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Hi Nairalanders,

Greetings to everyone in the house. Trust we are all enjoying the weekend. As regards to the above-mentioned subject. What is your take on this? Would u allow your partner have a close friend that is of opposite sex? Briefly give your reason (s) and state what you believe should be the ideal arrangement in a family setting.

I was listening to a program on the radio earlier this morning on Raypower FM before power outage. However, I have to put it on this platform out of curiosity to know how we feel about it. Personally, it is a capital NO for me. But of course, one of the 2 callers that called in before power cut termed it as insecurity as nothing seems to be wrong with the idea. Do you agree?

Mod pls help push this to the front page. Thanks.

God forbid!

If I'm not okay for my wife as friendship, then, I'm afraid she would be friendless.

It's a no no for me.!
This life nor balance at all.
Before you know now, them go dey gbegbesuegbe for my back.

not even alllwed for my girl to try that when we are dating not to talk of courtship or marriage..
the only male friends that my girl or wife is allowed to have are my brothers and her blood brothers and also her cousins aint allowed too..
Reasons- girls having male friends and besties have done more harm than good in relationship...thats my opinion, thank u

It's more of what works for you as a couple. My wife has male colleagues who are close friends with her and I don't feel threatened by them; she knows her limit. When our first child was delivered through CS, the first pap she would take was brought by my own close female friend (someone I intended to marry years back) who now happened to be a nurse in the ward, and she was there for my wife till discharge. When there was a problem at the early stage of the pregnancy, it was that same friend of mine that made sure my wife was attended to on time by calling the doctor at the emergency (UCH, Ibadan) and claiming my wife is her inlaw. I don't like to be caged, so I don't cage my wife. We know how far we can go, and we live our lives with God's grace.

dodelight:
It's more of what works for you as a couple. My wife has male colleagues who are close friends with her and I don't feel threatened by them; she knows her limit. When our first child was delivered through CS, the first pap she would take was brought by my own close female friend (someone I intended to marry years back) who now happened to be a nurse in the ward, and she was there for my wife till discharge. I don't like to be caged, so I don't cage my wife. We know how far we can go, and we live our lives with God's grace.

Are u for real

abysirius:
Are u for real

Yes, I am. You can read my comment again as I just added some lines. The thing is, if you are someone who cannot forgive and let go of the slightest or worst offence it will be difficult to take such position.

Our elders would say "the thing wey person no wan chop...person no dey smell am". Na small small infidelity dey start.

A word is enough for the wise.

Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright
Not really a problem sha if your husband or wife have a close friend of the opposite sex

But just that most women can abuse it anyday anytime twice on the day they are emotionally traumatized or rather when they have little or financial problems in thier marriage

Because most times when women are facing little problem and emotional issues they tend to be vulnerable and quickly find comfort, solace and consolation from that close friend.....and as a result they can easily succumb to sexual advances from that male friend

Reading comments

Real Friends are for life.

Marrying someone does not mean they will automatically abandon everyone they knew because they're married to you.

If as a married person you also have great friends of the opposite gender, do not cut it off because of marriage except it is the right thing to do for you.

There is always that tendency that sèxual feelings may arise due to closeness; It's a possibility that cannot be denied. However, it's an individual thing as opposed to the opposite sex friendship.

Is a gun bad in itself? A gun is a gun, but what it is used for makes the difference. You can use it to defend yourself, you can hunt with it, kill with it, etc. Is the gun doing anything? Nope! Only the people using it are.

So it is with friendship between opposite genders. Friendship is friendship, it doesn't matter whether you tag it opposite gender. You are friends with someone because there is something you benefit from it.

Nwanne odikwa very risky ooo

It depends on type of relationship, maybe is church ppl, Evangelist, neighbor, office colleague...


In dis part of the world we are, it drpends on d type orientation and upbringing that your partner is might not support it cos any day that ur partner travels, anytin can happen...


Some Women might not hold it dan to confess to d partner DAT was a mistake, jus like d Augustina and jaden issue


For me, I don't support it except in d office but not to start paying me a visit at home....

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Some Matured Mind Can Handle It,And They See Nothing Wrong With It.
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NO NO NO

Na wa for question o!

As a popular philosopher once said "man know thy self".

No

nawao
please can people quote this comment with places on the Lagos mainland with steady power supply. I'm planning to relocate but power is important to my decision. Cost is also a factor
Also, if you are looking for a flat to stay in Ibafo, I have an empty room in a 3-bed. flatmate needed 70k

Whatever works for you. Just that in this world today alot have happened in the name of friendship.

I don't think it's so necessary for a female to keep male friends and I don't see why I want female friends even while just dating.


Many people cross the line at times, so it's good for us to just avoid it.

That's why yhu have to be yhur partner's best friend. Understand her and be there for her, trust me she wouldn't need any other male friend.


Imagine yhur wife going to visit another man in the name of friendship. Maybe even going to cook for him and do some house chores there because they are good friends.


Abeg, keep the friendship to hello, hi.

abysirius:
Hi Nairalanders,

Greetings to everyone in the house. Trust we are all enjoying the weekend. As regards to the above-mentioned subject. What is your take on this? Would u allow your partner have a close friend that is of opposite sex? Briefly give your reason (s) and state what you believe should be the ideal arrangement in a family setting.

I was listening to a program on the radio earlier this morning on Raypower FM before power outage. However, I have to put it on this platform out of curiosity to know how we feel about it. Personally, it is a capital NO for me. But of course, one of the 2 callers that called in before power cut termed it as insecurity as nothing seems to be wrong with the idea. Do you agree?

Mod pls help push this to the front page. Thanks.

Well, there is nothing wrong with it...so long as everyone knows their boundaries.

The truth is, we will always be tempted. It's what you do with the temptation that counts.

it depends, if you are not a jeolosy type, good but if you find one let me know

Can there be sincere friendship between a dog and tiger? Friendship between opposite sex is still okay if both are not married. The moment one of them is married, it's a no no.

Ff

She'll still get the D from an outsider. Marry at ur own peril

Q

I don’t see any wrong with it