I've been in a very serious relationship with an Igbo guy. He's nice, handsome and we've been dating for 2 years. He talked about me meeting his family and I was very excited little did I know that it would turn out to be my worse nightmare.

I met his mum and she seemed really nice, but her attitude changed when she realized I'm a Yoruba girl. She immediately told me to my face that I can't marry her son. Her reasons weren't clearly stated but she said she doesn't like the Yoruba people. My heart melted, hot tears rolled down from my eyes; I'm Yoruba and I'm in love with an Igbo "mummy's boy".

I spoke with him about it and he keeps assuring me that it would be fine. It's been almost 2 years now and the family are still not in support of our union. Every time I try to move on he comes begging that everything would be fine and that we will get married. I really love this guy, why I love him I don't know because clearly he hasn't done anything to deserve my heart but... He doesn't have a good paying job yet, so I carter for most of his financial needs and even send some food to his village during festivity.

Just recently his mother called my parents to tell them that I can't get married to her son and asked that I should be warned to stay off her son.

He has travelled to his village for a week now and honestly I don't know where I stand... I really love him but what do I do?

Hmm, it's not easy but if a parent of a person you want to marry is not in support with the union, you have to let them go. Or else you will cry everyday in that marriage. This is a blessing in disguise. This too shall pass

It's not about the parents it about the guy, is it man enough?

I'm a Yoruba, My elder brother married igbo woman but my mother don't want her but he stood his ground and part of us supported him, she was forced to choose her son happiness.

I am convinced that the Igbos are the most inconsiderate set of hypocrites. How can your mother be the one to decide your fate or choose who to marry? Not even at the start of the relationship? Over two years and your Mom is influencing your decision?. op please leave !!

You people keep recycling one particular story.By the way.Are really inlove with him or his money because from the way you re talking,it seems he is rich.I know the story is fake but continue.

What an ungrateful Family.Chai!I feel sorry for this kind love to be honest.If he loves you, my advice is to elope with him to another country,shikina.

my younger brother's girlfriend is Yoruba, and a Muslim.

Being Igbo, I know the uphill task his have facing me, but I've already told my parents long ago, they're not messing with my younger brothers's love life, he said, "he have zero qualms cutting anyone off if they try to interfere".

Obviously copied from Twitter, in fact it was trending. But it sounds fabricated.

StubbornGENIUS:
What an ungrateful Family.Chai!I feel sorry for this kind love to be honest.If he loves you, my advice is to elope with him to another country,shikina.

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What about your family? How sure are you they're not going to resist? Is your girlfriend also ready to cut her family off like you? Let's wait till that time comes.

And we are here shouting racism wen tribalism is killing us.

Useless black pple

yazga:
I am convinced that the Igbos are the most inconsiderate set of hypocrites. How can your mother be the one to decide your fate or choose who to marry? Not even at the start of the relationship? Over two years and your Mom is influencing your decision?. op please leave !!

They are not the only inconsiderate set of hypocrites, it happen to other tribes too be it Yoruba or hausa. I'm a yoruba guy, if I bring in an igbo lady, my mum will not be in support of her at first but if I try to convince her she may change her mind. So it doesn't happen to only igbos alone, also to other tribes.

I understand that love conquers all, but how can he think that his parents will allow him marry a Yoruba lady, most parents tolerate inter state marriage as long as it is the same native language that is spoken. Some parents do not even allow their son or daughter marry outside the state they are from. Inter tribe marriage is really difficult.

Even if you get married to him, His family won't be at peace with the marriage. And remember that you are not just marrying him, you're also marrying his family. With that being said, Remove your Wig and RUN!!

boxer022:
I understand that love conquers all, but how can he think that his parents will allow him marry a Yoruba lady, most parents tolerate inter state marriage as long as it is the same native language that is spoken. Some parents do not even allow their son or daughter marry outside the state they are from. Inter tribe marriage is really difficult.

We aint ready to grow.

QuinModah:
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Anywhere will suffice for now.How can parents dictate the life of a grown man who is obviously old enough to marry?

You’re a beautiful lady, kindly pick up and move on, you might be in love with the guy, but when the mother starts frustrating you in the relationship after you get married to him, you’ll dislike the guy.

Choose peace of mind over love.

The fact that people seem to think that when you marry someone, you're marrying his/her family is a very wrong mentality please...

Leezah:
Even if you get married to him, His family won't be at peace with the marriage. And remember that you are not just marrying him, you're also marrying his family. With that being said, Remove your Wig and RUN!!

For the past 30mins wen i saw your post it entertained me while i was enjoying my beans and fish

now for my comment

: you can both elope but that is when he suggests but for now no offence but

"sis get a move on"

StubbornGENIUS:
What an ungrateful Family.Chai!I feel sorry for this kind love to be honest.If he loves you, my advice is to elope with him to another country,shikina.

Op don't try this advise ooo...
No go provoke village people for your matter ooo
I advice you just let go...God go provide another man

Lol! If you marry a man without his mother's approval, be ready for the war

But if his mother tells me we can't marry because they're Igbo,my dad is Igbo, if they're Yoruba,my mum's Yoruba, if they're Hausa,my grandma's Hausa.
Let's see how far she can shift goal post.

My elder brother married a Yoruba woman from Ondo,my mother wanted to play the tribe card but when she saw that my brother doesn’t even care and we the siblings supported his decision. She backed out. Mother’s have power but this is dependent on your boyfriend

Attention seeker

Gtfoh !!!

Your guy has to make his choice, it's him establishing his own family and his mum won't be there with him...

I don't think it's about tribe, it's more of power and control, deciding what goes on in her son's family and she probably sees you as a threat to her authority

It's two years already, you and your guy should have an intense discussion and settle this out once and for all to avoid delays and heartbreaks in the end

But this is Twitter story na , abi you dey bear Adeola
https://www.nairaland.com/5905035/yoruba-lady-shares-ordeal-meeting

My sister...
The best option is to put the situation in prayers...
Let God touch the heart of the mother cause; like it or not... Mother's have a very strong bond and control over their sons
Even if he loves you and even elope with u...
Believe me; all is not well...
If the woman means u, that marriage will become a train wreck and the man will be convinced to marry another woman with you left to take care of kids and all...
Unless you travel to another country that favors women like America.
Then the pressure will reduce because they know over there, no nonsense is taken! And it's the man that will lose

Justbehave:
You people keep recycling one particular story.By the way.Are really inlove with him or his money because from the way you re talking,it seems he is rich.I know the story is fake but continue.

Did you read the post at all?

Op na my friend story you don come write here as yours??

MPESA:
But this is Twitter story na , abi you dey bear Adeola
https://www.nairaland.com/5905035/yoruba-lady-shares-ordeal-meeting

Ha!! I surprise too ooo.... Adeola na my friend oo.. I doubt the story oo...Since I've known her, she's been single oo...so I surprise when I saw her story on Twitter..
I dey question am for WhatsApp like this when all these wan happen

themaestro08:
Obviously copied from Twitter, in fact it was trending. But it sounds fabricated.

My brother the same girl in question is my friend o...
I just dey laugh since morning I swear.

PerfectMatchNG:
What about your family? How sure are you they're not going to resist? Is your girlfriend also ready to cut her family off like you? Let's wait till that time comes.

Guy read always read. The OP is a girl.

Lingardnapipe:
Attention seeker

Gtfoh !!!