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BlackSheep10:
Guys, I always tell my friends and other guys around me that giving when it comes to ladies you have interest in should be willing. Giving to ladies ( even if you are a cheerful giver) should not be to impress or thinking you can win her heart with that because its set some tunes to ladies especially the materialistic ones.


Every guy seeking a relationship owes no lady any dime. The only lady a guy is responsible for is his wife not any girlfriend. Helping a girlfriend should be at the guys discretion and free will.

I as a person can never tolerate a girl with this ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY, thinking once you show interest in them or keen on a relationship, they are now your responsibility, No! Until you are married, you and your parents/guardian should be responsible for yourself.

Its time guys wake up and stop promoting this mentality in majority of our ladies and stop polluting the society.

Asking a lady out is the expected norms in our society which I am against and of the opinion that since emotion does not choose gender before setting in place ( the guy can be attracted first or the lady first) both parties should be able to express freely without any discrimination from the society.

Since a relationship involves both parties benefiting, the ladies should please stop giving the impression of doing the guy a favour by dating him therefore manipulating his feelings by providing for their needs.

Ask a lady out and she is not interested, take a walk. Before you get down the road you will meet more ladies. Don't be desperate so as to avoid stories that touch or giving them an excuse for exploiting you.

Guys please stop. Once she is telling you there are guys out there willingly to do whatever she asks for, have a second thought because she is planing on manipulating you, getting control of the relationship and making you see her as a trophy. I once asked a lady of this thought " can you date yourself" she was quite dumb for a while and started saying nonsense.



Ladies you are not doing us a favour by dating us. We are both doing each other favours which should be mutual.

Mind you, most of this material girls offers nothing in the relationship except sex, nothing else and they expect you to show them you love them buy giving money and buying things they can't afford. Sex for money is an illegal profession which shouldn't be incorporated into our relationships.

Of all you rightly said, you get it wrong @ the emboldened
Relationship must be mutual so also Marriage and Matrimonial Life of the the Couple.
That the Man is the Head of the Family does not now mean the Wife Should not work to at least provides 40% of what the Family needs.

Never should you as an Husband to be marry a woman whom can not comfortably feeds herself.

Never should you as a Guy/Man/Hussy to be marry a woman who has Husband-Duty or Liability/Entitlement Mentality

The Manness in a woMan gender name calls for SERIOUS Resposibilities before and after Marrige towards her Man/Guy/Husband and Children to be.
So before you marry Her, you MUST make sure she is a well trained Lady that knows and understand what Matrimony really calls for on her part.

That you have become his wife do not now mean He Should be the Sole Provider of all your needs and Children.

NEVER!
She Herself must WORK TO MAKE MONEY TO SPEND BY HER AND HER HUSBAND!!!!

IT IS A MUST FOR ANY LADY/WIFE THAT WOULD REFER TO HERSELF AS RESPONSIBLE.

Frezhkid10:
Same way I met a girl about a week ago..she would call me everyday to ask how am doing and we talked and kiss a lot..they se asked me to add money to her money to buy an android phone for here..I obliged and said I will consider the option..after one week she asked for a wrist watch then I told her I was jobless that corona took my job(just lying thou)...since then she just changed towards me...if I don't call her she won't call me..and all other negative attitude...I just dy thank God say e protect me from a gold digger ..

Dump that leech's ass if you like your life.

Guys should stop playing themselves short!

Texti65:
Bro..
Like you said invite her over and collect your phone, use force if possible.

She's already seeing you like "maga ".


Guys, don't show love to Nigerian girls, they are evil and heartless.
Treat them like thrash and they. will love you more
I'm taking from experience.

Ah ah, your words are heavy o. But will like your sister to be treated like trash? Maybe you have just been unlucky with some.
I really wonder what was done to you. Sorry bro!

Collecting whatever stuff you gave to her is a sign of immaturity. Why not call her to order and tell her how you feel? I really don't know why if a guy gifts a lady stuffs,they always feel she is indebted to them and suddenly start suspecting a foul play��.

goodysb:
It's going to be in a public space... You have a point bro.

Any update??

If your name is on the receipt you can collect it. make sure you hold your receipt of purchase. She can shout rape to defend her integrity and securing the phone forever. Desperate and gullible girls can do anything

Go get your phone bro.

Lamanii22:
Maddo.... Your comment make so much sense

Na only supporters fc u dey always does on nairaland. Hv never seen where you postulate comment or idea, na to dey support comments upandan

xperiencelove:
It is well with you. I fear she won't shout rape while you are about to collect the phone and before you know what is happening, you are already in either general hospital or police cell.

Or a barbecue

xperiencelove:
It is well with you. I fear she won't shout rape while you are about to collect the phone and before you know what is happening, you are already in either general hospital or police cell.

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General hospital or police cell? No!

Think about tyre and fuel.

People are frustrated these days.

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Sorry you’ve been robbed, period. She’s just one of many Naija girls that does this for a living. Welcome to the club of the wise men.

Congratulations OP, you successfully played yourself. Be there forming oversmart.

Mr goody goody

xperiencelove:
It is well with you. I fear she won't shout rape while you are about to collect the phone and before you know what is happening, you are already in either general hospital or police cell.

Or end up as a burnt offering to the gods of jungle justice

biz1992:
How did you do the recording bro?

It's under call settings of the phone.

seunak2016:
which app fit do that wonder ?so people can learn

Go to call settings of the phone.

She'll shout thief and the whole adugbo will pounce on you...RIP in advance bro

MASTERCHIEF0847:
If you have deep freezer in your house place her on top and fvck her real good before you collect the phone, if no deep freezer find a desk or table but make sure it doesn't have a large surface, she has to be struggling with taking the D and and not falling off the freezer/table simultaneously
Good luck.

lolxxxxx hahahaha why deep freezer bro.

goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc...

She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night (and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end...

Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it (3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to...

It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me. I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too...

So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger (To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy (which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)...

So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.

I would really appreciate you guys input �

Op collect ur phone back ,don't let anybody talk u out of it, it has happened to me before , I collected my phone back and now, I am happily married to somebody else, I hopehope the name on phone receipt is urs so she can't claim it

Oyindamolah:
One of my friends from college dated a girl for a few years. He was rich and he suspected the girlfriend was a gold digger. People believed that she had actually dumped her previous boyfriend when she found this current one - because the current boyfriend was richer.

So he tried a few things (not all of them were designed to test her but some were):

(1) He stopped taking her to expensive restaurants and took her to “dhabas” or just regular restaurants instead. This was in India, many years ago. A “dhaba” is a roadside restaurant with seats in the open. Not the most upscale place. The guy personally did not mind eating at regular places. He wasn't a typical show-off. He liked doing a lot of regular stuff. She had a major problem with this.

(2) He took her to a cheap circus show.

(3) He took her on a backpacking trip to Europe. Earlier he always made her stay at the best and most expensive hotels. This time, they stayed at inexpensive hostels. This wasn't really a test. The guy actually liked backpacking trips where he could stay at hostels and meet a lot of “real” people.

(4) She always demanded that he buy business class tickets for them. He started buying economy. He personally didn't mind flying economy so much. But the girl got very agitated with the idea of having to fly economy and not having lounge access.

(5) He used to give her very expensive presents earlier. He'd already bought her a car and the latest cell phone (this was in the era before smartphones). He gradually shifted to gifts that were more “personalized” and less expensive - collages of their photos together, poetry that he'd written for her etc. She didnt care for those things.

(6) She used him to further her career. She'd ask him to make a referral to all the companies where he had great contacts. She'd get in to these companies without much of an interview (the boy’s dad who was very well-connected usually pulled strings to make this happen….he was a super generous guy). The girl always left the jobs within a few months. She just wouldn't last anywhere. The guy stopped making those referrals. The girl threw a huge fit.

(7) The last thing he did was the truest test. He told her he doesn't want his father’s wealth and he wants to build his own career without his dad’s assistance. He won't accept anything from his father. The guy was actually pretty good at his studies and in my opinion, was capable of building a career of his own. But quite obviously, she didn't want to take that chance. She didn't have the patience to wait around till he built his career from scratch. She left him a few days after he told her this.

The guy is now very happy and is married to a very sensible and self-made young lady.

Culled from?

Quote the author please. I love to read more of his works.

goodysb:
Hey guys, update on the matter, I asked her to go out with me and she said she's not going. She's playing smart.

Perhaps she's reading comments here.

That girl is way ahead in the bitching game.

goodysb:
Hey guys, update on the matter, I asked her to go out with me and she said she's not going. She's playing smart.

See what everyone has been telling u?
If u have the reciept and ur name on it go and claim ur phone

goodysb:
It's going to be in a public space... You have a point bro.

Let her have the phone. Move on. She didn't force you to buy her phone. Taking the phone by force could land you in trouble. It could be termed armed robbery and your roasted body could be tagged," Thief burnt to death for trying to snatch lady's phone." Be warned!

Case study: Timaya and Empress Njama. It was said that Timaya bought her, a car and when things went south went to collect it. He was delt with.

Westernlove:
Guy forget, Na Demo & Strategy. If you want to truly know she doesn't like money. I have a secret test I will unveil to you but not on here because It's sacred and filled with a lot of Wisdom......E sure me say She go fail the Test. Only few ladies/women In this world truly wouldn't solely ask you for money or material things. Only few Yes.....

Bossman, I wanna know it too. How we go do?

Westernlove:
No worry, As per your narration. The girl Is quite a good girl most especially she has a handwork. Make we no shame her, She Is one of the few good ladies remaining out there. You can't get 100% package In both genders. Assist her more If you have the capacity. God no go shame us my guy.......

Bro I don't trust her like that as well ..I don't trust any woman but wetin man go do at least her own is far better than many girls who are just lazy and can't do anything with their life only to bang around and later turn full time olosho

See every young girl flirt but if we all stay this way shaming girls too much we no go see wife marry but we all got to be sharp and smart than these girls

I will test her soon wit many things not now ..haha

I hate to see matured, able-bodied men behaving like kids because of young ladies. It's shameful. Just focus on building yourself and don't die on top woman matter. You're buying her phone and all that, how much have you done for your own younger sisters. Guy, save your money and go get married. Stop bemoaning because a girl changed her attitude.

ZaOzaRoom:
It's under call settings of the phone.

ok
that feature not in my redmi note 8 though

goodysb:
I wasn't asking her out... I asked her out and she accepted....

So by your understanding, since she accepted she must continue with you and must marry you and must always be loyal because you bought her phone and other material gifts?

I am even more ashamed at those telling you to go and collect the phone than at you.

goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc...

She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night (and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end...

Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it (3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to...

It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me. I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too...

So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger (To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy (which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)...

So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.

I would really appreciate you guys input �

Oga collect the phone if that's what will make you have peace of mind. There are times you let the so called immaturity play the game. Some girls don't deserve to be treated fine.

U wantd to play her now u r played totally. Smart guys don't play ur way bruh

Fr me I nvr gv a bitch a gift nd collect it back...

Frgt it!!! If u no chop her frgt am

goodysb:
Hello Everyone, I met this girl about a month ago (same day her phone got missing) and we started talking etc...

She usually calls me every morning, afternoon and night (and I would call her back too) using her senior sister's phone... I would get her anything she wants, treated her well.... We would talk and I noticed how she was behaving and thought she'd be straight with me, so I told her I would get her the phone by month end...

Not that I couldn't get her the phone the next day but I just purposely delayed it (3 weeks) and when month end came I added extra week to see how she reacts and then I got her the phone but since I got her the phone she just changed and stopped doing all she used to do, I noticed and played along to see where she's heading to...

It's more than a week since I got her the phone and I noticed she hasn't changed... I thought about giving her a second chance and then she did something that annoyed me. I sent a very angry voice note and some messages but she didn't reply for about a day and I thought of it and noticed she was playing a game, so I said I would play along too...

So I acted dumb and called her to apologize that I said what I said out of anger (To me I really mean it) and explained to her that I listened to the notes and didn't find it interesting (I never did), so what I am doing now is I want to get what I gave her back because noticed a very big change and again because she might be telling her friends that I don chop this guy (which I don't like hearing), so after our argument, I already predicted that she'd want to ask me for something after two days and truly she asked me this morning for money to buy slippers of 4k... I didn't want to show any signs that I am aware of what she's doing.. so I told her.. let's be looking sha (which means I will get it)...

So I planned to play along and take her out of our environment to somewhere that's calm, so I would then collect the phone back from her and give her her sim card.

P.s. I predicted it might play out like this but wanted to test her to see... Could have gotten her an iPhone.

I would really appreciate you guys input �

when you update quote me please.

goodysb:
It's going to be in a public space... You have a point bro.

And what if she shout thief