Well I dont see being gay as a curse or anything
I just feel that's the way she feels is right to go through, and I'm sure at her age she should be able to tell her right from her wrongs, you've done your part as her elder brother,
And since it seems like she's not backing out of it, and you had let her know the Nigerian mentality bout such things which I'm quite sure she knows quite well too..

I do feel your support is what she truly needs
Cause she came out true to you and never denied her being gay...

So do try to find ways to settle things
Cause telling the parents and them rebuking everything might lead her to take extreme measures you might at the end of the day regret taking,
And theres always a way out of situations
Like you said theres artificial insemination...
So think it through, support her and do keep checking up on her...

I guess that's the best you can ever get to do as an elder and she'll be forever grateful

My thoughts though

Pls help me say hi to Gabriellina

Vikkygeee:

Bro she is already and she has been dating this girl for almost 7years sef even the girl's parents call her time to time ,if this was just an exploration for her I would have done something about it ,but she's an independent adult,she'll do whatever she wants to do with or without anybody,it's just because she respects me a lot that is why she sought for my approval.

I understand you bro. I can sense that it is too late already. Trust me, one thing is living in naija and being gay, atleast Shame and other factors might make you reconsider( some will just marry as a cover and still be gay in closet). It takes the grace of God and discipline to live in those kind of countries over a period of time and not behave like them, trust me I know.

I was only standing on your sisters case to advice parents or would be parents on this platform to always pay attention to their kids, what is happening on the internet is too much. Gone are the days when you do not allow opposite sex to visit your kids but will allow same sex to be behind closed doors thinking that they are safe. They are not anymore, times are changing.

Ekwutox:
If I was her brother, I would support her full time.

I have absolutely nothing against same sex relationships as long as it does not affect me personally.

You are a reasonable fellow.

Prechgold1180:
Unah family problem many , even u self nah problem to d family. At 30 u don't know d difference between gay n lesbian well dey said a fool at 40 is a fool forever and now u are 30 day means u have 10 years to escape

Ignorant olodo...

Mumu

Prechgold1180:
Unah family problem many , even u self nah problem to d family. At 30 u don't know d difference between gay n lesbian well dey said a fool at 40 is a fool forever and now u are 30 day means u have 10 years to escape

Lol..Olodo

makydebbie:


A queen I Stan.

That Ukraine girl is her happiness. You've lived your life at 30 let her live hers and be happy. If she commits suicide based on the stupid decision you're about to make I hope you feel better about it.

What's wrong with being gay?
Live and let people live.

Nobody should quote me telling me shit. I'm an LGBT Ally and don't even bring religion to this talk.

If you support gays, then stop going to church and calling yourself a Christian then...

makydebbie:


A queen I Stan.

That Ukraine girl is her happiness. You've lived your life at 30 let her live hers and be happy. If she commits suicide based on the stupid decision you're about to make I hope you feel better about it.

What's wrong with being gay?
Live and let people live.

Nobody should quote me telling me shit. I'm an LGBT Ally and don't even bring religion to this talk.

This is it here. I believe in allowing every human live irrespective of your sexuality or religion.

You are a nice and reasonable human, keep being good.

Carloslehder:

;Dsorry o but I cant help but laugh at your ignorance,someone is engaged in a relationship that has been on for years and you're saying crap about telling her off like it's a habit.
Moreover I take it that you're a Muslim, only you extremists take everything with religion, there is nothing wrong with being gay or different

This part of your brain tho.

chatinent:
Being gay is an idea people tend to get, not a gender. The world she lived in there presented gayism to her as a discovered gender; such myopic world. Don't subscribe to the 'live and let live' mantra of useless people. She's your sister! Tell her off! Tell her she isn't going to be gay whether or not she likes it. Many reasons I like my religion; it's just a cannot.

Shove your bleeped up religion down your ass. The LGBTQ community is here to stay and there is nothing you or anybody can do about it.

EarthFireH2o:
Well I dont see being gay as a curse or anything
I just feel that's the way she feels is right to go through, and I'm sure at her age she should be able to tell her right from her wrongs, you've done your part as her elder brother,
And since it seems like she's not backing out of it, and you had let her know the Nigerian mentality bout such things which I'm quite sure she knows quite well too..

I do feel your support is what she truly needs
Cause she came out true to you and never denied her being gay...

So do try to find ways to settle things
Cause telling the parents and them rebuking everything might lead her to take extreme measures you might at the end of the day regret taking,
And theres always a way out of situations
Like you said theres artificial insemination...
So think it through, support her and do keep checking up on her...

I guess that's the best you can ever get to do as an elder and she'll be forever grateful

My thoughts though

Thank you very much for this, this is exactly what I'm thinking, I think we're just going to let them find out in future, knowing how much they love her they won't have a choice and the only person they'll blame for everything is me for not telling them.and I'm fine taking the blame if it means we get to keep her in the family. Heck I have started reading about artificial insemination sef

LostAddict:


Shove your bleeped up religion down your ass. The LGBTQ community is here to stay and there is nothing you or anybody can do about it.

Argue with yourself.

abiodun2929:
One thing we must know is that some of our children that finished their secondary school and travel abroad to further their education are always expose to this strange western culture especially if they were not properly brought up in the way of the lord.Your sister has made up her mind even if she will regret it. The only solution now is serious prayer. God can change her mind in a twinkling of an eye. Selah

Alaye save your prayer for yourself and your family. The LGBTQ community is here to stay.

chatinent:

Argue with yourself.

I can see that you are already pained

LostAddict:


This is it here. I believe in allowing every human live irrespective of your sexuality or religion.

You are a nice and reasonable human, keep being good.

Honestly. Everyone has a right to live their lives. I'll never come in between anyone's happiness unless it's at the detriment of another.

Thank you dear, you too.

Vikkygeee:

She's not someone, she is my blood that I've looked after all my life,If I see something that is going to lead her astray I have the right to do anything that will keep it from happening. However this situation is not a grave one that is why I decided to support her.

She's an adult and her own person first.

You are wrong to believe outing her will make everything to scatter. You'll only be giving her a choice; to deny her sexuality and to resent you.

Try putting yourself in her shoes.

You can encourage her to come out though.
Don't spill out her secret without permission.

Carloslehder:

;Dsorry o but I cant help but laugh at your ignorance,someone is engaged in a relationship that has been on for years and you're saying crap about telling her off like it's a habit.
Moreover I take it that you're a Muslim, only you extremists take everything with religion, there is nothing wrong with being gay or different

Christians are also horrible extremists tho.

makydebbie:


Honestly. Everyone has a right to live their lives. I'll never come in between anyone's happiness unless it's at the detriment of another.

Thank you dear, you too.

Exactly people feel they have a say in a someone's because they feel their actions are right and that of the person is wrong.

The most stupid attitude some humans possess.

Ningen:


She's an adult and her own person first.

You are wrong to believe outing her will make everything to scatter. You'll only be giving her a choice; to deny her sexuality and to resent you.

Try putting yourself in her shoes.

You can encourage her to come out though.
Don't spill out her secret without permission.

I don't think you read and understand what I wrote up there.maybe you should go through the thread once again.

LostAddict:


Alaye save your prayer for yourself and your family. The LGBTQ community is here to stay.

This comment gave me joy.

LostAddict:


Exactly people feel they have a say in a someone's because they feel their actions are right and that of the person is wrong.

The most stupid attitude some humans possess.

Especially religious people. Set of hypocrites.

makydebbie:


Christians are also horrible extremists tho.

The worst kind of extremists always trying to force their opinions on people.

makydebbie:


Especially religious people. Set of hypocrites.

All religions are guilty of it that is why I have chosen a free path.

are you an atheist?

makydebbie:

Especially religious people. Set of hypocrites.

Prechgold1180:

who is the fool now......smh

At your age you don't know the meaning of gay, hope you're not up to 40

kiddkash:
do not pet the gayness, flog the demon out

Demons don't exist dimwit but GAY people do, whether it is in your interest or not you would live with them for eternity.

Vikkygeee:

Future heartbreaks how?

From your parents, they will be disappointed in her. Well it depends on your parents

Chai!...see as the majority of the people in this thread see being gay as something that is normal.chai!.in a few years time you'll start seeing them in their numbers clamouring for same sex right.i see Nigerians on Twitter openly showcase their gayness on the internet and I wonder if we still have anti gay laws in this country.call me archaic,but gay people are sick people.how you go open your eyes see vagina but na your fellow guy nyash(nyash wey u ma sef get o) na I'm u 1 Bleep.or as a girl na your fellow girl Vagina you 1 grind.its a serious mental illness mhen!

First off. I'll advise you allow her relocate out of this country cause she cant be gay in this country.

then other can follow

Vikkygeee:

Thank you very much for this, this is exactly what I'm thinking, I think we're just going to let them find out in future, knowing how much they love her they won't have a choice and the only person they'll blame for everything is me for not telling them.and I'm fine taking the blame if it means we get to keep her in the family. Heck I have started reading about artificial insemination sef

Hey you really need to calm down there... you're even going ahead to make plans for them already, lols, it's cute though,
But thing is you've still got to sit her down and talk to her, I'm not talking bout telling her off bout being gay, you just have to let her understand things, let her know the journey might not be smooth and savvy as she might be having in her thoughts, and I think you should try to get to know the other lady who she's dating try setting up on how to get to know her and her plans, don't doesnt seem like your sister is living in her own infatuation, try to understand the other person and get to know if they have same goals of wanting to be together forever even through the thick and thin that life would push to them, I'm sure you should be able to detect if she's not being straight forward with you, so have the talk with your sis, get her to understand that your family might not approve of her sexual orientation, but then you'll sure find a way to get them to understand and accept her, pledge your support to her and get to know yer thoughts also, try to understand her quite well,
I wish you all the very best bro
But I must warn you
It wont be easy to achieve all of these

ShitStain:
Chai!...see as the majority of the people in this thread see being gay as something that is normal.chai!.in a few years time you'll start seeing them in their numbers clamouring for same sex right.i see Nigerians on Twitter openly showcase their gayness on the internet and I wonder if we still have anti gay laws in this country.call me archaic,but gay people are sick people.how you go open your eyes see vagina but na your fellow guy nyash(nyash wey u ma sef get o) na I'm u 1 Bleep.or as a girl na your fellow girl Vagina you 1 grind.its a serious mental illness mhen!

I really dont think you needed all these
We just have to accept everyone the way they are wired,
Same way we cant create any human being
Then I think discriminating them for their sexual orientation isn't something we should do
If you've really got to sit a Gay person down and ask how they had come about being gay
Then I feel you'll get to really understand them
They are humans too and they are only living their life the way they were wired to
Peace