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Why stand idly by watching a raging fire destroy from friend's family? Why not look for water to douse the flame and quickly put a call to fire service to intervene.

incogni2o:
You say she is a good Woman, A good Woman will rather speak to her Husband wisely, not in the open where the Man's ego is offended.

A good Woman should know commanding her Husband to apologize wouldn't go down well.

Your Friend is obviously wrong.

The Wife can be Better in handling Him.

I was already looking for a comment like this, cos most guys up there are just saying thrash as if they don't understand man's ego. How can she support other men's action against her husband's action in the presence of those friend? No matter what she has to be wise about it and don't hurt the ego of the man. Cos that in itself is disrespectful.

She has no business with issues between friends. She should keep shut in public.

And should I say that friend has a problem. He should stay in his house and look for something doing. How can my wife be calling my friend several times to apologise for issue we had together. If you understand what I mean, something may be cooking in the background softly...And the husband is very smart, and right to act as a real man by shutting her up. That's how it starts, they support other guy against their man in the name of peace and being nice, before u know it,the other guy is already fucking them.
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If she wants to leave she should leave. I wouldn't expect my woman to disrespect me in the public too in the name of mediating in issues. Men issues should be left to men. The woman should go and apologise first for being silly. And I'm sure the man will calm down. There's no issue if she apologises. And the man should never apologise until she also realises that it's wrong to hurt your man's ego supporting other men in public.

Dreyton36:
Good morning NL's

Pls i need advice on how I can be of help to this friend of mine who's marriage is at the verge of separation

I have this friend of mine who I always visit , in fact the only place I visit when I'm less busy or bored at home
He's married and blessed with a very beautiful and understanding lady , but most times that I visit them I kind of notice how they behave towards each other in a way that even a stranger will easily notice something's wrong
This friend of mine (Male) is the type that goes for anything under the skirt and he's blessed with a curvy and busty woman and she's pretty and educated , her family are also doing well
They have 2 beautiful daughters
There was a day we were sitting outside of his house , me and my friend (him) were arguing about a certain plant
The argument was just simple , I was like this particular plant is only meant for blood flows anytime someone is injured and not for cooking soup, "that was my claim"
And he was against it and claims that it's eatable
All of a sudden he just abandoned me and others outside which i didn't like ,
His wife was against it and made him understand that such little argument is not enough reason to abandon your visitors outside that it's insultive which is true cuz I felt disrespected and I also went home
The next day his wife called my phone and apologized on his behalf and stylishly blamed it on alcohol and I understand how a good woman will do anything to cover up her husband's mess
By noon (PM) one of my friend who happens to also be at the scene of the argument now told me that immediately I left , this my friend came outside and his wife was telling him to call my phone to apologise that he did wrong by abandoning us outside and he gave his wife a dirty slap
When I heard of it I was shocked because I never for once like to hear anything about a man hitting his woman
I made a decision never to visit him no more , and every single day his wife still calls me to apologise but sje never made a mention of the slap , so i was just confused on what to believe in whether my other friend was true about the slap or not
About a week he called my phone , and the reason why he called was because he had a lady that he wants to eep at my crib , like I said he bleeps anything and he can even borrow money to bleep that's how bad he is
And the problem here is that he's not the type that heeds to anyone's advice , (HE's ALWAYS RIGHT )...

three days ago I visited them after we've settled our differences of 3 months ago

Myself and two of my friends went there , to get something done with his PC (laptop) cuz he's good at photoshops

I noticed that he wasn't in talking terms with his wife , at first I was like " guy na husband and wife matter" them go settle
Since he wasn't done with what i wanted him to do for me , i went there again to ask him to get the work done for me , cuz if I'm not there with him he won't attend to it
I also noticed that they're still not in talking terms
And I'm a kind of person who never feels comfortable where there's no love , and never getting to speak mind is something I'll never do
I called my friend privately and told him of my observation
He said he has no problem that it's his wife who's ignoring him and I was like have you at least tried to put a smile on her face by apologizing, he said he can't do that never
And seems I already know the kind of person he is , I can't even tell him what to do cuz he'll never listen
All of a sudden two more guys came in (our friends)
They also noticed the same thing and they weren't feeling comfortable as well
When this my friend in question stepped out to get something close-by the three of us now asked the wife what's going on that we don't like they way they've been ignoring their selves for long , that even if they're having issues they shouldn't make it obvious for we the visitors to understand something's wrong
She narrated what happened and I've been worries about it since last night but due to shayo (alcohol) I forgot to post it here until now

She said her husband didn't sleep at home and she wasn't happy about it , instead of him to apologise and at least tell her the reason why he didn't sleep at home , he gave her a dirty slap
Immediately she said it I got pissed , buy what can I do in this kind of situation
I can't fight him, it's his wife , and i can't advise him cuz he doesn't takes no one's advice
And his wife is making us understand that she's got few days left in his house
This woman I question is very respectful and calm anytime you visit them , you can't even lack of anything when she's around , and as their close friend what can we do to settle this problem cuz I'm puzzled already
Set awon experts pls come in and help out , thanks

I think u Nd ur friends are g boys

Dreyton36:
Good morning NL's

Pls i need advice on how I can be of help to this friend of mine who's marriage is at the verge of separation

I have this friend of mine who I always visit , in fact the only place I visit when I'm less busy or bored at home
He's married and blessed with a very beautiful and understanding lady , but most times that I visit them I kind of notice how they behave towards each other in a way that even a stranger will easily notice something's wrong
This friend of mine (Male) is the type that goes for anything under the skirt and he's blessed with a curvy and busty woman and she's pretty and educated , her family are also doing well
They have 2 beautiful daughters
There was a day we were sitting outside of his house , me and my friend (him) were arguing about a certain plant
The argument was just simple , I was like this particular plant is only meant for blood flows anytime someone is injured and not for cooking soup, "that was my claim"
And he was against it and claims that it's eatable
All of a sudden he just abandoned me and others outside which i didn't like ,
His wife was against it and made him understand that such little argument is not enough reason to abandon your visitors outside that it's insultive which is true cuz I felt disrespected and I also went home
The next day his wife called my phone and apologized on his behalf and stylishly blamed it on alcohol and I understand how a good woman will do anything to cover up her husband's mess
By noon (PM) one of my friend who happens to also be at the scene of the argument now told me that immediately I left , this my friend came outside and his wife was telling him to call my phone to apologise that he did wrong by abandoning us outside and he gave his wife a dirty slap
When I heard of it I was shocked because I never for once like to hear anything about a man hitting his woman
I made a decision never to visit him no more , and every single day his wife still calls me to apologise but sje never made a mention of the slap , so i was just confused on what to believe in whether my other friend was true about the slap or not
About a week he called my phone , and the reason why he called was because he had a lady that he wants to eep at my crib , like I said he bleeps anything and he can even borrow money to bleep that's how bad he is
And the problem here is that he's not the type that heeds to anyone's advice , (HE's ALWAYS RIGHT )...

three days ago I visited them after we've settled our differences of 3 months ago

Myself and two of my friends went there , to get something done with his PC (laptop) cuz he's good at photoshops

I noticed that he wasn't in talking terms with his wife , at first I was like " guy na husband and wife matter" them go settle
Since he wasn't done with what i wanted him to do for me , i went there again to ask him to get the work done for me , cuz if I'm not there with him he won't attend to it
I also noticed that they're still not in talking terms
And I'm a kind of person who never feels comfortable where there's no love , and never getting to speak mind is something I'll never do
I called my friend privately and told him of my observation
He said he has no problem that it's his wife who's ignoring him and I was like have you at least tried to put a smile on her face by apologizing, he said he can't do that never
And seems I already know the kind of person he is , I can't even tell him what to do cuz he'll never listen
All of a sudden two more guys came in (our friends)
They also noticed the same thing and they weren't feeling comfortable as well
When this my friend in question stepped out to get something close-by the three of us now asked the wife what's going on that we don't like they way they've been ignoring their selves for long , that even if they're having issues they shouldn't make it obvious for we the visitors to understand something's wrong
She narrated what happened and I've been worries about it since last night but due to shayo (alcohol) I forgot to post it here until now

She said her husband didn't sleep at home and she wasn't happy about it , instead of him to apologise and at least tell her the reason why he didn't sleep at home , he gave her a dirty slap
Immediately she said it I got pissed , buy what can I do in this kind of situation
I can't fight him, it's his wife , and i can't advise him cuz he doesn't takes no one's advice
And his wife is making us understand that she's got few days left in his house
This woman I question is very respectful and calm anytime you visit them , you can't even lack of anything when she's around , and as their close friend what can we do to settle this problem cuz I'm puzzled already
Set awon experts pls come in and help out , thanks

My friend if you want advice he is it... MYB

That's Mind Your Business.

She is educated, she can deal with domestic violence.

Again mind your business, if not one day they will make love on top your head. Then you will now be the fool.

Dreyton36:
Boss this person doesn't give a bleep about any family member, he's even the eldest

That is too bad.Then only God can do this one

OP na busybody dey worry u. Why don't you mind your business and leave their marriage alone. It's like na you village people send to scatter that marriage kwa? Already you don dey notice she is fine, she has hips, curves and boobs. How she is best behaved and a good earner. Later you will come here and tell us how you slept with your friend's wife. Leave your friend's wife alone before thunder strike you. Marriage on fire kee you dia

Carchoice:
Oga make una free those married couples


Trooping there always is not cool. And why will the wife be calling you to apologize on her husband’s behalf? Careful bro.

You friend is bad but correct him from a distance.

Distance yourself from that married man if you know what’s good for you. If he’s that bad, what about you his friend and other friends that visit?

Tnx

Dreyton36:
the thing no tire you ?
If I tell him not to make use of my place he go feel somehow nw , reason am

You are one of the problems. Why are you allowing him to fck ladies in your house?

Men that hit their wives, usually end up killing them, it's never intentional, it's starts with slap to full blown fight then proceed to using objects such as pot, spoon to �

If you Na know marriage u na go know say the most calm wife to the face of outsider can be the most wicked wife to the husband. Not saying she is Pls. Just a case! And most time, the best way for partners to value one another is to separate.

And why was she correcting her husband in the open! I visited a church where a wife corrected her husband who happened to be the pastor of the church while in the church pulpit, walahi, the pastor shut her down! I was like wow! Can u see man's ego!

Partners don't beat their egos in the public. Better wait to get inside to do that!

By the way, what kind of friend are you? Giving your crib to your married friend to nab chicks. Yet you are frequent in their house to do 'Oju aiye' to the wife.

Are you sure you are not ready to snatch her if you have the chance especially with how you described her personality and her curvy shape. Eeeh someone else's wife oo be calling una up and down as you said ahhh Funke!

I see hypocrisy here to have even come online to trash out what's none of your business!

incogni2o:
Make sure you hear your Friends side of the story.

Women rarely tell you the complete Story,

Bro, Pls go back and get us the compete version. I don't like supporting just one side in Relationship issues.

Most times both parties have something they aren't doing right

Your Friend gets Drunk, Sleeps around, Always wants to feel Right and Beats His Wife.

His wife hasn't understood him in order to know how to tame and change him.

You also can't do that either and made things worse by supporting his other indulgences.

I'm afraid for that your Friend.

Domestic violence is staring you right in the face and your response is... "Wifey should understand how to tame him"? How do you tame a physical abuser? By turning the other cheek, perhaps? Are you alright in the head?

A serial cheat is exposing his wife and marriage to stds and outside contamination and your advise is... "You need another side to the story"? Is it the side where he comes out to say he's not cheating? Are you this daft?

Wait, is it that men like you are so far up in your ass that you insist women are the guilty party no matter the situation? Are you so egotistical that you can't reason like a learned individual? And yet everyday we wonder why Africa will always be backward when we will always have people like you. Tueh!

Your first step should be to stop letting him use your crib to cheat.

When I was single I had a married cousin who wanted to start bringing girlfriends to my place, I told him straight up I'm not having that!

Poorboy:
From your narration, when you start seeing everything good in your friends wife no let your friend poison you ooo


That slap he slapped his wife you're the cause

Your relationship with his wife is making him feel insecure so change your tactics.

Misogynistic men will always have a reason why a fellow man is behaving like an animal.

Truly, are you not ashamed of yourself?

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Set awon bad husband material

I pity the woman

Stillthebest:


And why was she correcting her husband in the open! I visited a church where a wife corrected her husband who happened to be the pastor of the church while in the church pulpit, walahi, the pastor shut her down! I was like wow! Can u see man's ego!

Partners don't beat their egos in the public. Better wait to get inside to do that!

Domestic violence is what you're pushing forward here with this your comment and it tells a lot of the kind of husband you will be.

See, it is never okay to hit a woman because she challenged your opinion just because your stupid ego can't take it. She's your equal, not your slave.

Sixfeetbelle:
Misogynistic men will always have a reason why a fellow man is behaving like an animal.

Truly, are you not ashamed of yourself?

who is this fool, you don't have better things to do with your life on a Monday morning.

Get busy hypocrite.

Poorboy:
who is this fool, you don't have better things to do with your life on a Monday morning.

Get busy hypocrite.

First of, this is afternoon.
Second, this forum is free for all. Whether I have things to do or not is irrelevant.
Third, can't you argue intelligently? Must you stoop down to the level of ghetto to show yourself?

Like I said, you are exactly like the man Op described so let it not shock you when you end up worse than him in the nearest future.

Good day.

Sixfeetbelle:
First of, this is afternoon.
Second, this forum is free for all. Whether I have things to do or not is irrelevant.
Third, can't you argue intelligently? Must you stoop down to the level of ghetto to show yourself?

Like I said, you are exactly like the man Op described so let it not shock you when you end up worse than him in the nearest future.

Good day.

Your opinion is inconsequential just like you.

So channel your energy into something productive so as to avoid the impending disaster awaiting you.

For you to understand, your opinion is your opinion and there's nothing good about it.

In real life men talk not a nonentity on the privilege of the cheap internet constituting nuisance.

Bye

Poorboy:
Your opinion is inconsequential just like you.

So channel your energy into something productive so as to avoid the impending disaster awaiting you.

For you to understand, your opinion is your opinion and there's nothing good about it.

In real life men talk not a nonentity on the privilege of the cheap internet constituting nuisance.

Bye

You're a misogynistic asshole and you keep on showing it in your comments. Take it or leave it. As you said, your opinion is yours, my opinion is mine. If you had understood that from the very first second, we won't be having these unnecessary mentions.

Sixfeetbelle:
You're a misogynistic asshole and you keep on showing it in your comments. Take it or leave it. As you said, your opinion is yours, my opinion is mine. If you had understood that from the very first second, we won't be having these unnecessary mentions.

you have no value in real life, so take your life frustration to your poor parents.

Or you commit suicide the world will never notice your absence. Idiot

Poorboy:
you have no value in real life, so take your life frustration to your poor parents.

Or you commit suicide the world will never notice your absence. Idiot

I can do this all day you know. Insulting me means absolutely nothing to me as it's the norm here.

As I reiterated earlier, a man who sees nothing wrong in a fellow man being abusive is birds of a feather. You have the tendencies to be like him so watch it.

Poorboy:
you have no value in real life, so take your life frustration to your poor parents.

Or you commit suicide the world will never notice your absence. Idiot

abeg small small Sir

Sixfeetbelle:
Domestic violence is what you're pushing forward here with this your comment and it tells a lot of the kind of husband you will be.

See, it is never okay to hit a woman because she challenged your opinion just because your stupid ego can't take it. She's your equal, not your slave.

I didn't talk about hitting or did I? Neither did I write in support nor against. My comment was centred directly on the Op. I submitted in my first paragraph tht sometimes couples need to separate. And I don't think you need me to spill everything before you know I don't support it. . Get it straight I don't support domestic violence but till thy kingdom come societies can't be free from it from Sokoto to Oron down to Stockholm either I preach it or not, just as there must be marriage! The only society that will be a bit free is where there're prohibiting Laws.

Men are egoistic in nature. So also women but for the weak physical inbuilt of women they refrain but we still have women who hit husbands. Even, in the USA or Uk where there's Law against it, they still hit their wives regardless.

No one needs to push it before it happens.
You would have to go back and reread my post and ensure you comprehend it while at that.

Sixfeetbelle:
I can do this all day you know. Insulting me means absolutely nothing to me as it's the norm here.

As I reiterated earlier, a man who sees nothing wrong in a fellow man being abusive is birds of a feather. You have the tendencies to be like him so watch it.

when they say don't insult Buhari is because Buhari is a president.

A nobody like you is talking about insult, you need to be administered in a psychiatric hospital because you're not thinking properly.

This is POORBOY nairaland I can teach you work, learner!

Poorboy:
when they say don't insult Buhari is because Buhari is a president.

A nobody like you is talking about insult, you need to be administered in a psychiatric hospital because you're not thinking properly.

This is POORBOY nairaland I can teach you work, learner!

First of all, teach yourself to stop thinking with your anus. That way, going ghetto wouldn't come as a last resort.

Dreyton36:
the thing no tire you ?
If I tell him not to make use of my place he go feel somehow nw , reason am

You are enabling adultery. When karma comes calling you sef will have your own share

Sixfeetbelle:
First of all, teach yourself to stop thinking with your anus. That way, going ghetto wouldn't come as a last resort.

You're living in a fool's paradise.

Your scorecard are as follows:

Reasoning ability F9

Frustration. A1

Stupidity A1

Joblessness A1

Hypocrisy A1

Sixfeetbelle:
First of all, teach yourself to stop thinking with your anus. That way, going ghetto wouldn't come as a last resort.

Abeg ignore that one

Poorboy:
You're living in a fool's paradise.

Your scorecard are as follows:

Reasoning ability F9

Frustration. A1

Stupidity A1

Joblessness A1

Hypocrisy A1

"It takes one to know one."

Medunah:
Abeg ignore that one

I want to ooh but he keeps mentioning me as if I owe him something.

But sha, I'll take your advice.

Thank you dear

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