pappilo:


Never! It is never okay if one of the 'friends' is in any sort of relationship.

My ex-wife started off as friends with a colleague. But once she started hiding to take calls from him, it was obvious this was more than friendship.

Like a bad Nollywood movie, I ended up out of my own home, sleeping in a freaking cold garage that had been converted to a single room while her friend ended up in my warm bed and became the de facto dad to my kids.

Fear women o!

paulolee:
not even alllwed for my girl to try that when we are dating not to talk of courtship or marriage..
the only male friends that my girl or wife is allowed to have are my brothers and her blood brothers and also her cousins aint allowed too..
Reasons- girls having male friends and besties have done more harm than good in relationship...thats my opinion, thank u

paulolee:

and who tells you that i need a female friend to stay happy, dnt make it seems asif i hate females that much, all am saying is that female friends wnt come close than being jus casual and mutual friends...
gat ma wife, ma family, my guys and my world and still dnt tink how i nid female friend or get bored...
let me ask....hw these female friends wan take help my life or make me stop being bored

pietrodark:
The question you've posed is one for concern. And as people living together it's only natural to be worried and not give the devil any room for mischief.

There are ladies who claim there's nothing wrong with it, and well for those who claim it is insecurity. I have one question for you: does your mom have a male best friend, or does your dad have a female best friend?

If the answer is No.... then I don't know where this is coming from...

You're first and foremost a married man or woman, before you're a friend to anyone. The dynamic has changed. You're not single anymore.

GboyegaD:


At least na my wife, I choose to do as I so please. You no need paracetamol for my headache na. Na people like you think say marriage na where world/life end.

Romangalactic:
Coco.candy what do you think here?

Sixfeetbelle:


Riddle me this, will you?

If your wife's best friend is a female (a closeted lesbian of some sort) and in the course of a misunderstanding between you two, she runs into her friend's arms and gets seduced to sleep with her, what would be your reaction if and when you eventually find out about this sort of cheating?

PHIPEX:
The probability of a random married Nigerian woman being a lesbian is less than 1% while the chances of a married Nigerian woman cheating with opposite sex is up to 30%. I would rather worry about the later than the former.

ojuu4u:



But bastard will one day causing problems for family even outside household.

BrownCookie:
Marriage must be triangular if it must be successful ie God, husband,wife. Let your wife be your best friend & vice versa.

Nooil:

EngineerBode:
As a newly married person, you should keep less single friends. Same or opposite sex. Focus on your family

Don't mind those flirts that are manipulative. They will say you are not matured enough for them to keep friends of the opposite sex. Cheating is not only sleeping around. Comparing your partner to your friend of the opposite sex is cheating. Ignoring advice or instructions from your partner because the opposite sex friend said otherwise is cheating. Your husband or wife plan something with you, you go tell your opposite sex friend about it. The opposite sex friend says he/she does not like it, then you go back and tell your husband/wife that you are not going with the plan is cheating

abysirius:
Hi Nairalanders,

Greetings to everyone in the house. Trust we are all enjoying the weekend. As regards to the above-mentioned subject. What is your take on this? Would u allow your partner have a close friend that is of opposite sex? Briefly give your reason (s) and state what you believe should be the ideal arrangement in a family setting.

I was listening to a program on the radio earlier this morning on Raypower FM before power outage. However, I have to put it on this platform out of curiosity to know how we feel about it. Personally, it is a capital NO for me. But of course, one of the 2 callers that called in before power cut termed it as insecurity as nothing seems to be wrong with the idea. Do you agree?

Mod pls help push this to the front page. Thanks.

dodelight:
It's more of what works for you as a couple. My wife has male colleagues who are close friends with her and I don't feel threatened by them; she knows her limit. When our first child was delivered through CS, the first pap she would take was brought by my own close female friend (someone I intended to marry years back) who now happened to be a nurse in the ward, and she was there for my wife till discharge. When there was a problem at the early stage of the pregnancy, it was that same friend of mine that made sure my wife was attended to on time by calling the doctor at the emergency (UCH, Ibadan) and claiming my wife is her inlaw. I don't like to be caged, so I don't cage my wife. We know how far we can go, and we live our lives with God's grace.

paulolee:
not even alllwed for my girl to try that when we are dating not to talk of courtship or marriage..
the only male friends that my girl or wife is allowed to have are my brothers and her blood brothers and also her cousins aint allowed too..
Reasons- girls having male friends and besties have done more harm than good in relationship...thats my opinion, thank u

Sixfeetbelle:


Riddle me this, will you?

If your wife's best friend is a female (a closeted lesbian of some sort) and in the course of a misunderstanding between you two, she runs into her friend's arms and gets seduced to sleep with her, what would be your reaction if and when you eventually find out about this sort of cheating?

dodelight:
It's more of what works for you as a couple. My wife has male colleagues who are close friends with her and I don't feel threatened by them; she knows her limit. When our first child was delivered through CS, the first pap she would take was brought by my own close female friend (someone I intended to marry years back) who now happened to be a nurse in the ward, and she was there for my wife till discharge. When there was a problem at the early stage of the pregnancy, it was that same friend of mine that made sure my wife was attended to on time by calling the doctor at the emergency (UCH, Ibadan) and claiming my wife is her inlaw. I don't like to be caged, so I don't cage my wife. We know how far we can go, and we live our lives with God's grace.

humilitypays:
Don't be deceived, 99% of ladies' male friends are their fuckmates without financial responsibility.


Maybe the guy is funny or jovial or too friendly cos some guys can be too freaky and friendly with any lady and they use that opportunity to fvck many ladies for free in the name of besties while the always-serious minded guys like us who don't smile at ladies at all are the spenders


Ladies admire serious minded well to do guys who don't go about being too friendly with them only from afar, but that admiration ends from afar but u see those boys that hold them on the road, on the street, those boys that hug them anyhow without respect in the name of bestie, na fvck boys, na those boys de fvck ladies for free even as them broke finish lol, they can fvck Aisha Buhari under Buhari's nose, so if u see them kill them like snakes they are




What do u need a male bestie for Bestie your fellow ladies abeg.




Any guy that's not related to any lady by blood have just 1 intention towards the lady - to fvck her at any slightest opportunity, so even if that stupid bestie boy hasn't fvcked her now, he is waiting in anticipation to fvck her kilode for free, they are all reading my comment and they know that I know them well



Bestie Choir member - big snake

Bestie school mate or yard mate - na armed robber oh!


Bestie colleague - e don finish, this ones de comot her panties anyhow for office without respect


Bestie classmate - mogbe oh!


Bestie Church member - it is finished!!!

dodelight:
It's more of what works for you as a couple. My wife has male colleagues who are close friends with her and I don't feel threatened by them; she knows her limit. When our first child was delivered through CS, the first pap she would take was brought by my own close female friend (someone I intended to marry years back) who now happened to be a nurse in the ward, and she was there for my wife till discharge. When there was a problem at the early stage of the pregnancy, it was that same friend of mine that made sure my wife was attended to on time by calling the doctor at the emergency (UCH, Ibadan) and claiming my wife is her inlaw. I don't like to be caged, so I don't cage my wife. We know how far we can go, and we live our lives with God's grace.

paulolee:
not even alllwed for my girl to try that when we are dating not to talk of courtship or marriage..
the only male friends that my girl or wife is allowed to have are my brothers and her blood brothers and also her cousins aint allowed too..
Reasons- girls having male friends and besties have done more harm than good in relationship...thats my opinion, thank u