I have been dating a particular girl for more than 3yrs now, she refuses to see me often becos she says that she does not want to have intimacy. Sometimes i want to date other babes but it seems not just to work. i try to invite her out just to be with her but she is always busy with one thing or the other. Alot of times i feel really lonely and just want someone to be around me,to make matter worst i stay alone and friends bring their own babes to my place. I love her and wuld really not want to cheat on her,but she is not helping me out.

Guy,
Sincerely speaking ,you dont have a girl friend , you only think you have one cos it simply shows she s not missing you.
I think the best way to go about it is to sit her down and talk things over with her, let her know all you are telling us now and be very firm with her on your decision to pull out of the relationship if things do not change.

dagold4eva:

she refuses to see me often becos she says that she does not want to have intimacy

that is the problem , I am very sure you are pressuring her into se!x and that is what she is avoiding

you sound quite immature to me anyway ,
how old are you?

people r lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.

you aint gat no girl hommie even if you cheat she wouldn't even care but the funny part is you are cheating on no one because you gats no girl so i give ya permission go ahead and ""cheat""

2 things r involve its either u r pressing for sex prematurely or she no send u, if the first is not the case then try acting like she doesnt exist, no call, no visit, no msg, just blank her and when she comes around(if at all she will) no giv am attention act busy and speak little, let her av a dose of her drug, if she cares she will cry out then tell her while and reconcile but no be say to nack am na him b the reconciliation wey i dey talk o

AH! u r done for!!

You can always delete her

Sorry to break it to u but, u don't have a girlfriend! I know it hurts to just find out that u've been decieving urself for 3 whole yrs but take heart and move on.

Being lonely Isn't a function of your girlfriend cuz you don't have to rely on a human being to be happy,when you do that even if you have 20 girlfrens,they will not fill your loneliness,learn to love yourself first.

@rickie4us,am an adult in my late 20's. It not about sex,and i do not pressure her on sex,but after wuking monday-saturday wuld i be asking for too much if i want to spend some time with my babe on sunday?even to just go out to hangout if she feels my place is not safe for her. Someone should pls tell me why we can't have sex after 3yrs together?

@poster: wow! That girl has got mind games on you but she giving you over dose of it.Man,you need to be comfortable in ur own skin,give yourself a high esteem and be that alpha male that only nid the females around for fun.the sense of companionship and belonging you seek dwell in u!

@ Poster.

Did u say u guys av been like this for 3yrs now? i really dont think she is really into u as u are. its normal at the initial stage but eh, after 3 yrs>>>>>>>>>habaaaaa

Dude any gf of urs that's not missing u is worth dissing 2! I suggest u gv her space and move on. U'll b surprised at d perfect glove u'll find if u just venture.