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Le124:
I have a friend who has everything going on well for him,he provides for the house and take very good care of his wife,even go an extra miles sometimes to make sure his wife does not lack anything. But events turn around when the guy lost his job and things becomes very difficult for the man.
But the wife his working, suddenly the wife stop cooking for the man and said the man should be doing his cooking, later on because of the covid 19 issue, there one of less down 2hrs can't go to K.G. the man took over too. And now for more than 4months now the man is the one cleaning the house, cooking, washing dishes, and bathing with feeding there son, and the wife will just go to work and come back eat from the man's cooked food and then go to bed and start pressing her fone.
But she makes sure that there is food in the house and food for there son to eat.
All effort to talk to her has proved abortive. Even her Pastor and some relations have step in and still no change she always capitalise on the fact that she goes out to prove food for the family. That her husband his not even appreciative enough. So she didn't see anything wrong in all what the husband is doing in the house
Please what should my friend do?
Please this is a serious issue. Please

Martinez39s:
Lol. I try to be 100% logical and leave emotions out. I am never emotional invested in any discussion on this forum. You probably thought I would come here to start a gender war and demonize the wife and all women. Nah!

Btw, can you remind me who is the "king of logical counter..."? Be like say I don forget.

Ariza:
Lol although you tried to be objective but there are some extremes in that post which I just ignore. But I will give you 80% Sha.

As for your last paragraph, lol Pansophist takes that crown

Martinez39s:
Lol. You didn't get the joke with my last question. You have probably forgotten. Never mind.

Ariza:
Well, honestly you lost me.

khia:
You people get on my last nerve, so the husband is supposed to sit on his lazy ass all day and contribute nothing while the wife goes to work, come home and do all the house chores, cook, and take care of the child? You guys need better home training, you are too damn spoiled. You don't even care if your wife is exhausted. Pathetic.

Wait, do you guys feel this way because the wife is bought and paid for like a slave?

SavageResponse:
Do you still expect the wife to do all the housework after she gets back from work in the evening?

khia:
When the husband worked outside of the home the wife took care of the home, now the wife has to do his job and provide for the family, he should contribute to the house keep. Marriage is.a partnership, not a slave and master relationship. The wife is.human, she gets tired.

Why do the women raise such spoiled, lazy, entitled men? It starts with mothers, raise better men.

khia:
When the husband worked outside of the home the wife took care of the home, now the wife has to do his job and provide for the family, he should contribute to the house keep. Marriage is.a partnership, not a slave and master relationship. The wife is.human, she gets tired.

Why do the women raise such spoiled, lazy, entitled men? It starts with mothers, raise better men.

Sixfeetbelle:
I like how you were objective with this comment.

Bola146:
Why not use glasses before quoting me na, was she not doing the normal wo rks when the husband was okay? The man LOST HIS JOB! I know that he too wouldn't be happy staying home jobless now! Haba So because she is the and the man is jobless, the man must do 100% home chores, while the woman is busy pressing phone Koburu, You better wake up!

fetrillion:
I guess this story is one sided Op and I strongly presume it is written to justify the ineptitudes of the man(huby)
What do you expect from the woman that had gone out for work n comes back home at night?.The said huby must have an Ego issue.Do you expect her to go into the kitchen and start cooking at odd hour knowning fully well that her hubby is at home unengaged.
There is nothing wrong if the huby does the cooking n takes care of the child while awaiting the arrival of the wife.He needs to be supportive considering the fact that he is currently not engaged.
I was once in that shoe,my wife comes home as late as 10pm due to the nature of her job,All I do is to place a call to her n prepare her favorite,make her relax,freshen up while I serve her.
Once a woman contribute significantly to the growth of the family,pls support n pamper her.She is doing what the hubby ought to do,pls support and appreciate her while you pray n work towards how you will get yourself back on track.

Le124:
What stress are you even talking about here, she goes to her place of work that she has been going long before they got married. And she still do her house work has a single lady ,so why can't she take some responsibility as a woman should. Is that too much to ask

Le124:
What stress are you even talking about here, she goes to her place of work that she has been going long before they got married. And she still do her house work has a single lady ,so why can't she take some responsibility as a woman should. Is that too much to ask

Ayemileto:
And apart from House Chores, what has your friend being doing?

Has he been looking for job, running a business or just sitting at home doing nothing?

Or he just want to sit at home all day without doing anything?


Also, all those Friends, family members and Pastors that have tried settling the issue, how have they helped the man financially so far? Have they referred him for a job, gave him money to start a business? Or all they do is just try to talk to the woman?

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In all, mind your business and leave the man alone with his family.

If any of you really want to help him, then you should be more worried about getting him back up financially than about him doing house chores.

The root of the entire problem is him going broke, and nothing will change until he take back his role as the breadwinner of the family.

All this noise and blackmail won't change a thing. If you're really concerned, help him start up a business OR get him a job!

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And that's if this story is true, because it looks fake to me.

khia:
I'm going to break this down so all of you selfish, spoiled, entitled babies can understand.

1. It's exhausting and stressful to work outside of the home and then come back home to chores, cooking, and minding the kids, be it the woman or the man.

2. If both partners are going to work outside of the home it is only fair for them to share household chores, and yes that means taking care of THEIR 4 month old child, if there is a problem with that, logic suggest that they go to the traditional way of marriage, the husband takes care of the outside and the wife takes care of the inside.

3. Sure, I understand that you men believe you bought and paid for a commodity to do whatever you say, but remember you chose these women to be your life long companions. They deserve to be cared for and loved. You can't claim to love someone yet treat them as your slave. A loving husband would show compassion.

4. To the wives, STOP being doormats and STOP raising your son's like this, teach them to be self sufficient so they won't have to depend on anyone, teach your daughters as well.

fetrillion:
You must be the man in question
You are not serious at all.Yiu better quit your ego n do the needful.
You sit down at home,eat all day n still expect your wife to resume her primary duty.Shior

Bola146:
Continue.. It's not the man's happiness to be jobless!!!!

khia:
You people get on my last nerve, so the husband is supposed to sit on his lazy ass all day and contribute nothing while the wife goes to work, come home and do all the house chores, cook, and take care of the child? You guys need better home training, you are too damn spoiled. You don't even care if your wife is exhausted. Pathetic.

Wait, do you guys feel this way because the wife is bought and paid for like a slave?

Le124:
I have a friend who has everything going on well for him,he provides for the house and take very good care of his wife,even go an extra miles sometimes to make sure his wife does not lack anything. But events turn around when the guy lost his job and things becomes very difficult for the man.
But the wife his working, suddenly the wife stop cooking for the man and said the man should be doing his cooking, later on because of the covid 19 issue, there one of less down 2hrs can't go to K.G. the man took over too. And now for more than 4months now the man is the one cleaning the house, cooking, washing dishes, and bathing with feeding there son, and the wife will just go to work and come back eat from the man's cooked food and then go to bed and start pressing her fone.
But she makes sure that there is food in the house and food for there son to eat.
All effort to talk to her has proved abortive. Even her Pastor and some relations have step in and still no change she always capitalise on the fact that she goes out to prove food for the family. That her husband his not even appreciative enough. So she didn't see anything wrong in all what the husband is doing in the house
Please what should my friend do?
Please this is a serious issue. Please

frozen70:
If she is doing it deliberately then the man must have hurt her In the past

Martinez39s:
Why won't you like it? Your emotions are speaking for you. If a man was treating his wife like this and I supported (which I actually would), would call me objective?

Lol although you tried to be objective but there are some extremes in that post which I just ignore. But I will give you 80% Sha.

As for your last paragraph, lol Pansophist takes that crown

khia:
When the husband worked outside of the home the wife took care of the home, now the wife has to do his job snd provide for the family, he should contribute to the house keep. Marriage is.a partnership, not a slave and master relationship. The wife is.human,.she.gets tired.

Why do your women raise such spoiled, lazy, entitled men? It starts with mothers, raise better men. I bet they expect her to give him her paycheck as well.

Babara1994:
If the man secures a good job, who does the house chores and cooking?