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Wolgrace:
The topic itself speaks volume of the "fear of the unknown." Fear is a breeder of present presumption and destroyer of the future.

My observation:


Each generation has its own vision, purpose, destiny, script, accomplishment, and history which must be actualised. The present generation seems to be most carnal, woeful, dreadful, sodomy, abominable, reprobate, abounding iniquities, and prophetic times of last days. Reason this generation is waxing cold in love, wisdom, understanding, knowledge, spirituality, prayer, fasting, mentality, counselling and guidance, discipline, manners, conduct, morality, law, commandments, principle, and carefulness which results to all round wreckages such as separation, divorce, uncontrollable temper and anger, hatred, abuse, intolerance, conspiracy, & disunity in many homes.


The fire against this generation is so huge and disastrous that it takes the strong to conquer, not by riches but double efforts of sustainance e.g WISDOM, ENDURANCE, SELFCONTROL, TOLERANCE, PRAYER, ETC.

cayorday89:
Everything you said here were very much experienced in previous generations, reason why I can say this is that I grew up in a face me I face you apartment in one of many buildings scattered on a large acre of land that covers two streets in my first ten years of life and experienced all these traits as a kid in different families, Youths, religious leaders that cut across all religion, and people of different tribes, packed to my father's house which we alone occupied for some time and same were witnessed in this new area even as I grew up to see different generations of parents, Youths, teenagers and religious leaders and its same but more because the population is simply more compared to then, so my point is all these are apart of human nature, we get to hear more of these because of social media and because of more population which gives room for more bad people and also more good people... So it's not a generational thing but a human nature. As a kid I heard people talking about elderly men going to higher institutions to indulge the ladies then who are in there, same happened in my generation and happening now, which generation will you classify all these people of different age bracket, that's just an example I want you to take note of... Last last na you know the values wey you go like choose for yourself and luckily your children might follow suit...
As the OP described above, there are lovely marriages that lasted till old age in past generations and in present generations, same with failed marriages and patchy ones that will just live it out till death calls...

worworbabe:
It's a lie. Love would make quarrelling difficult for you. It will nudge at your heart every moment of it that you won't want to ever put yourself or your partner in that situation again. If you quarrel often, what can you claim to love about the other person?

nautybride:
You are right. This generation have lost true love.

smiliyB:
Modify- I decided to adjust the headline, that's my own opinion. My aim of creating this thread is for us to discuss and leave meaningful comments for our own good. Not to start debating on the story's headline.

I have this experience with two married couple on two different occasions on my way back to East. So, I'm just wondering is it that they fell out of love or they never loved each other from the onset. What really happen? What can be done to keep the fire burning (I mean the fire of love oo ) between couples even till old age.

I know you're desperate to know what happened, let me share with you. But it's really big sha, so try and be patient. I'll try my best and limit it too.

Before I start, let me talk about my parents a little. I never experience this with my parents, my dad left this world 2007, at the age 63years but I haven't seen where my parents talked back at each other in a disrespectful manner inside the house talk more of doing such outside our home. I was a teenager when my dad left, so it's not that I was a child during those times and I couldn't notice a hot argument. If there's any argument, they do settle it in peace. Okay, Back to the story!

On my way back to East from Lagos State, I came across one couple let say they may be in their late 50's or early 60's. We met on the same place I came to board a vehicle to travel back to my home. I immediately noticed how this couple talks back at each other, at first I thought may it's normal but it was consistent and I was really bordered on how their lives will be inside their house. I sat next to the woman and the husband was on a different row entirely.

The first case, the husband asked the wife if she needs anything, like if she'll eat food and the wife snapped back at him to leave her alone. She said, you have been dragging me up and down since morning and my legs are just paining. I told you let's come straight to this place but you refused and we have moved from ikorodu garage to ojota and finally we are back to that same place you refused to come at first. The husband shouted back at her and left because our bus was still loading. While the wife kept on complaining to herself, even though the husband wasn't there anymore.

I'm very happy she didn't turn to me to complain, I don't really have strength for such, it always drain my energy...Lol... I kukuma mind my business, I didn't even ask anything. This is just one of plenty nags inside the vehicle till we got to East. They were just like cat and rat living together from my little experience with them.

The second couple is just the exact case like the first couple and almost the same age bracket. Let me not drop excess write up on it. So, after my second experience with this couple, I remembered the first couple and I'm just wondering what is happening Please marry your friends, marry someone you can leave the rest of your life with. Don't just marry because you want to marry and age is no longer on your side. Back to the question I asked earlier, please drop meaningful comments on how couples can sustain their love for each other even till old age. Thanks everyone!

Tozic:
Just because yours didn't work out well doesn't mean someone's else won't. Like you don't still believe that there still exist loyal and faithful remnants.

Nooil:
Pray to God to give you your husband. If He doesn't answer, it means you're destined to be single. If you force yourself on a man by getting pregnant for him, expect the worst.

gracevile:
dont take it the wrong way truth is we cant say for a fact we know someone because of how far or how long u have been together is the shortest rout to death. just open ur eyes

CsRockefeller:
Putting God and destined to be single in the same sentence is out of place.

For the thoughts he has for us are thoughts of good, to give us an expected end.

Nooil:
Pray to God to give you your husband. If He doesn't answer, it means you're destined to be single. If you force yourself on a man by getting pregnant for him, expect the worst.

Nooil:
Matthew 19:10-12

Tozic:
Yours didn't go well? Would be glad to here from you.
I'm being honest here.

CsRockefeller:
So my dear sister in the lord, who is an eunuch?

Tozic:
It was the same God you are taking about that gave Adam Eve. It was also the same God that said when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing, so I don't know how God would create a man and a woman and still destine them to be single. That somewhat sounds abusing to Him.

Nooil:
If you lack understanding after reading the Bible, pray to God to give you. I don't have the strength to argue. Bye!

CsRockefeller:
Lol. You want to gaslight me, mba! You can't.

Did you read the previous verse that led to the discussion?

You picked out a verse that didn't correlate with the topic your post in an attempt to justify your own personal opinion and when questioned you japa!

You truly have understanding, typical feminine behaviour.

smiliyB:
Modify- I decided to adjust the headline, that's my own opinion. My aim of creating this thread is for us to discuss and leave meaningful comments for our own good. Not to start debating on the story's headline.

I have this experience with two married couple on two different occasions on my way back to East. So, I'm just wondering is it that they fell out of love or they never loved each other from the onset. What really happen? What can be done to keep the fire burning (I mean the fire of love oo ) between couples even till old age.

I know you're desperate to know what happened, let me share with you. But it's really big sha, so try and be patient. I'll try my best and limit it too.

Before I start, let me talk about my parents a little. I never experience this with my parents, my dad left this world 2007, at the age 63years but I haven't seen where my parents talked back at each other in a disrespectful manner inside the house talk more of doing such outside our home. I was a teenager when my dad left, so it's not that I was a child during those times and I couldn't notice a hot argument. If there's any argument, they do settle it in peace. Okay, Back to the story!

On my way back to East from Lagos State, I came across one couple let say they may be in their late 50's or early 60's. We met on the same place I came to board a vehicle to travel back to my home. I immediately noticed how this couple talks back at each other, at first I thought may it's normal but it was consistent and I was really bordered on how their lives will be inside their house. I sat next to the woman and the husband was on a different row entirely.

The first case, the husband asked the wife if she needs anything, like if she'll eat food and the wife snapped back at him to leave her alone. She said, you have been dragging me up and down since morning and my legs are just paining. I told you let's come straight to this place but you refused and we have moved from ikorodu garage to ojota and finally we are back to that same place you refused to come at first. The husband shouted back at her and left because our bus was still loading. While the wife kept on complaining to herself, even though the husband wasn't there anymore.

I'm very happy she didn't turn to me to complain, I don't really have strength for such, it always drain my energy...Lol... I kukuma mind my business, I didn't even ask anything. This is just one of plenty nags inside the vehicle till we got to East. They were just like cat and rat living together from my little experience with them.

The second couple is just the exact case like the first couple and almost the same age bracket. Let me not drop excess write up on it. So, after my second experience with this couple, I remembered the first couple and I'm just wondering what is happening Please marry your friends, marry someone you can leave the rest of your life with. Don't just marry because you want to marry and age is no longer on your side. Back to the question I asked earlier, please drop meaningful comments on how couples can sustain their love for each other even till old age. Thanks everyone!