ukpahu:
Hear my story. I am Igala by tribe. When i was in the village this thing happen more than 12 years ago.

A lady i was dating then got pregnant and she told me about it, then i asked her what's the next step, she told me that she will abort the baby. One month later, another story that she will not give me the baby because my mother doesn't like her.

Before she gave birth to the baby, i traveled to town and got work in one of the federal universities. I spent two years without going back to the village. The last time i traveled to village, i noticed that she is married to another man with two children o. I asked her of my baby, she told me to divorce my wife and marry her before she can give my baby or if i try any thing funy she is going to charm me.

I told my uncle about it, he told me to forget about the baby that God has already given me a good wife and three children.

This whole thing is giving me sleepless night. I can't sleep. I am always thinking of my baby and my wife is noticing some changes in me.

Please what will i do? Should i take legal action on her? pls advice me ooooo. The woman is my first love, i will continue to love her till i die. She is the only woman i ever loved, even more than my wife. I love this woman but she cost me pain.

The charm she promised to do is working overtime.
Fear Igala women, the legend says.

ukpahu:
should i take legal action

Leave her and baby alone and be serious, she is now married stay out of trouble if you want to leave long and remember that you did not marry her husband will not watch you separate his family why you think you will be happy, how can you love baby mama more than your wife if you're a responsible person. You're just been carried away by imagination of what is under her legs, which is going to be serious trouble that would destroying you.

Court would not even give you the baby, rather it will make it mandatory for you to be sending money on monthly basis for the up keep and education of the baby.

All together you now has four children, instead of you to focus on how to train them you still looking at old pussy that would lead you to having more trouble and more children which you may not cater for, thereby laying foundation for future almajiri/rubbers.

Your head need psychiatric extermination.

omaye what exactly do you want?
your baby or your ex?
she's not denying the fact that the child is yours. she's only denying you custody except on one condition.
follow your uncle's advice. you have a beautiful family already.
someone that has warned you that she'll use charm on you if you do anything funny. is that the kind of person you want to be with?

What do u want us to do?

Abusadiq01:



weitin u no understand for here? ur brain dey pain u nee?

little wonder.

You saw the story after it already front page and Lala had done some work on it, that's why you're asking this question. So I'll ignore you

You are a greedy man. you have 3 kids already. Why do u want to take the child from her. Just take it that you're just a sperm donor. The real father of the child is her husband for standing by her through the pregnancy.

@ukpahu too late bro, baby mama done already visited the village native doctor. pray hard and often!

OP the child is not an item for you to collect.
It’s a person. With a life outside of yours

Look for a way to share parenting with the mom. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Aka either you or his/her mom.

If you both really love the kid, you can make it. Don’t let the feelings you still have for the mom complicate your current marriage.

emmnprince:



OP need your candid advice on the matter on ground you're here dishing out blessing to all reading your comment. This is out of place.

We're already blessed. Help OP with your advice. And if you don't have any to give, just read and move to the next story.

thank you sir,
for reminding me on the op situation on ground,

because of this you are richly blessed all the days of your life!

you shall reap fully from the fruit of your labour!

as for the op this is what you have to do,

in this life of reality there are two choices we make in life,
its either we do good nor its either we do bad,

back in the days you made love to her out of wedlock,
thats what you will get,
badlucks and disappointments.

she will deny you all access to the baby.
The only remedy is to play by her rules if not just forget it.

But be careful she might just want to use charms on you to control your life.

Its good to Stay far away from a woman who has threatened to use charms when she has senses she is loosing out of the case,

so please be guided and move on,

life is all about choices

when you were a youth,
you played love and it resulted to a baby,

why not move on and consentrate on creating another baby with your new wife at hand,

the way men are genetically created is out of this world,

thats why a man can be able to marry more than one wife and get all of them pregnant without much stress,

as far as your production on sperm level has not yet droped and you still enjoy your youthfull age,

just forget about that baby and push on,
with time you will get over it,

thats why all you need is just get up today and declare great blessings over your life this day!

Believe greatly in your mind and it shall due come to pass!

A man is richly rewarded only by his faith alone!

shout at the top of your voice,

i am richly blessed!
My family is blessed!
My new baby coming into this life shall be blessed!

After doing this just wash as things will fall out for your own good!

just as some bad parents and people will keep on cursing their childrens daily,

some will even go as far as saying it shall never be well with them!

hmmm,
all this are parental curses holding us back from succeding in life,

how sure of you if you are not really under that curse?
thats why any oportunity that i have,
i use it to bless people because the more you pray for people,

the more your own troubles and worries shall be richly over turned for your own good,

you have prayed and bless yourself for years now,
why not turn that same energy of blessings to people and see a great thing in your life op?

You shall be even greatly blessed for sharing with us this great topic to learn from!

Stay blessed!
Thanks

Peace!

legal kill u there..u give person daughter belle n ran away but now dat dem don train d child finish u want come form papi..mumu go collect am naa criminal ..u get luck say dat lady still dey follow u talk if na some family u for don enter police cell..with this ur grammer u want form say u dey work for federal uni abi na gateman u be?..abeg free that woman n d innocent child u be irresponsible father infact u be disgrace to manhood

ukpahu:
Hear my story. I am Igala by tribe. When i was in the village this thing happen more than 12 years ago.

A lady i was dating then got pregnant and she told me about it, then i asked her what's the next step, she told me that she will abort the baby. One month later, another story that she will not give me the baby because my mother doesn't like her.

Before she gave birth to the baby, i traveled to town and got work in one of the federal universities. I spent two years without going back to the village. The last time i traveled to village, i noticed that she is married to another man with two children o. I asked her of my baby, she told me to divorce my wife and marry her before she can give my baby or if i try any thing funy she is going to charm me.

I told my uncle about it, he told me to forget about the baby that God has already given me a good wife and three children.

This whole thing is giving me sleepless night. I can't sleep. I am always thinking of my baby and my wife is noticing some changes in me.

Please what will i do? Should i take legal action on her? pls advice me ooooo. The woman is my first love, i will continue to love her till i die. She is the only woman i ever loved, even more than my wife. I love this woman but she cost me pain.

If you badly love your girl friend as you claim, why didn't you man her when she was expecting your baby?

Let sleeping dog lie. You are both married to different people and have your families. Leave the woman alone and your so called child, otherwise you will ruin your family and her family.

You can not eat your cake and have it.

ukpahu:
i no my ppl with charm even her parent surport her and my mother did not want to bring the issue out all my sister my brother my village ppl no dat baby s my but sometime i think woman are heartless

Women are heartless? I don't think that applies in this case. You should blame yourself. You left a young beautiful girl in the village for two years after putting her in the family way. You probably do not know all she suffered during that period without any support from you. All of a sudden, from nowhere, you showed up and want your child. Haba! Even Sani Abacha no go do this kain thing. Bro you don't seems to know the psychological and emotional torture you subjected that young woman to. She most likely still love you too and regretted marrying her current husband, because you left her and she had no option. That is why she is giving you the weird/hard condition of divorcing you wife and marrying her. My advice: talk to her, show remorse for the way you (and probably your mother) treated her, then gradually show affection for the child. She is taking this hard stand because she feels you don't care about what happened between you two and all she has gone through but you are only interested in the child; who you do not have any input in, except the night you got her pregnant.

ukpahu:
Hear my story. I am Igala by tribe. When i was in the village this thing happen more than 12 years ago.

A lady i was dating then got pregnant and she told me about it, then i asked her what's the next step, she told me that she will abort the baby. One month later, another story that she will not give me the baby because my mother doesn't like her.

Before she gave birth to the baby, i traveled to town and got work in one of the federal universities. I spent two years without going back to the village. The last time i traveled to village, i noticed that she is married to another man with two children o. I asked her of my baby, she told me to divorce my wife and marry her before she can give my baby or if i try any thing funy she is going to charm me.

I told my uncle about it, he told me to forget about the baby that God has already given me a good wife and three children.

This whole thing is giving me sleepless night. I can't sleep. I am always thinking of my baby and my wife is noticing some changes in me.

Please what will i do? Should i take legal action on her? pls advice me ooooo. The woman is my first love, i will continue to love her till i die. She is the only woman i ever loved, even more than my wife. I love this woman but she cost me pain.

she told me that she will abort the baby

why are adult fcccking when baby come out the result them behaving fun as them do not know that will be the outcome

Two years after, una two don play 3:2
Na so una fertile for the village

I pray your faithful wife dumps your ungrateful ass and leave with your 3kids.

U came back 2yrs after ,she was married with 2 children & your uncle bros told u to let her be because God already gave u a good wife & 3 children,hmmm
2yrs after or the last time u came home

Your uncle have given you a sound advice so what else do you want?

She is the only woman i ever loved, even more than my wife. I love this woman but she cost me pain.




SMH

Bro forget about the woman and baby for now ur pikin go find you make sure you are catering for the baby till he/she grows up and let your family know about it

DrFunmisticGlow:
Then no time to advice that Trainwreck of a writeup.

Go back and insert punctuations, let us understand what you are saying. Then maybe we can help you.

I'm beginning to question your educational qualifications

You're a big fool, English teacher. Op is on a federal job, you're here correcting grammar. Ewu gambia

OkunrinMeta:

Beg for what?

The baby

Sixfeetbelle:


I want to advise you, Op, I really do but I can't comprehend your write up. Add a paragraph or two to increase legibility. Thank you

The write up get k leg but as a 9ja guy u suppose comprehend

Dshocker:
Funny enough,the OP might be a lecturer in that university he claims to be working with,his english is superb

I guess he is English lecturer...He speaks queens English.. we die here

Lilgabby:
What are meant for you will b for you. Calm down let God do his things in wonder later or sooner, she will be the one begging you.

Forget it bro God no do anything for this one... the guy don shit for church

You have kids with your present wife. Those kids need all the love, attention and care to become great adults and make you proud one day and you are fretting over just one child you had with another woman who is even now married to another man.
I advise that your efforts to try connect with this child of yours with your Ex shouldn't overshadow the efforts you are putting into raising your other children in your present marriage. Don't mess up your own family because of another. You cannot force things beyond how they are now if your ex just won't let you see the boy now. Perhaps in time her stance will soften but for now, you have a family to raise.
I know it's not easy letting go of an offspring you know is out there but I think you have to for the time being. After some time, you can try again.

You so much love her and didn't marry her? You didn't make sense @OP

I won't advise you take legal action because you will loss and the reason is because you never carried out the legal right on her head.

best bet is to keep talking and begging her and if you want that child by force, then be ready to divorce your wife and marry her.

take your uncle's advise, let the child be.

Is this story true? U impregnated a woman and later went to the city to work in a university then u stayed in the city for two years without going back to the village then by the time you got back (which I believe was after 2yrs) your baby mama is already married and have two kids and you were not happy that she refused to give you your baby so u told your uncle(which i believe was that same two years ago) and he said you should forget about her since you are married too with three kids. Now my question is when did you marry that your wife already had three kids before you travelled back to the village after two years And is that your baby mama pregnant with your child when she got married to her husband that she already had two kids 2yrs before you went back to the village again Or are the two kids different from yours? Your story have loopholes. The dots are not connecting.

ukpahu:
Hear my story. I am Igala by tribe. When i was in the village this thing happen more than 12 years ago.

A lady i was dating then got pregnant and she told me about it, then i asked her what's the next step, she told me that she will abort the baby. One month later, another story that she will not give me the baby because my mother doesn't like her.

Before she gave birth to the baby, i traveled to town and got work in one of the federal universities. I spent two years without going back to the village. The last time i traveled to village, i noticed that she is married to another man with two children o. I asked her of my baby, she told me to divorce my wife and marry her before she can give my baby or if i try any thing funy she is going to charm me.

I told my uncle about it, he told me to forget about the baby that God has already given me a good wife and three children.

This whole thing is giving me sleepless night. I can't sleep. I am always thinking of my baby and my wife is noticing some changes in me.

Please what will i do? Should i take legal action on her? pls advice me ooooo. The woman is my first love, i will continue to love her till i die. She is the only woman i ever loved, even more than my wife. I love this woman but she cost me pain.

you Love the woman
You got her pregnant
You travel to the city
Got a job with a federal University
Spent two years without going home
When you return she was married
You ask of your baby.

Were you there when she was put to bed?
Did you support her financially or in any means?
Did you care for her and the baby?

If you haven't done that then the fault is yours brother, accept it.

She may win you in the court base on your irresponsibility

ukpahu:
Hear my story. I am Igala by tribe. When i was in the village this thing happen more than 12 years ago.

A lady i was dating then got pregnant and she told me about it, then i asked her what's the next step, she told me that she will abort the baby. One month later, another story that she will not give me the baby because my mother doesn't like her.

Before she gave birth to the baby, i traveled to town and got work in one of the federal universities. I spent two years without going back to the village. The last time i traveled to village, i noticed that she is married to another man with two children o. I asked her of my baby, she told me to divorce my wife and marry her before she can give my baby or if i try any thing funy she is going to charm me.

I told my uncle about it, he told me to forget about the baby that God has already given me a good wife and three children.

This whole thing is giving me sleepless night. I can't sleep. I am always thinking of my baby and my wife is noticing some changes in me.

Please what will i do? Should i take legal action on her? pls advice me ooooo. The woman is my first love, i will continue to love her till i die. She is the only woman i ever loved, even more than my wife. I love this woman but she cost me pain.

why dint you marry her, since she is your first and still love?

you be real akpaamu!

DrFunmisticGlow:
Then no time to advice that Trainwreck of a writeup.

Go back and insert punctuations, let us understand what you are saying. Then maybe we can help you.

I'm beginning to question your educational qualifications

did he spill out his educational qualifications? or is it because he said he works in a university?