This is why I hate religion.
Very hypocritical set of delusional adherents.
Op your parents has done their part by bringing you into this world, you don't expect them to make decisions for you throughout your life time.
If they make the wrong one, you live by it when they are gone, so you see, you suffer for it.
Mary whomever you heart desires, we were once humans before race, religion and other affiliations divided us.
Mary that lady, nobody should deter you from that decision.
Let me tell you, by the time you realize that in this world, you are on your own, the better for you, not even your parents can root for you when death comes knocking.

I'm surprised when Christians say they can't marry a particular tribe. What happen to the body of Christ we belong to?

We really don't love ourselves. OP fight for what you want you only have yourself after they are gone.

missawele:
I am a product of an inter-tribal marriage (dad was Igbo and mum is Yoruba). And their marriage was a very fruitful and blessed one.

I don't just understand how we keep doing this go ourselves in the same country and get angry when outsiders are discriminating against us.

Use the Bible since they are Christians. Tell them there is no discrimination in the body of Christ.

Give them examples of inter-tribal marriages that have prospered. And same tribe marriages that have broken.

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You only survived a peaceful not divisive home cus your dad is igbo......

If the man were to b yoruba.. Ur mum for done run as all her tribes people will continually yab the man(kinsman) till he eider marries another or dumps ur mum...

For me in the subject matter.. The OP, shldt hate his parents they take caution from experiences, but if I were his dad I will allow him only because the said lady is coming to my house and not the other way round

You just have to convinced them. I married from another tribe and I have to say it was one of the best decision in my life. My in-laws are great. My mother inlaw was skeptical at first. She even cried on the traditional marriage day saying we might treat her daughter like "Omo Igbo". However the wedding has been so splendid. The two families is getting along. Since you all attend the same church, talk to your Pastor or Area Pastor who will then call your parents to talk to them. I know that they being Deacon and Deaconess in RCCG, they wouldn't want to be labelled tribalist in the church. Except they have a valid physical or spiritual reason why you shouldn't get married to a Yoruba lady

spymaster:
You just have to convinced them. I married from another tribe and I have to say it was one of the best decision in my life. My in-laws are great. My mother inlaw was skeptical at first. She even cried on the traditional marriage day saying we might treat her daughter like "Omo Igbo". However the wedding has been so splendid. The two families is getting along. Since you all attend the same church, talk to your Pastor or Area Pastor who will then call your parents to talk to them. I know that they being Deacon and Deaconess in RCCG, they wouldn't want to be labelled tribalist in the church. Except they have a valid physical or spiritual reason why you shouldn't get married to a Yoruba lady

Thanks. It almost felt like I was the only person in this type of situation

superemmy:


forgive me I should have used Igbo culturalists. I'm Igbo please my moniker wasn't created today

Emeka! Emeka!! Emeka!!!

I have called you 3 times...what an elder sees while sitting down a child will not see even if he climbs the tallest tree around!

same reasons Peter of p square was hated in his family. why do Ibo people don't like their people getting married to other tribe. how do we acculturate

What if she was a Yoruba Muslim

superemmy:
Good Morning Nairalanders,


I'm writing this with a bit of pain and anguish.
First off, let me begin by stating that I'm an Igbo guy mid to late twenties, working in a good company, well to do and capable of providing for a family. I'm dating a Yoruba girl who's also in her early twenties. We've been dating for close to three years now.

I love her, I know her family and they know me likewise. I've always been afraid to approach my family especially my mother because I know that they are (Igbo tribalists) forgive me for using the word.

But their belief in the "nothing comes out good of a relationship between the two cultures (igbos and yorubas)" is so strong that I've been forced to seek out help online.

My Dad is a lawyer while my Mom is a Business woman. Knowing my Dad, I expected him to have an open or liberal mind towards my relationship.

I was suprised to find out otherwise because as at this morning, I called the meeting I've been dreading, to inform them of my decision to marry my girlfriend.

The tempo started low with me explaining and justifying the need for me to have my relationship with my girlfriend ending with a proposal for marriage.

Well after I spoke, my Dad, to my utmost surprise started illustrating about the clash of the two cultures and the waywardness of the Yorubas as a whole, we ended up having a heated argument as to me defending my girlfriend and her people that my Dad has no right to judge an entire race while citing bad examples.

It didn't go well with my Mom adding her icing to the tussle of words.

The meeting did not go well this morning. Do I pray to God to soften their stance towards my girlfriend just because she is Yoruba.

Please what do I do? My girlfriend is really the best person I've ever met. I know it sounds cheesy.

I even went as far as telling my mom that my girlfriend is pregnant for me which she is not by the way.

My mom said, well she should bring the baby and we'll train the baby but the marriage is a no go discussion area and I should not even think of introducing my girlfriend to them.

We are all christians, we attend the same Redeem church both I the girl and her family. I'm not too churcheous while my parents are both Deacons and Deaconess' but my parents have a strong stance towards this just because she is Yoruba.

Please I'm not hoping to stoke a tribal war issue here
Sensible nairalanders advice me, I can bear insults too but help.


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farano, Rocktation

If you're a Christian, prayer is your recourse, and if it's meant to be, it will be.

Phenom10101:
I can never marry a Yoruba woman, The are too treacherous .
And Yorubas don't like us Igbos, If you have stayed with them you will understand. They are too greedy and the can't be trust worthy.

People also think the same of igbo women. And also that they are rude, materialistic and wicked.

There's really no winning in this tribal wars. Everyone has their flaws and good sides individually.

We have to learn to love each other beyond our tribes. And parents need to free their children from their own bias. There's nothing wrong with marrying from another tribe. My bro married a Yoruba lady and it's over 12 years. My sis married Hausa.

My parents were liberal people especially my mum who wasn't as educated as many mothers who limit their children.

Please you need to fight this. Tribe should not be their basis for refusal. It is not enough.

OP, report your parents to Pastor. Adeboye

superemmy:
Good Morning Nairalanders,


I'm writing this with a bit of pain and anguish.
First off, let me begin by stating that I'm an Igbo guy mid to late twenties, working in a good company, well to do and capable of providing for a family. I'm dating a Yoruba girl who's also in her early twenties. We've been dating for close to three years now.

I love her, I know her family and they know me likewise. I've always been afraid to approach my family especially my mother because I know that they are (Igbo tribalists) forgive me for using the word.

But their belief in the "nothing comes out good of a relationship between the two cultures (igbos and yorubas)" is so strong that I've been forced to seek out help online.

My Dad is a lawyer while my Mom is a Business woman. Knowing my Dad, I expected him to have an open or liberal mind towards my relationship.

I was suprised to find out otherwise because as at this morning, I called the meeting I've been dreading, to inform them of my decision to marry my girlfriend.

The tempo started low with me explaining and justifying the need for me to have my relationship with my girlfriend ending with a proposal for marriage.

Well after I spoke, my Dad, to my utmost surprise started illustrating about the clash of the two cultures and the waywardness of the Yorubas as a whole, we ended up having a heated argument as to me defending my girlfriend and her people that my Dad has no right to judge an entire race while citing bad examples.

It didn't go well with my Mom adding her icing to the tussle of words.

The meeting did not go well this morning. Do I pray to God to soften their stance towards my girlfriend just because she is Yoruba.

Please what do I do? My girlfriend is really the best person I've ever met. I know it sounds cheesy.

I even went as far as telling my mom that my girlfriend is pregnant for me which she is not by the way.

My mom said, well she should bring the baby and we'll train the baby but the marriage is a no go discussion area and I should not even think of introducing my girlfriend to them.

We are all christians, we attend the same Redeem church both I the girl and her family. I'm not too churcheous while my parents are both Deacons and Deaconess' but my parents have a strong stance towards this just because she is Yoruba.

Please I'm not hoping to stoke a tribal war issue here
Sensible nairalanders advice me, I can bear insults too but help.


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Stay strong bro. If u are sure that the lady in question is the one then let no person, family, friends or parents convince u otherwise. Stay strong.
I am also of Igbo descent from my father's side and my mom is of Yoruba descent. I married a deltan.
One would have thought that with my parents being of two different cultural heritage they would have been more understanding. But no.
My parents fought me all the way especially my mom who had personally handpicked wives for my eldest two brothers from her horde of friends. I was even told the lady I was to marry had been handpicked over 3 years ago to the date of that incident. ofcos my dad supported her with how wayward deltans are and how they don't keep family or stay in their husbands home.
I ignored them. I even got threats of disowning me forever. I ignored them.
My dad slowly came around after a longtime. We had a heart to heart conversation. I told him my mind. He listened and gave me my way after about 2 years. My mom turned around after seeing my dad had changed his mind.
OP I suggest u speak to ur parents separately. Take ur old man out and speak with him heart to heart. Attempt the lady in question meeting ur dad without ur mom ofcos after u are sure u have softened him. Make sure u show u ain't budging from ur position. Parents would usually give in after a few years. Mine took 2 years altogether from when I told them my intention. Ofcos not counting from when they knew I was involved with her. On the other hand, a colleague of mine from rivers had to wait 12 good years to marry her heartthrob, an igala man. Parents can be dense.

Papa and Mama from nowhere will just be frustrating persons decision ..

I don't understand

Which kind WAHALA be this

who does inter-tribal marriage this days.
OP better listen to your people, as elders will say "what an elder see while sitting down, even if a child climb the tallest of all iroko tree, he/she cannot see it. A marriage that your people don't agree to, you wan carry person Pekin go suffer all in the name of love.Ask your self, apart from business transaction that go on between Yoruba and igbo, how does the two cultures relate.

most nigerians who are deeply religious are even amongst the highest hardcore tribalists but then i bet this ur same parents wont raise an eyebrow if na white girl u bring cos chances of getting dollar or moving to yankee or europe

chatinent:
Redeem Church did not stop the racism? I love my own religion; we don't to racism. Proudly JW. I wish I knew what to say but since it's more of a racial thing, I'd rather I learn from comments.

only one good thing i respect about jehovah wintnesses

superemmy:
Good Morning Nairalanders,


I'm writing this with a bit of pain and anguish.
First off, let me begin by stating that I'm an Igbo guy mid to late twenties, working in a good company, well to do and capable of providing for a family. I'm dating a Yoruba girl who's also in her early twenties. We've been dating for close to three years now.

I love her, I know her family and they know me likewise. I've always been afraid to approach my family especially my mother because I know that they are (Igbo tribalists) forgive me for using the word.

But their belief in the "nothing comes out good of a relationship between the two cultures (igbos and yorubas)" is so strong that I've been forced to seek out help online.

My Dad is a lawyer while my Mom is a Business woman. Knowing my Dad, I expected him to have an open or liberal mind towards my relationship.

I was suprised to find out otherwise because as at this morning, I called the meeting I've been dreading, to inform them of my decision to marry my girlfriend.

The tempo started low with me explaining and justifying the need for me to have my relationship with my girlfriend ending with a proposal for marriage.

Well after I spoke, my Dad, to my utmost surprise started illustrating about the clash of the two cultures and the waywardness of the Yorubas as a whole, we ended up having a heated argument as to me defending my girlfriend and her people that my Dad has no right to judge an entire race while citing bad examples.

It didn't go well with my Mom adding her icing to the tussle of words.

The meeting did not go well this morning. Do I pray to God to soften their stance towards my girlfriend just because she is Yoruba.

Please what do I do? My girlfriend is really the best person I've ever met. I know it sounds cheesy.

I even went as far as telling my mom that my girlfriend is pregnant for me which she is not by the way.

My mom said, well she should bring the baby and we'll train the baby but the marriage is a no go discussion area and I should not even think of introducing my girlfriend to them.

We are all christians, we attend the same Redeem church both I the girl and her family. I'm not too churcheous while my parents are both Deacons and Deaconess' but my parents have a strong stance towards this just because she is Yoruba.

Please I'm not hoping to stoke a tribal war issue here
Sensible nairalanders advice me, I can bear insults too but help.


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farano, Rocktation

your family are wise whereby you are not .

that Y tribe got a lot of issues especially there women.

very dirty

unproductive

sexually immorality

very useless

self entitlement mentality.

and also very very dirty.

your family are seriously trying to protect you from that bitchh but cheap dirty sex has covered your brain

Simply put, your parents are impostors who don't represent any part of Christ's body.. They use it as a cover up without knowing that Jesus Christ will use the light and power of God's love through inter-tribal and inter-racial liberty to expose their hate-filled and other dark spots in their lives.

They are serving two masters i.e God of heaven and god of tradition, but they are fanatically loyal to the one they love most (tradition).

Op, splash this profound truth right before their eyes and God shall abase them! God is no respecter of any parents who don't admonish themselves in the way of the Lord, rather than way of hellish tradition.

Op, God can use any person or thing to expose the fake followers who are only interest in what He can do for them. God is using you to expose your parents!

"He cause you both to will and do His good pleasure.~ Jesus Christ" Please God, not your parents, its your own cross which your parents can't account for.

My advice is don't be rude to them but be static and rigid..

womenareapes:
your family are wise whereby you are not .

that Y tribe got a lot of issues especially there women.

very dirty

unproductive

sexually immorality

very useless

self entitlement mentality.

and also very very dirty.

your family are seriously trying to protect you from that bitchh but cheap dirty sex has covered your brain

My girl is the exact opposite of all the points you listed above

She's neat
Very productive, hates idleness
Not sexually loose. I met her a confirmed V.
Very useful
Not self entitled
Very neat

Why judge all people same brother? Why?

superemmy:


My girl is the exact opposite of all the points you listed above

She's neat
Very productive, hates idleness
Not sexually loose. I met her a confirmed V.
Very useful
Not self entitled
Very neat

Why judge all people same brother? Why?

that's the one she wanted you to see.

marry that biitch and see her true colour

women are the real definition of shake

womenareapes:
that's the one she wanted you to see.

marry that biitch and see her true colour

women are the real definition of shake

Nna that's too harsh

Op I am a a.combination of Yoruba and Igbo , and I live and love it ...


Now you have to convince your parents not confront them


They trust you, but not your girl, it is left for you and your soon wife to prove it to them


Yes they will hate her now, but in the future they will be best of friends.


Seriake Dickson former govnor of bayelsea state grand mother 'bola' was from ijebu ode ...


Let's make love not war

chatinent:
Redeem Church did not stop the racism? I love my own religion; we don't to racism. Proudly JW. I wish I knew what to say but since it's more of a racial thing, I'd rather I learn from comments.

Lies. Jehovah's witnesses discriminate a lot, they can only marry their members.

.

Op Good afternoon, THIS LIFE NO BALANCE AT ALL, But sha let me teach you one scope, since ur mother has accepted the fact that ur girlfriend is pregnant, if you truly love ur babe and you see that she is worth the fight, just kukuma give her belle true true by the time she born the first one, born the second one , even born the third one , Them no go get choice, na them go give up up las las. Na so you go just end up marrying ur babe Ooo.

Phenom10101:
I can never marry a Yoruba woman, The are too treacherous .
And Yorubas don't like us Igbos, If you have stayed with them you will understand. They are too greedy and the can't be trust worthy.

That is why other tribes or people cannot marry women from your tribe. They are worst than the adjectives you used in describing the Yorubas!

Your jingoistic attitude will put you in trouble one day. If you cannot marry them, short up! Don't discourage other people or tribes from marrying them. After all, one man's meat is another's poison.

OnyeMmeri:


Lies. Jehovah's witnesses discriminate a lot, they can only marry their members.

Yes we only marry our members. How will you justify the OP's case: both families are Redeem!

Phenom10101:
I can never marry a Yoruba woman, The are too treacherous .
And Yorubas don't like us Igbos, If you have stayed with them you will understand. They are too greedy and the can't be trust worthy.

this revelation is only for the wise!

superemmy:
Good Morning Nairalanders,


I'm writing this with a bit of pain and anguish.
First off, let me begin by stating that I'm an Igbo guy mid to late twenties, working in a good company, well to do and capable of providing for a family. I'm dating a Yoruba girl who's also in her early twenties. We've been dating for close to three years now.

I love her, I know her family and they know me likewise. I've always been afraid to approach my family especially my mother because I know that they are (Igbo tribalists) forgive me for using the word.

But their belief in the "nothing comes out good of a relationship between the two cultures (igbos and yorubas)" is so strong that I've been forced to seek out help online.

My Dad is a lawyer while my Mom is a Business woman. Knowing my Dad, I expected him to have an open or liberal mind towards my relationship.

I was suprised to find out otherwise because as at this morning, I called for a meeting I've been dreading, to inform them of my decision to marry my girlfriend.

The tempo started low with me explaining and justifying the need for me to have my relationship with my girlfriend ending with a proposal for marriage.

Well after I spoke, my Dad, to my utmost surprise started illustrating about the clash of the two cultures and the waywardness of the Yorubas as a whole, we ended up having a heated argument as to me defending my girlfriend and her people that my Dad has no right to judge an entire race while citing bad examples.

It didn't go well with my Mom adding her icing to the tussle of words.

The meeting did not go well this morning.

Do I pray to God to soften their stance towards my girlfriend just because she is Yoruba.

Please what do I do? My girlfriend is really the best person I've ever met. I know it sounds cheesy.

I even went as far as telling my mom that my girlfriend is pregnant for me which she is not by the way.

My mom said, well she should bring the baby and we'll train the baby but the marriage is a no go discussion area and I should not even think of introducing my girlfriend to them.

We are all christians, we attend the same Redeem church both I the girl and her family. I'm not too churcheous while my parents are both Deacons and Deaconess' but my parents have a strong stance towards this just because she is Yoruba.

Please I'm not hoping to stoke a tribal war issue here
Sensible nairalanders advice me, I can bear insults too but help.


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farano, Rocktation

A marriage where either of the family is against it will not last. Listen to your parents

chatinent:

Yes we only marry our members. How will you justify the OP's case: both families are Redeem!

I quoted you cos you implied in your earlier comment that JWs don't discriminate. But you guys shun people from other religions or Christian denominations when it comes to marriage. And the OP's parents discriminate based on ethnic differences.

Discrimination is discrimination in whatever guise; whether religious, ethnic, etc.

OnyeMmeri:


I quoted you cos you implied in your earlier comment that JWs don't discriminate. But you guys shun people from other religions or Christian denominations when it comes to marriage. And the OP's parents discriminate based on ethnic differences.

Discrimination is discrimination in whatever guise; whether religious, ethnic, etc.

We believe the bible as God's authority and marry only people who share our beliefs. It's called obedience. But one thing is certain, we love our neighbours, even those who don't share our beliefs (that's why we come knocking on your door whether come sun or rain).