I met this girl when I was in 300L[my second degree though]. I'm now in 600L. How we became friends and even started dating was very funny.

After a hectic day lecture, I needed to use the ATM within the campus before going home. There she was standing in the cue and immediately my eyes caught her, I liked her. The next question on my mind was how to initiate conversation and to get her contact given that so many persons were on cue and it could be embarrassing if the right approach wasn't adopted. She is the kind of girl that will catch any guy's attention, her height, her facial beauty, her shape, asss (lol) and all. There was no way I could have walked up to her; she was in company of friends and you all know how such things could be. It seemed practically impossible for me to make that move but fortunately for me she carried a transparent bag which housed her books and other items (she was in 100L at the time and doing some registration). There was a hard cover note book in that transparent bag and I could sight a phone number written on the edge of the book which I strongly believed was her number because that was the only notebook in that bag as I could see ,more so, given that they just resumed lectures. So, I quickly memorized the number (lolz) before she could finish withdrawing.

Later that day, after much rest, I called her ,she picked, she was so friendly and I of course was encouraged. She asked how I got her contact and I told her that I stole it , while she was at the ATM ; she laughed softly and I could at the instance feel the lines below my eyes go wrinkled.

While we continued talking, she told me at some point that she is in a complicated relationship but I didn't give up. We continued to be friends. On a certain Saturday, she called that she was coming to visit me (I stay off K),
I was super excited. That day she told me that she likes me and that we can step it up from just being friends. That was how we started dating..(we actually kissed that day..lolz).

While dating, I told her severally that I wouldn't sleep with a woman who is not my wife which means I wouldn't have sex until I'm married. This didn't go well with her because I realized she is the type that loves sex so much. Many times she had got herself naked before me, seducing me and all but I wouldn't give in. Her desire for sex is actually beyond what I can handle and if I continued in that relationship, one day I'm sure going to compromise my stand. So I had to let her know that I wouldn't be able to continue in the relationship, that I still have many more years to spend in school and I'm not even certain that at the end of it we were going to get married, that instead of me waisting her time, it would be better that we just put an end to the relationship while we remain just friends. She cried ,but it had to be that way because I need my wife to be proud of me and of course , heaven will stand pleased. We parted ways..

After we broke up, I didn't hear from her again for like 3 weeks, then I received a phone call from her and told me that she was pregnant and that she wanted to see me. Over the phone, I asked "how"? Since when?.. she was crying at the same time and i had to ask her to come to my place so we could talk. She came, narrated how after we broke up, got involved with another guy and that was how she became pregnant. She wanted to go for an abortion but I advised her against such move. I asked her to call her mummy and tell her the truth, that her mum will know how best to go about the whole stuff. I guessed she did, but her parents wouldn't have her in the house anymore because of shame and the indecent signal it may send to the other siblings. She had to pack to the guy's House and that was how they became husband and wife till date. She gave birth to a son and they are together as husband and wife till today.

The guy is a diploma holder and works in a photo studio ( the guy lied to her when they first met, that he was a graduate and that he was awaiting NYSC, I'm sure it was the reason she accepted him even though I could judge that she was desperate for sex).

Even though I'm still a student but God has been faithful such that I don't lack and everyone around me knows that I'm liberal.

She has been making request of me, asking for financial assistance and many times I have reached out to her.

Just yesterday, she asked that I help her with some money, that she is broke and her husband doesn't have anything, no food for her child. I was really touched. But is it proper that I continue doing this?

Please advise needed! I just want to avoid every form of temptation, is her husband aware that I give her money? What if this becomes an issue?

Please what should I do?

If you have watched Legend of the seeker, you will know this..

THE GREATEST HARM SOMETIMES COMES FROM THE BEST INTENTIONS. ~Zeddicus Zu'l Zorander.

It's your choice if u wish to continue helping her or not but I sincerely don't think helping her is a bad choice since you're just helping for helping sake and not expecting anything in return. Continue helping her if it won't hurt you doing so.

Away from that, Please how av u been able to keep ur virginity as a man while on campus cos ppl like us no even pass out of secondary school as Virgins.

Hahaha

Sorry o, I just love the part where you told her you stole her contact..lolz

Hmmm

eazylion001:
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Why taking my space? Lol

OP, its like they need to hit hammer on your head before you realize that you have to COMPLETELY cut ties with that woman abi?
Its until she brings wahala that you dont know anything about to you, abi?
She is a married woman now.
She is bound to a man.
She is off limits to a guy like you.
She is another man's problem now.
Flee!

Querty:
Hahaha

Sorry o, I just love the part where you told her you stole her contact..lolz

Lolz

But you haven't addressed my concern yet

iTroll:
Hmm

Do you think I should continue?

I will be glad if you can modify

iTroll:
OP, its like they need to hit hammer on your head before you realize that you have to COMPLETELY cut ties with that woman abi?
Its until she brings wahala that you dont know anything about to you, abi?
She is a married woman now.
She is bound to a man.
She is off limits to a guy like you.
She is another man's problem now.
Flee!

Same thing I thought about broda. Bought she narrates the story in such a way that anybody with conscience wouldn't do otherwise but to help..

Thanks for your advice, maybe I should do this.

my brother jus stay off, she is a married woman now

adblack10:
my brother jus stay off, she is a married woman now

All right, thanks bro

eazylion001:
It's your choice if u wish to continue helping her or not but I sincerely don't think helping her is a bad choice since you're just helping for helping sake and not expecting anything in return. Continue helping her if it won't hurt you doing so.

Away from that, Please how av u been able to keep ur virginity as a man while on campus cos ppl like us no even pass out of secondary school as Virgins.

All right, thanks bro


Lolz, maybe it's just God that is helping me fa cos I made up mind not to indulge. And I adopt certain strategies that help me. I must say, it is not easy broda.

I like that quote by Zeddicus

I see nothing wrong in helping her whenever you can afford to. You'll lose nothing by doing that. But it's obvious you're entertaining thoughts of having an affair with her so take a step back.

Cut off contact Immediately.

KAM3KAZI:
I like that quote by Zeddicus

Makes sense..lol

this why it's best to have an account meant for charity, that way if there's no money in it, you can boldly tell the person you don't have.

I will suggest you control the way you give don't go turning into a living ATM

Ningen:
I see nothing wrong in helping her whenever you can afford to. You'll lose nothing by doing that. But it's obvious you're entertaining thoughts of having an affair with her so take a step back.

Cut off contacts Immediately.

Yea, dats my fear actually


Okay, thanks bro

Guy, you are a hero

She's financially amputated, but her X boyfriend's got some money hence she's been callin' for help, got bills to pay. See, you ain't gonna stop reachin' out to her. You gotta finish what you started...

The guys above me have already advised you. Cut ties with that woman. She's married.

You don't owe her anything. If you're father Christmas, go to any nearby junction, you will see less privileged beggars, help them. Most of them don't have legs and hands

NigeriaB:

All right, thanks bro
Lolz, maybe it's just God that is helping me fa cos I made up mind not to indulge. And I adopt certain strategies that help me. I must say, it is not easy broda.

There alot of semilarities btw u and i, I'm about 30 years of age, an OND Holder and still a virgin too, although not easy at all. My candid advise 4 u is that, u should destroyed any form of affection(s) u have 4 her and call it a quit. continue to support her financially but not all the time because is another man's property. May God gives u wisdom to overcome these challenges IJN. NOTE: That girl is not a wife's material becos if she was, she wouldn't have demanded sex from you, no decent girl does that.

NigeriaB:


All right, thanks bro


Lolz, maybe it's just God that is helping me fa cos I made up mind not to indulge. And I adopt certain strategies that help me. I must say, it is not easy broda.

Give and it shall b given back to you. Atleast for d sake of d kid. Too bad she allowed d good for nothing man rope her with lies. Mtcheeew

Samakus:
The guys above me have already advised you. Cut ties with that woman. She's married.

You don't owe her anything. If you're father Christmas, go to any nearby junction, you will see less privileged beggars, help them. Most of them don't have legs and hands

Heartless. No b for here married people dey open thread dey beg for help? Fake friend u are.

NigeriaB:
I met this girl when I was in 300L[my second degree though]. I'm now in 600L. How we became friends and even started dating was very funny.

After a hectic day lecture, I needed to use the ATM within the campus before going home. There she was standing in the cue and immediately my eyes caught her, I liked her. The next question on my mind was how to initiate conversation and to get her contact given that so many persons were on cue and it could be embarrassing if the right approach wasn't adopted. She is the kind of girl that will catch any guy's attention, her height, her facial beauty, her shape, asss (lol) and all. There was no way I could have walked up to her; she was in company of friends and you all know how such things could be. It seemed practically impossible for me to make that move but fortunately for me she carried a transparent bag which housed her books and other items (she was in 100L at the time and doing some registration). There was a hard cover note book in that transparent bag and I could sight a phone number written on the edge of the book which I strongly believed was her number because that was the only notebook in that bag as I could see ,more so, given that they just resumed lectures. So, I quickly memorized the number (lolz) before she could finish withdrawing.

Later that day, after much rest, I called her ,she picked, she was so friendly and I of course was encouraged. She asked how I got her contact and I told her that I stole it , while she was at the ATM ; she laughed softly and I could at the instance feel the lines below my eyes go wrinkled.

While we continued talking, she told me at some point that she is in a complicated relationship but I didn't give up. We continued to be friends. On a certain Saturday, she called that she was coming to visit me (I stay off K),
I was super excited. That day she told me that she likes me and that we can step it up from just being friends. That was how we started dating..(we actually kissed that day..lolz).

While dating, I told her severally that I wouldn't sleep with a woman who is not my wife which means I wouldn't have sex until I'm married. This didn't go well with her because I realized she is the type that loves sex so much. Many times she had got herself naked before me, seducing me and all but I wouldn't give in. Her desire for sex is actually beyond what I can handle and if I continued in that relationship, one day I'm sure going to compromise my stand. So I had to let her know that I wouldn't be able to continue in the relationship, that I still have many more years to spend in school and I'm not even certain that at the end of it we were going to get married, that instead of me waisting her time, it would be better that we just put an end to the relationship while we remain just friends. She cried ,but it had to be that way because I need my wife to be proud of me and of course , heaven will stand pleased. We parted ways..

After we broke up, I didn't hear from her again for like 3 weeks, then I received a phone call from her and told me that she was pregnant and that she wanted to see me. Over the phone, I asked "how"? Since when?.. she was crying at the same time and i had to ask her to come to my place so we could talk. She came, narrated how after we broke up, got involved with another guy and that was how she became pregnant. She wanted to go for an abortion but I advised her against such move. I asked her to call her mummy and tell her the truth, that her mum will know how best to go about the whole stuff. I guessed she did, but her parents wouldn't have her in the house anymore because of shame and the indecent signal it may send to the other siblings. She had to pack to the guy's House and that was how they became husband and wife till date. She gave birth to a son and they are together as husband and wife till today.

The guy is a diploma holder and works in a photo studio ( the guy lied to her when they first met, that he was a graduate and that he was awaiting NYSC, I'm sure it was the reason she accepted him even though I could judge that she was desperate for sex).

Even though I'm still a student but God has been faithful such that I don't lack and everyone around me knows that I'm liberal.

She has been making request of me, asking for financial assistance and many times I have reached out to her.

Just yesterday, she asked that I help her with some money, that she is broke and her husband doesn't have anything, no food for her child. I was really touched. But is it proper that I continue doing this?

Please advise needed! I just want to avoid every form of temptation, is her husband aware that I give her money? What if this becomes an issue?

Please what should I do?

If you have watched Legend of the seeker, you will know this..

THE GREATEST HARM SOMETIMES COMES FROM THE BEST INTENTIONS. ~Zeddicus Zu'l Zorander.

"Do what is right because its the right thing to do" . helping her is a good thing due to her financial challenges, everyone likes being helped, but in this case i urged to not only withdraw your aid but also every relationship that bond both of you.

My reasons being:
• what if her spouse finds out?
• what if she decides to repay you With sex? (Temptation - ya know. And how about your so-called morals and values? Will you blew them for a momentai pleasure?


On the surface its just help but deeply it could come with repercussions you may live to regret rest of your life.

Bro,you must be very disciplined to keep yourself.Thank God,u were avoiding sex unless the girl could have put everything on your head.
You can continue helping her but let it not be like a MUST DO STUFF.
Keeping yourself as a guy is very hard with all the big ass and boobs moving round campus.May God help us.

eazylion001:
It's your choice if u wish to continue helping her or not but I sincerely don't think helping her is a bad choice since you're just helping for helping sake and not expecting anything in return. Continue helping her if it won't hurt you doing so.

Away from that, Please how av u been able to keep ur virginity as a man while on campus cos ppl like us no even pass out of secondary school as Virgins.

I didn't know anything called woman till my 600l...funny enough I went to a mixed secondary school.. I think is mainly due to to exposure and influence from friends that one follows

themaestro08:


"Do what is right because its the right thing to do" . helping her is a good thing due to her financial challenges, everyone likes being helped, but in this case i urged to not only withdraw your aid but also every relationship that bond both of you.

My reasons being:
• what if her spouse finds out?
• what if she decides to repay you With sex? (Temptation - ya know. And how about your so-called morals and values? Will you blew them for a momentai pleasure?


On the surface its just help but deeply it could come with repercussions you may live to regret rest of your life.

Thank you so much. Your reasoningd are exactly my fear..

Because I still feel she still likes me and I really liked her then and I'm scared any little thing could vjust ignite that feeling again.

Bu thank you so much for this..

ekibs11:
this why it's best to have an account meant for charity, that way if there's no money in it, you can boldly tell the person you don't have.

I will suggest you control the way you give don't go turning into a living ATM

Yea, thanks bro

Anytime she mentions her child not having something to eat, I will just get weak

JOACHINpedro:
Guy, you are a hero

Lolz

Samakus:
The guys above me have already advised you. Cut ties with that woman. She's married.

You don't owe her anything. If you're father Christmas, go to any nearby junction, you will see less privileged beggars, help them. Most of them don't have legs and hands

Thanks bro..Taken

OVB123:
There alot of semilarities btw u and i, I'm about 30 years of age, an OND Holder and still a virgin too, although not easy at all. My candid advise 4 u is that, u should destroyed any form of affection(s) u have 4 her and call it a quit. continue to support her financially but not all the time because is another man's property. May God gives u wisdom to overcome these challenges IJN. NOTE: That girl is not a wife's material becos if she was, she wouldn't have demanded sex from you, no decent girl does that.

Rightly said bro..

Thanks alot