MedicH:


what do u know about accords?

Loads, the issue is not Accords..... But this particular one.... You get my drift......

Let me put it gently, if you see pre, you might consider putting your bank account on an overdose prescription of zopiclone......

Lexusgs430:


Loads, the issue is not Accords..... But this particular one.... You get my drift......

Let me put it gently, if you see pre, you might consider putting your bank account on an overdose prescription of zopiclone......

hmmm i see

ur assumptions are not concrete enough unless you've seen it first hand. i would have taken it more serious if you're refering to accords of that year. however, i will go over and see things myself

MedicH:


hmmm i see

ur assumptions are not concrete enough unless you've seen it first hand. i would have taken it more serious if you're refering to accords of that year. however, i will go over and see things myself

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This life self, you try to hold a meaningful conversation with your girlfriend she will say that you are claiming you know it all.
You keep quiet for peace to reign, they say you are not smart. I tire oh

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This bitch tryna shake the table ?


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Oluromantic:
You now see why it's not easy to let go sometimes especially when it's d other way round. You girls will be so quick to cast terrible aspersions on a guy and say... He doesn't know what he wants, when he knew he doesn't like her, why did he waste her time, he just wanted to be sleeping with her.

And if after letting go and realised he shdnt have, and he comes back to apologise.. aaaah, the worst talks will show up especially with the influence of your fellow rotten-brain female friends who have no wisdom than to just conclude on what they see on the surface.

The truth is some decisions are not easy to take at some points and it's not easy to know what's on the other side that you have not experienced.


I understand that feeling and I'd advice you don't cut out ur communication with him totally, while you satisfy ur curiosity by letting in another guy. If the new guy is ur dream guy, then separate from the former guy respectfully with maturity and not with the sudden rude attitude u ladies give insensitively cus you've found someone else.

But if you find out he's still d best option you've got, then apologize for the slight reduction in communication and begin to build him up to your taste...yes it's very possible... Know his personality, temperament and responses to actions and connect with him from there. Before you know it, you will change him and he'll become a guy many girls are dying to have.

U hardly see intelligent pretty gals

If you leave that guy,you will regret it big time.

HarunaWest:

Yeah you are quite right. Truth is that i decided to lower my expectations of people cos i realized that we Africans reason along sentimental and culture lines. 'One way reasoning'.
The average black man is okay with food, shelter, clothing, wine and of course sex. He doesnt want to venture beyond his horizon due to mental laziness. He is intelligent, but doesnt harness his potential.
Many Nigerians are very intelligent but they are scarce commodity.

Lolz, exactly. The same culture they don't realised evolved a few hundreds of years. They don't want to change from the ways of their fathers but they don't want to roam around naked anymore as if the clothes they wear today are cultural.

The mind of the average black man is satiated as long as none around him is better than him and if he indeed sees any, he sees it as a threat to his ego and his first instinct is to pull it down.
Loyalty is scarce in this part of the world and they will readily abandon even their gods at the sign of trouble.
Let me stop bashing my people.

cynosuree:


for example, I see a controversial post on social media JORO that's been attracting attention. I screenshot and send to him, asks what his opinion is. It doesn't even require too much brain work, just tell me what you think.

cynosuree:
You don't have to be social to be able to contribute intelligently to a conversation. I'm an introvert, not social at all, and I can contribute to pretty much any topic

most guys who communicate very well and seems to be current on many issues/topic have flair for politics.,
I easily run out of what to say when i'm with girls because they won't discuss what I like and, I don't like what they like. They find me too quiet and they don't like it. Make your guy to watch political programmes, take him to quora and share link to articles or piece you've read and have him to review that with you to form a conversation. If he reads more, he'd find the urge to discuss more or will be willing to share his discovery.

if you are smart, you won't be asking this question

cynosuree:




I don't want to be too specific, for the sake of anonymity

What if he is not the Social Media type? I for one thoroughly dislike things like that. Find out what he likes, simple. The fact that he doesn't take you on your discussion points does not make him unintelligent.
Irony of all this is that he may probably find you boring too.

Ariza:
You would probably get same reaction from me if you send me random stuff you find on the internet . And FYI I'm a lady. So I can understand your man and you too. Your Man isn't the chatty type. But you can't tell me there aren't times he shows interest in some things or even try to discuss them with you. Things you sometimes find boring.

My dear you two are kind of different in that aspect, and it's either you work around it, accept it or walk away from it. Whatever you want to do think over it properly. But just know this, I don't consider him Dumb, He has his mind elsewhere. Talk to him, ask him why he hardly engage in conversations with you. The funny thing is He may have same impression of you. . You obviously have been conversing about the wrong things in your relationship.

I don't even trust the OP at all, It is very easy to decipher people. Plan a hangout with his friends, then see the kind of topics he talks about. He may always be talking about science fiction, Space exploration or Elon Musk but her head of full of BBNaija Mercy & Tacha + JORO cheating husbands with side-chics.

Even the worst Introverts have what they talk about when they meet people of similar Interests.

The most intelligent people I know usually talk less, infact more anti-social than anyone else.

athaliya:


Lolz, exactly. The same culture they don't realised evolved a few hundreds of years. They don't want to change from the ways of their fathers but they don't want to roam around naked anymore as if the clothes they wear today are cultural.

The mind of the average black man is satiated as long as none around him is better than him and if he indeed sees any, he sees it as a threat to his ego and his first instinct is to pull it down.
Loyalty is scarce in this part of the world and they will readily abandon even their gods at the sign of trouble.
Let me stop bashing my people.

Pull him down syndrome(PHD) is common with black people and they hate reading.

Since your guy is good and you really love him then work on him cos nobody is perfect.
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bukatyne:


@bold:

Hahahahahahaha

Abi i dey lie? Tell me my sister.

Benwallt:
sometimes when you answer them with great logic, they suddenly go quiet n defensive. Then you start hearing things like, you think I am dumb abi, I am just trying to be reasonable here here. They will make you apologize. The best thing is just to give them the floor n follow them with style but the will conclude that one has nothing to offer.

Hahaha

See you better break up now than break this guys ♥ in future
Nonscence na all this kind thing de vex me.
Let me tell you something that you don't know you can never be100% perfect and correct you too have your own ricom somewhere..

Ybaby:


Yea it does!

It is why men may marry very intellectually smart wives when they are poor but once successful they will step down to women with average IQ but who know how to make a man feel masculine and strong d these men will refuse to let side chic go.

Reason : intellect never made a peniis hard.

Men have two brains and once successful the dominant brain is the peniiss.

Dont believe me : just observe your surroundings

Starter wives are used for ladders and trophy wives are pampered.

Starter wives are intellectual and know how to help a man succeed and trophy wives know how to make a man beg (does not mean she is daft but she does not lead with intellect when with a man - she leads with femininty)

A woman should aspire to be both.

Intellectual for herself

Sexy for her man

This is crass generalization. I am very much turned on by intellect and academic achievement. They add so much to a lady for me, and definitely contribute to my hard on

Kokaine:

No I can't. Whites have girls like this.

We live in different societies. Either you adjust or you go for a white girl.

cynosuree:



for example, I see a controversial post on social media that's been attracting attention. I screenshot and send to him, asks what his opinion is. It doesn't even require too much brain work, just tell me what you think.

His typical reply is "It's cool, I guess"

So I try to get him to be less vague by asking him to explain what he means.

And then he says something like "different strokes for different folks I guess" and then proceeds to ask what I think


I tell him, and he agrees with me... Next thing, "wyd"

the moment you mentioned stuff on social media, I knew you're the problem, not the guy. You must bugged him with the boring girly stories or fake facebook gist he has no interest in. That guy is smarter than you. I advised earlier based on the assumtion that you were finding him not connecting on deeper topic. You need to come up to his level and watch things change.

Hathor5:


It does not work that way. When we first fall in love, we fall in love with the image of the person, which is 80% the making of our fantasy because we don't know know the person yet and don't have the full true picture of them. As we discover their true self we stay in love, fall deeper or fall out.

wow

Well, it's foundation.
He didn't grow up socially (that is, having social friends) he is an introvert.

The only solution is to allow him hang out with your friends more often, Party more often, visit or invite friends home. So during all this time you are doing this, you will start the conversation first then find a way to put him into the matter being discussed.

So with time, he will improve & you Botha can always have some things to talk bout.

cynosuree:
I didn't notice it at first - before we started dating, or I would never have dated him because it is a deal breaker for me.

I have considered telling him but I don't exactly know how to approach the conversation without being rude/insensitive, I know telling him would really hurt him and I don't want that. I've also thought about learning how to live with it, because no one is perfect right? Maybe I'm asking for too much?

What's the point of telling him?
To brag about your superior intelligence?

If what you describe is correct, then that is who he is.
This will be like telling an amputee that he has no hands.
No smart person will do that.

Sometimes it is better to make your decision, act on it, and then shut up.
It is not necessary to tell people why you choose the way you do.

cynosuree:
Looking for his replacement, or "better options" when I'm still in a relationship

The only advice i have for you is, you can as well address his issue by calling his attention to it jokingly or politely.
theres something you should never do which is, don,t ever tell him by comparing him with other guys who speaks brilliantly. it hot realy bad and he may feel insecure around you. Thereby breaking up.

He no go better for u.. Wetin u sef know

athaliya:


Lolz, exactly. The same culture they don't realised evolved a few hundreds of years. They don't want to change from the ways of their fathers but they don't want to roam around naked anymore as if the clothes they wear today are cultural.

The mind of the average black man is satiated as long as none around him is better than him and if he indeed sees any, he sees it as a threat to his ego and his first instinct is to pull it down.
Loyalty is scarce in this part of the world and they will readily abandon even their gods at the sign of trouble.
Let me stop bashing my people.

Lol

OP probably found someone more interesting and comparing him now to her boyfriend. I'm sure you saw how boring he was before you agreed to date him, things are only changing now because someone is holding the type of conversation that your boyfriend never really hold with you.

And guys don't learn these days. Who still asks "what have you eaten?" "How was your day?" In this age? Lol these girls needs surprises and they should never be able to predict you before you eventually do them something. LOL
Y'all SIMPs need to take the red pill to survive this century.

Only if you understand this lady. I understand when lady tries to communicate with his bf without a headways. There is still room for development. You can teach him or watch educative shows together.

Me I just learned how to watch Korean movies from my wife. And we are doing fine now

athaliya:


I faced the same thing with the op, I think I'm smart and vast but my ex isn't smart at all.
He embarrassed me severally in presence of my family and friends, he is only good at issues concerning witches and he sees everything as a witch. We were once having a chat and he got up to chase a lizard saying it's his village people. He used cane to flog a rat to death one day cus the rat was "listening" to his conversations. He moved out of his master bedroom and called his friend over to his place for vigils after he heard a "spiritual snake" hissing.

While I love to talk about anything intellectual, from the Van Allen belt, to horse riding, to quantum physics shown in the flash to Auguste Picard's adventures to even scientific explanation for hypnosis, human psychology bla bla bla.

I stayed with him because he loved me for me, was loyal to a fault and he loved to pamper me but I couldn't bring myself to love him equally. At best I pitied him. I won't add him on social media because I didn't want him to drop embarrassing comments on my timeline. He calls like 15 to 20 times a week just to check up on me and if I have a headache, he will panic.

I started teaching him everything from how to operate a phone, dress smart, throw away dead underwear, correct spellings. I even helped to regulate what kind of pictures he posts on Facebook and the way he poses in the pictures.

I decided to leave when he said I was ashamed of him despite everything he did for me and I was sleeping with my male friends. He said I don't call more than 3times a month which is true because he already calls too much and even if I call, he can't hold a conversation.

He's caring to a fault. Should I have stayed with him?

You're not at fault my sister.

Men of this age don't want to drop the ways of their ancestors. They want to continue living in the 18th century, you don't deserve to live with him. It's the 21st century for Pete's sake

lanibi:
hmmmmm
Pray tell
What is it about Melania Trump and Michelle Obama? I'm curious about your comparison.

Isn't it obvious?

BTW, you seem intelligent. I like that.

Thank you. I try.