Heiterkeit:


This type of comment is not made to offer real solution but to appear good before my fellow women. I do not give respect to men who take pleasure in painting their fellow men bad just to appear good, same as women who do so.

OP

Maybe, the man made a last minute discovery about something bad about the woman that made him acted the way he did. Marriage is a life journey, so anyone going into it has to be careful.

izzou:


I'm no hypocrite

A man who can do this to a woman is wicked and heartless, and I won't paint him good because he's a fellow man.

And please don't give me any respect. It obviously won't do me any good both now, and in the life to come

Okay?

DontBullshitMe:
Did the man promise his wife a monogamous marriage?

You are a very stupîd intruder.

Heiterkeit:


You are a hypocrite, that is it.

Bluehill1051:
So na bride price dey determine husband and wife.
Ur head is 98% ogogoro

Heiterkeit:

You are a hypocrite, that is it.

doitforyou:

You’re hilarious.

Is it a good man that strings a woman along for sex and housekeeping?

What happened to doing the right thing by breaking up a relationship before you start a new one?

Heiterkeit:


You are the hilarious one here. Maybe the woman in this story is your type who likes to eat their cake and have it. If you take someone for a fool, it is their right to pay you back in anyway they want, which could possibly be the case here. The woman and man are the ones who know what truly happened between them, so there is no point taking sides in a case like this. Do not take people for f.ool, if you do not want them to treat you the same or worse.

I do not have time for nonsense, so engage your type.

doitforyou:

lol what ifs, really?

You’re hilarious.

All what you just typed isn’t in the OP, stay on topic. What we do know is that the woman heard her relationship has ended from multiple third parties.

So, what good man doesn’t end a current relationship before he starts a new one??

Heiterkeit:


I know bitter people when I come across them, you are one. A good man can turn bad towards a bad woman who has pretended for long to be good woman and revenge in any way he wants, which maybe the case here. People like you who always try to play smart are the ones who usually end up like the woman in this story. You like to eat your cake and have it, but are quick to cry victim when served.

SweetCunt97:
The pursuit of happiness, this seemingly happiness of getting married which d society has instilled in us isn't even easy. Many predators are out there to take advantage. For those who has found that "happiness" they oshould consider themselves lucky.

Heiterkeit:


I know bitter people when I come across them, you are one. A good man can turn bad towards a bad woman who has pretended for long to be good woman and revenge in any way he wants, which maybe the case here. People like you who always try to play smart are the ones who usually end up like the woman in this story. You like to eat your cake and have it, but are quick to cry victim when served.

doitforyou:

Lol what?? O dear, I didn’t know I was having a back and forth with a knucklehead.

Okay, I see you don’t have an answer to..

So, what good man doesn’t end a current relationship before he starts a new one??

When you do, let me know.

Hilarious.

cococandy:


And some entities have been swearing on their mothers graves that you’re me .

Anyway. I hope you’re having a good day.

Heiterkeit:


Meaning what exactly?

Stargurl20:

Unlike you, I have significant things to do than fabricating lies on every social media platforms.

doitforyou:

Lol what?? O dear, I didn’t know I was having a back and forth with a knucklehead.

Okay, I see you don’t have an answer to..

So, what good man doesn’t end a current relationship before he starts a new one??

When you do, let me know.

Hilarious.

Sixfeetbelle:


Stop replying her. Some people need the 'okay' treatment once they start acting ghetto.

I don't know who offended her but she has been throwing tantrums all over this thread

Stargurl20:

He discovered nothing.the man is so... Randy. I'm not siding with the lady, trust me. My mom's apprentice has the man as FB friend and even though this man doesn't know her, he video called her one day thinking she's one of his random chicks and asked her that once our fasting period ends, he wants her to comman give him 'that thing' I was disgusted when my mom's apprentice told me that.
Men cheats like no man's beeswax. But I keep wondering why NL's men rants on women being whores almost everyday, when men themselves are worst. Oh... I guess they want what they cannot offer - loyalty. Uncountable Randy men are out there... I just pity the good women . Plus, I'm scared of entrusting my fragile heart with any man

Sixfeetbelle:


Stop replying her. Some people need the 'okay' treatment once they start acting ghetto.

I don't know who offended her but she has been throwing tantrums all over this thread

crackland:

This is very good, fear is very good... It means you will be cautious.

Only stvpid people are not afraid, and stvpid people make stvpid decisions...just like your friend who left her safe-place to go be with a man who only promised her marriage.

If she wants to continue being stvpid, she should stay where she is and keep crying that men are cruel - and you too, keep using soprano to give the song beautiful tunes as her backup singer.

You people will never learn.

Stargurl20:

Even though you're little harsh with your words, there's ounce of Truth in them.
Thanks.

bukatyne:
Sad story.

This life is in seasons, same with relationship life:

1. Late teens - late twenties/30 - - - - Women
2. 30 - 65 - - - - - Men
3. 65 and above - - - - Women & (Men who invested their season very well).

As always, there are expections.

And every season requires different approach especially when you are not in your season/window.

Now is the time for your friend to use her head not her heart.

First she should get something doing. An older non-productive woman is very unattractive. Let her find something to do to earn so she can keep her mind sharp.


{To give you an example of season, women would be willing to buy a husband of 40yrs (fend, feed an ambition less man) than same guy at 28 even though the 28 should be more in town because he is younger and healthier.}

Second, she should set a standard. Ironic right? Standard could be 'ambitious/visionary, thoughtful man, etc. and actively seek to place herself in the position to be found. Just how you don't look for a doctor in a courtroom or an Engineer in the hospital, let her know the kind of men she wants and place herself accordingly. I am sure there are good men in that East she ran from.

Third, she should drop childishness. What is getting herself drunk supposed to do to her? Apart from the fact she is hurting her body and looks, it is also affecting her health. Who does she want to be bear burden of her health (if it fails)? Her children or elderly parents? If drinking is also what she can resolve to, it speaks to her strength of character. If her husband loses his job years in marriage, what would she do? If her husband has erectile dysfunction due to an accident what will she do?

Fourth, she should shun desperacy: Men can smell desperation and manipulate it. A desperate woman is not thinking and will make series of bad decisions which she has to be the brunt of. She needs to breathe and be strategic. Now is not the time of 'he promised me X, Y, Z in future. When is he bringing to the table NOW? What can you see NOW? What is SHE bringing to the table NOW'? Imagine she said 'Oh, marry me then I would learn how to cook?'.

Fifth, She needs to be sexually responsible. Imagine she did not have the miscarriage, that is two kids for two different fathers?! If she wants to have sex which should be sparingly, use multiple layers of protection. And don't jump at sex early. If he wants you, let him put a ring on it.

Six, she needs to be reasonable: if a good man comes, it is not the time to say 'I want a barbie themed wedding' or 'I want a man earning seven digits' or 'a man who is a citizen of seven countries'. Come to earth and observe good, hardworking men in that locality. Sometimes, what we seek is within us.

Seven, draw closer to God for direction.

Cc: Stargurl20

mrblessed:
That she met an irresponsible man who wasn't her husband yet is not a justification to be narrow-minded and dense. Come on, this story isn't novel, a lot betrayals occur in relationships, yet it hasn't deter humanity from engaging in sexual relationship. Why attack all men just because one of them decides to be stupid?

In any case, we can't foreclose the importance of hearing the man's side of the story, to fully understand the rationale behind such vile and vicious act. Since this is clearly impossible, we have to make do with your account of the event -- no matter how bias and one-sided it might be.

I wonder why you didn't see any reason to caution your friend for being gullible to man who hasn't paid her bride price. Let her pick up whatever is left in her and be vigilant so that she won't prey to another monster.

UjuJoan2:


Who did she leave her child for to chase after a man?

Sense fall on her!