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Prettyvirginia:
OK. Thanks hun. Just that I don't see myself marrying while still in school.

I will reflect deeply on your advice. Nice Sunday to you

Do you school in UNEC?

Blackmoran:
Yea my ex..... She came all the way from benue to leave with me, every day she keeps bombarding me with pictures of people wedding, fantasising on babies and us having kid together... Though this girl was cool she is homely can cook clean and kind of intelligent to spice it up my family loves her so much especially my dad, she has this free spirit personality.. But my instinct wasn't good with the idea it was too good to be true.. And secondly I wasn't ready financially to take on the burden of marriage but this girl never mind.... During December she travelled with my junior sister to his home town, to cut the story short I followed my instinct and today am a surviver of what would have given me heart attack....... During the thick of the moment she started showing are true colour, that homely girl started showing arrogant trait, the change was fast that I thought this can't be true... I did the right thing I broke up with her... Though my dad was sad about it but I let him know I know her more Than Them and what she portray is not who she is... A week after we brokeup my junior sister gave me the shocking news of my life.... That my ex was pregnant. . I didn't believe her cause We haven't had sex up to 4 months meaning when she was with me she was banging another dick... I waited till eight month later to find out she gave birth to a baby boy...and here let me burst your brain the father of the baby was my best friend who I trust so much...na that one pain me pass ... Lesson when a girl is trying to rush you into marraige run for your life.... If you want to get married do it at your convenient time... All girls would be at there good behavior during courtship, this one even take it to the extreme she even dey cut grass for compound... Na after marriage woman go show you are real colour....

omg

From today I don fear anything name girl

luminouz:
Is he myopic now? He just said he didnt wanna be responsible for the upkeep of a whole family while being unmarried. How is that wrong? He sponsored her for 3 good years and deserved some credit.

Can you do that for any man? And still take care of his family needs as a woman and not give up way sooner?

I know dt moniker well, sh concludes every guy is a gold digger...

fuckpro:
Stop insulting that damsel is it by force

oga comot here

boyjo:
She was worshipping you because you paid the bills.
How else was she supposed to show her gratefulness?

More reason I opined he was smart for bailing out.

Summoned spiritually ke....na by force to marry

KevinDein:
It's not unusual for young ladies (20s) to have multiple suitors because that's when they are at the peak of their sexual market value (SMV). The issue here is that women's hypergamous nature gets the better of them. They think these interests are gonna last a life time and they keep holding out for the best option.

A decade later, in their 30s with low SMV, the interests drastically nose dive and they'll probably only get approaches from low value males hence the desperation they show when they meet any man that's half decent. You'll find most of the guys that post on this thread were actually involved with older women.

It's not uncommon.

The best analysis so far. You nailed it!

SweetCunt97:
You are actually very myopic Mr Man. What if you marry a well to do lady and things goes downhill for her and her family? Did u reason that perhaps you both will get elevated once married?

I pray you marry a woman who will pay bills but be a thorn to ur flesh and live to regret ur gold diggy decision.

What ifs, what ifs, what ifs! What if he had married her and he became more poorer catering for his immediate family and that of his wife's.

It's all permutations, no one is sure of the outcome.

You all should stop shaming the guy.

Look at you talking, as if you'll marry a broke guy from a poor family.

Hahahaha my experience was both funny and a very bitter one. The lady in question was 35 while I was 30. She gave me 350k to come and do "egbanku" I collected money and kept it an account waiting for her to request for it when she is tired. When, at apoint she came up with pregnancy trap I requested for a test result which she forged and presented. I pretended I was ok with it until she decided to opened up to me that she was not pregnant for me but for my childhood friend who later travelled out of the country. After some months I gave the 350k for the egbanku and called off the relationship.

pocohantas:
And for ladies reading this, if you really desire marriage- BY ALL MEANS GO FOR IT.

I have seen men who said they are not interested in dating, they want courtship and marriage. 6mth-1yr. No one called it DESPERATION.

Men cannot be DESPERATE,
They only know what they want.

When it is a woman, it becomes DESPERATION.

If you want to marry in record time, leave guys in their 20s. Go straight to 33 and above. Trust me, their “DESPERATION“ would match yours.

I have friends, guys in their 30s with good jobs and one thing is common- THEY ALL WANT TO GET MARRIED.

One would even tell me “I am desperate. If I see a perfect one, I am marrying”. I will tell him I can’t see the desperation, he will tell me to shun.

Some girls are “lucky“ to meet men at this point, so they don’t have to be DESPERATE. You will see that same guy who dated his EX for 6yrs, get married to another lady in 3months.

Once again, if you desire marriage in record time, follow your heart and go for it.

These same guys will call you evening newspaper when you are 30.

There is nothing wrong with being VERY-pro marriage. Let no one blackmail you into running his model all because he is NOT ready. You don’t want to meet a man who is VERY ready, when you are not ready as a woman.

Go for what you want!

not broke men
These women want to marry that will end in suffer. That's the difference

toprealman:
What kind of prayer is this bro?
See things from the other side before you unleash this your prayer.
Unless you've been in his shoes it may sound like rubbish......but the guy has some good reason to take off.

The matter tire me, as if sponsoring her education is not enough.

Carchoice:
If you date an edo lady. Be ready to marry her. Else you’ll be summoned spiritually.

Bruh I'm in big shit ooo

Currently I'm datum an Edo girl the way things are going is like I'll marry her. We've known ourselves since 2015 I was 15years old DAT tym.

If I tell her I don't wanna do again she go vex block later like 1week or more she will call me n say she missed me

B4 I knw I'll see myself dating again

lenghtinny:
You are smarter than smart....

I don’t know why someone would get desperate about marriage as if some death sentence is attached to it.

there is a death sentence attached to it

Ulunne777:
First arrangee. Came back for Xmas and we finally met. He said if I agree before the end of the week we will marry. I refused, Oga wedded another woman end of the week. I marvel at women . You marry someone you are meeting for the first time in less than 3 days.

2nd Arrangee. Suddenly realized he was getting old. I was 19 and just got admission he was 34.There was nothing he didn't promise me even a car. My plans in life didn't have him in it. Will be disturbing me with midnight calls. #1 of his money I didn't see, an importer at that with so many shops. He doesn't give girls money lyk he said.His mum on meeting me for the first time told me if I won't marry him I shouldn't waste his time and money. I left him quick quick.
When I refused and left for school, he dated another girl that he paid for her school fee for 4 yrs including project and clearance then the girl absconded. I was on my way home from school when he met me on the road after 5 yrs to narrate the whole story and started begging me again.you and your mother should Eat your money. Nonsense

3rd was hellish. My lecturer. This man begged me at every opportunity until my course mates started laughing at us. He informed even his colleagues and they joined in begging me. He was in his 40s while I was in my early 20s.

After I went out with him on a lecturers insistence, he was gulping okra soup ND telling me he can't stay a day without eating it. We drove over to his house where he claimed he wanted to pick something. This man inserted porn for meoo and started caressing me as his gbola has risen. God saved me that day. Anuofia..

One week later he called me that our wedding cards was out. See me see wahala, I had to inform my bf and parents. It was war. Laslas he started threatening me with my results in final yr. My lecturer friend and my Course adviser had to warn him.

Almost a decade later, he isn't married yet which is his business anyway.

4th one that I was recommended to. On our first meeting the fool was squirming in his seat and when he could finally muster courage to talk had the guts to ask me if I was ready to bear children. I then asked him if that was all a wife means to him. Idiot. No introductions whatsoever.

They are plenty oo. For one man that esdapes a desperate woman, the woman has escaped 5x more. . E NO get wetin we no dey see.

Ps no pms. I already have 3 boys

I can bet my balls that most of these SIMPS that beg you ladies up and down are mostly not attractive and well grinded and endowed. Money and Power Is very Important but not everything because I know that's what most ugly, shapeless, lowself-esteem Men/Guys normally use to attract ladies to themselves. I know of a quite handsome bachelor with nice body In his late thirties who Is just quite financially okay, nothing really much even he Is still doing his first degree on part-time studies. The way ladies and gurls flocks around this guy Is alarming. I'm someone like this guy but I'm very much younger than him. But mine Is just a little bit different because I Ignore girls/ladies showing me all sort of different lights a lot towards me because I'm not yet ready to settle down and the I feel disgust so much about most of the Set of Girls/Ladies around these days. I wish I could upload my WhatsApp Chat's on here.....As for me If I decide to stay unmarried even till 40years which I don't pray for, I can never run after or beg any Girl/Lady because I'm too slick and endowed and I'm always keeping In shape. It has to be on mutual consent, It must happen naturally...... We must attract each other like a magnet because me myself I don't like too much forming!!!

SweetCunt97:
No one is asking him to take care of any family. He probably presented himself as a messiah na but as shit got real dude japa. What stops him from helping her with a job? Atleast she go dey help her family. He's gone and they'll survive

Haba...after sponsoring her for three years,he should still get her a job? Do you even know his financial status or even if na businessman e be? What of his own family and other obligations? That dude tried biko. Besides,you didn't answer my question about being in his shoes or na only men suppose help women?

Prophylactic:
I have one currently, she persuades me to crazy, she even said let me get her pregnant that we will survive, but I can't put myself under such pressure, since she mentioned that I have never had sex with her... I look for other holes that will not put me in trouble and insect my pen1s there to save myself some headache

No go fall inside hole one day o. Some holes may cause you pain and end in tears.

fairheart:
What if she later make it? What if something good is ahead for the two of you? I know men now run away from women from poor family, and I think it is vice versa. However, I think you have found a wife, but not ready to accept her. I hope and pray you find a good woman. But I understand how you feel, and the burden that dating her piled on you.

oga u won't understand what I faced in the hands of that girl. She is very lazy and not willing to work hard. Even the school I am the one that forced her to go. She is very relaxed that she is going to marry a comfortable man. All her dreams are on me. How do you expect some one with this kind of mindset to do something good for herself.

paulolee:
yup...she no wan use ear hear c.d or contraceptives, she buy pack of pregnancy test kits keep for her locker n they check herself praying it tests positive bt she didnt kno dt am serving a living GOD dt have a better plan for me....spent just a month with her and she de always like de ontop because she don tire 4 my Withdrawal tinz...me na sharp gee na, na when she don tire n come down naim i de always de cum outside d nunu...na me get gun n go decide wr and when to shoot am na.....one day she vex ask me say Y i do like discharging outside of her and I tell her say am nt ready for a child bt she said she just wana av a child (thinking it would lead to marriage) and said even if am not ready she go take Care of the child herself...told her to go look for another careless gee because i don de game since, no be today

I'll like to learn from u

pocohantas:
Oga leave her alone. This is how you people threaten ladies with menopause. Then when they take it up and start looking for husband, you still call them DESPERATE.


There is really no pleasing you Nigerian men.

If she still says she no want, you tag her feminist.

Make una rest abeg!

why don't theyake hay while the sun is shining. Is now at midnight they wasn't to use microwave to simulate sunlight

luminouz:
Is he myopic now? He just said he didnt wanna be responsible for the upkeep of a whole family while being unmarried. How is that wrong? He sponsored her for 3 good years and deserved some credit.

Can you do that for any man? And still take care of his family needs as a woman and not give up way sooner?

You sef dey see the comments ba, they're not even giving him credit for sponsoring her education: just ogling him on to marry her.

Nairalanders can be funny.

zuby4real10:
sir they don't marry someone out of pity, it always use to end up in tears. And what of if her loyalty is because of the money.

You are smart!

peterangelo:
Bruh I'm in big shit ooo

Currently I'm datum an Edo girl the way things are going is like I'll marry her. We've known ourselves since 2015 I was 15years old DAT tym.

If I tell her I don't wanna do again she go vex block later like 1week or more she will call me n say she missed me

B4 I knw I'll see myself dating again

No worry, with time you will understand.

SweetCunt97:
No one is asking him to take care of any family. He probably presented himself as a messiah na but as shit got real dude japa. What stops him from helping her with a job? Atleast she go dey help her family. He's gone and they'll survive

"Help her with a job?"

Are you serious?

askakim:
mine was a delta babe who was 30yrs already and I was just 29yrs...She wanted to know my parent and even came visting that my dad asked me indirectly if I was ready to settle down in the next 3 to 6 month with a peanut salary of 45k back then and her salary was double what I was earning... I Bleep with sense, anytime I want to release I quickly remove my stuff cos she sabi do the stuff well.. She then told me one Sunday to come n visit her not knowing she has plan my special delicious poundo yam n vegetables.. after finishing eating, we started again our pre-intimacy.. I lie to that I had Jedi Jedi when she was about going down low cos I knew it will result in pregnancy cos I was weak.. later a friend of mine told me she has another guy who was financially OK but she doesn't like him.. I got to know and later ended d relationship n the same month she was pregnant for the guy...Naso God safe me

Nothing like God save you here.
the lady like you more than the other guy and want you to marry her even when you're not financially stable.
the only thing she did wrong was getting pregnant for the other guy and that was because she need marriage as if it's a life achievement that where she fvck up and that why she got marry to the other guy...

zuby4real10:
She was so desperate to the extent that even if she wants to give or collect something from me she has to kneel small. Always calling me her husband. She is more than 100% nice and submissive.she is the only lady that I have ever see that didn't wait for her man to introduce her to his family. I don't even know how she got my mum's number nd start communicating with her. I single handed sponsored her 3 years NCE education. From the comments I am seen here on nairaland is as if as I am the only man that sponsored a lady's education with out regrets uptil date. My only problem with this lady is that she and her family are so poor to the extent that they see me as their meal ticket, as if as am the best thing that ever happens to them. I thinked about the liability of marrying this girl and her family own I run. Uptil now the lady is still waiting and begging for me to come back. She is always asking what she did wrong. I beg I no fit kill myself, love and loyalty alone can not sustain a marriage cos they can't pay bills.

lolzzxx

Eileene:
If only they knew that being desperate makes them even more undesirable.

u can't force marriage on anyone

what is the use of pinning marriage on a man just because ur clock is ticking then after d wedding u two start living lyk strangers.No happiness nothing.

in this life we are going to live only once

societal pressure has a lot to do with this.

But one should not live unhappily just becos u want to please society that will still turn around and castigate u wen things go wrong.
life is too short jare

My dear not all girls know that oo, Nice comment.

zionmde:
u sound so bitter
not good for ur health

I'm not bitter, just pissed off..... This semse of entitlement some guys have like he wants to do a lady a favour to date her cos of her age...

You should all get off your high horse and man up joor.... As if any lady must just accept every Tom Dick or Harry just like that.... The arrogance gets me anytime I spot one..

zuby4real10:
oga u won't understand what I faced in the hands of that girl. She is very lazy and not willing to work hard. Even the school I am the one that forced her to go. She is very relaxed that she is going to marry a comfortable man. All her dreams are on me. How do you expect some one with this kind of mindset to do something good for herself.

You know, I made the initial comment without this new revelation in your original post. Now I understand you and this a valid reason. I wish you the best bro.

lenghtinny:
Well life happens.....

But first of all, you guys should stop thinking it’s her beauty that’s affecting her chances...

When the time is right, marriage will happen. I for one believes marriage is not something worth getting depressed over.

it does affect her chances
Na your CV go represent you before interview

zuby4real10:
sir they don't marry someone out of pity, it always use to end up in tears. And what of if her loyalty is because of the money.

**Smiles**

Out of pity you say. Thank God man no be God.

Posterity will judge.

akpota:
bro, if d girl is good. You can talk with her and get married but you must get her a job and setup a good business with good cash flow for her.

I always tell myself that I don't have problem with the girl but with her family. I don't even know how such a good girl came out of that useless family. Imagine her useless father calling me stingy even b4 marrying his daughter even though I am sponsoring for her school. 1 naira he never ever contribute.

Raalsalghul:
You sef dey see the comments ba, they're not even giving him credit for sponsoring her education: just ogling him on to marry her.

Nairalanders can be funny.

I swear...I just wan see if she could do that for any guy too