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|11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by otipoju(m): 4:22pm On Sep 04, 2014|
Marriages don't just fall apart overnight. They often end after months and years of both spouses trying to stick it out, firm in the belief that they can work out their issues and sustain their marriages.
Once it's over, though, most divorcés can look back and pinpoint one exact moment -- one overblown argument or one instance where their spouse showed his or her true colors -- that should have signaled to them that the marriage was damaged beyond repair.
Divorced men shared the moment they realized their relationship didn't stand a chance. See some of the most interesting responses below.
1. When he got tired of her outbursts.
"I had a car accident. Lost my job. I was still depressed about family member passing away. My wife decides she really wants a gold watch that costs $999. I tell her I can't afford to spend money on something like that in our current situation. She shuts herself in the bathroom to cry. That was the first time I didn't react to that tactics. She comes out few hours later and asks me outright if I want a divorce. That wasn't even on my mind until that point, but that was the moment I knew."
2. When the trust was gone.
"It was when I caught myself photographing street signs on my 25-minute journey home from work so that there would be a timestamp of the entire route to disprove constant accusations that I was cheating on her... After that, I just left."
3. When his wife became a glorified roommate.
"The last year together we felt more like roommates than lovers. She stopped being interested in spending time with me, we stopped showering together and began sleeping at opposite times. She was generally unhappy all of the time. I really wanted to salvage the marriage, but I knew it was over when she finally told me that she just didn't love me."
4. When the math didn't add up.
"Came home from a seven-month deployment overseas to find a five-month pregnant wife. I'm no mathematician but I figured that one out."
5. When he was suffering from depression and she laughed it off.
"I was telling her about how depressed and hopeless I was feeling. I described it partially as an existential crisis. She laughed at me. She literally laughed in my face regarding my pain. That was the day I realized I didn't really matter to her."
6. When he realized she didn't believe in his dreams.
"Five years ago, I told her I wanted to get out of the military and study to become a doctor. She's a scientist but she acted like it was the most ridiculous thing I could ever try to do. Her exact words were, 'You can't just decide to be a doctor.' Imagine researching and thinking about something for an entire year and then telling your best friend your hopes and dreams and they just look at you like you're silly ... I started med school four weeks ago. I'm not bitter but she's going to be really f*cking surprised if she ever decides to do some Google stalking."
7. When he disagreed with her on how they'd raise their future children.
"When my wife stated that any children we had would be homeschooled by her (she never graduated high school) and weren't going to get vaccinations. This was non-negotiable. I was young at the time and honestly, it never occurred to me until we had that discussion how much it meant to me. I (naively) figured it was a given."
8. When he became indifferent to the cheating.
"The precise moment was a few months ago when her long and frequent infidelities stopped making me furious. The anger switched off and I realized, it's finally over, thank God. I can now plan the end of this toxic marriage."
9. When he decided to put his daughter first.
"My second wife and I got along great, but over time the relationship she had with my daughter from a previous marriage got worse and worse. I tried not to blame her; she just wasn't ready to be a mom to someone else's child. It was hard to accept that, though. We tried counseling briefly but she felt counseling was for 'crazy people and she [wasn't] crazy.' Eventually, my daughter and I left. I hoped she would change her mind and decide to work things out with us, but it didn't happen. I had to do what was right for my daughter even if it hurt."
10. When he realized that having hobbies of his own was off-limits.
"My ex and I were watching 'Knocked Up.' It came to the scene where the wife is tracking the husband down to catch him while he was 'cheating.' Turns out, he had just snuck off to go to a baseball draft. My ex turned to me and said, 'See how terrible and selfish he is for sneaking around like that?' I looked at her and said, 'See how terrible she is for oppressing his hobbies and dreams so much that he has to resort to sneaking around in order to enjoy them?' I realized right then that she'd done that to me. She had oppressed me, chained me with guilt over my hobbies being immature and childish. She guilt-tripped me because my hobbies took time away from her. Meanwhile, she would never take up any hobbies or interests of her own despite me encouraging her."
11. When he had the commute from hell and she didn't care.
"I had to work late one dark winter night, missed my regular train, took a loooong bus and had to walk home a couple of miles from the bus stop in the freezing cold. She couldn't be bothered to come pick me up because she didn't want to leave her yoga class early. It had been 20 years of bad stuff, but that was the night I decided it was over. She realized what she had done later, but it was too late then."
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by Nobody: 1:59am On Sep 05, 2014|
My cousin left his wife for being dirty, we drove back home one day,wife had gone to her shop,and home looked unkempt,my cousin started snapping the rooms with his phone as evidence.
Before we know wazzup,he had sent her packing on that excuse of being dirty.
3years now,he's still living alone,frolicking with different ladies.
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by Nobody: 2:32am On Sep 05, 2014|
Lolz!! Can someone say histrionic? This is taking the drama to another level.
Very good call.
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by Kanwulia: 4:27am On Sep 05, 2014|
The saga continues!
Did the men not see all these before trowaying their leaking condoms?
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by Pavore9: 5:41am On Sep 05, 2014|
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by Truckpusher(m): 6:24am On Sep 05, 2014|
Yomieluv: My cousin left his wife for being dirty, we drove back home one day,wife had gone to her shop,and home looked unkempt,my cousin started snapping the rooms with his phone as evidence.Your cousin can't do chores or what?
Sometimes you might end up with people with what I call tolerable deficiencies and this you can tolerate if you truly love her,who would let go of what he cherishes for some insignificant things that can be either fixed or tolerated.
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by krystal101(f): 7:29am On Sep 05, 2014|
Although some women can be lazy & really dirty. But believe me when children are involved, person fit sick from house chores. It wasn't ENOUGH reason for him to leave. My hubby helps out sometimes. Can't he do that too
Truckpusher: Your cousin can't do chores or what?
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by krystal101(f): 7:34am On Sep 05, 2014|
I have this neighbour who has a child & she's 5months pregnant. She's extremely lazy, sometimes I get irritated, her mom comes from festac to help her clean, wash & cook. Sometimes I wonder what the hubby would be thinking. I have a child & almost due for delivery, she'd say "ify u dey try oooo".
@Yomi your cousin mean small sha
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by teeboo: 8:52am On Sep 05, 2014|
Yomieluv: My cousin left his wife for being dirty, we drove back home one day,wife had gone to her shop,and home looked unkempt,my cousin started snapping the rooms with his phone as evidence.
Dats not a good reason 4 him to leave his wife,d woman 4kup though,she's suppose to use wisdom, my elder sis hubby doesn't like d house looking untidy,and d wife does not ave d strength to do it alone,immediately d hubby leaves 4 work,she has a woman dat come to d house 2 clean d whole house she pays her #2,500 monthly,d hubby does not even knw about it.
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by krystal101(f): 5:17pm On Sep 05, 2014|
2500 monthly? I don't mind 1 ooooooo
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by Nobody: 8:29pm On Sep 05, 2014|
Number 4 is something!
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by teeboo: 9:35pm On Sep 07, 2014|
krystal101: 2500 monthly? I don't mind 1 ooooooo
Ofcos dey're everywhere,d price depend on d area u stay,som charge more dan dat though
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by JEITO: 10:17pm On Sep 07, 2014|
None is good enough. Cheating is what it is ie "cheating" nothing less
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by shizzleStar: 4:52pm On Sep 08, 2014|
No 4 thou....that is a straight red card without a second thought...Dafuq?
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by 2CatWoman: 5:28pm On Sep 08, 2014|
If this was the other way round we will see " I do not support divorce, did you not study him before you blah, blah, blah".
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by tandj: 5:48pm On Sep 08, 2014|
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by khia(f): 10:22pm On Apr 13, 2015|
You tell him Trucky.
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by Truckpusher(m): 10:25pm On Apr 13, 2015|
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by miss20(f): 11:17pm On Apr 13, 2015|
|Re: 11 Reasons Why Men Leave Their Marriages by miss20(f): 11:19pm On Apr 13, 2015|
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