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tellsblinks:
what kind of advice is best to give him

By the way he has done nothing yet...making him sit on his own and avoiding body contact is the best thing to do.

Some children enjoys the soft comfort of a woman's body...i have seen it happen before, i was with a female friend sometime in 2012...we were just having a close heart conversation while a cousin of mine was there too he should be around 9 or 10. He was just all over her like flies, i was even like whats is happening young man...but the truth was that he had no bad motive at all.

tellsblinks:
trying to touch boo.bs, and trying to touch ars

is that one still tenderly love issue?

You are just interpreting what your mind is understanding....but that could not be what he is trying to do.

The boy needs to be talked to, that's all.

I believe he has been abused psychologically by witnessing a sex scene or seeing a romantic movie.

Beating him won't solve the issue, he only needs to know that making sexual advances to a woman at his age is wrong.

tellsblinks:
honestly I don't even understand again, because he acts so normal, and we still play normal as though nothing happened. thier is no special way in how he looks at me or something.

I don't really know if it's sexual desires or something else considering the age

Take time to identify if truly he is making advances or if he is seeking affection as a boy who was cuddled by his mother or older female relatives while growing up. Also ask your friend the kind of movie she watches with him as well. This a sensitive .


For now, I will suggest you tell your friend to calmly give the boy a proper sex education befitting of his age preferably by an older male relative(Father). And then watch if he will repeat those suspicious move.

tellsblinks:
lol, you saying it's Normal?

its normal bro, you just don't wake up and start fvcking, as you move from a boy to a man, you change both physically and mentally, you start noticing the difference between boys and girls. other things follow and flow naturally. had it been the boy did not notice the girl and tried to satisfy his curiosity, that would have been abnormal..... a potential homosexual.

tellsblinks:
please this is not me, a friend chatted me up and asked me what to do about this action
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during the lockdown after school closed I decided to go to my relative house to stay with them., considering the fact that going back home is about 14hours from my school and I usually go thier for holidays.


Of recent I noticed that the child of age 12years old is making advances towards, like he would cross his hands around my shoulders while watching film (not romance) and would feel his hands trying to go down my burst and could also feel fear in him...

yesterday night while we were watching movie in my room jokingly jokingly I felt his hands this time around crawling to my ass and also noticed he was scared!!

please what should I do? I do not want to shout for him or beat the hell out of him, as I have not really caught him in the act yet

what do I do?? I need advice, should I wait to catch him, then beat crase comot from him, or should I advice him now

I want to drop a very explanative story but I don't have the time or strength to type

First thing you ought to know is that he is a boy, so his parents (since he is a boy, it's dad's decision) will shrug it off (after warning him a bit) as normal (and it is normal).

Best thing you can do is find another film for u both to watch then when he tries it, insult him and scare the shit out of him and threaten to report him. Then send him off

Next day continue playing with him as if nothing happened, it's best u record it (since we no sabi d kind pikin way d boy b)

Remember just shout at him, what he is doing is 100% normal, almost every guy had that cousin they were attracted to when they were little... He will grow out of it

P.S: No Nigerian parents would like to hear that u recorded their 12 yr old son doing something shameful, so don't let them know or hear it unless something goes wrong (else Na u sabi ooh)

Warlord2012:
A slap will lead him to more secret adventure....
At 12, beating can't correct any bad behavior...

You underestimate the power of a slap from a non family member.

Twelve years old, eh? Just testing the water.

Just talk or counsel him not to try it if he does not want to be a father. Not with you but with his friends. If he is trying that with you, imagine what he is doing with friends.

He might have had his way or even abused by older lady.

She should talk to the kid.

arthorjnr:
You underestimate the power of a slap from a non family member.

Hahahahaahah....funny

I will be very sincere with you.
1. watch what you put on around this children some of them are very mature and curious .they feel like handling a lady because of the film or music videos they watch.
2. Bitch slap the boy to scare him.

12years old no be small pikin again oo...

Na too much play cus am... U need to be harsh on him... Me i don't tolerate rubbish, my people know me

Abrahamdgreat:
I want to drop a very explanative story but I don't have the time or strength to type

First thing you ought to know is that he is a boy, so his parents (since he is a boy, it's dad's decision) will shrug it off (after warning him a bit) as normal (and it is normal).

Best thing you can do is find another film for u both to watch then when he tries it, insult him and scare the shit out of him and threaten to report him. Then send him off

Next day continue playing with him as if nothing happened, it's best u record it (since we no sabi d kind pikin way d boy b)

Remember just shout at him, what he is doing is 100% normal, almost every guy had that cousin they were attracted to when they were little... He will grow out of it

P.S: No Nigerian parents would like to hear that u recorded their 12 yr old son doing something shameful, so don't let them know or hear it unless something goes wrong (else Na u sabi ooh)

Which kind stupid normal you dey yarn? What the hell is normal in a 12years old trying to caress an older lady. Kids are smart, trust me. You see that resistance he gives himself due to fear when trying to move further? That's fear and his conscience telling him it's wrong.

besides, why would you say a father will shrug it off because he's a boy? He's fvcking 12 for jove sake! Not my father, he'd never do that to me, his son. He'll never ruin my life because i'm a boy/a child. That point is where he should be beaten. These kids these days don't listen to calm approaaches anymore. That's how you'll be feeding a rapist until he becomes fullblown. Besides you're the type that would watch his kid rotten away and try to use the 'advice quip' to restore him.

Settle scores with him in his parent absent, next time he will be forced to find his mate and don't forget to bend his pencil while teaching him a lesson.

If you dont wanna choose ds option then dress up well, maybe he may hv seen your fine lines dat is tormenting his mentality towards sex and decide to gv it a try, 12yrs feeling honey na be small problem

If I said women are the cause of this rape of a thing una go dey vomit rubbish

Just see what a mature lady is saying tomorrow now you hear say the boy rape person while u wey him dey with no fit caution am

SirMichael1:
Which kind stupid normal you dey yarn? What the hell is normal in a 12years old trying to caress an older lady. Kids are smart, trust me. You see that resistance he gives himself due to fear when trying to move further? That's fear and his conscience telling him it's wrong.

besides, why would you say a father will shrug it off because he's a boy? He's fvcking 12 for jove sake! Not my father, he'd never do that to me, his son. He'll never ruin my life because i'm a boy/a child. That point is where he should be beaten. These kids these days don't listen to calm approaaches anymore. That's how you'll be feeding a rapist until he becomes fullblown. Besides you're the type that would watch his kid rotten away and try to use the 'advice quip' to restore him.

leave that guy u dey stress urself... that's how we do know people that responsible,see what a grown-up is saying

SirMichael1:
Call his parent attention to the boy's attrocities. Often than not, the family know of the boy's behaviour and have been trying to caution him. After you've reported him, the next time he tries such, take successive turn with your two palm on his face and make sure to leave fingerprints.

Believe op at your PeRil

A lot of boys in their early teens develop crushes for older females. And the closest and most accessible female to them that isn't their immediate sister is a cousin (weirdly enough). Many at times, it dissipates on it's own as he grows up. Sometimes, it doesn't.

You have an opportunity to make a lasting change in the child's life by talking to him and rebuking him in private. Rebuke him sternly in private. Stop watching movies with him till he is older. Matter solved!

La Believe La Collapse

SirMichael1:
Which kind stupid normal you dey yarn? What the hell is normal in a 12years old trying to caress an older lady. Kids are smart, trust me. You see that resistance he gives himself due to fear when trying to move further? That's fear and his conscience telling him it's wrong.

besides, why would you say a father will shrug it off because he's a boy? He's fvcking 12 for jove sake! Not my father, he'd never do that to me, his son. He'll never ruin my life because i'm a boy/a child. That point is where he should be beaten. These kids these days don't listen to calm approaaches anymore. That's how you'll be feeding a rapist until he becomes fullblown. Besides you're the type that would watch his kid rotten away and try to use the 'advice quip' to restore him.

Bro no start with me abeg... I'm guessing and hoping your not a rapist, so how are you now so certain about the traits they would show when they are 12. Last I heard they don't target older and stronger people so tell me why ur calling a 12 year old such a vile name

From the way ur sounding, "Not my father, he would never do that to me, his son" I'm guessing u mean ur dad would have wipped u.

We are not talking about you here, hence we don't know who the boy's parents are so don't give a one sided advice

My advice I meant to account for all the possible scenerious (you'd see that if u took your time to properly read it). From ur statement I can tell ur not a father (neither am I) so don't speak with 100% certainty about how to train a child.

Last but not least, I started undergoing puberty at the age of 10 (possibly 9 sef) so his hormones are of the roof and the movies / internet is not helping, what he needs now is a little candid advice not your father's whip

He is still a kid and one thing kids respond to is fear, put that in him and then talk to him, trust me it's stick with them. The title didn't read 12yr old boy and 6 yr old girl else my advice would be another.

Finally as your reading this, read and don't mention me, as others have dropped their opinion so have I, and hopefully so would you. Nobody is here to say things that will please you, so please dude leave my Mention alone

Abrahamdgreat:
[s]Bro no start with me abeg... I'm guessing and hoping your not a rapist, so how are you now so certain about the traits they would show when they are 12. Last I heard they don't target older and stronger people so tell me why ur calling a 12 year old such a vile name

From the way ur sounding, "Not my father, he would never do that to me, his son" I'm guessing u mean ur dad would have wipped u.

We are not talking about you here, hence we don't know who the boy's parents are so don't give a one sided advice

My advice I meant to account for all the possible scenerious (you'd see that if u took your time to properly read it). From ur statement I can tell ur not a father (neither am I) so don't speak with 100% certainty about how to train a child.

Last but not least, I started undergoing puberty at the age of 10 (possibly 9 sef) so his hormones are of the roof and the movies / internet is not helping, what he needs now is a little candid advice not your father's whip

He is still a kid and one thing kids respond to is fear, put that in him and then talk to him, trust me it's stick with them. The title didn't read 12yr old boy and 6 yr old girl else my advice would be another.

Finally as your reading this, read and don't mention me, as others have dropped their opinion so have I, and hopefully so would you. Nobody is here to say things that will please you, so please dude leave my Mention alone

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You didn't buy my data, neither my phone and so i damn well know i can air my opinions over yours especially if it's hogwash.

as i rightly said, a 12yrs is very oid enough to know the difference right and wrong, bad and good. Then again you said it is normal of him to explore an older lady because he is attaining puberty, then i assume you'd consider it normal if he plays with his mom or sisters that way, but he doesn't. If that doesn't tell you it isn't normal to him, then i don't know what will.

'he's a kid and one thing kids respond to is fear', yes, the fear of being beaten. 'spare the rod and spoil the child'

you know, your stance on this matter shows how much of a father you'll be. If you as a father will shrug it off and allow a rapist to keep growing unchecked in your home, then maybe you should leave fathering children as you'll be unfit and the child taken into custody of the government. Know when to use your mouth and know the importance of the rod. Cases like this where it will cause permanent damage to the boy, use the rod, then again and again. Don't be a weak father!

MOnkeyBabe:
Believe op at your PeRil

If I'm to believe every OP on NL, then I'm very sure I won't leave a coment here anymore.

Nobody is making sexual advances on her. She is sex-starved and want to take advantage of the boy. Playing the victim card as usual but remember what u are about doing is wrong. If u are not up to something u know what to do as an adult.

SirMichael1:
You didn't buy my data, neither my phone and so i damn well know i can air my opinions over yours especially if it's hogwash.

as i rightly said, a 12yrs is very oid enough to know the difference right and wrong, bad and good. Then again you said it is normal of him to explore an older lady because he is attaining puberty, then i assume you'd consider it normal if he plays with his mom or sisters that way, but he doesn't. If that doesn't tell you it isn't normal to him, then i don't know what will.

'he's a kid and one thing kids respond to is fear', yes, the fear of being beaten. 'spare the rod and spoil the child'

you know, your stance on this matter shows how much of a father you'll be. If you as a father will shrug it off and allow a rapist to keep growing unchecked in your home, then maybe you should leave fathering children as you'll be unfit and the child taken into custody of the government. Know when to use your mouth and know the importance of the rod. Cases like this where it will cause permanent damage to the boy, use the rod, then again and again. Don't be a weak father!

I'm certain u feel ur talking sense but ur not and for a very simple reason, the girl asking the question isn't the father she's a cousin... Do you know how the father will react Do you know if the the parents are already tired of the cousin Etc

Go and read the question asked and read the answer I dropped and stop making me type over an argument that I don't even understand, I've given what's my own opinion of what the best thing she can do is, you give yours and stop derailing the thread pls.

P.S: You've been throwing several subtle (and plain) insults, if ur dad really is as strict as you've implied, shouldn't you know that that's bad manners??

P.S 2: I actually just read what u wrote now, u never born pikin and ur advicing me, very funny... Now let me educate u (I'll ignore ur insults)... If u refuse to advice him and u flog him, in the next 20 years who will go and flog him then, if u use only fear to threaten him, when he's old enough there's absolutely no reason for him not to continue doing it.

Now please leave my mention and continue with ur life bro

Abrahamdgreat:
I'm certain u feel ur talking sense but ur not and for a very simple reason, the girl asking the question isn't the father she's a cousin... Do you know how the father will react Do you know if the the parents are already tired of the cousin Etc

Go and read the question asked and read the answer I dropped and stop making me type over an argument that I don't even understand, I've given what's my own opinion of what the best thing she can do is, you give yours and stop derailing the thread pls.

P.S: You've been throwing several subtle (and plain) insults, if ur dad really is as strict as you've implied, shouldn't you know that that's bad manners??

P.S 2: I actually just read what u wrote now, u never born pikin and ur advicing me, very funny... Now let me educate u (I'll ignore ur insults)... If u refuse to advice him and u flog him, in the next 20 years who will go and flog him then, if u use only fear to threaten him, when he's old enough there's absolutely no reason for him not to continue doing it.

Now please leave my mention and continue with ur life bro

Lol. Sincerely you're reducing my 'high-queue' and it's tiring. He's 12 now, in 20yrs he'll be 32yrs. If you still advice your child concerning rape issues and how he should treat a woman, shows how much YOU failed as a father. If your child doesn't have sense and can't take responsibility for his actions but needs you as a father for advice, then you've failed again. Then again, you brought the 20yrs sheet all by yourself, are you assuming that i didn't train my child well till he got to that age (32yrs)? Is this you throwing a snide comment, 'cause last i checked, you just refrained me from doing that.

you had better take my advice if you see derogratory behaviour from your child -assuming you go against my advice of fathering one- and beat sheet out of him. Every human has within him a morality compass that tells right and wrong at every instance. Therefore, if he chooses 'wrong' instead of 'right', flog the boy. No be say you go shrug am off because you be him father and no be your pikin the girl be.

tellsblinks:
please this is not me, a friend chatted me up and asked me what to do about this action
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.
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during the lockdown after school closed I decided to go to my relative house to stay with them., considering the fact that going back home is about 14hours from my school and I usually go thier for holidays.


Of recent I noticed that the child of age 12years old is making advances towards, like he would cross his hands around my shoulders while watching film (not romance) and would feel his hands trying to go down my burst and could also feel fear in him...

yesterday night while we were watching movie in my room jokingly jokingly I felt his hands this time around crawling to my ass and also noticed he was scared!!

please what should I do? I do not want to shout for him or beat the hell out of him, as I have not really caught him in the act yet

what do I do?? I need advice, should I wait to catch him, then beat crase comot from him, or should I advice him now

He is a child in his growing phase, almost everyone went through it, what u need is to have a heart to heart discussion with him and guide him well, that's what he needs the most now, not beating him or shouting at him, that will solve no problems he could still go out and do it. This is the right time to guide him well.

are u enjoying it ni, he feels ur ass he going down ur burst but u haven't caught him in d act, i think d kid is wiser than u.


just tell him if ge tries it again u will tell his parent

properties4sale:
He is a child in his growing phase, almost everyone went through it, what u need is to have a heart to heart discussion with him and guide him well, that's what he needs the most now, not beating him or shouting at him, that will solve no problems he could still go out and do it. This is the right time to guide him well.

No make SirMichael1 catch u ooh... He say the matter Na rape issue

SirMichael1:
Lol. Sincerely you're reducing my 'high-queue' and it's tiring. He's 12 now, in 20yrs he'll be 32yrs. If you still advice your child concerning rape issues and how he should treat a woman, shows how much YOU failed as a father. If your child doesn't have sense and can't take responsibility for his actions but needs you as a father for advice, then you've failed again. Then again, you brought the 20yrs sheet all by yourself, are you assuming that i didn't train my child well till he got to that age (32yrs)? Is this you throwing a snide comment, 'cause last i checked, you just refrained me from doing that.

you had better take my advice if you see derogratory behaviour from your child -assuming you go against my advice of fathering one- and beat sheet out of him. Every human has within him a morality compass that tells right and wrong at every instance. Therefore, if he chooses 'wrong' instead of 'right', flog the boy. No be say you go shrug am off because you be him father and no be your pikin the girl be.

Make whatever u want to make of the statement I dropped, it's ur cup of tea... All what I want you to know is that I was never giving advice as the father of the child, I was giving the girl advice on how to proceed, statements I made of her parents were worst case scenarios so she can take the decision without any worries (abi make she kill am too?)

Now go and rest bro, you've really derailed this thread with your lack of patience to read and assimilate... I really hope u read and assimilate this one though.

P.S I've been reading all ur statements in Patrick's voice (SpongeBob's Friend), and you really held the act well with your posts.. Now, kindly go find a stone to crawl under, much love

Abrahamdgreat:
Make whatever u want to make of the statement I dropped, it's ur cup of tea... All what I want you to know is that I was never giving advice as the father of the child, I was giving the girl advice on how to proceed, statements I made of her parents were worst case scenarios so she can take the decision without any worries (abi make she kill am too?)

Now go and rest bro, you've really derailed this thread with your lack of patience to read and assimilate... I really hope u read and assimilate this one though.

P.S I've been reading all ur statements in Patrick's voice (SpongeBob's Friend), and you really held the act well with your posts.. Now, kindly go find a stone to crawl under, much love

You assumed the father's attitude 'cause that's what you'll do if your child is reported to you. You'll pass it off like it's no biggie. And no, it wasn't the was the worse case scenerio as you envisaged, it is the upfront attitude you claimed the father will assume so do not refurbish your statement. Besides, you're in your 'earliest 20s', so what could you possibly know about child care.

And stop watching cartoons.

SirMichael1:
You assumed the father's attitude 'cause that's what you'll do if your child is reported to you. You'll pass it off like it's no biggie. And no, it wasn't the was the worse case scenerio as you envisaged, it is the upfront attitude you claimed the father will assume so do not refurbish your statement. Besides, you're in your 'earliest 20s', so what could you possibly know about child care.

And stop watching cartoons.

Mr Patrick Assumptions kindly give it a rest... I don't know who you're fighting with cos I'm not fighting u

thank y'all for the feedback it was really helpful
she did talked to him and warned him as well as advice him too.