Just like that? This story get K legs oooo, madam tell us the truth naw

U weren't diplomatic enough

You did the right thing.
Is to accept a job by force?

Manage your in-laws wisely.

Amya:


Family issues like this is really dicey. How csn i tell him his sister is trying to scam us? I did the best i could do in such situation by shutting the whole thing down. I heard she actually collected some money from my co wife for same job and when it amounted to nothing, she blamed the recruitment process. Las las, she's family, you can't beat her or arrest her

Your relationship with your husband needs an adjustment.

You should be able to tell him HIS SISTER IS A SCAMMER without him taking offense.

You should even be able to tell him HIS MOTHER IS A WITCH without him taking offense.

He even blamed you for not falling for it. SMH
Very poor of you.

Do something about your relationship before they turn his head.
Believe me, they are working on it.

Shalom.

@Amya Since he believes it is genuine ,why not call your sister in-law and apologize and tell your hubby to pay her the money. But make sure you let him know what your instincts tells you so at the end you can tell him "I told you so" .


Dem say dog wey wan loss not dey hear e master whilstle I think that is where your husband is at the moment. Something as clear as day light ,your husband still can't see it,na wah o. Seems his people are in control of his reasoning.

The problem with women/ladies is that you people worry too about what people feel or think about you even when you're doing the right thing.

You acted wisely but lately . Your husband is the closest to you and the money is coming from him. You should have carried him along from the beginning. Your good heart caused you harm.

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meetme01:
When you sensed scam. You should have at least informed your husband without telling him what you suspected. It's going to be your husband that would pay, I believe? If so, you just tell your husband to ask questions to make sure she's (your sis in law) not being given fake information since she's also a third party. If it results in scam, the issue will die within the family and you won't be boxed into a corner. You shot yourself by being too smart.

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Total rubbish!

The only thing I can say is thank God you didn't pay. The whole story for just sour.

situationreport:

You are either going to make a bad wife, or you you are one already
Is people like you that do poison their mother in law
Spit on you

Spit on yourself, mumu. see another breastfeeding kid.

All I read here is the rot in our system where jobs are sold.

Please next time when you wonder why nothing works and our public service is filled with mediocre staff, remember that you can buy jobs rather than pass a rigorous selection process

Next time you wish to wail that corruption is killing the country, remember you played a part by paying for a job that other people toiled for years studying hard to get!

So, you went ahead to bring our family issues to Nairaland? Thank you so much.

I had learnt since 1900 to defect scam and scammers. I don't fall easily for such scams. If it sounds too good to be true, it's probably scam.

Bola146:
Trust nobody! In-laws and their wahala Just ignore them, silence is the best answer for a fool. The mother brought up a fool like herself. I really pity that old woman creating chaos among her children

Girls and their natural hatred for mother in-laws. Shebi you go be mother in-law one day.

Tueee

他们想要我的心灵，灵魂和我的身体。秘密社会试图盯着我。 但是我会把它隐身在一个他们找不到我的地方！해튜켜큐코너 ㅁㅎ녘 노뉴너뉺캬ㅓㄴㅎ누넌ㅍ녀뉴논 킄ㅍㅋ ㄴ 큐. ㅓ뉴너뉸 人士官长 者勿

One nigeria is a hell on earth.

No job.

Bola146:
Trust nobody! In-laws and their wahala Just ignore them, silence is the best answer for a fool. The mother brought up a fool like herself. I really pity that old woman creating chaos among her children

Calling someone you don't even know a fool and going far of rebelling their mother a fool as well is really amazing and your a woman.... BTW this is a one sided story and the Sister in law may don't know anything of the scam if there's any because of the way they portraited the offer....
It's just like a traveling Agent who told one of your family member that he or she has a slot of a certain country... That your family member informed you but you don't like that particular country and you tell them your choice and when that your family member talk to them and tell him/her that they have such offer as well and that your family member get back to you regarding it , you started accusing him/her that they are part of the plans.... It's very unfair to call those people fools because you don't know the level of trust and bond they share in that family...

Her mum calling you is disrespectful to herself.


Said Sister in law doesn't respect herself either.


You played it cool and matured too.


Nothing bad in aiming for better places.

Hmmmmm complicated relationship

DrDax:


Your relationship with your husband needs an adjustment.

You should be able to tell him HIS SISTER IS A SCAMMER without him taking offense.

You should even be able to tell him HIS MOTHER IS A WITCH without him taking offense.

He even blamed you for not falling for it. SMH
Very poor of you.

Do something about your relationship before they turn his head.
Believe me, they are working on it.

Shalom.

What's with you nairaland guys and trying desperately to fault women in any post concerning them. How can i in good conscience tell my husband that his sister is trying to scam us? Do you know the blowout that could happen from it? The bad blood that may be forever csused by such accusstion? Yeah my sil was trying to pull a con, but she's not the devil. Even now, I respect her and still relate well with her especially as she didnt succeed.

The way i did it was the best because even now, everything has died down. Pkatakpata they'd only say i was too big to take the job offer. That itself isn't a sin

DrDax:


Your relationship with your husband needs an adjustment.

You should be able to tell him HIS SISTER IS A SCAMMER without him taking offense.

You should even be able to tell him HIS MOTHER IS A WITCH without him taking offense.

He even blamed you for not falling for it. SMH
Very poor of you.

Do something about your relationship before they turn his head.
Believe me, they are working on it.

Shalom.

See your reasoning brother.

Kingscee:
Just like that? This story get K legs oooo, madam tell us the truth naw

Lol

Liftmaster:
It may have escaped your notice, but the scheme you described is illegal, immoral and abhorrent. What is the money to be used for? Bribe the Director? Curry favor from a government agency or directorate? It is unfortunate that this type of behavior is generally accepted in Nigerian society today. In case you're wondering what you should have done, you should have stated clearly that this is an illegal act and you will not be involved in such a despicable scheme. If you have 350 - 500k laying around, why not start a business or invest in something? If bribery is what it takes to get a govt agency job, you should abstain, maintain your honor and prevent any blemish to your conscience.

Well said. I have always agreed with Napoleon Hill that the devil indeed controls 98percent of humans in this world. No one cares about doing right anymore and it is sad.

GboyegaD:


Never knew it is this bad ooo.

I don't know why you are judging and rebelling her sister law as a scammer , she might not have hand in it , probably a friend was telling her about the slot and it's happening everywhere within Nigeria...

Ladycewhy:
@Amya Since he believes it is genuine ,why not call your sister in-law and apologize and tell your hubby to pay her the money. But make sure you let him know what your instincts tells you so at the end you can tell him "I told you so" .


Dem say dog wey wan loss not dey hear e master whilstle I think that is where your husband is at the moment. Something as clear as day light ,your husband still can't see it,na wah o. Seems his people are in control of his reasoning.

I don't do "i told you so'

Amya:

Saying that it doesn't/won't bother you if she went to her brother(your husband) directly without involving you is where I am actually worried..
If you try to scam my husband in anyway, you have as well scammed me and vice versa...

If I look away, and you succeeded in scamming my family's future away, I won't forgive myself.

Your spouse downfall is your downfall, same way his/her success is also yours.

Secure/protect your finances jointly because at the end of the day, it's the family's resources and it is going to suffer/enjoy the consequences as the case maybe...


And to people that scam their loved ones, you all are even worse than those yahoo boys. Because I don't know how you will look into the eyes of people you have shared the good and bad times together and still have the heart to cause them pains...... Na wa o

If your husband have some 500k lying around, what job are you looking for again? If he can easily be fleeced of such amount and is willing to pay with it.

Amya:


I dont think hubby blabbed. They hadly communicate even. She pulled that not just with me but with my co wife. She succeeded with co-wife and when when no job came out of it, i got a little break especially from her mum. But even with that failed incident, i dare not say my co-wife was scammed.

So you're even in a polygamous home..are you a northern Muslim lady?

okpalaAnambra:
So you're even in a polygamous home..are you a northern Muslim lady?

Co- wife also loosely translates to husband brothers wife you know ?

Amya:
I've been looking to get a federal agency job in Abuja for a while now and haven't yet had any reasonable connection.

My sister inlaw ( husband's sister) a lady in her mid 40s who's divorced and a hustler type still trying to find her feet called me up one day and told me a friend of hers had a connection for Civil Defence and i should email my CV right away to her. I have never discussed jobs with her before so the call took me by surprise. I wasnt particular keen on Civil Defence and as a lawyer i had my sights much higher on parastatal or agency jobs. She might have sensed my reluctance on the phone and she went on to say

"I'm just doing you a favour ooo, many people are hoping for opportunities as this"

She had this tone of urgency.

I didnt especially like how she was hurrying me as i never approach anything with desperation and as such, have never been scammed. I told her I'll get back to her. Two hours later, she was messaging me on whatsapp that she hadn't seen my CV on her mailbox. I replied her saying

"Aunty i haven't sent it ooo, is the job slot free because me i don't have money ooo"

This was a very dicey situation for me because this woman is over 10 years my senior and i wanted to be as diplomatic as possible without causing family wahala.

She read my response but didnt reply.

Very early the next morning she called me and when i picked up, she said that the job wasnt free but the price wasnt too much, just N350k. That i shouldn't worry that she'll call my hubby (her brother) and ask him for the money. When i saw she was still pushing, i opened up to her that even if i wanted to pay for a job slot, it definitely wasnt going to be a Civil Defence job as i had my sights set on agencies and parastatals. I knew she was upset by how her voice changed. "Agencies? What's that?" I told her like NNPC, DPR, NCC and the likes
"NNPC? ehnnn.. Okay" She cut the call and i heaved a sigh that it was over. It wasn't.

Two days later, this woman called me again to tell me she has an NNPC job for me.

(you've gat to be kidding me!)

She said that her friend knows the director and he asked for one million but after begging him, he agreed to take 500k she started with her hurrying tactics that i had only 24hrs and if payment wasn't made before then that the offer will be withdrawn. At that time, NNPC were done with their recruitment process and i didnt even apply and knowing how stringent NNPC recruitment was, i knew that offer was impossible. She went on that if I didn't have the cash that she'd call her brother (hubby) to make the transfer immediately. I knew right then without a doubt that this woman wanted to use me to obtain her brother by all means. She can try to scam him directly and if he falls mugu, good for her but why try to use me in the scam? I went further with questioning her on the supposed NNPC job. "Please Aunty the director that is helping, where is he?
" Abuja nau" she replied getting irritated with my questioning.

She was in Lagos and i was in Abuja at the time
so i asked her if i could meet the supposed director one on one and pay him directly and even promised to reward her and her friend handsomely if the deal pulls through.

"No" she said abruptly "you pay the money to my account and ill give it to my friend to make the payment. All you have to do is just hope and pray"

Pray... That word. I knew then without a doubt that this Aunty was trying to scam me.

I told her "Aunty please dont be angry, i know you mean well for my future and want me to get a good job in NNPC but right now I've already paid part payment for another job somewhere and i wouldn't want to invest in two places at once" That wasnt true, i just had to get her off my tail once and for all. She was shocked. She angrily cut the call. She wanted to finesse her brother out of some cash using my future, what happens when the real slot comes around. Would i expect him to pay twice?

Her mum (mil) called me and started blasting me. Saying I'm feeling too big to be helped and her daughter was only trying to help me and now she never wanted to have anything to do with me again. That i should call her daughter and take the offer so that peace would reign. I didnt. Even my hubby blamed me and i couldn't even open my mouth to tell anyone i thought the whole setup was a scam. That's such a big accusation to make. The family dislike for me grew worse because of that incident.

Please did i do wrong?



Modified: For those asking me to talk to hubby, ofcourse i did but he genuinely believes his sister was trying to help and since i couldnt point out outright that the whole thing smelt of scam, hr thinks i rejected the offer because of pride. But i know better. It didnt cause serious issue between us though.

You did well

Don't mind them and their stupidity

She wants to cause rancour within the family putting you on the front line but thank God it didn't work

Assuming she succeeded in getting the money and nothing happened with the job

For you to get the money back, it will never be possible and the cold War will be tougher on you guys

Let her look else where

By the way why you or all people why not someone else, that means she wants your hubby money but wants to use your name

Next time let her deal directly with your hubby if she is real

afribabe:

Saying that it doesn't/won't bother you if she went to her brother(your husband) directly without involving you is where I am actually worried..
If you try to scam my husband in anyway, you have as well scammed me and vice versa...

If I look away, and you succeeded in scamming my family's future away, I won't forgive myself.

Your spouse downfall is your downfall, same way his/her success is also yours.

Secure/protect your finances jointly because at the end of the day, it's the family's resources and it is going to suffer/enjoy the consequences as the case maybe...


And to people that scam their loved ones, you all are even worse than those yahoo boys. Because I don't know how you will look into the eyes of people you have shared the good and bad times together and still have the heart to cause them pains...... Na wa o

If you're not married, you may not understand. I always try not to involve myself in my husband and sibling's business. I only shut this one down because it involves me.

afecgivers:
Scam! When it's not your money. This is the reason I avoid family or relative business, she is a family member, let her know if the job doesn't go through she will refund the money. Maybe your hubby is stingy and the family planned a means to obtain money through job scam as they believe it's the only way your hubby will drop the cash....you come bust their game.. You wicked. Now it's now family wahala. And you are not there when they were raising him. Anyway you smart.

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