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Op those guys are just harvesting u seriously... I hate users,always gimme gimme to even sicerely know how the person u are asking favour from is doing they can't and when u refuse they label u all sorts.. I mind the people i help these days.. Nobody needs a vampire. Too many stupid people everywhere. My advise is u just ignore them to keep ur sanity

You be mumu man. Block them and take care of yourself

The best thing you need to do is to read their message and don't bother to reply them.

Once they sent you normal greeting message, read and reply but once it comes to money issue, mute and ignore.

If this persist, they will come to their normal sense

The simple thing to do
Get a NEW LINE
OR
Tell them you lost your Job
When you like to always send people they will always take advantage of your behaviour
Learn to say NO

Dem no dey tell pesin,...ebi a pa e,u go learn lesson

When I was abroad, someone asked me for a lot of money (500k). I asked for a business proposal even though I didn't have that much money to dash any human being. When none was forthcoming, he had to confess that it was to buy designer clothes and shoes. I just look myself then wearing £16 shirt three times a week na im person wan wear designer for my sweat. I mean, you could not ask for money for a professional course or money to start an apprenticeship, but money to buy stuff to show off. No one asked him to stop asking. Another one asked for money for wedding. I felt irritated. Let me contribute to your wedding because I want to, don't ask me. I remember when I was out of a job and I needed rent money, my sister went to hustle money in Nigeria and sent me the loan I needed. I knew at that point, some friends could not come through and never bothered asking them.

Do this simple test on them. Tell them you are cash strapped but you need to send some money to your mum or some relative, and that you'd pay back at the end of the month. Or tell them a relative is moving apartments and you'd like them to help the relative move her stuff. If they don't come through, they'd never ask you for money again because they know say they fall hand.

Beggars never give, that is why they remain beggars.

Edited.

But must everything be brought to Nairaland? This is simple nah just stop sending them money nah, they didn't put gun in your head so why 're you ranting as if you were forced? If they 're demanding too much infact cut them off. I'm based in South Africa, I send my siblings money when I have, them nor dey force me

It's well oO...

ikoroduarea:
Hi all,

I will really appreciate if moderator can help push this to front page.

Firstly, insults are welcome. I reside in Europe. Two of my friends they are biological brothers, they've been sucking me. I have been sending them money regularly for years, yes years, but I now realised that these people are not ready to work or learn any skill. Even their own biological brother in abroad reported them to me and doesn't take them serious anymore except their mum. Infarct, i used to send money to their mum too. But they just keep asking me for money everytime. Imagine I just sent you money when you said you are sick, two days after you sent me voice record asking me for money to rent a shop. Then the younger one who's chat bellow asking me for 100k for three of them as if I am picking money on the floor here. To some people in Nigeria who always think all nigerians in diaspora think we always think you're begging for money whenever you say hi just to hear from us, it is not the case. How about this too?

I am really tired. My wife who always agree I should help them have started complaining too. These two friends suddenly changed because I used to send them money even before they ask. It's like every week one problem must happen to them that require money. They will just send account number and the deadline time. They keep coming, coming, coming back again after giving. I have paid hundreds of thousands of naira for visa processing for one of them maybe at least they will stop asking me for money and one will be able to help his brother, but the visa was unsuccessful.

Few days ago one of them ask me to give him my sister's number that he just want to greet her since it's been years he saw her last. Behold, the next day my sister called to ask when did I hear from my friend last and did he mention about financial problem to me, I told my sister that he called me two days ago and asked of her number which I gave him. My sister said he requested for money to support his house rent and she sent him some money. I was shocked. Can you imagine guys? My friend. I am not saying it's a crime for him to ask my sister money but why lie to me that you just want to greet her when you asked me for her number? Whereas I just sent him money too not even up to a week.

See another demand again, see my reply, see his reply.

I know one or the two of them will start gossiping me around that I am proud, but they won't tell them about the good I have done for them, I have been doing. They won't. Some friends are not worth it anymore. I am very upset now that it's affecting me mentally and with my wife. Even my children were asking me last night "dad are you alright, you're not happy".

You know what again, one of them sent messages to my wife asking for mobile phone. I saw it but my wife didn't know that I saw it not until I responded to him myself and told my wife to never bother. My wife later sent the phone to him. Since then he's been using that opportunity to demand from her. Though he eventually stopped it but continue asking me only.

I have sent so much money but they just never stop asking. And I am not the time that take pictures and flaunt them on social media. I live my life on low-key.

I need your honest opinion.

Insults are welcome I promise I won't react to any insult.

I wanted to block them on my social media especially on WhatsApp but I had a rethink so they won't feel like I am proud because I am in abroad.

You talk too much.

ednut1:
Stop sending them money and change your lines. How hard is that. Change your phone number

Change his phone number because of liabilities? What about his associates that might be calling the said line?

Lok

ikoroduarea:

I need your honest opinion.

Insults are welcome I promise I won't react to any insult.

I wanted to block them on my social media especially on WhatsApp but I had a rethink so they won't feel like I am proud because I am in abroad.

Change your phone number. Or rather say working conditions at your side is tight. If that doesn't work demand from him what he demands from you. Money

I know exactly what you are going through.
I will tell you that one of the most painful thing is seeing people you love develop a sense of entitlement over your finances.
They feel because they have known you forever, that they deserve anything they ask from you... It hurts to cut them off but from experience, that is what you must do!!

Life has taught me that your true friends, will never ask you for shittt!! They will be there for you and support you..... Don't ever forget those ones!

send them a warning message not to make any of such demand as things are hard every where now. then, block then so that they will not insist, tell your sister to inform you if anyone of them calls or chat with her. that will motivate them to be serious. they are your friends hustling in Nigeria together with you means that they are now too old to be young.

Mires:

Change his phone number because of liabilities? What about his associates that might be calling the said line?

give those ones the number na

Even if you continue sending them money for the next 20yrs, the day you say you're tired is the day you'll become an enemy to them, That's when you'll know they're not your friend, you're just a maga to them.
STOP SENDING THEM MONEY. They're not disable neither are they kids

cc Ikoroduarea
Moreso, no need of changing your phone number, THEY CAN'T DECIDE HOW YOU SHOULD LIVE YOUR LIFE. Telling them no is not a crime.

That how on one occasion when I flew to the States for an official business trip and many of my friends started asking me for this and that.

ikoroduarea:
Hi all,

I will really appreciate if moderator can help push this to front page.

Firstly, insults are welcome. I reside in Europe. Two of my friends they are biological brothers, they've been sucking me. I have been sending them money regularly for years, yes years, but I now realised that these people are not ready to work or learn any skill. Even their own biological brother in abroad reported them to me and doesn't take them serious anymore except their mum. Infarct, i used to send money to their mum too. But they just keep asking me for money everytime. Imagine I just sent you money when you said you are sick, two days after you sent me voice record asking me for money to rent a shop. Then the younger one who's chat bellow asking me for 100k for three of them as if I am picking money on the floor here. To some people in Nigeria who always think all nigerians in diaspora think we always think you're begging for money whenever you say hi just to hear from us, it is not the case. How about this too?

I am really tired. My wife who always agree I should help them have started complaining too. These two friends suddenly changed because I used to send them money even before they ask. It's like every week one problem must happen to them that require money. They will just send account number and the deadline time. They keep coming, coming, coming back again after giving. I have paid hundreds of thousands of naira for visa processing for one of them maybe at least they will stop asking me for money and one will be able to help his brother, but the visa was unsuccessful.

Few days ago one of them ask me to give him my sister's number that he just want to greet her since it's been years he saw her last. Behold, the next day my sister called to ask when did I hear from my friend last and did he mention about financial problem to me, I told my sister that he called me two days ago and asked of her number which I gave him. My sister said he requested for money to support his house rent and she sent him some money. I was shocked. Can you imagine guys? My friend. I am not saying it's a crime for him to ask my sister money but why lie to me that you just want to greet her when you asked me for her number? Whereas I just sent him money too not even up to a week.

See another demand again, see my reply, see his reply.

I know one or the two of them will start gossiping me around that I am proud, but they won't tell them about the good I have done for them, I have been doing. They won't. Some friends are not worth it anymore. I am very upset now that it's affecting me mentally and with my wife. Even my children were asking me last night "dad are you alright, you're not happy".

You know what again, one of them sent messages to my wife asking for mobile phone. I saw it but my wife didn't know that I saw it not until I responded to him myself and told my wife to never bother. My wife later sent the phone to him. Since then he's been using that opportunity to demand from her. Though he eventually stopped it but continue asking me only.

I have sent so much money but they just never stop asking. And I am not the time that take pictures and flaunt them on social media. I live my life on low-key.

I need your honest opinion.

Insults are welcome I promise I won't react to any insult.

I wanted to block them on my social media especially on WhatsApp but I had a rethink so they won't feel like I am proud because I am in abroad.

you have a values conflict. You love to "help"people that's why you're helping those your guys. The problem is you love helping people buy the people you're helping are draining you. No advice here can help you bro. Its a values conflicf . bye

.

Hmm

I really pity the OP, he seems a really nice guy, but the thing is this, when it comes to Nigerians, niceness is a major weakness.

They will suck you dry and abuse you, what you don't know is they envy you, envy leads to jealousy, jealousy leads to HATE. No matter what you do, they will pass through the phases above Envy --> Jealousy --> Hatred.

Cut them off immediately and block them for good, nothing happy or good will come with your one-sided relationship with them, they will always want more and more, they see you as a MUGU!

Spend your money on yourself and family, GOD will be the judge, you have done more than enough!!

If you think they will talk badly about you to people and tarnish your image, imagine what they are saying now to everyone "Make I call me mugu".

I also learned this the hard way, lent a dear friend over GBP2000, since he got sacked from his Bank job, he took it and went drinking flexing, calling me Mugu to everyone who cared to listen, then he came back again to ask for another 2000, when I refused he started to lament and get angry imagine this, as if he is my bank manager!!

That 2k spent 10 years in his hand, until he too became serious and travelled abroad, now that he has been abroad for years, I ask for my money back, he starts to talk long story that i betrayed him!! Imagine this same person uninvited me from his wedding that he had earlier asked me to be his groom, because i no fall mugu drop another 2K for am.

I'm so sorry that you had to go through this much mental health challenges for your good will..
Nobody deserve to go through this trauma..

I'm going to appreciate if you could also help me
I promise not to be an ingrate..
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If you want to help people across the world, now is the time to do so

But if you notice a pattern of people trying to use you, being lazy, too demanding and unappreciative, then cut them off immediately

Your peace of mind can't be bought with money

Seem like they help u alots when u got nothing.. that's why they are trying to take advantage of u. Hmmmm..

I know u wrote this to hear what u want..my take is that God elevated u there for a reason..u are better than them..they need your help..Nigeria is hard to live.. Just do whatever in your capacity and stop saying they are milking u..it's your turn today and who knows tomorrow

I love giving, but also love saying NO!!

I’m unpredictable.

I give, when I want. I refrain, when I wish.

My mom is my priority, but she rarely asks cos I always do the needful on time.

Aside her everyone else know they can’t force money from my pocket!!

I’m stubborn. I can’t be manipulated!!

Be like me!!!

ednut1:
Stop sending them money and change your lines. How hard is that. Change your phone number

I wouldn't even change my line for them. I will simply tell them I don't have. The OP cares too much and he's so much concerned about what they would say about him..

Are they using jazz to talk to you. You've been a fool by sending to them always. You are working hard to feed lazy morons. Im shocked!!! So if you stop sending them money they will stop being your friend.. so is it their frndship keeping you alive? Let them start telling pple you are a bad person.. you are not party jollof rice. You will be very foolish to keep giving them!!

Glaswegian:
Not only you o. Applies to almost every person working in Nigeria.

Because of this, I hardly pick calls or reply messages.

There are people that know my payday. By the end of the month, a lot of messages.

Almost everyone is a beggar here. It’s a serious situation.

One of them. I have not even read the message since yesterday. I knew where it was going.

ikoroduarea:
Hi all,

I will really appreciate if moderator can help push this to front page.

Firstly, insults are welcome. I reside in Europe. Two of my friends they are biological brothers, they've been sucking me. I have been sending them money regularly for years, yes years, but I now realised that these people are not ready to work or learn any skill. Even their own biological brother in abroad reported them to me and doesn't take them serious anymore except their mum. Infarct, i used to send money to their mum too. But they just keep asking me for money everytime. Imagine I just sent you money when you said you are sick, two days after you sent me voice record asking me for money to rent a shop. Then the younger one who's chat bellow asking me for 100k for three of them as if I am picking money on the floor here. To some people in Nigeria who always think all nigerians in diaspora think we always think you're begging for money whenever you say hi just to hear from us, it is not the case. How about this too?

I am really tired. My wife who always agree I should help them have started complaining too. These two friends suddenly changed because I used to send them money even before they ask. It's like every week one problem must happen to them that require money. They will just send account number and the deadline time. They keep coming, coming, coming back again after giving. I have paid hundreds of thousands of naira for visa processing for one of them maybe at least they will stop asking me for money and one will be able to help his brother, but the visa was unsuccessful.

Few days ago one of them ask me to give him my sister's number that he just want to greet her since it's been years he saw her last. Behold, the next day my sister called to ask when did I hear from my friend last and did he mention about financial problem to me, I told my sister that he called me two days ago and asked of her number which I gave him. My sister said he requested for money to support his house rent and she sent him some money. I was shocked. Can you imagine guys? My friend. I am not saying it's a crime for him to ask my sister money but why lie to me that you just want to greet her when you asked me for her number? Whereas I just sent him money too not even up to a week.

See another demand again, see my reply, see his reply.

I know one or the two of them will start gossiping me around that I am proud, but they won't tell them about the good I have done for them, I have been doing. They won't. Some friends are not worth it anymore. I am very upset now that it's affecting me mentally and with my wife. Even my children were asking me last night "dad are you alright, you're not happy".

You know what again, one of them sent messages to my wife asking for mobile phone. I saw it but my wife didn't know that I saw it not until I responded to him myself and told my wife to never bother. My wife later sent the phone to him. Since then he's been using that opportunity to demand from her. Though he eventually stopped it but continue asking me only.

I have sent so much money but they just never stop asking. And I am not the time that take pictures and flaunt them on social media. I live my life on low-key.

I need your honest opinion.

Insults are welcome I promise I won't react to any insult.

I wanted to block them on my social media especially on WhatsApp but I had a rethink so they won't feel like I am proud because I am in abroad.

OP, welcome to the club

The amount of money have given for charity will build me.... Well, let me not talk about it

U just need to stop giving them. Simple

In fact, begin to beg them too. Or just ignore them

DonFreshmoney:
Please can I send account number so you can bless me... any amount plz.. thanks

We asked before you, keep off