deep down, u can't really let her go... n d best way to forget a thing is to stop thinking about it.. u don escape wahala part 1 making u faithful 2 ur vow till now.... my brother,,, part 2 go advance oooo.... the thing wey she do DAT time wey no work... na new strategy she go use.... na ur spirit dey stand... I dey c ur body 4 ground

patoski39:
i dn teh una say dis redpill sermon no b naija guys... I fit bet my nyaxh say if dah gal cry 4 d guy say her pikin dae hungry, money go comot

Lolz..

nwachukwu9:
I would advise you to help her and also help others who are in need. Don't just narrow your hands of charity to her only. Set aside about 30% of your profit for charity, but share it equally among those who need help. By doing so you would be greatly blessed by God

Thanks bro. Words well received!

Goldenfinger:
I blame the op 4 her pregnancy.GOD just put some people in your life so that you can help/save them.i just got pissed off wen you broke up wit her jst bcus sex or was their any other issue?

No other issue sir. But I wouldn't want to just waste her time. I don't know when I'm going bro get married. I can't date a girl for 6 years before marrying her...

I thought I was doing the right thing by telling her the truth and letting her go

Pauling:
deep down, u can't really let her go... n d best way to forget a thing is to stop thinking about it.. u don escape wahala part 1 making u faithful 2 ur vow till now.... my brother,,, part 2 go advance oooo.... the thing wey she do DAT time wey no work... na new strategy she go use.... na ur spirit dey stand... I dey c ur body 4 ground

Lolz
Thanks man..

@NigeriaB,

You ex is NOT your responsibility; she is a married woman.

If she is desperately in need, let her reach out to her family, friends, in-laws, church, mosque, husband's friends etc.

You get the point.

It would be a disaster if after keeping yourself this long, you sleep with a married woman whom you can't even marry if you want to push ahead to marry the woman who disflowered you.

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

Run!

bukatyne:
@NigeriaB,

You ex is NOT your responsibility; she is a married woman.

If she is desperately in need, let her reach out to her family, friends, in-laws, church, mosque, husband's friends etc.

You get the point.

It would be a disaster if after keeping yourself this long, you sleep with a married woman whom you can't even marry if you want to push ahead to marry the woman who disflowered you.

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

Run!

Thanks bro. I appreciate

NigeriaB:
I met this girl when I was in 300L[my second degree though]. I'm now in 600L. How we became friends and even started dating was very funny.

After a hectic day lecture, I needed to use the ATM within the campus before going home. There she was standing in the cue and immediately my eyes caught her, I liked her. The next question on my mind was how to initiate conversation and to get her contact given that so many persons were on cue and it could be embarrassing if the right approach wasn't adopted. She is the kind of girl that will catch any guy's attention, her height, her facial beauty, her shape, asss (lol) and all. There was no way I could have walked up to her; she was in company of friends and you all know how such things could be. It seemed practically impossible for me to make that move but fortunately for me she carried a transparent bag which housed her books and other items (she was in 100L at the time and doing some registration). There was a hard cover note book in that transparent bag and I could sight a phone number written on the edge of the book which I strongly believed was her number because that was the only notebook in that bag as I could see ,more so, given that they just resumed lectures. So, I quickly memorized the number (lolz) before she could finish withdrawing.

Later that day, after much rest, I called her ,she picked, she was so friendly and I of course was encouraged. She asked how I got her contact and I told her that I stole it , while she was at the ATM ; she laughed softly and I could at the instance feel the lines below my eyes go wrinkled.

While we continued talking, she told me at some point that she is in a complicated relationship but I didn't give up. We continued to be friends. On a certain Saturday, she called that she was coming to visit me (I stay off K),
I was super excited. That day she told me that she likes me and that we can step it up from just being friends. That was how we started dating..(we actually kissed that day..lolz).

While dating, I told her severally that I wouldn't sleep with a woman who is not my wife which means I wouldn't have sex until I'm married. This didn't go well with her because I realized she is the type that loves sex so much. Many times she had got herself naked before me, seducing me and all but I wouldn't give in. Her desire for sex is actually beyond what I can handle and if I continued in that relationship, one day I'm sure going to compromise my stand. So I had to let her know that I wouldn't be able to continue in the relationship, that I still have many more years to spend in school and I'm not even certain that at the end of it we were going to get married, that instead of me waisting her time, it would be better that we just put an end to the relationship while we remain just friends. She cried ,but it had to be that way because I need my wife to be proud of me and of course , heaven will stand pleased. We parted ways..

After we broke up, I didn't hear from her again for like 3 weeks, then I received a phone call from her and told me that she was pregnant and that she wanted to see me. Over the phone, I asked "how"? Since when?.. she was crying at the same time and i had to ask her to come to my place so we could talk. She came, narrated how after we broke up, got involved with another guy and that was how she became pregnant. She wanted to go for an abortion but I advised her against such move. I asked her to call her mummy and tell her the truth, that her mum will know how best to go about the whole stuff. I guessed she did, but her parents wouldn't have her in the house anymore because of shame and the indecent signal it may send to the other siblings. She had to pack to the guy's House and that was how they became husband and wife till date. She gave birth to a son and they are together as husband and wife till today.

The guy is a diploma holder and works in a photo studio ( the guy lied to her when they first met, that he was a graduate and that he was awaiting NYSC, I'm sure it was the reason she accepted him even though I could judge that she was desperate for sex).

Even though I'm still a student but God has been faithful such that I don't lack and everyone around me knows that I'm liberal.

She has been making request of me, asking for financial assistance and many times I have reached out to her.

Just yesterday, she asked that I help her with some money, that she is broke and her husband doesn't have anything, no food for her child. I was really touched. But is it proper that I continue doing this?

Please advise needed! I just want to avoid every form of temptation, is her husband aware that I give her money? What if this becomes an issue?

Please what should I do?

If you have watched Legend of the seeker, you will know this..

THE GREATEST HARM SOMETIMES COMES FROM THE BEST INTENTIONS. ~Zeddicus Zu'l Zorander.

Nothing wrong in helping her

NigeriaB:


No other issue sir. But I wouldn't want to just waste her time. I don't know when I'm going bro get married. I can't date a girl for 6 years before marrying her...

I thought I was doing the right thing by telling her the truth and letting her go

.i will like to say more but lets not dwell in the past any longer.abt d money,if u doin it as a goodwill no problem but is not everytime she asked dat you will give her money.but op this story weak me o,dat poor girl n i tink guilt is also hitting u

dario078:


Nothing wrong in helping her

Ok thanks..

Goldenfinger:
.i will like to say more but lets not dwell in the past any longer.abt d money,if u doin it as a goodwill no problem but is not everytime she asked dat you will give her money.but op this story weak me o,dat poor girl n i tink guilt is also hitting u

Ok bro, thanks..

You are rite about the guilt stuff...I maybe I shouldn't have let her go. Sometimes I blame myself for her situation... But I thought bi was acting in her best interest too.

NigeriaB:


Yea, I reach out to her because of God and the child. Whenever she tells me the child has had nothing to eat..I will just go weak

Bro soon u will adopt that kid as ur own and u guys will be together again. Wait do u really think she still want to stay wiv dat guy? Bro shes waiting for u to make ur move. Well anytime u are ready just adopt the kid and take her back cos uve tide urself to her and her child. I hope u know there's no goin back on this cos if u do.. uve betrayed urself. So make ur choice now

I'm surprised that this is not on front page yet..

Where are the moderators?

@lala

This is already front page worthy

NigeriaB:


Ok bro, thanks..

You are rite about the guilt stuff...I maybe I shouldn't have let her go. Sometimes I blame myself for her situation... But I thought bi was acting in her best interest too.

like i said lets forget the past,but lets plan 4 the future.no matter any atrocity a child commit no parents(especilly mothers)will like 2 see dat child suffer 4 long.talk 2 her 2 go home begged furiously,even if her she dies in dads hand it shud better than living wit a low life,go wit her even it can be possible find some of her close friend,family pastor,good relatives she knws and begged them all 2(includin u)go wit her.you will better/guilt free if she living a better life.anoda important tin DRAW HER CLOSE 2 GOD,if GOD is incharge her libido will die down.

Funkyswagzz:


Bro soon u will adopt that kid as ur own and u guys will be together again. Wait do u really think she still want to stay wiv dat guy? Bro shes waiting for u to make ur move. Well anytime u are ready just adopt the kid and take her back cos uve tide urself to her and her child. I hope u know there's no goin back on this cos if u do.. uve betrayed urself. So make ur choice now

What the hell are you guys smoking.
I suggest you look up the word cuckold. What romance BS are you guys reading?
So you guys wait till women have sex with other men, have kids, and take advantage of their mistakes and consider that love?

A woman is always attached to the biological father.

in as far as ur intentions are good towards her, there's nothing there in helping her. keep helping her if and when u can but dont allow her visit you.. I must commend ur resistant to sex na man u be. make God give me ur kind grace too cos actually nothing there.

Theoutsider:


What the hell are you guys smoking.
I suggest you look up the word cuckold. What romance BS are you guys reading?
So you guys wait till women have sex with other men, have kids, and take advantage of their mistakes and consider that love?

A woman is always attached to the biological father.

So she can't divorce the biological father abi..?

Bro with ur statement u don't know anything about women. I don't even know what u on about?

Theoutsider:


What the hell are you guys smoking.
I suggest you look up the word cuckold. What romance BS are you guys reading?
So you guys wait till women have sex with other men, have kids, and take advantage of their mistakes and consider that love?

A woman is always attached to the biological father.

So she can't divorce the biological father abi..?

Bro with ur statement u don't know anything about women. I don't even know what u on about?

Pls look up the word cockblock.. thats what op is doing

Stoopeed OP frolicking with another man's wife

Cc: NigeriaB

stuffs4me:
Stoopeed OP frolicking with another man's wife

Cc: NigeriaB

Sorry...

Goldenfinger:
like i said lets forget the past,but lets plan 4 the future.no matter any atrocity a child commit no parents(especilly mothers)will like 2 see dat child suffer 4 long.talk 2 her 2 go home begged furiously,even if her she dies in dads hand it shud better than living wit a low life,go wit her even it can be possible find some of her close friend,family pastor,good relatives she knws and begged them all 2(includin u)go wit her.you will better/guilt free if she living a better life.anoda important tin DRAW HER CLOSE 2 GOD,if GOD is incharge her libido will die down.

Thanks bro.. kind words

Funkyswagzz:


Bro soon u will adopt that kid as ur own and u guys will be together again. Wait do u really think she still want to stay wiv dat guy? Bro shes waiting for u to make ur move. Well anytime u are ready just adopt the kid and take her back cos uve tide urself to her and her child. I hope u know there's no goin back on this cos if u do.. uve betrayed urself. So make ur choice now

Lols
Thank you very much. I can relate well with your words

tunize:
in as far as ur intentions are good towards her, there's nothing there in helping her. keep helping her if and when u can but dont allow her visit you.. I must commend ur resistant to sex na man u be. make God give me ur kind grace too cos actually nothing there.

Thanks bro..

Amen..

It is not your responsibility to be sending money to her since you are not her husband.

Testimony1988:
It is not your responsibility to be sending money to her since you are not her husband.

All right bro..

Thanks

NigeriaB:

All right bro..
Thanks

You welcome bro.

Funkyswagzz:


So she can't divorce the biological father abi..?

Bro with ur statement u don't know anything about women. I don't even know what u on about?

I don't know anything about women? Are you that much of a loser that you cannot find a SINGLE woman who doesnt have 5 kids or does it make you feel good to use the fact that the woman is in a desperate situation.. you use it as a TOOL to get in a relationship.

Are you really that stupid?

Person bleeps up..
needs financial help.
You CREATE an Illusion she loves you... but in reality she is using you to fix her mistakes and problems.
If she didn't have those kids and was younger you didn't have a chance.

This is what a cuck is... this is what a BETA is.

The minute you dont have a job she is gone... how many stories do you have to read where the woman is jumping from Beta to Alpha.

Theoutsider:


I don't know anything about women? Are you that much of a loser that you cannot find a SINGLE woman who doesnt have 5 kids or does it make you feel good to use the fact that the woman is in a desperate situation.. you use it as a TOOL to get in a relationship.

Are you really that stupid?

Person bleeps up..
needs financial help.
You CREATE an Illusion she loves you... but in reality she is using you to fix her mistakes and problems.
If she didn't have those kids and was younger you didn't have a chance.

This is what a cuck is... this is what a BETA is.

The minute you dont have a job she is gone... how many stories do you have to read where the woman is jumping from Beta to Alpha.

Dude am not the op in case u are mistaking.. besides I'm not asking him to take her back. Read in between lines ok. Just drink some water and get some sleep.

NigeriaB

Please help her if you can, she made a mistake wish we all know, just treat her like your sister. Her family currently deserted her, what you should avoid is physical contact.

Funkyswagzz:


Dude am not the op in case u are mistaking.. besides I'm not asking him to take her back. Read in between lines ok. Just drink some water and get some sleep.

Kid.. you have no idea who you are talking too.

Theoutsider:



Kid.. you have no idea who you are talking too.

Every man is entitled to his opinion.. do we have a problem here cos I don't get u? And u call me a kid? dude just chill ok don't transfer that aggression here cos I'm in a good mood today.

Funkyswagzz:


Every man is entitled to his opinion.. do we have a problem here cos I don't get u? And u call me a kid? dude just chill ok don't transfer that aggression here cos I'm in a good mood today.

There is no problem..

It appears you have a "projection" issue?

Using words like 'aggression' and 'chill' to create a fake narrative or illusion. Do you always gaslight readers?