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DModeCntStopMe:
The more I read and try to understand your write-up, the more confused I get.

i do not know why people just get up and switch up on people who they have a relationship....more like one day you are in and next minute you are out.... (that is switch up)

Gentlec198:
Am Loosing You, My Body Is For My Husband As She Breaks Up, Barely One Month

Good Morning All, My dear Nairalanders in the forum.
Hope you guys are staying safe.

Am writing this long heartbroken article, exactly the way it happens to seek for your advice and opinion.
Early last month April, 2020, I was in relationship with a girl, who used to my best friends junior sister. I sometimes met her in their house when I pay a visit to see her brother (best friend), then I had nothing like any emotional feelings for her, just exchange greetings and I will leave with my friend to my house.

Gradually I became interested and develop feelings for her, one day I had to summon courage and I called her to tell her how I feel, she too has already feeling the same and likes me too, but was worried because of her brother, which I later meet him as a best friend, with the help of his girlfriend and we talked to him, but then he was very angry.

On the 13th April, 2020, even before her brother agreed she came to my house for us to discuss, which she told me, she does not have anything to offer in the upcoming relationship (intimacy), reason been that according to her she is a virgin, and that is the reason why she break up, her last three dates, with the guys, as she caught one among them cheating and other ones she lost communication with them, but any other things she can contribute like advice, finance etc., and even asking what the future holds for us, why I liked her, my plans towards her.

She has good heart, kindhearted and respectful, I love this girl, cherish, care, and I promised not to hurt her, and I was serious to date her, respect her, help and never to cheat on her,
At the first week things went smooth and rosy, full of lovey lovey, she cooked and bring food for me, and even transferred 2k, to my cousin brother, who needed help, when I don’t have it at that point in time
I observed that she is kind of hiding her phone when chatting, even when her phone rings, I will ask her to pick, but she will ignore the call.
The second week, I bought her some body cares and give her money (2.5k) to make her hair.
I do send her text messages morning sometimes at night and call her every day to keep communication active.

The third week, if I call and text, she will not pick or even text back, she will only call when she feels and give excuse, like she is sleeping, when she is not, she started avoiding me, even when I came back from work, she will not feel like her guy is back, no form of romantic act, because I do check her in their street and when am going out to stay for few days, she will be telling me to stay long over there, without feeling she going to miss me, wishing if I had lived far from her, which could be fine for her.

One day I called she didn’t pick, i became worried and angry, I had go out to ask her brother’s girlfriend who called her and she came out, saying if It was me, she wouldn’t have come out, with a frowning face, I asked what is the matter, no response, we were there when, another guy called her and she took permission to see the guy twice, who was asking her, her number, in his friend favor in a car, and the brothers girlfriend told her it is a wrong act, for her to leave me her boyfriend as we are discussing to answer another guy.

Same day she asked me, if I will be angry, if another guy give her phone as a gift that the guy is her church member and he has a girlfriend, so they don’t have anything attached. I told her yes I will be angry and after some arguments and for peace to reign I asked to go ahead to do what she wants to do, since she insisted, even after telling her I will buy, she said she don’t want me to spend money, even the food I bought she refused eating as usual.

This a girl that will come visiting, after romance and being in the mood, she will decline, and said she is not ready, she is afraid and she has sworn according to her until she is married, even asked me to suck her kpetus, and get wet, but will not make out, and this has happened thrice, she will apologies that she can’t give her body, she is a VIRGIN, all the time we are together always virgin matter, but she will be angry and jealous if she sees me with another babe.
And I noticed she don’t open up, sometimes she will be hiding something’s and when I asked her, the only answer I get all the time is nothing, even when I called her to come, she will declined not coming, I will call and still text her, but will ignore and tell me she has no airtime, which I know she has, because I do send her card.

One Sunday afternoon she came with a threatening and frowning face to drop the bombshell, after forcing her to talk why her face is like that, she said WHAT IF I TELL YOU I DON’T WANT TO DATE YOU AGAIN, since she cannot give me her body, that we can be friends, I tried with my best friend girl to convinced her to see reasons with me since am not forcing her, she said she don’t know when she will be ready, and she advised we show move on with our lives separately, no hopes of when she will be ready either in a month or year. this make me shear tears, because i remembered something as she cried she is about losing me, while the other of her friend is crushing on me already she said.

I called and text her that I will wait, but she didn’t respond, next day she text back we should move on our lives, I called her for us to see and finalize it and sort things out, she rudely and angrily decline that she cannot come to anywhere or either to see me. I was very angry the way she responded and reacted on phone concerning the whole issues and I told her, she wasn’t any virgin and never loved me, just deceiving me, maybe her boyfriend is back and don’t want to open up, she replied that am the only guy she had and replayed that she is disappointing in me for saying such.
The next day my friend called her twice before she picked, and on the background he had a female voice asking her why is she till picking up the call and since then none of us has called each other again.

Please I need your opinion and advice, because she had made up her mind, after several pleading and advice.
I will upload some text message chatting we exchanged, when next I login, if it is necessary. Because it has a lot of facts.

WHY CAN'T YOU JUST MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE?
THERE ARE MANY LADIES OUT THERE THAT WOULD LOVE YOU FOR WHATEVER YOU ARE.
WHATEVER HAPPENED BETWEEN YOU AND THAT LADY SHOULD BE PUT IN THE BOX OF PAST AND EVEN BE FORGOTTEN. IF IT IS DATING HER FRIEND, THEN TRY TO DATE HER FRIEND. JUST TRY AND FORGET ABOUT HER, IF THEY BEGGED HER FOR YOU, SHE WILL ACCEPT BUT SHE WON'T BE FAITHFUL TO YOU, SO JUST LEAVE HER AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR FRUITFUL LIFE, MY EX GHOSTED ME FOR MANY DAYS, SHE WON'T PICK MY CALLS AND NEITHER WOULD SHE REPLIED TO MY MESSAGES ALL IN THE NAME OF MEETING SUGAR DADDY. THE LADY I WAS BEGGING THEN HAS BEEN BEGGING ME SINCE LAST YEAR (EVEN FOR JUST FRIENDSHIP) THE LAST ANSWER I GAVE HER IS IN THE BOOK OF LUKE 11:24.
COULD YOU YOU BELIEVE THAT STILL SHE WON'T LET ME BE?


JUST TRY AND FORGET ABOUT HER.

cfree14:
Guy next time learn how to summarize. Other matters dey ground to settle

UNA DON FORGET SAY TO TALK MATA WEY DEY PAIN PERSON DEY LONG, PERSON GO WAN EXPLAIN AND EVEN DRAMATISE.

Gentlec198:
Am Loosing You, My Body Is For My Husband As She Breaks Up, Barely One Month

Good Morning All, My dear Nairalanders in the forum.
Hope you guys are staying safe.

Am writing this long heartbroken article, exactly the way it happens to seek for your advice and opinion.
Early last month April, 2020, I was in relationship with a girl, who used to my best friends junior sister. I sometimes met her in their house when I pay a visit to see her brother (best friend), then I had nothing like any emotional feelings for her, just exchange greetings and I will leave with my friend to my house.

Gradually I became interested and develop feelings for her, one day I had to summon courage and I called her to tell her how I feel, she too has already feeling the same and likes me too, but was worried because of her brother, which I later meet him as a best friend, with the help of his girlfriend and we talked to him, but then he was very angry.

On the 13th April, 2020, even before her brother agreed she came to my house for us to discuss, which she told me, she does not have anything to offer in the upcoming relationship (intimacy), reason been that according to her she is a virgin, and that is the reason why she break up, her last three dates, with the guys, as she caught one among them cheating and other ones she lost communication with them, but any other things she can contribute like advice, finance etc., and even asking what the future holds for us, why I liked her, my plans towards her.

She has good heart, kindhearted and respectful, I love this girl, cherish, care, and I promised not to hurt her, and I was serious to date her, respect her, help and never to cheat on her,
At the first week things went smooth and rosy, full of lovey lovey, she cooked and bring food for me, and even transferred 2k, to my cousin brother, who needed help, when I don’t have it at that point in time
I observed that she is kind of hiding her phone when chatting, even when her phone rings, I will ask her to pick, but she will ignore the call.
The second week, I bought her some body cares and give her money (2.5k) to make her hair.
I do send her text messages morning sometimes at night and call her every day to keep communication active.

The third week, if I call and text, she will not pick or even text back, she will only call when she feels and give excuse, like she is sleeping, when she is not, she started avoiding me, even when I came back from work, she will not feel like her guy is back, no form of romantic act, because I do check her in their street and when am going out to stay for few days, she will be telling me to stay long over there, without feeling she going to miss me, wishing if I had lived far from her, which could be fine for her.

One day I called she didn’t pick, i became worried and angry, I had go out to ask her brother’s girlfriend who called her and she came out, saying if It was me, she wouldn’t have come out, with a frowning face, I asked what is the matter, no response, we were there when, another guy called her and she took permission to see the guy twice, who was asking her, her number, in his friend favor in a car, and the brothers girlfriend told her it is a wrong act, for her to leave me her boyfriend as we are discussing to answer another guy.

Same day she asked me, if I will be angry, if another guy give her phone as a gift that the guy is her church member and he has a girlfriend, so they don’t have anything attached. I told her yes I will be angry and after some arguments and for peace to reign I asked to go ahead to do what she wants to do, since she insisted, even after telling her I will buy, she said she don’t want me to spend money, even the food I bought she refused eating as usual.

This a girl that will come visiting, after romance and being in the mood, she will decline, and said she is not ready, she is afraid and she has sworn according to her until she is married, even asked me to suck her kpetus, and get wet, but will not make out, and this has happened thrice, she will apologies that she can’t give her body, she is a VIRGIN, all the time we are together always virgin matter, but she will be angry and jealous if she sees me with another babe.
And I noticed she don’t open up, sometimes she will be hiding something’s and when I asked her, the only answer I get all the time is nothing, even when I called her to come, she will declined not coming, I will call and still text her, but will ignore and tell me she has no airtime, which I know she has, because I do send her card.

One Sunday afternoon she came with a threatening and frowning face to drop the bombshell, after forcing her to talk why her face is like that, she said WHAT IF I TELL YOU I DON’T WANT TO DATE YOU AGAIN, since she cannot give me her body, that we can be friends, I tried with my best friend girl to convinced her to see reasons with me since am not forcing her, she said she don’t know when she will be ready, and she advised we show move on with our lives separately, no hopes of when she will be ready either in a month or year. this make me shear tears, because i remembered something as she cried she is about losing me, while the other of her friend is crushing on me already she said.

I called and text her that I will wait, but she didn’t respond, next day she text back we should move on our lives, I called her for us to see and finalize it and sort things out, she rudely and angrily decline that she cannot come to anywhere or either to see me. I was very angry the way she responded and reacted on phone concerning the whole issues and I told her, she wasn’t any virgin and never loved me, just deceiving me, maybe her boyfriend is back and don’t want to open up, she replied that am the only guy she had and replayed that she is disappointing in me for saying such.
The next day my friend called her twice before she picked, and on the background he had a female voice asking her why is she till picking up the call and since then none of us has called each other again.

Please I need your opinion and advice, because she had made up her mind, after several pleading and advice.
I will upload some text message chatting we exchanged, when next I login, if it is necessary. Because it has a lot of facts.

Just leave her and ignore her

Unless you are ready to be crying in silence

If you insist, you will get frustrated and it will affect your relationship with her brother

Respect yourself and respect her wish

Simple

If you think you can't bear it, go to her parents and ask fir her hand in marriage and start the marriage rights immediately

What do you want us to do now because I don't get ..the lady said she is not interested in you anymore but you still wan kill yourself if I date a lady and I noticed any changes in her I break up with her before she do..bro wise up this is 2020

My advice for you u better move on with your life, it obvious she is not interested anymore probably she has seen a richer guy dan u, so u better hustle make girl no tell u say she be virgin dt dy

Denique:
Na this matter we go settle today...no worry

Hi, your signature.
Do you know I can use and dump you without being sexual with you?

chinchonglee:
Bros which kian write up dis

very confusing something.
Could not make head or tail of it

funmisticqueen2:
very confusing something.
Could not make head or tail of it

As in ehn!!
I was even doubting myself

Gentlec198:
Am Loosing You, My Body Is For My Husband As She Breaks Up, Barely One Month

Good Morning All, My dear Nairalanders in the forum.
Hope you guys are staying safe.

Am writing this long heartbroken article, exactly the way it happens to seek for your advice and opinion.
Early last month April, 2020, I was in relationship with a girl, who used to my best friends junior sister. I sometimes met her in their house when I pay a visit to see her brother (best friend), then I had nothing like any emotional feelings for her, just exchange greetings and I will leave with my friend to my house.

Gradually I became interested and develop feelings for her, one day I had to summon courage and I called her to tell her how I feel, she too has already feeling the same and likes me too, but was worried because of her brother, which I later meet him as a best friend, with the help of his girlfriend and we talked to him, but then he was very angry.

On the 13th April, 2020, even before her brother agreed she came to my house for us to discuss, which she told me, she does not have anything to offer in the upcoming relationship (intimacy), reason been that according to her she is a virgin, and that is the reason why she break up, her last three dates, with the guys, as she caught one among them cheating and other ones she lost communication with them, but any other things she can contribute like advice, finance etc., and even asking what the future holds for us, why I liked her, my plans towards her.

She has good heart, kindhearted and respectful, I love this girl, cherish, care, and I promised not to hurt her, and I was serious to date her, respect her, help and never to cheat on her,
At the first week things went smooth and rosy, full of lovey lovey, she cooked and bring food for me, and even transferred 2k, to my cousin brother, who needed help, when I don’t have it at that point in time
I observed that she is kind of hiding her phone when chatting, even when her phone rings, I will ask her to pick, but she will ignore the call.
The second week, I bought her some body cares and give her money (2.5k) to make her hair.
I do send her text messages morning sometimes at night and call her every day to keep communication active.

The third week, if I call and text, she will not pick or even text back, she will only call when she feels and give excuse, like she is sleeping, when she is not, she started avoiding me, even when I came back from work, she will not feel like her guy is back, no form of romantic act, because I do check her in their street and when am going out to stay for few days, she will be telling me to stay long over there, without feeling she going to miss me, wishing if I had lived far from her, which could be fine for her.

One day I called she didn’t pick, i became worried and angry, I had go out to ask her brother’s girlfriend who called her and she came out, saying if It was me, she wouldn’t have come out, with a frowning face, I asked what is the matter, no response, we were there when, another guy called her and she took permission to see the guy twice, who was asking her, her number, in his friend favor in a car, and the brothers girlfriend told her it is a wrong act, for her to leave me her boyfriend as we are discussing to answer another guy.

Same day she asked me, if I will be angry, if another guy give her phone as a gift that the guy is her church member and he has a girlfriend, so they don’t have anything attached. I told her yes I will be angry and after some arguments and for peace to reign I asked to go ahead to do what she wants to do, since she insisted, even after telling her I will buy, she said she don’t want me to spend money, even the food I bought she refused eating as usual.

This a girl that will come visiting, after romance and being in the mood, she will decline, and said she is not ready, she is afraid and she has sworn according to her until she is married, even asked me to suck her kpetus, and get wet, but will not make out, and this has happened thrice, she will apologies that she can’t give her body, she is a VIRGIN, all the time we are together always virgin matter, but she will be angry and jealous if she sees me with another babe.
And I noticed she don’t open up, sometimes she will be hiding something’s and when I asked her, the only answer I get all the time is nothing, even when I called her to come, she will declined not coming, I will call and still text her, but will ignore and tell me she has no airtime, which I know she has, because I do send her card.

One Sunday afternoon she came with a threatening and frowning face to drop the bombshell, after forcing her to talk why her face is like that, she said WHAT IF I TELL YOU I DON’T WANT TO DATE YOU AGAIN, since she cannot give me her body, that we can be friends, I tried with my best friend girl to convinced her to see reasons with me since am not forcing her, she said she don’t know when she will be ready, and she advised we show move on with our lives separately, no hopes of when she will be ready either in a month or year. this make me shear tears, because i remembered something as she cried she is about losing me, while the other of her friend is crushing on me already she said.

I called and text her that I will wait, but she didn’t respond, next day she text back we should move on our lives, I called her for us to see and finalize it and sort things out, she rudely and angrily decline that she cannot come to anywhere or either to see me. I was very angry the way she responded and reacted on phone concerning the whole issues and I told her, she wasn’t any virgin and never loved me, just deceiving me, maybe her boyfriend is back and don’t want to open up, she replied that am the only guy she had and replayed that she is disappointing in me for saying such.
The next day my friend called her twice before she picked, and on the background he had a female voice asking her why is she till picking up the call and since then none of us has called each other again.

Please I need your opinion and advice, because she had made up her mind, after several pleading and advice.
I will upload some text message chatting we exchanged, when next I login, if it is necessary. Because it has a lot of facts.

Gentlemen rules you shouldn't break next time going forward:
1) Never ever find a friend's sisters/relatives attractive nor make an attempt to date them.
2) Never ever find attractive a Friend's Ex girl nor date them.

This long epistle only shows sifia pains.

NiceMen:


My brother, she is gone.

1. You were being too serious with her.

2. She wants nothing of such nature wrapped up in a relationship.

3. You were too available to her.

4. The girl is still in her hoe phase but you were thinking about the future. She actually fooled you with all those talks about being serious.

5. Accept this fact that women in a romantic relationship is different from women in a platonic relationship. You did not know this and that was why you started the relationship because "she seems good" during the platonic phase.

To address the being serious part let me give you an example. There was this pretty fair skinned lady that I met on Facebook.

There are two parts of me in this.

Part 1 is me being nice (foolish) guy. I was being too serious, too caring, being holy and you know, always available.

Did it work? No!

I left her presence and 2 years now I have resurfaced with a different personality.

Part 2 is me being a bad boy. This time around I am not serious. I talk dirty. Even told her I will suck her. All she does is laugh and smile (a sign that she is enjoying it) now she is willing for us to meet, despite uploading her" boyfriends" picture few days ago.

It was even after that picture I led her cunningly into dirty sex talk... Now I don't even hide the impression that I will love to fvck her. Let me stop here: is it working? Yes!

Will I win and end up fvcking her? I will let your imagination answer that.

Summarily, your approach is why these girls will take you serious or ditch u.

The sad thing this girl you talked about will start taking you serious after losing that virginity, fork one or two dicks. At least I have one like that now who previously will not spend the night with me telling me she had lost her virginity in 2017 blah blah. I never asked her o.

Last week she( ex virgin) was telling me I should have invited her over during this Corona period. Something she wouldn't allow when the virginity was there. In her mind, I am serious now. Me go chop and leave.

Spot on bro.

When they're done exploring, they settle for the good guys. Lol.

fattprince:
Hi, your signature.
Do you know I can use and dump you without being sexual with you?

Nice, 'cos that is how you understand it!

cfree14:
Guy next time learn how to summarize. Other matters dey ground to settle

My dear, I just pour out my mind here, as e dey me ooo

dom80:
op, everyone above me has given you the right advise to move on and I will urge you to gladly forget about this confuse and manipulative girlfriend of yours and move on with your life without looking back.

the truth is. .. this girlfriend of yours never love you from the on set. everything she did was for you to think she loves you. if she loves you, there won't be change in her behavior but she never love you.

so, stop chasing the shadow so that you don't end up in tears. pick up your broken heart and move on.

you need to always remind yourself of this words that " before she came into your life, you were happy and that your happiness does not depend on her"

she has her life to live. she following her path that may lead her to destruction in the later future because she is a confuse girl who doesn't know what she wants. she claimed to be a virgin but she has random guys and she has friends (girls) that influence her. she is not a virgin.

so bro, move on and be happy with yourself. your main priority is to be successful and be rich. let that be your challenge and not this confuse girl of yours

Thanks a lot man,You just said it all, confusionist i encounter.

Thank you all, for your advice,i really appreciate this forum members,for taking time to read the post and give it a thought.

the message here is pretty clear...just as she said...MOVE ON...you don't wanna become frustrated when the love becomes unrequited totally

Olaoluwaaje:
I dey come make I go chop I go come help u settle the matter later

and ur matter won't be settled IJN, u scammed me and other people and makes them disturbing me as if we knw it 2geda. no peace for the evil doers, U and ur generation shall not know peace IJN. for the rest of ur life sorrow shall be ur Portion

SCAMMER