oglalasioux:


Happy for your parents doesn't mean happy for you. This is 2020 not 1985.

ellapius:
the biggest mistake for a Nigerian girl is to marry a guy who is not ready to marry. a Bleep boy. a jobless Bleep boy who believes his big gbola is his selling point

AlhajaChinyere:


Her bullet hit you!

Pe le, do!

Starting a family without any financial security?

ellapius:
u rewlly a baby

ellapius:
mistake can be induced by false information.

Nooil:


If you believe you will be sad being married, that's your headache. Don't project your negativity towards me. I will be happier than my parents in marriage.

Disgusting attitude!

MelaninSkinGirl:

Married men and mortality
A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers. But is marriage itself responsible for better health and longer life?

Although it's hard to be sure, marriage seems to deserve at least part of the credit. Some have argued that self-selection would skew the results if healthy men are more likely to marry than men with health problems. But research shows the reverse is true: unhealthy men actually marry earlier, are less likely to divorce, and are more likely to remarry following divorce or bereavement than healthy men.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health

Genset:




Sis, don't mind them . They want a wife that will contribute financially and still cook, clean, birth the kids and do all other stuffs while he just sits and contribute his small quota. Nigerian women dey suffer ooo if na like this. Most women have left the traditional roles and also pulling their weight financially but I rarely see men do house chores. It is still regarded as a taboo even when the man is jobless. May God help women ooo.

AlhajaChinyere:


Your head no correct!

Votukpa:


You're father was supposed to teach you this:

A woman isn't supposed to contribute in the sense of what you expressed. Stop looking for a woman who will contribute economically in your home.

Men are more beautiful and complete than women because we don't need them like they need us. Behold real beauty when a man gives his wife everything she needs and he doesn't need anything from her except her devotion and cooperation.

If any man feels he needs a woman to contribute in his home then he isn't ready to marry yet.

A man who is rich in every way doesn't require riches from a woman.

He is not only '(al)ready made', he is GODREADYMADE.

Davash222:
That's not the biggest mistake..

The biggest mistake is to marry a Nigerian girl.

MelaninSkinGirl:
Studies show married men are happier and live longer than their single/divorced/widowed counterparts. Single/Widowed/Divorced men are more depressed and suicidal than their married counterparts.

On the other hand, studies show that Single women live longer than their married counterparts, they also retain their figures and beauty longer than their married counterparts.

These studies show that the main benefactors of marriage is the Men. Make of that what you want!!!

Obierika:
[s] As a single guy in Nigeria who is about to select a wife the biggest mistake you could possibly make right now is to marry a lady who is either not working or is not earning any sort of income.

Do not ignore this warning if you plan to get married soon! [/s]

mhizv:
Don't let anyone trick you into believing you're less of a man if you require your wife to help you in anyway.

If you seek for a woman who can assist you when things get Rocky,and still hold a family as her number one priority, please by all means go ahead!

If you comfortable with your wife not working,go ahead!

Don't choose based on people's opinions

Eulalia:
OP this shouldn't e coming up at this time considering the present situation of the economy and world at large.

There's no woman who doesn't have one or two things doing and no woman wishes to stay idle but for the lockdown.
So don't even bring up this issue. And no body is forcing you and your lots to get married this period. Mind you it goes both ways. No lady wants to marry a guy who's not working or doing any biz.

Eulalia:

Ah ah... You dont know love again?

elozinoexe:
I will rather marry a supportive understanding and contributive woman instead a working class stingy greedy and selfish woman who claims my own is my own but your own is our own.
Basically, don't marry a woman who is glued to money, whether working class or not.

ellapius:
the biggest mistake for a Nigerian girl is to marry a guy who is not ready to marry. a Bleep boy. a jobless Bleep boy who believes his big gbola is his selling point

Votukpa:


I feel you on every angle bro, but listen...

Why would you have all the money in the world and marry this kind of woman?

I like what you said about youthfulness and virginity. Those are the only two things women can gift us men. If a woman doesn't have these, then no man with his head on his shoulders should ever consider to marry such.

Most young women (with youth and virginity) DONT want to marry. This is why such women are rare and hard to find.

broke, entitled, used up non virgins who are mentally impoverished should be thoroughly avoided.

gbagyiza:


There r some doors n opportunities that will not open until you r married. I have come across some business opportunities that don't go to unmarried folks. They r afraid to bring you in because they don't trust you as a single person, meaning you can sabotage n even runaway with something valuable when the opportunity appear. A friend was denied a particular job opportunity simply because he was not married at that age. They told him face to face that at his age he is not married, they did not employ him because they felt he is not a responsible person. When you have a family our society look at you with a particular level of trust than a single person.

Happyguy201:



So your using lock down. As an excuse abi

Kingarthur21:
my dear,all men know this

No financially comfy man minds marrying the poorest girl on the globe.

The issue is their hypocrisy which is showed in several ways such as:
1)they are self acclaimed feminists that belief men and women should split house chores and the man is not head yet they want him to be 100% responsible for them financially.

Why should I pay the rent,money for feeding and upkeep, school fees,utilities,vacations and pocket money for my wife to buy the fancy shoes and human hair yet she will want me to be sharing cooking and washing plates with her(let us not forget that house helps,washing machines,dish washers etc are still sponsored from my pocket).

2)These hypocrites want men to date broke girls,but open threads upon threads to advice girls not to date broke boys.

3)These hypocrites want a man to bring money,protection,etc(all gotten from hard work) yet they don't want to bring their virginity and youthfulness to the table. They will drag equality with us when it deals with being sexually moral and chaste(i.e if men are non virgins,women musn't be virgins ) yet when it deals with finances none of them want to be equal to men.

MelaninSkinGirl:
Studies show married men are happier and live longer than their single/divorced/widowed counterparts. Single/Widowed/Divorced men are more depressed and suicidal than their married counterparts.

On the other hand, studies show that Single women live longer than their married counterparts, they also retain their figures and beauty longer than their married counterparts.

These studies show that the main benefactors of marriage is the Men. Make of that what you want!!!

ellapius:
what ur sense and intelligence can't comprehend..

humilitypays:
VERY BIG YES!



Unemployed and broke ladies of today are very rude, mannerless and uncouth...they expect too much and think too much of the worth of their body which is the only thing they wish to bring to marriage while expecting a well furnished mansion, cars, pampering, fidelity, steady supply of money and sex, etc......Nigerian men are waking up to the reality that marrying a broke, unemployed, mannerless lady is a BIG MISTAKE for any man to make in his lifetime!



Any guy getting married today must not make the mistake of marrying an unemployed lady unless the lady is very well mannered, respectful, appreciative and supportive of whatever you her fiance does for a living and also working tirelessly to start earning money of her own to support you, if not never make the mistake of marrying an unemployed lady.


Nigerian ladies always compare Nigerian marriage with foreign marriages, but they fail to understand that no American lady for instance stays idle without working to earn her own money she uses to contribute to the family's welfare.....only in Nigeria you see full grown, able body ladies idle, jobless, mannerless and expecting a man to foot all their life bills....the white ladies they use their men to compare Nigerian men can never condone a complete housewife who does not earn nor contribute a dime to the marriage, if you doubt, ask your friends living abroad

ellapius:
lol its bet9ja ticket

comradeMOSHOOD:
it is a man's responsibility to take care of his family. it's not a mistake to marry a woman that is not working. don't run away from your responsibilities brothers
honest opinion though

LadyGCrueDKilaB:
Well that has some truth in it
And the biggest mistake any girl can make is to marry a broke man, which 75% of all naija guys fall into
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