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When I was a kid, I had that attitude of not saying thank you to my parents. It was so heavy in my mouth. Thanks to my mum, with some serious resetting mothers' devices such as comparing me to my younger more appreciating siblings, and the 'can't you say thank you' etc. I just find myself even till today been grateful for anything I'm given. Some times ago, I had to call my mum just to thank her for everything she has done for me.


Being grateful is a good virtue, no matter our upbringing, it's something we need to learn, it's a form of courtesy.

And if you feel someone is thanking you too much, please allow them, they are only expressing how much what to did benefits them, don't deny them, it won't kill you.


Of course while we know it's God who made it possible for us to be able to do what we do, and it is him who deserves all praises, we shouldn't forget that we humans thrive in been acknowledged, appreciated and praised. Don't deny yourself that. Work to get appropriate praises and appreciation you deserve by doing good to people. Not flattering ones nor ones that appeal to your ego.

Thank you

I once had a similar experience.. I friend of mine was owing someone money. Due to the Corona, she could not repay them. So I came in and pay the person.
In fact, I can't explain what I'm facing because of that. Sometimes when you help people they see you as if you are proud.
I regret given my one month alawee out just to be the subject of discussion.
I learned that at times, all you have to do is stand still and watch

kenzysmith:
better use your time to please your self cause you can't please the world they would never appreciate that why i don't give a Bleep on what people think about me ii don't leave my life to impress others. when y if you die today you will be forgotten in hours and life goes on and same people you are trying to kill your self on will dance on your funeral.

I'm sure you're the type that doesn't care about family too

To those that say thank you is act of ingrate.....well if so we suppose not to thank God then for what he do for us then.........useless fellow....



If you cannot thank ordinary person.....you can't give thanks to God also.

Nothing nauseats me like this sense of entitlement. Because I don't have it.

Grab this opportunity below

JBoss25:
I'm sure you're the type that doesn't care about family too

i care about them but i nor dey carry their matter for head i do the best i can

SHOWING GRATITUDE IS GOOD TO THE SOUL OF THE GIVER AND RECEIVER

Oluneutral:
@op
One day, I overheard one of their kids singing that nursery School thyme...... There are five magic words ......bla bla bla, and I was wondering that, so these kids even know that thank you is a magic word.

At the bold. The five magic words:
Please
Excuse me
Sorry
Thank you
And the last one is
Pardon me


We say thank you even after eating.
Mummy and daddy thank you for the food

At all time it's very important to be grateful �
I sent some money to one of my colleague during the lockdown using *737#. Till this very moment he never seized to show gratitude for that gesture.

Two revelations I had this season:
1. Gratitude is a debt!
2. Whoever gives me ANYTHING has made a sacrificial decision because whatever given to me could as well be given to someone else or used for something personally beneficial to the owner.
Jesus asked the leper who turned back to thank Him about the other lepers just to teach Christians the need to show gratitude.

Haloye:
I once had a similar experience.. I friend of mine was owing someone money. Due to the Corona, she could not repay them. So I came in and pay the person.
In fact, I can't explain what I'm facing because of that. Sometimes when you help people they see you as if you are proud.
I regret given my one month alawee out just to be the subject of discussion.
I learned that at times, all you have to do is stand still and watch

That is why the proverbial 'village people' are so dreaded. Help them, give them money, and in their evil minds they would think "what is this one feeling like, imagine this small boy of yesterday forming helper for me, I will deal with him". Lol.

My family and I have had our fair share of this unfortunate scenario. That's why one must apply what the legendary Robert Greene describes as "Selective Generosity" when dealing with human beings.

We are living in perilous times and 2 Timothy 3 vs 1-5 said it all. Men will become unthankful, proud etc.
Its almost as if its the thing in Nigeria today. Help someone and they will turn around to stab and scorn you in the end.

Kenlinks546:
It is your depth of gratitude that determines your altitude, so when you're truly and fully greatful to God, your altitude is settled.

Go and clear your name,don't be a fraudster.

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Kenlinks546:
It is your depth of gratitude that determines your altitude, so when you're truly and fully greatful to God, your altitude is settled.

2k Scammer ...Shame on you!!

[quote author=wwwkaycom post=91030988]I'm confused about this. Am I expecting too much from people? I had a pastor few years ago, do anything for this pastor, he will never say thank you.

There was a time he followed us as youth in the church at that time to a youth picnic on the instruction of our Senior Pastor, upon arrival, I mobilised the youth to appreciate him by presenting a gift of a very good quality shirt, he returned it and told us its too small for what he'll collect from us, he said we were big youths, we had to contribute more money to buy a suit and add to the shirt. He didn't at any time say thank you to anyone of us.

There was a time he did his mother's funeral, I travelled all the way from Ondo State to his hometown somewhere in one of the southern states, I gave him a token of 10k which was what I could afford at the time as present, no thank you till this moment.

I can mention 5 other instances in which I offered him gifts without even an acknowledgement that he got it.

One day while preaching, he said "if you do good to anyone and you're expecting him to thank you, it means you didn't have the intention of doing the good ab-initio". He was transferred to another state since 2013.

Again, I have a colleague in the office who have this same trait. He told me he doesn't know how to say thank you. Do anything for him, he believed he deserved it. He will never say thank you.

One day, our oga traveled to Germany and bought some beautiful shoes which he gave to us when he came back, that shoe would have cost 27k if purchased in Nigeria at that time. I got it through our secretary and sent an SMS to oga immediately, I also called him to thank him. The following day, I didn't see him, I sent an SMS again and the third day, I went straight to his office in the morning to thank him again.

This is the way I was brought up. We had to prostrate to thank our parents each time they paid our school fees or bought something for us in those days. My friend didn't say anything to our oga. As I was going out of oga's office, he called me back and said "can you see your friend Stanley? he will never appreciate anything". I asked Stanley and he gave me the same reply my pastor gave me years ago. " If you do good to anyone and you're expecting him to thank you, it means you didn't have the intention of doing the good ab-initio". He said must he now turn himself to who he isn't just because of a shoe? that's just who Stanley is.

Now I have a neighbour in my street, every morning I'll pick his two kids and take them to school since their public school is very close to my children school, these children will never say thank you. They just hop in and hop out of the car every morning and sometimes in the evening if they see us while passing the front of their school. Funny enough, their parent also haven't appreciated the gesture at any time, its like an abomination for them to say thank you. One day in March, before the lockdown, I went to my kid's school by around 11am in the morning to submit school fees tellers, I saw one of the kids I normally pick to school in front of their school gate, I stopped to ask her why she isn't in class, she told me they asked her to go home because she was feeling feverish. Instead of going back to my office, I took her home. As I was driving, I asked about her parents, she said they'll have gone to their business places and that his dad's phone rang but he didn't pick it when the vice-principal tried to call him while her mum's phone was bad. I took her to their house, ask a nurse who also sells medicine in our street to treat her, I paid N1200 for the drugs, nothing like thank you from this 12 year old girl and her parent didn't say anything till date even though the nurse told me she narrated the whole story to them.

Last Saturday, I attended the landlord association meeting, I heard the assistant secretary of our association saying that he paid 2k on behalf of the man for a particular work we're doing in the street and that the man didn't even show appreciation or make effort to pay back his 2k. This man just said "its only God who deserved thanks, I'll pay your 2k next week".

Are these people really right? Is it wrong to show appreciation for good deeds? Our parents taught us to show gratitude for good deeds when we were young, were they wrong? I'm not so clear about this.[/quote
Technically speaking...if you give me a gift or help with a favor and I thank you...if you say don't thank me, thank God......I feel the favor you did me didn't come from your heart oo.. or maybe you did it out of necessity