about to rent a house for him again this may . In conclusion: he’s calm when around with people but has refuse to get a job and stay clean always doin drugs . Mom still pray and hope good for him . most times I feel he’s under curse or when he wan young he might have done something bad . Wide thoughts ! You never can imagine if he was your brother .

osazsky:
u mean he should neglect his sibling...even those that have been told that they will die of cancer in 2monthd time still try thier possible best to stay alive...as in are hopeful death is nothing they wish for

You talk like this because you have never been in his shoe, I have been there and I no it is senseless helping someone not willing to help himself. You will be spent emotionally and financially indulging another irresponsible adult. Even God cannot help a man not willing to lift a finger to help himself. My people say "Omo to japa, ni'ya e n gbe" Heaven helps those who help themselves. St Augustine says the God who created you without you won't save you without you. Truth they say is bitter.

I wish I could tell you something different, but only Christ can totally turn your brothers life around. This thing you guys call addition are demons that have made his body their home.

Now the fact that someone is a pastor, has a large following, or fancy building doesn’t necessarily mean they possess the power of God.

I was an addict for a whole lot of things until Christ made me new again.

You see Mfm, I’ll forever be grateful to God for connecting me to this church. Giving your life genuinely to Christ is the first step, believing totally in the delivering power of the blood of Jesus is another step, then the next step is a church like Mfm. One of the pivotal reasons God called them, was for stubborn problems like your brother’s case.

If you guys can get the opportunity to meet up with the general overseer, that could speed up the process. But honestly, I feel like people that go manhunting for pastors to help them connect to Christ, instead of genuinely going to meet Christ, are lazy. Well for your brother’s situation(18 years in captivity) it won’t be a bad idea if you can see the general overseer.

When the demons behind the problem has been casted out, then and only then can a shrink have any effect on him.

Mountain of fire and Miracles Ministries( Dr Daniel Olukoya)

Apostle Joshua selman

God is using these men in a different way when it comes to recalcitrant problems like the case you mentioned.

God will direct you guys

adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

Your mentality is really messed up.

JEEZ.

you no get sense.

adontcare:
ur opinion though. I think it's u that something is wrong with. No parent bring up a child in a proper way and reap calamities. Do well and read the book of Proverbs. Also read the laws of karma

please shut up ... enough of this insult and ridicule on xtianity

star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.


I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.

Call me 07067866986

adontcare:
abi? Time and Time again people tend to ignore d spiritual and faces the physical. I will shut up but no man plant mango and reap guava

na una type Dy born criminals and prostitutes who lives double life

adontcare:
abi? Time and Time again people tend to ignore d spiritual and faces the physical. I will shut up but no man plant mango and reap guava

black man mentality. no wonder we are behind in Africa.

Jman06:
Like someone already suggested, your brother may need to be relocated to an environment far away from his current location. After the next rehab, he should be taken far away to a new environment where he won't readily have access to the drug.

Take him away from his current cycle of suppliers, destroy his SIM card(s) and every other means of contacting his "friends" and suppliers.

Yup. Someone I know doing such was sent away from Lagos to the far North were he had no access to his suppliers. He is now doing okay in the North.

adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

Aunty if you don't know what to say, please keep quiet.
You people just tell different lies against God.
You think God is so wicked? God is the definition of true love

Mstick:
Your God must be a crack head then, why not punish the parents for their do called evil instead of the child that has nothing to do with it?

I am guessing you feel you're well trained right?! If you were you would know this simple rule, if you've nothing nice to say don't say anything.

Don't mind that aunty jare

adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

That may not be right,I think he need more prayers and care,he can get over it

lebron7:
What drug does he abuse?
Star4ever

Nice question to ask but she might not know cuz they don't follow him around

adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

U are seriously sick upstairs u need help.

adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

So God can't fix it? You have successfully blamed the parents now successfully find solution

star4ever:
I have a 42 year old brother who for over 18 years has been on hard drugs. He started this habit while in secondary school and couldn't finish tertiary education for same reason. Efforts made by the family to stop him from substance abuse and rehabilitate him at several occasions failed. Each time such effort is made, he recovers after a while but returns to the habit. Currently, he has become mentally deranged and there seems to be no solution at sight.

He has been admitted to different psychiatric hospitals on two occasions. At both times, he was treated and confirmed fit and sound to return to the society. The moment he was discharged, he quickly went back to his old ways and all the resources spent went into the drain. In one of the occasions, we were strongly advised to engage him as joblessness was one of the greatest problem causing the abuse. We got him engaged by securing a fantastic job which he also left after a week of working there. Other meaningful efforts geared towards engaging him to enable him to become occupied and start earning a living as a man also didn’t work out.

We have organised prayer sessions by powerful men of God, nothing has happened yet. I do want to sound like someone without faith. I strongly believe that our able God will make things beautiful at His time. However, the situation has gone out of control and we need to act fast.

These, amongst many, are some of the interventions already done by the family and we cannot fold our arms and watch people mock us in shame every day due to his abnormal activities in the community.

Now what he does is forcefully, take money from our aged mum, sell any family property at sight in exchange for money to buy his drugs. Beat my mum up at any slightest refusal to give him money. He has been jailed many times for committing several offences related to this habit, yet the problem persists. Maybe we have not applied the best approach?

I am calling on fellow Nairalanders to assist with solutions. I believe there are some of us here who may have experienced this problem in one way or the other, or have an advise to give to solve this lingering painful situation. Your personal or professional experience (s) may go a long way in salvaging this situation for us.

I believe a problem shared is a problem solved.

I suggest there must have been a curse in your family, use my suggestion as a topic of your prayers after three months come back here and share your testimony.

LyfeJennings:


Hmmmmmm
Otito Oro bi isokuso
Bitter truth like nonsense
As much as I don't want to push away your suggestion
It's nothing but the truth
I came across someone I used to know who is now into substance abuse. I really pity the lady cos some 5years ago, I was asking if I could get another friend to p1mp her for me at 50k
Just yesterday she was a total disaster of who I once knew. I've been discussing this particular person and what kept coming to my mind was "what wrong has she done, what wrong has her parent committed"
U are very right there
God is a very merciful God in the most cruel manner. He doesn't serve it cold. His dishes are very hot

You are talking about p!mping a drug addict, and you are aslo talking about God dishing out cruelty to.someone. Apparently, you are a willing tool in the hands of the devil to cause more sorrow to the lady in question. Should we say your own time is coming too since you are a willing tool for the devil to use?

He's a mad dog. Y'know what to do with a mad dog.

This is really hard problem.
Because his brain needs to be un-wired from the addiction, and thoughts patterns can help disengage from this hold.

Some thoughts of pleasure from drugs can be discouraged by the realization of the consequences.

It depends on your brother, the pleasure from drugs is of much value to him, he has to build the patterns of thoughts that makes the pleasure of drugs worthless.

It is very hard to overcome the deep connection to drugs at once, you can help your brother plan, a gradual disconnection from drugs, with successive successful points.

maybe then you plan a gradual step away, like maybe
1) A plan is made to become no-more reliant on drugs such that
2) In one month, he can replace drugs with a healthy meal.
3) Build a barrier pattern that stops him from going back to drugs that will make him see it, as a dangerous, reckless substance which is just destructive and no value.

But i have no idea, how to do that, a psychologist needs to work with him and with the family

But it seems you have done so much and almost all we can think of,

adontcare:
God is not mocked. What a man/ woman sow, that they will reap. Ask ur mum and dad what they did wrong. There must be something evil they had done that is affecting ur 42 yr brother. The bible said, train up a child in d way that he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. They where sparing the rod on him and now spoilt

Oh shut the fvck up.

I think he's suffering from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

Hard Drugs, Hard Drugs, OP what exact substance is he addicted to?

Please specify if it's marijuana, tramadol, rophenol, heroine or cocaine. This would go a long way in identifying the best cause of action to implore as all the above stated substances react differently and are combated differently.

What type of drugs does he abuse? Is it opiate or all kinds really?