ZeroShenanigan:

I wish you are in my shoes to have a first hand experience of everything like I do.
You called off a relationship, bro it's not an upcoming wedding which date have been fixed. You discontinued a relationship without giving reason, We are talking about genotype here my brother.
I'm only worried deep inside me as well as my wife.
We are both nice persons, We treat each other well even when it seems there is No love between us again. I am only expecting more than what we are doing presently, that's why I'm bothered and feeling sad. If I'm thinking of divorce, definitely it's not yet time, we are still together for now to take care of the baby.

I dont pray u have even one SS. Because then u will realise it is morr easier to call of a wedding 30 minutes before it.

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

They all pushed you this far.....you are not a man enough

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

Brother let me tell u the hard truth....


U guys should abort the baby.....





Then start adopting...


There is nothing wrong with adoption..


I have a cousin who is SS and he blames the parents...


Pls I am begging u for the sake of the kids...


U don't really have to divorce..


Here u can keep ur marriage and have kids

KanwuliaExtra:
Please, there is nothing to be unhappy about. When you choose to be with someone, there are no inconveniences. You work through your problems together and build a formidable network of coping mechanisms.

Life always throws curve balls. I always welcome the challenges and try to deal with them as positively as possible. Yeah, it will be tough, but I don’t think I would want to be with anybody else, because I CHOSE to be WITH YOU.

You are frankly not ready for a relationship, not to mention marriage. The only reason you feel unhappy is that you are SELFISH and you lack INTEGRITY!

You are doomed to be unhappy in any relationship or marriage you get into anyhooooo. People like you always see the imperfections in others, while turning a blind eye to their own MEGA-FAULTS.

You lack resolve and will quit when the going gets tough. Are you the “GOD” that created people?

If you can’t accept your situation, please man up and leave the relationship. Hopefully, the next marriage won’t have BARRENNESS, HIV or CORONA as your excuse to be unhappy.

Shior!

Mental disorder is a serious illness

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

gosh your works ekes Hate....
if that woman dies during labour, her blood will be on your head. I believe she will have HBP now. it is not her fault . Well, pls comfort her this period. the deed is done, live with it.

Fountainofyouth:



I'm a Christian o, but pls go and sleep, the Bible that said prevention is better than cure isn't stupid, God cannot be mocked.


Modified;
I've been told the phrase "prevention is better than cure" isn't in the Bible, let's agree to disagree.

It is actually there but in a different form, 1Samuel 15:22. "Obedience is better than sacrifice".
So it still applies in this case.

FlordFlorez:
Ordinary to date, i'll ask for ur genotype. As a scientist that i am, i know how important that question is. Oga, u really bleeped up for not asking her before proposing.

Seriously this is one of the things one should know up front in the relationship before nuturing and culturing it into marriage

Have you done a second test to confirm the first test results? Before our marriage, my wife's result came as AS, we became scared because mine was AS. We did another test in another hospital, her result came as AA and mine AS, that added to the confusion. We decided to go for the third test in a different Lab, we got the same result AA and AS, that settled it. You can try the same, miracle happens. Cheers, it's not a hopeless situation, your wife loved you and couldn't afford to loose you to any other lady.

I still don't get how people bring their personal issues to social media. Everyone you see is going through one thing or the other.

Genotype or no genotype, man can fall short of any unforseen circumstances..

Why do men freeze these days? What went wrong?

Your wife never give birth yet you are already acting like a female dog. The genotype is isn't the issue but your cowardice. You are perfectionist!

I pity the poor wife thou.

Marriage no longer "for better for worse" but "for better for better"


Pity!!

bjprodint:
an not lying,it actually happened.i didnt believe it myself until she testified in church.God may actually give the op two kids only and they will both be AS.

God did not change anything. It could be a case of wrong diagnosis in the first test. The same happened to me.

Fountainofyouth:



I'm a Christian o, but pls go and sleep, the Bible that said prevention is better than cure isn't stupid, God cannot be mocked.


Modified;
I've been told the phrase "prevention is better than cure" isn't in the Bible, let's agree to disagree.

It is actually there but in another form. 1 Samuel 15:22, "Obedience is better than sacrifice"

It’s already late to screen this baby’s genotype during early stages of pregnancy, hopefully it won’t be a sickler but you can screen subsequent pregnancy and get rid of any which turns out SS. I know a couple who went through same and have 3 AS kids now and aborted one SS.

Medically you have a 25% chance of having AA, 50% AS and 25% SS. However, the more you move and stay on earth the more you see things. I have seen a lady back in school who is SS and today she's happily married. Although a lot of stress and pain involved while growing up.
You've already made the choice of marrying her, so don't even consider divorcing her, instead increase your love for her. You have what others are looking for (your wife), love and cherish the being you've married. Remember Love is the greatest of all. May God bless your home Bro.

What you are doing is wrong,she's your wife, make a peace with her and move on,we are in advance technology,there is an injection and treatment for such things but I don't think it relevant again nowadays,beside I don't expect u to make this as an issue ,it's not possible for all the children to be SS,at least 1 or none,it may be possible that all your children maybe AA or AS,beside, AS, SS stuffs is an old useless theories,I don't even know that people still carry this issue on their heads in Nigeria,very shameful...
U that were educated carry this on Ur head,u are behaving like immature person,tell the truth if u dont love her anymore, stop using this as an excuse ...

There's a way to know genotype of babies before they are born, your chances of SS is 1out 4, which means probably 6 out of your 8 children will be perfectly fine

Terminate any pregnancy that is SS and try conceiving again, don't make the foolish mistake of giving birth to SS, it will render you poor, deprive you of funds to take care of other children and may eventually still die

You are a callous man for emotionally abandoning your pregnant wife, love her and draw her closer, all will be well

Corporate2020:


So this is all you got from his story. You need psychiatric evaluation and mental test.

That individual is one of the most consistently daft people here. I wonder the brand of relaxer that runs in her brain.

You messed up by continuing the relationship, I buried my son 2 years ago, he was 4 years old , my spouse lied about genotype, losing a child is very devastating but seeing a child suffer from sickle cell is 10 times more devastating, we live in US and he had the best health care , we were regulars at children’s hospital , we went there so much that it was our second home, I slept many times there . Please don’t do this to yourself , would you take a journey if you know that you have a 25percent chance of dying? By continuing in this relationship you are gambling with a human beings life, forget prayer there is no cure, though some are lucky that they don’t have sickle cell kids but majority are not

KanwuliaExtra:
Please, there is nothing to be unhappy about. When you choose to be with someone, there are no inconveniences. You work through your problems together and build a formidable network of coping mechanisms.

Life always throws curve balls. I always welcome the challenges and try to deal with them as positively as possible. Yeah, it will be tough, but I don’t think I would want to be with anybody else, because I CHOSE to be WITH YOU.

You are frankly not ready for a relationship, not to mention marriage. The only reason you feel unhappy is that you are SELFISH and you lack INTEGRITY!

You are doomed to be unhappy in any relationship or marriage you get into anyhooooo. People like you always see the imperfections in others, while turning a blind eye to their own MEGA-FAULTS.

You lack resolve and will quit when the going gets tough. Are you the “GOD” that created people?

If you can’t accept your situation, please man up and leave the relationship. Hopefully, the next marriage won’t have BARRENNESS, HIV or CORONA as your excuse to be unhappy.

Shior!

LMAO

muzeze77:
You messed up by continuing the relationship, I buried my son 2 years ago, he was 4 years old , my spouse lied about genotype, losing a child is very devastating but seeing a child suffer from sickle cell is 10 times more devastating, we live in US and he had the best health care , we were regulars at children’s hospital , we went there so much that it was our second home, I slept many times there . Please don’t do this to yourself , would you take a journey if you know that you have a 25percent chance of dying? By continuing in this relationship you are gambling with a human beings life, forget prayer there is no cure, though some are lucky that they don’t have sickle cell kids but majority are not

.my brother... those of us who have first hand experience know exactly how it feels. My 2 young bro are sicklers... one just got discharged yesterday from a recent crisis.

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

Bros, i dont think you truly love her, because going by the way you made the decision to call off the wedding it shows you either never really loved her but you just want to get married because of your age. Which to me is very bad.

I know a beautiful couple. REAL LIFE STORY. Our Family friend.
They had the same issue as you, they met during NYSC but they went ahead with the wedding despite refusal from the boy's parents... The boy insisted that he will marry and take it the risk. (it is not easy to find a good wife) on the wedding day no body came from the boys family because they were against it...... but wedding took place.... as at the last time i checked they have 2 kids. You might be lucky and never have an SS.... Do the genotype calculation, you might not have an SS..... All i can see from your explanation is you never really loved her. Do a personal soul searching of yourself and you will find the answer.

Both of you should repeat the test in a reputable diagnosis center again.
Repeat again in general hospital.

You can do it in five to seven places, don't accept your first result.

Oizee:
I don't even understand people, I ve'always have this believe that people who might be neglecting issue of genotype are uneducated. When you guys were dating and considering future together, it didn't still cross your mind until after introduction to both family right? D deed has been done, just have faith and pray if u believe in miracles of God.

God has done the miracle by making us realise the danger inherent insuch endeavor. Don't put God in this situation again.

bjprodint:
an not lying,it actually happened.i didnt believe it myself until she testified in church.God may actually give the op two kids only and they will both be AS.

You saw them testify in church, did you follow her to a hospital? Chance of two AS giving birth to sickler is only 25%. Maybe they got lucky or God showed them mercy this way. Beware of lies!

oluwaseyi0:
There's a way to know genotype of babies before they are born, your chances of SS is 1out 4, which means 6 out of your 8 children will be perfectly fine

Terminate any pregnancy that is SS and try conceiving again, don't make the foolish mistake of giving birth to SS, it will render you poor, deprive you of funds to take care of other children and may eventually still die

You are a callous man for emotionally abandoning your pregnant wife, love her and draw her closer, all will be well

. Ur statistics of 6 out of 8 is totally wrong... All the wives pregnancies can turn out to be SS. It is 25% of every pregnancy. Meaning each pregnancy MAY or MAY not fall into the 25%.

Op I would advice you read more on IVF/pre implantation genetics diagnosis. It’s still possible to have healthy children
The world has evolved more than as it was b4

Savage reply..anyway where and how did you get this your name?

KanwuliaExtra:



Na me you wan take drag dis dull thread to reach page 3?

Getting emotional indeed. Over an over-flogged, drrrrrry topic?


Please buzz of my mentions and keep your “funky genotypes“ off my ID.
Thanks.


*like me dey come NL with uselesss recycled tory about ancient, genetic, blood craw-craws from cyber nonentities phew*

ZeroShenanigan:
My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold.

This is the part that would have ended every marriage plans immediately.
I pray that child isn't SS. Even at that, keep this statement close to heart.

The Did Has Been Done. All You Have To Do Is To Stand By Her And Believe In God For A Positive Outcome.

Don't you guys read?the guy is a government school teacher,how do you expect him to afford it?huh

Blackicegold:
Op I would advice you read more on IVF/pre implantation genetics diagnosis. It’s still possible to have healthy children
The world has evolved more than as it was b4

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

I will advise you call your wife and sit her down for discussion. Let her know your feelings about the wrong decision you both took to get married despite the red flag. Thereafter, resolve to both be happy as you prepared to welcome your first fruit and also seek your wife's forgiveness over your behaviors all the while. But then you both have to tell yourselves the next step forward after your baby is born. You need to both decide whether to seek for professional guidance(provided you have the money) on how you can have babies free of SS or quite the marriage to avoid the possibility of SS, even if this current pregnancy turned out to be free from SS. Success

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AristocraticMe:
Bros, i dont think you truly love her, because going by the way you made the decision to call off the wedding it shows you either never really loved her but you just want to get married because of your age. Which to me is very bad.

I know a beautiful couple. REAL LIFE STORY. Our Family friend.
They had the same issue as you, they met during NYSC but they went ahead with the wedding despite refusal from the boy's parents... The boy insisted that he will marry and take it the risk. (it is not easy to find a good wife) on the wedding day no body came from the boys family because they were against it...... but wedding took place.... as at the last time i checked they have 2 kids. You might be lucky and never have an SS.... Do the genotype calculation, you might not have an SS..... All i can see from your explanation is you never really loved her. Do a personal soul searching of yourself and you will find the answer.

This is exactly why we still have sickler children. Do u know the genotype of those kids. Do u know what they are passing through. My brother dont say what u dont have complete jnfo about. They may be passing through hell.. even if na only one sickler. That one is enough to make the whole family unhappy especially the mother...