boyjo:


But I read the story here of a nurse that not switching babies at birth purposefully.
She switched about 81+ babies.

The Family wey that one don destroy.
Because false accusation wey the wife no go fit deny na I'm be that.

What I will advice men,
When you do DNA, check whether the kids are not just only yours but also your wife's.
Na the true test be that.

That nurse is a psycho. What does she stand to gain by doing that?

I've experienced it twice. The second one was such a pain to deal with because i only just decided to give the relationship a shot(because he'd been asking for so long)
He was the possessive/obsessive kind. Wasn't happy back when I gained admission into a university. Wanted to choose my friends for me. Maybe he felt marriage would make him be in control.
The only conversations he used to bring up was
"Marriage this,introduction that"

Rozz:
liers everywhere as if they are not the same persons pestering ladies with marriage up and down.Pls let me breath mtcheww

lols! ladies can't come out to say she left because the guy is not financially ready. you and i knows what will transpires here. nairaland guys ain't smiling.

Wait....... Why are all the comments based on ladies? Ladies are not the only desperate ones when it comes to marriage. I have met desperate men too. Their own is even sickening

Prophylactic:
I have one currently, she persuades me to crazy, she even said let me get her pregnant that we will survive, but I can't put myself under such pressure, since she mentioned that I have never had sex with her... I look for other holes that will not put me in trouble and insect my pen1s there to save myself some headache

Lol
Bad guy

EgusiShankly:
i know the tribe

That was why she never said she dated any of them. It is a percularity with a certain tribe.

Adabekee04:
Wait....... Why are all the comments based on ladies? Ladies are not the only desperate ones when it comes to marriage. I have met desperate men too. Their own is even sickening

Share your story!

paulolee:
yup...she no wan use ear hear c.d or contraceptives, she buy pack of pregnancy test kits keep for her locker n they check herself praying it tests positive bt she didnt kno dt am serving a living GOD dt have a better plan for me....spent just a month with her and she de always like de ontop because she don tire 4 my Withdrawal tinz...me na sharp gee na, na when she don tire n come down naim i de always de cum outside d nunu...na me get gun n go decide wr and when to shoot am na.....one day she vex ask me say Y i do like discharging outside of her and I tell her say am nt ready for a child bt she said she just wana av a child (thinking it would lead to marriage) and said even if am not ready she go take Care of the child herself...told her to go look for another careless gee because i don de game since, no be today

hahaha
This children


She didn't know u are serving a living God?

ravensckar:
Honestly, when I read one-sided write ups like these, I feel appalled. Ain't there two sides to a coin any more? The so-called 'desperation' from ladies may not always be what you think. It could be a way of saying their own mind is made up. They have no more time to waste.

Now, let me shock you with my own story. When I met the lady I'm married to today, she told me straight up that she's not in for any long term relationship. She's almost done with school and that if the relationship won't lead to marriage, I should jejely excuse her. Me being the 'guyman' that I was then, I wanted to chop and clean mouth. I sha played along with the intent to chop until I'm full. Now, therein lies my confusion; the said lady in question was everything I wanted in a woman (beautiful, educated, well behaved, God-fearing and highly industrious). But I have just one problem; I wasn't ready for marriage. Money no dey, even the job I was doing then, salary was around 70K.


She sha encouraged me that we should pull our resources together and that we'll survive. Long story cut short, I decided to give it a shot. After all, person wey dey ground no get anywhere to fall to. We got married in less than 4 months of dating. When I mean married, I mean a proper and elaborate wedding. Brethrens, today we're still together. Yes, she's not perfect just like I'm not as well, but we are still happily married.

It was later I understood the reason for her 'desperation'. She had wasted too much time dating some Bleep boys, hence, she felt she has no more time to waste. To her, if it's not going to lead to marriage, then, she shouldn't even venture into it. What we guys see as 'desperation' to some ladies, it's called making up their mind.

Making up her mind. My Brother, the simple truth is, at that particular point in a woman's life she becomes so desperate that whoever comes over and shows that he is ready to marry her such ladies at that point in their life usually do not think twice THEIR MIND IS MADE UP it doesn't matter anymore all that matters is that she wants to become a wife to someone and have kids. Not many are usually happy in such marriage to be honest with you. Am glad yours is a happy one. Ladies are choose to be stock at a point in their life becoming so DESPERATE because time is running out and their options are becoming lesser.

1beat:
have come here to read comments

And Im enjoying it

KevinDein:


It's not unusual for young ladies (20s) to have multiple suitors because that's when they are at the peak of their sexual market value (SMV). The issue here is that women's hypergamous nature gets the better of them. They think these interests are gonna last a life time and they keep holding out for the best option.

A decade later, in their 30s with low SMV, the interests drastically nose dive and they'll probably only get approaches from low value males hence the desperation they show when they meet any man that's half decent. You'll find most of the guys that post on this thread were actually involved with older women.

It's not uncommon.

This is an inaccurate generalization. There are women as young as 19 who have set marriage as their objective in life

gbami:

You don't know a girl until you marry her

This is only true if you wasted the period of courtship b****ging.

Yes my hubby was very eager to love me up and marry me as his wife I was busy then since I had batches of degrees to acquire anyway after I was satisfied with my masters degree I felt it was time and we are happily married and blessed also looking forward to our 50th Anniversary in many plenty years to come

So most importantly... one has to know that marriage is for life look well before jumping into it if you are in doubt nope don't go no pressure...

pocohantas:
Men are just as desperate.

The only difference is, they have mastered the act of indifference. So, ladies due to biological clock are the ones carrying it on their head.

Try dating a mature man and never talk about marriage. Come back and tell me what happens.

You have a point, but marriage on the whole means more to women than men. If men could get away with it, they'd just have kids.

Juliearth:





This is only true if you wasted the period of courtship b****ging.

Yea right! Women can pretend for Africa...A woman with a plan can do anything to get you...Even lick your anus if it is what you want...after marriage...no more...
Ask how many women still give their husbands blowjobs after marriage..? Very few... because they are IN already...so no need

zuby4real10:

OK sir let's assume I end up been poor and still marrying a poor woman whom I have to cater for her family compare it with been poor and having a supportive wife, wch 1 do u think will be better for my life.? Is that not the fear of poverty that made me to run. If I have guarantee of been rich I could have stay.

Why is your mind projecting doom upon your life?

gbami:

Yea right! Women can pretend for Africa...A woman with a plan can do anything to get you...Even lick your anus if it is what you want...after marriage...no more...
Ask how many women still give their husbands blowjobs after marriage..? Very few... because they are IN already...so no need

I totally can relate with this. My besty and her fiance had to collectively wade off an "evil spirit" who won't let him be... But I still maintain my stand that if you truly do your due diligence while dating /courting, you can be able to unmask any form of pretense among women.

dalass:


Well, back in school, a guy even suggested we should just go to the registry.. Only the both of us.... Like wtf! Probably for the coochie,.... Guys can promise anything once they are desperate..

Another one I hate is when you keep refusing, a grown ass man prostrating to beg and just made me feel terrible at the level of desperation.. Almost said yes out of pity

You dodged a couple of bullets.

Prettyvirginia:


Sorry to disappoint you but that's not happening anytime soon.

Not every woman will be desperate for marriage. There are ladies rejecting marriage proposals on a regular basis. Not because they don't want to get married but because they're not ready yet.

I don't lack suitors now but at 24, I will be ready and I will get married. So shall it be in Jesus name Amen.

Bye

hear advice madam

U are not a man but a women.

Bible say my ppl perish bcoz thy lack knowledge(not knowing how dat tin works)Jesus is using us to talk to u now.

saucecode:

Hian,the matter really touch u wella. So how far that your marriage u have been hinting on nairaland for over one year now? We are still waiting for you to shock us

I still wonder why pocohantas is yet to marry. She has been a very good relationship and marriage counselor on NL. What is really going on? It baffles me really. Not flattering but it really beat my imagination despite all of her advice to ladies about marriage and relationship. All I know is that last-last pocohantas is going to get married some day. And I pray she lives happily ever after.

zuby4real10:
She was so desperate to the extent that even if she wants to give or collect something from me she has to kneel small. Always calling me her husband. She is more than 100% nice and submissive.she is the only lady that I have ever see that didn't wait for her man to introduce her to his family. I don't even know how she got my mum's number nd start communicating with her. I single handed sponsored her 3 years NCE education. From the comments I am seen here on nairaland is as if as I am the only man that sponsored a lady's education with out regrets uptil date. My only problem with this lady is that she and her family are so poor to the extent that they see me as their meal ticket, as if as am the best thing that ever happens to them. I thinked about the liability of marrying this girl and her family own I run. Uptil now the lady is still waiting and begging for me to come back. She is always asking what she did wrong. I beg I no fit kill myself, love and loyalty alone can not sustain a marriage cos they can't pay bills.

Reading this, deep inside me, I felt hurt. Honestly, it's not enough reason to dump that lady cause of her poor background. If she's truly good as you portray her, she didn't deserve such treatment from you. In my hometown, I see rich men come to marry girls from very poor homes and establish them. From her earnings, she can cater for her family and they don't have to bother you anymore.

Juliearth:




I totally can relate with this. My besty and her fiance had to collectively wade off an "evil spirit" who won't let him be... But I still maintain my stand that if you truly do your due diligence while dating /courting, you can be able to unmask any form of pretense among women.

Very difficult

Dicktion:
Especially when they clock 30
There's nothing a lady loathes in the entire universe like clocking 30 without a husband.

They can even visit babalawo to get you trapped in marriage. Beware!

I agree 10000000000%

wintersnow:


Lol I've never been the type to openly say how I feel about someone on a public platform..
But I think you're really cool
My number is attached to my profile

fvcking simp

men like you are piece of trash Asking a piece of trash of a woman on an online forums.

grow sense bro

Sirvingeo:

Same thing is happening to some of my cousin's. I pity the young ones , they will never adhere to this advice. Instead of them sticking to one man they will be jumping up and down at their prime. I have one very pretty milf I'm bleeping steady in the name of marriage . I'm just 28 oo.
But naturally, I love mature ladies from 30 upward I think I will marry an older wife.

same

Nods repeatedly

merahki:



Someone wanted to be with you that much (even if she was desperate about it) and you call her “idiot lady”?
This is so mean.
Wow.

God saved her from him

remsonik:
Most guys out there nowadays are time wasters. I have lost so many advances cos I couldn't give in to premarital sex. When you give in to sex in the relationship, they will promise you marriage in few months or a year and after that 6 months becomes 1 year, a year becomes 2 and it goes on like that. Then when you ask them you look like the desperate one. One naira I haven't taken from any guy I have dated. Also please make proper findings on any guy you're dating. Alot hide their dirty pasts from you that can even destroy your own life. Alot will come to you claiming single but they could be married, separated and so many differences like that. It is well

re u married now

luminouz:


Curses go both ways. A babe I know who did that got cursed by the guy. He sponsored her for 5 years(ND/HND) and she left him when she went for service. She is still childless till now.

This occurred 10 years ago.

Very true bro.

WORDWORLD:


I still wonder why pocohantas is yet to marry. She has been a very good relationship and marriage counselor on NL. What is really going on? It baffles me really. Not flattering but it really beat my imagination despite all of her advice to ladies about marriage and relationship. All I know is that last-last pocohantas is going to get married some day. And I pray she lives happily ever after.

Lmao. You guys are really dumb if you think I will ever disclose such on NL. What next? You start watching my womb?

C’mon, no smart person leaves important details on this current Nairaland. You need to ensure trolls always follow the wrong trail.

Proud evening newspaper for LIFE!

GeorgeTheCoder:


You have a point, but marriage on the whole means more to women than men. If men could get away with it, they'd just have kids.

LIES!

womenareapes:
fvcking simp

men like you are piece of trash Asking a piece of trash of a woman on an online forums.

grow sense bro

Guy get sense nah... You never see people wey marry via FB...