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Ariza:
But MrNiceguy is the same thing as Simp Well Honestly Op dodged a bullet, if he had had sex with that lady, she might have conceived for him and I wonder what effect that would have had on him or his career.

And you are right, the child and the lady aren't his responsibility and he should keep her at a distance before things get complicated. But as for helping, he should do it once in a while.

I'm convinced that I actually dodged a bullet..

SweetCunt97:
Heartless. No b for here married people dey open thread dey beg for help? Fake friend u are.

I can see you don't have any job. That's why you're always masturbating on every thread on Nairaland.

An advice. Find means of being productive. No be every problem p.ssy go solve this year

emerged01:
Bro,you have to flee if you don’t want it in regret. She will finally get what she want from you if you don’t flee. Don’t think you can always reject her.

Thanks bro

NigeriaB:
I'm convinced that I actually dodged a bullet..

You did, or else you would have been baba bomboi by now

NigeriaB:
Thanks dear..lol

But it's not easy dear

keep it up,you have come this far,dont relent.You are a darling,your wife will be a lucky woman

Ariza:
You did, or else you would have been baba bomboi by now

Lolz

Rozz:
keep it up,you have come this far,dont relent.You are a darling,your wife will be a lucky woman

Awwn, thanks dear

Ayemileto:
Your case is kind of different.

In OP's case, all this happened to an 100lvl girl.

If she's among the people who get admission early, then she might be between 14 - 16 years old when all this incidence happened.

If the above statement is correct, then she should be between 17 - 19years now.

And her parents rejected her after finding out about her pregnancy, which forced her to move in with the guy. So, she might not be legally married to him. More like live in partners.

So, unlike your own case, she might truly need the help and not in for a fling.

Also, I suspected she might have dropped out of school already.

But she destroyed her own life by herself and it's not really the OP's responsibility.

So, like you rightly stated, he can help her this time and give her a strict warning.

Of course mine is different but almost same scenario, in fact that woman needed assistant from me much more than OP, Why?

1.Am working while OP is still student.

2. Am fully matured and understanding farrrrrr more than OP when it comes to marriage and family.

3. Of a truth, that woman I narrated her story truly needed financial assistant but her belief was that asking money from me would be direct & authoritatively if sex was involved.

If there is a financial crisis in a family, I think its husband that is supposed to go out to hustle and beg for money outside and not wife.

Even if wife is in tight conner to do that, it's supposed to beg within the limit (her family, female friends, her husband relations) which will not bedevil her marriage. Going to an ex to beg for money when a wife still married to husband is totally not an option.......... Anyway that's my opinion.

NigeriaB:
Awwn, thanks dear

you are welcomed

NigeriaB:
All right, thanks bro


Lolz, maybe it's just God that is helping me fa cos I made up mind not to indulge. And I adopt certain strategies that help me. I must say, it is not easy broda.

You will seem like a unicorn to many guys here. Because they won't be able to imagine life without sex

ImaIma1:
You will seen like a unicorn to many guys here. Because they won't be able to imagine life without sex

Hahaha

Rozz:
keep it up,you have come this far,dont relent.You are a darling,your wife will be a lucky woman

Me too

NigeriaB, I had a somewhat similar experience. Till today we remain best of friends, we know our bounds. As much as you can, help her. What you didn't do then I believe you wouldn't do it now.
I salute your courage and determination to maintain your chastity

fairheart:
Me too

lmao,you are not like him ooo,i caught you in a thread like that,i just kept quiet

Rozz:
lmao,you are not like him ooo,i caught you in a thread like that,i just kept quiet

You see why you are not getting it?
There are many ways a man uses to talk to a girl. If you've been following my comments with you, you'd have seen signs.
It is hard to have people believe your truth these days, so I don't even bother.

AdeniyiA:
NigeriaB, I had a somewhat similar experience. Till today we remain best of friends, we know our bounds. As much as you can, help her. What you didn't do then I believe you wouldn't do it now.
I salute your courage and determination to maintain your chastity

Thanks bro. Words well received!

fairheart:
You see why you are not getting it?
There are many ways a man uses to talk to a girl. If you've been following my comments with you, you'd have seen signs.
It is hard to have people believe your truth these days, so I don't even bother.

let me pretend to believe you

Rozz:
let me pretend to believe you

Lol. You don't believe me, so don't pretend. Still no response to my email?

fairheart:
Lol. You don't believe me, so don't pretend. Still no response to my email?

i have responded,even twice,check again

Rozz:
i have responded,even twice,check again

None. I just refreshed my email again. When did you send your last message?

fairheart:
None. I just refreshed my email again. When did you send your last message?

around 12:30pm,let me resend them

I just want to encourage you to continue staying firm in abstaining from premarital sex.its gonna be a very bumpy ride ooo but stay put you will never regret it.just be pleading with the holy spirit to help you always.he surely will help you especially in moments when you will be really really tempted to give in.dont let your friends know that you are a virgin cos they will do all doables to make you be like them.as for the lady cut complete ties with her so that she doesn't put you into trouble.

rosemary21:
I just want to encourage you to continue staying firm in abstaining from premarital sex.its gonna be a very bumpy ride ooo but stay put you will never regret it.just be pleading with the holy spirit to help you always.he surely will help you especially in moments when you will be really really tempted to give in.dont let your friends know that you are a virgin cos they will do all doables to make you be like them.as for the lady cut complete ties with her so that she doesn't put you into trouble.

Thanks such much dear. Amen

NigeriaB:
All right dear. Thanks alot

alright

NigeriaB:
I met this girl when I was in 300L[my second degree though]. I'm now in 600L. How we became friends and even started dating was very funny.

After a hectic day lecture, I needed to use the ATM within the campus before going home. There she was standing in the cue and immediately my eyes caught her, I liked her. The next question on my mind was how to initiate conversation and to get her contact given that so many persons were on cue and it could be embarrassing if the right approach wasn't adopted. She is the kind of girl that will catch any guy's attention, her height, her facial beauty, her shape, asss (lol) and all. There was no way I could have walked up to her; she was in company of friends and you all know how such things could be. It seemed practically impossible for me to make that move but fortunately for me she carried a transparent bag which housed her books and other items (she was in 100L at the time and doing some registration). There was a hard cover note book in that transparent bag and I could sight a phone number written on the edge of the book which I strongly believed was her number because that was the only notebook in that bag as I could see ,more so, given that they just resumed lectures. So, I quickly memorized the number (lolz) before she could finish withdrawing.

Later that day, after much rest, I called her ,she picked, she was so friendly and I of course was encouraged. She asked how I got her contact and I told her that I stole it , while she was at the ATM ; she laughed softly and I could at the instance feel the lines below my eyes go wrinkled.

While we continued talking, she told me at some point that she is in a complicated relationship but I didn't give up. We continued to be friends. On a certain Saturday, she called that she was coming to visit me (I stay off K),
I was super excited. That day she told me that she likes me and that we can step it up from just being friends. That was how we started dating..(we actually kissed that day..lolz).

While dating, I told her severally that I wouldn't sleep with a woman who is not my wife which means I wouldn't have sex until I'm married. This didn't go well with her because I realized she is the type that loves sex so much. Many times she had got herself naked before me, seducing me and all but I wouldn't give in. Her desire for sex is actually beyond what I can handle and if I continued in that relationship, one day I'm sure going to compromise my stand. So I had to let her know that I wouldn't be able to continue in the relationship, that I still have many more years to spend in school and I'm not even certain that at the end of it we were going to get married, that instead of me waisting her time, it would be better that we just put an end to the relationship while we remain just friends. She cried ,but it had to be that way because I need my wife to be proud of me and of course , heaven will stand pleased. We parted ways..

After we broke up, I didn't hear from her again for like 3 weeks, then I received a phone call from her and told me that she was pregnant and that she wanted to see me. Over the phone, I asked "how"? Since when?.. she was crying at the same time and i had to ask her to come to my place so we could talk. She came, narrated how after we broke up, got involved with another guy and that was how she became pregnant. She wanted to go for an abortion but I advised her against such move. I asked her to call her mummy and tell her the truth, that her mum will know how best to go about the whole stuff. I guessed she did, but her parents wouldn't have her in the house anymore because of shame and the indecent signal it may send to the other siblings. She had to pack to the guy's House and that was how they became husband and wife till date. She gave birth to a son and they are together as husband and wife till today.

The guy is a diploma holder and works in a photo studio ( the guy lied to her when they first met, that he was a graduate and that he was awaiting NYSC, I'm sure it was the reason she accepted him even though I could judge that she was desperate for sex).

Even though I'm still a student but God has been faithful such that I don't lack and everyone around me knows that I'm liberal.

She has been making request of me, asking for financial assistance and many times I have reached out to her.

Just yesterday, she asked that I help her with some money, that she is broke and her husband doesn't have anything, no food for her child. I was really touched. But is it proper that I continue doing this?

Please advise needed! I just want to avoid every form of temptation, is her husband aware that I give her money? What if this becomes an issue?

Please what should I do?

If you have watched Legend of the seeker, you will know this..

THE GREATEST HARM SOMETIMES COMES FROM THE BEST INTENTIONS. ~Zeddicus Zu'l Zorander.

Don't stop, she is your confessor......Nonsense, You ll soon fvck her

phemmyfour:
Don't stop, she is your confessor......Nonesense, You ll soon fvck her

I don't think I will sir

Martinez39s:
A big lie peddled by religious books and the gullible. He has no business catering for another man's wife. He shouldn't put himself in a position where he is financially responsible for her, and her kid isn't his responsibility. Let her and her husband carry their cross.

i dn teh una say dis redpill sermon no b naija guys... I fit bet my nyaxh say if dah gal cry 4 d guy say her pikin dae hungry, money go comot

NigeriaB:
I met this girl when I was in 300L[my second degree though]. I'm now in 600L. How we became friends and even started dating was very funny.

After a hectic day lecture, I needed to use the ATM within the campus before going home. There she was standing in the cue and immediately my eyes caught her, I liked her. The next question on my mind was how to initiate conversation and to get her contact given that so many persons were on cue and it could be embarrassing if the right approach wasn't adopted. She is the kind of girl that will catch any guy's attention, her height, her facial beauty, her shape, asss (lol) and all. There was no way I could have walked up to her; she was in company of friends and you all know how such things could be. It seemed practically impossible for me to make that move but fortunately for me she carried a transparent bag which housed her books and other items (she was in 100L at the time and doing some registration). There was a hard cover note book in that transparent bag and I could sight a phone number written on the edge of the book which I strongly believed was her number because that was the only notebook in that bag as I could see ,more so, given that they just resumed lectures. So, I quickly memorized the number (lolz) before she could finish withdrawing.

Later that day, after much rest, I called her ,she picked, she was so friendly and I of course was encouraged. She asked how I got her contact and I told her that I stole it , while she was at the ATM ; she laughed softly and I could at the instance feel the lines below my eyes go wrinkled.

While we continued talking, she told me at some point that she is in a complicated relationship but I didn't give up. We continued to be friends. On a certain Saturday, she called that she was coming to visit me (I stay off K),
I was super excited. That day she told me that she likes me and that we can step it up from just being friends. That was how we started dating..(we actually kissed that day..lolz).

While dating, I told her severally that I wouldn't sleep with a woman who is not my wife which means I wouldn't have sex until I'm married. This didn't go well with her because I realized she is the type that loves sex so much. Many times she had got herself naked before me, seducing me and all but I wouldn't give in. Her desire for sex is actually beyond what I can handle and if I continued in that relationship, one day I'm sure going to compromise my stand. So I had to let her know that I wouldn't be able to continue in the relationship, that I still have many more years to spend in school and I'm not even certain that at the end of it we were going to get married, that instead of me waisting her time, it would be better that we just put an end to the relationship while we remain just friends. She cried ,but it had to be that way because I need my wife to be proud of me and of course , heaven will stand pleased. We parted ways..

After we broke up, I didn't hear from her again for like 3 weeks, then I received a phone call from her and told me that she was pregnant and that she wanted to see me. Over the phone, I asked "how"? Since when?.. she was crying at the same time and i had to ask her to come to my place so we could talk. She came, narrated how after we broke up, got involved with another guy and that was how she became pregnant. She wanted to go for an abortion but I advised her against such move. I asked her to call her mummy and tell her the truth, that her mum will know how best to go about the whole stuff. I guessed she did, but her parents wouldn't have her in the house anymore because of shame and the indecent signal it may send to the other siblings. She had to pack to the guy's House and that was how they became husband and wife till date. She gave birth to a son and they are together as husband and wife till today.

The guy is a diploma holder and works in a photo studio ( the guy lied to her when they first met, that he was a graduate and that he was awaiting NYSC, I'm sure it was the reason she accepted him even though I could judge that she was desperate for sex).

Even though I'm still a student but God has been faithful such that I don't lack and everyone around me knows that I'm liberal.

She has been making request of me, asking for financial assistance and many times I have reached out to her.

Just yesterday, she asked that I help her with some money, that she is broke and her husband doesn't have anything, no food for her child. I was really touched. But is it proper that I continue doing this?

Please advise needed! I just want to avoid every form of temptation, is her husband aware that I give her money? What if this becomes an issue?

Please what should I do?

If you have watched Legend of the seeker, you will know this..

THE GREATEST HARM SOMETIMES COMES FROM THE BEST INTENTIONS. ~Zeddicus Zu'l Zorander.

if you had agree to her demands at first it would have been you oo

It is God that saved you

NigeriaB:
Makes sense..lol

Both the quote and the name makes sense

Corbin:
if you had agree to her demands at first it would have been you oo

It is God that saved you

I'm telling you bro

I would advise you to help her and also help others who are in need. Don't just narrow your hands of charity to her only. Set aside about 30% of your profit for charity, but share it equally among those who need help. By doing so you would be greatly blessed by God

I blame the op 4 her pregnancy.GOD just put some people in your life so that you can help/save them.i just got pissed off wen you broke up wit her jst bcus sex or was their any other issue?