We ve been dating for 4months now (no sex yet), though he is unemployed (a chemical engineer) but manages a little business of his own. Lately, I noticed he's bored even when i'm around him. When i commented on it, he assured me that he is ok with me but has alot going on his mind.

This thing is really giving me concern cos i dnt want him feeling that way wen we are together.

What should i do??

Was he like that since you know him or you just noticed it?

A man without a job is like a bear with a sore head. Nothing will make him happy until he finds a job. Men value themsevles by how much they make and what they do for a living. It is very important to them. You're just going to have to wait this one out until he finds a job. I don't think he's bored with you and besides you can't be with someone 24hrs of the day. No matter how much you love them, you will always needs some space from them.

LOVE.4BUG:

We ve been dating for 4months now (no sex yet), though he is unemployed (a chemical engineer) but manages a little business of his own. Lately, I noticed he's bored even when i'm around him. When i commented on it, he assured me that he is ok with me but has alot going on his mind.

This thing is really giving me concern cos i dnt want him feeling that way wen we are together.

What should i do??

You are yet to give him his rite of passage to your garden of eden and you expect him not to be bored. Most men become lively and happy when given the forbidden fruit. Try to give him the apple and he won't be bored for the time being.

Gina-Ukey:

A man without a job is like a bear with a sore head. Nothing will make him happy until he finds a job. Men value themsevles by how much they make and what they do for a living. It is very important to them. You're just going to have to wait this one out until he finds a job. I don't think he's bored with you and besides you can't be with someone 24hrs of the day. No matter how much you love them, you will always needs some space from them.

WOW!

Thank you!!

I agree with Gina. Joblessness affects a man emotionally more than it could ever affect a woman.


. . . . Cuz all she'll do is shrug, wear something tight and then look for some mugu to spend money on her.

bittatruth:

Whats your proof that he is in-love?

Yes I know cos he has taken me to his pastor, his mum, and his elder brother.

What other prof do u need?

LOVE.4BUG:

Yes I know cos he has taken me to his pastor, his mum, and his elder brother.

What other prof do u need?

When did taking someone to a pastor, mother, and elder brother become a proof of love? It seems you don't understand what is called love. Until you do, you will be able to know if you are with the right person or not. Imagine if he decides to marry you and calls off the wedding on the exact date (God forbid that be your portion), would you still believe he loved you? Wake up from your slumber. He may not be feeling you anymore and wants to opt out. But I believe his unemployment status is the cause of the boredom. Assist him in getting a job if you can, but be sure that he loves you and won't turn around to hurt you after you have helped him. Men could be dangerous at times.

Talk to him my dear, have a clear and honest conversation with him, tell him what you feel, and when he'll answer try to change by being maybe more enjoying, try to be unpredictable, go out or invite him somewhere
Do something he wouldn'nt expect from his GF

@OP
A lot of men are not very verbal. He may be still be shy with you as you havr not had sex. My advice is to become intimate with him so as to enable him feel more relaxed with you. Once he does he will be able to open up to you. This will bring the 2 of you closer.

Op,
Do you have common interests?
If you do,boredom wont be an issue.if you dont,there probably always be nothing to talk about.
Besides,he definitely has lots going thru him mind considering he joblessness and the fact that he's managing something little.cut him some slack and dont be too quick to judge his love or the relationship at this point.its just 4 months old!

i agree that his joblessness could be the factor...but u dont have to be intimate to have fun.

Pls having sex with the dude is an evil advice... From a spiritual point of view & its even a lame advice. Dat doesnt guarantee a thing... Damn!!! Who siad dat?. Ur name implies who u are. In as much as I love sex, I wont say thats the solution to ur problem.

Im always like the way u described the guy... Mostly becos im nt happy with loads of things... What my princess does is to keep me lively. She understands me & wud always encourage me... She tells me in love to get her excited & ofcourse we av sex... Instead of saying u shud av sex, id ask u if u see nothing wrong with sex. If u dnt then u can try that. Bt its nt a guarantee.

LOVE IS NOT FOR TWO PERFECT PEOPLE BUT TWO IMPERFECT PEOPLE BOUND BY LOVE

ITS NOT LOVE WHEN THINGS ARE EASY BUT WHEN THINGS ARE UNEASY, THATS WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE.

Nayah:
Talk to him my dear, have a clear and honest conversation with him, tell him what you feel, and when he'll answer try to change by being maybe more enjoying, try to be unpredictable, go out or invite him somewhere
Do something he wouldn'nt expect from his GF

Nice one girl.

seeyouseeme:

Nice one girl.

Nairalanders this guy is a scammer with his fake bitcoin software...u don close ur first scamming nairaland profile id abi?....arinze if u like run wit d stolen cash but u will live to regret it just watch

4months without sex

Op are you the one resisting or he ?