Mcheew! It's like you also want to sample her cherry. Wetin concern you with her private life

Relieving her of her job isn't the right thing to do. Since you don't have the mind to ignore her why don't you talk to her most people value little advises though and if you check well am quite sure the manner of approach in which you speak to her will determine if your words would have effect on her or not..

Just give it a try though

[quote author=Ningen post=90367394]We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity. [/q
You've been made my day bro. Only you among many is different in opinion and I sincerely follow your candid submission

OritaIbadan:

I had even tried to ignore but am not finding it very easy thats why I informed my wife and brought it up here just to be sure I do the right thing

Hummmmmm, Op, there are many comments here that are Not good, but few people have given good once. When you see the thing or life of another person being destroying, do you think God will take Minding your Business from you? I'm sure God will not because we are expected to be our brothers and our sisters keeper. God allowed Op to know this for a Particular PURPOSE. He does not want the death of a sinner, but want a sinner to come to repentance. Op, don't mind your business, if you do, God will not take that from as an excuse if anything bad happen to the girl. The only way the girl will appreciate you is that you allow God to use you to deliver her from destruction which she might not appreciate At the beginning But LATER she will appreciate You and the host of heaven will also appreciate you. People who are saying mind your business are kind of people destroying girls and ladies life and that's why we are having problem I want you Op to do the following.
1. Pray to God first on how to handle the matter.
2. Ask her why she's doing that. No matter the reason, allow God to use you to help her out.
3. Be praying for her that God should deliver her to turn a new leaf.
Take my little cent, Op.

Bro if she is your daughter will you disown her?. Call her one day after sales ,talk to her as if to say that she is your daughter .advice her like she your daughter she will definitely change not sacking her.

Originalsly:
Hmmmm.... why not say you have feelings for her from jump? ... you're treating her different from others who were there before her..... she's always with Bible and manual.... at work?? .... you buy things for her and dash her money.... to draw her closer to you? Bro.... save the Facebook explanation.... I don't buy it.... you found a way to get into her fb account to find out about her private life. You want to ppaybfather figure.... did you find out about her father?...her family?... did cross your mind to talk to them about guiding her? When you ask what you really want to know.... which is.... how can I get rid of these other guys and make her focus on me alone?.... only then can we really help you. As of now... we are seeing right thru you.... and so is your wife. Stop gambling with your marriage.

OP.. This is who you are. Just listen to this advice and leave that girl alone and concentrate on your marriage


Cc OritaIbadan

God revile the girl to you for purpose, and that purpose is for you to correct her, not to condemn her, she need help.

annford:





It was wrong for you to have gone through her chat because you'd have frowned at it if reverse were the case. Personally, I don't think it is in your place to judge her or treat her any different just because you dug up some stuffs about her. If you must let her go, you might as well sit her down, tell her your findings, get her to see her wrong and just hope she changes. I had a similar experience. My Wife and I had met a girl who was an unapologetic lesbian. We did all we could to change her but she just didn't want to change. We tried all we could but she remained adamant. She even got pregnant and didn't know who's baby it was. She later started sleeping with everything male in our neighbourhood. Well, she presently has two children by two different men that she doesn't even know their whereabouts. After trying for months to change her, we had to let her go because at some point, she started falling in love with me and I will never cheat on my wife. My wife and I always gave her goof money, clothing's and foodstuffs but she was neck-deep into sex ( casual sex). I'd advise you try rehabilitating her but if it doesn't work, cut her loose.

there is sometin I tell everyone Abt life: if an issue is above ur control tell it to God, no issue cn be resolve without him God! So u didn't explore all d solutions

Oga mind your biz
Chai

The responses of mind your business shows how majority of Nigerians are naturally wicked and selfish.

Cold catch me for this one Just 21 years

Na ur wife? Wetin concern u

Justbehave:
NICE ONE. All this people saying the op is interested in her ,you all are fools.Once again,thank you for this wonderful and matured response.

As in, I'm so disgusted at the level of thinking on this thread. So because he is worried about her well-being it means he has feelings for her?

Disgusting mindset.

Elvis778:

21 is not a minor, stop sounding ridiculous,the OP invaded her privacy,
everyone has a private life to live and so long as they don't want to share it, no one has the right to invade, talk more of judge.....has she ever poked her nose into the OP's affairs?
if her private life ain't affecting your business, just act like you know nothing, that's what bosses do...

Thank you

Ningen:
We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity.

Another sane comment! Thanks for this.
cc Orbitalbadan

Newboss:


21 year old minor. Wow. Nigeria finallu produced a genius

I don’t even understand these amebo people

OritaIbadan:
I employed this 21years old lady last year as a sales rep. At resumption to work she appeard so decent and godly always With her Bible and Sunday school manual. I was really impressed by her spiritual and respectful nature. This made me treat her different from others. I buy her things and sometimes gives her money and always discuss her good life style with my wife. But what amazed me was that my wife was so indifferent about her each time I discuss her my wife will quickly change the topic. I thought, well woman with their naughty behavior towards other women.

Fast forward to June first this year her phone was stolen and I have a phone in office that I allow them access to incase their phone is off I can easily reach them through it. This faithful day, I tried to access my Facebook account using the office phone and found out that this same lady had used it but forget to logout. Well, I knew it was wrong to check her inbox but all the same I did.

After checking her inbox I couldn't sleep all night. I found out that she is having unprotected sex with 5 guys each guy per Sunday and she just did an abortion March this year the very day she told me that she was sick and can't make it to work and she wasn't sure who among the guys that impregnated her. I also found out that she had missed her period again and trying to hang it on one of the boys. The amazing thing is that non of these guys suspects her, they all believe she is a faithful girl friend.

I have thought of relieving her of her job, but my wife is asking me what should I give as reasons. But the truth is that I had never winessed such a wayward life before. If I pretend as though I know nothing she will eventually commit another abortion and continue with such life which is very dangerous at her age. What if she is my own daughter?

Please I want the mode to push this to the front page. I want to seek others opnion about it

If you fire that girl you will be in pepper soup, i promise you.

1. You gave her authorized access to use the phone.

She accessed facebook.

Questions -
a) Do you have any disclaimer on use of company electronic media for private and personal business?

b) When you discovered the facebook account, did you obtain owner's authorization prior to collecting information from the account?

c) You shared the info about her pregnancy and abortion with third parties! Mmtcccheeewwww.... This is unauthorized distribution of private medical records.

Ok, let's do this. Tell the girl to email me.

Yanga sleep trouble wake am.

annford:





It was wrong for you to have gone through her chat because you'd have frowned at it if reverse were the case. Personally, I don't think it is in your place to judge her or treat her any different just because you dug up some stuffs about her. If you must let her go, you might as well sit her down, tell her your findings, get her to see her wrong and just hope she changes. I had a similar experience. My Wife and I had met a girl who was an unapologetic lesbian. We did all we could to change her but she just didn't want to change. We tried all we could but she remained adamant. She even got pregnant and didn't know who's baby it was. She later started sleeping with everything male in our neighbourhood. Well, she presently has two children by two different men that she doesn't even know their whereabouts. After trying for months to change her, we had to let her go because at some point, she started falling in love with me and I will never cheat on my wife. My wife and I always gave her goof money, clothing's and foodstuffs but she was neck-deep into sex ( casual sex). I'd advise you try rehabilitating her but if it doesn't work, cut her loose.

Oga I don't understand you. A lesbian who has two children by having sex with men and has even taken to casual sex, how is that possible?
Two things, she's either heterosexual or "audio lesbian"

Ningen:
We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity.

Op take dis advice n act fast.

business should be business so long she is carrying out her duties and not allowing her wayward life affect your business

MetaPhysical:


If you fire that girl you will be in pepper soup, i promise you.

1. You gave her authorized access to use the phone.

She accessed facebook.

Questions -
a) Do you have any disclaimer on use of company electronic media for private and personal business?

b) When you discovered the facebook account, did you obtain owner's authorization prior to collecting information from the account?

c) You shared the info about her pregnancy and abortion with third parties! Mmtcccheeewwww.... This is unauthorized distribution of private medical records.

Ok, let's do this. Tell the girl to email me.

Yanga sleep trouble wake am.

Mr lawyer you de do probono case

ehinmowo:


Oga make una keep quiet. Forming holier than thou. Father figure ko mother figure ni. Biko how is 21 years a minor? because country bad and she working as a sales rep bah? What in the world even made the idiot oga to go and check her INBOX. It's not as if inbox is the home page you would first see when you open a webpage.

What was he snooping around for? He wants to bang the poor girl. I can bet my balls that that nigga has sent obscene messages to several girls on fb. Imagine someone displaying your private life in the open because he pays you some useless money that is not even enough to eat food in fast food? Even God does not display people's privacy in the open.

Why is it so difficult for people to keep business strictly business? because he pays her one useless 10 or 20k per month which is not up to 20 Naira per hour gives him right to pry into her private life. In a sane country that guy could go to jail for this nonsense.

Note this is not to support her way of life. But first a 21-year old is an adult. And the boss is not in the position to do anything about it.

i don’t understand what exactly is wrong with people. A 21 years old is a full blown adult . Mind ur business

na this kind small girl go dey comot man condom...dem like skin dive

OritaIbadan:

Alright just thinking as a father is it the best

If you want to do the work of a father then sacking her isn't just it....if you're not shy talk sense into her

if you relieve her of her duty it doesn't makes her any better does it?

CHURCH na scam
Even married woman they use am scam the husband

OritaIbadan:

Alright just thinking as a father is it the best

You sure are taking a beating on this. Everyone is acting as if the human psyche is divisible. They have bought into pop culture. You have a position that requires a staff person who makes reasonable decisions. Let us even leave morality. This woman is not making good decisions and should something happen to her the Nigerian police will look for the maga that can pay, and these people on NL mouthing their 21st century relativism will dissappear. It is your decision alone. It is not about being a father, it is about being wise.

You speak like a Christian or at least a moral person. If you are you must know that you cannot get a good decision on a public fora. You must act according to what you know because what you know is what you will be judged on. Just know this, it is wrong to mislead the blind, it is wrong to see even your neighbours cattle go astray and you say it is not your business. The watchman who sees danger and does not warn, the blood of the people is on his head. Finally you shall not follow a multitude ( NL opinion makers) to do evil or sit in the counsel and advice of those who scorn God.

You don't have to be perfect to take a moral decision. All those people implying that you are judging here are running away from something. You must the a decision and that buck stops with you.

Ningen:
We all have a responsibility towards building a sane society. As her employer, don't turn a blind eye to her promiscuous lifestyle. She's just 21.

As such, sacking her wouldn't solve anything.
What she badly need right now is sex education.

Your wife can take that responsibility.

It's a step forward if she learns from a woman about the dangers of promiscuity & unprotected sex. Please do that for the sake of humanity.

Makes Sense... OP should act like he is not aware and allow his wife talk to her.

codeKart:



She's not a minor. She's 21. She is allowed to live her life however she chooses.
Also, from what the OP has said, her personal life does not affect her work attitude. It's none of the OP's business what she does in her spare time.

I also want to point out that 21 is prime age for youthful exuberance. All things being equal, the girl will calm down and mature as she gets older. As long as it does not affect her work productivity, let her be.

The most OP should do is ask his wife to speak to her about practicing safe sex

very correct , she would definitely clam down. at this stage , no one can advice her only life experiences can change her, this stage she’s exercising her adulthood freedom, she would definitely get tired of it .

Nezzjnr:
You guys are saying OP should mind his business... For what exactly??
Didn't you see where OP stated that he's like a Fatherly figure to her and she's different from the others

This girl is still a minor working as a sales rep... If something bad happens to her... All fingers will be pointing towards OP.

I minor? At 21? May be im the only one seeing something else

BabaJoe001:


If you think 21 is not a Minor, then you shouldnt had given that last Advice. Seems you are confused yourself. 21 is not yet Matured. Many shit we did in our early 20s that we not proud of and we had wished we had someone who could advise us then

will u shut it , 21 years are married with kids , and u are saying 21 isn’t matured ? Rubbish talk

make we mind our business.....
make we mind our business......

naim Nigeria take spoil. OP you can counsel her, or let your wife do it. Be polite and wise about it. pls do not sack her. This is a time to proof you're a Father & Leader