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Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Angelacruz: 7:20pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Very true dasparrow: |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by rafcrown(m): 7:21pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
I have stopped doing that kind of thing Some people just take you for granted. No mercy for the abroad based guys than just send money. How can he process his visa when the money is still flowing? They are the people who will wreck you and also blast you for not achieving much like Hushpuppi. Wise up and start to invest wisely. The more you give,the more they come for more like Oliver Twist. 1 Like |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by louisa4luv(f): 7:22pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
An English adage says no man is an island of himself so I'll not dissuade you from helping people. Although I guess you are not here to listen to reason but to hype yourself. Anyways, when you require a simple thing from them and they surprisingly decline, you will learn about human beings cos you are yet to understand. I stand to be corrected though. |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Nickxander11(m): 7:24pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
ikoroduarea: I blame you for this man. That's the impression that comes with showing people you that you are bouyant. Best bet is to reduce/stop communication.If it's possible, don't reply their messages on IG/twitter, get a new WhatsApp line. If they can still get you via any other means just tell them you are out of job and you can't afford to send anything to them. |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Napolito: 7:25pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
ICHguy:. , I think say na only me ahahaha |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Nobody: 7:26pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Ishilove:Very very important. |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by NovusHomo(m): 7:27pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Kenn55: You bad. Poor guy said he didn't mind insults and you piled it on. |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Ishilove: 7:28pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
J111333:Being very experienced in these matters, what are your words on marble for the poster? |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by pedel: 7:28pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
After almost 20 years in Europe I can tell you, you should stop sending money home. Safe every single cent or penny you get. Ignore any number calling from Nigeria for 5 years. You will come back to thank me. By the way, only ready few lines from your article and I know you are being pushed into depression. There are people I sponsor in university, there are people I helped travel abroad, there are people I sent vehicles to who are no longer talking to me. Don’t let them ruin your life. Learn from President Buhari who doesn’t talk to Nigerians. Just ignore everyone and focus on what you plan to do. God be with you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by TalkCity: 7:32pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Those guys are not your friends. You need to cut them off quickly, because when you visit nigeria and you are loaded with cash, this are the type of friends that can murder you just to steal your cash. so be very careful and warn your sister to stay off them too. You have done your best for them. |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by ThothHermes: 7:33pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Kenn55:I'm telling you. Shocking. |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by golddare: 7:42pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Change your number and deactivate your FB or other social media accounts for a month. If your wife can change her number let he do it but if not no qualms. Tell your sister to tell them whenever they call her that you are going through some challenges. After a month or so when they finally get in touch with you be the first to complain about money etc. Stop sowing on a rocky soil, look for responsible Nigerians to help. |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by solonubinho(m): 7:45pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
OP, I read somewhere that the best way to help someone is to provide them with what they may need to solve their problems on their own as opposed to helping them solve their problems. This is because the more you help them out of each hole, the deeper they go next time. This, however does not mean that there aren't people who have enough sense to discern when they are beginning to become a burden. However, it is evident that your friends have either refused to be reasonable or do not understand that they are becoming burdensome. The only reasonable help you should ever offer them at this point (if you want to) is to assist them with acquiring a skill or degree that can put food on their table. Whatever they do with that opportunity is up to them. Please protect your mental health. 2 Likes |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by solonubinho(m): 7:49pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
louisa4luv: Is this one okay? Did you read the entire post or not? 2 Likes |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Meritocracy: 7:50pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Do they put their hand in your wallet or withdraw in your bank account? By the you go bankrupt or have a little problem, you will realize you have no friends. Pretend to have little problem just for two month and know your type of friends. |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Funpeter: 7:53pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
ikoroduarea:Bros you nice ooooo just cut them off |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by solonubinho(m): 7:58pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Alberta123: So because they gave you license to insult, you sef carried your two hands to drink the akamu. Nna if not for this your last line ehnn..I for finish you. Oya goodnight. 1 Like |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by ElAguila(m): 7:59pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Why does this feel like G+ to me? I pray you find the right solution |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by BarbieFaith: 8:03pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
I once had a male friend whom I while a way some time with He told me about a day back then in secondary school He had this friend who can lavish money but then depend on him for transport because they always board cab home So one very good day, this guy kept lavishing money whereas my friend already told him that there's no money for transport but the guy didn't listen So what my friend did was that as soon as they got to the junction, my friend payed for his cab fee board a bike and went home straight leaving the guy there who was with nothing but #30 Since that day the guy always save small for transport So what am trying to say is that some people need to be teach a lesson before they know how hard life is I'm not saying that helping others is bad but there has to limit especially when you see that the opponent is misusing it My dear you don't need anyone to teach you how to be strong hearted, you have to do it yourself You've done enough for those your friends and God has sees your heart, so anything they say about you shouldn't be of a concerns to you Live a blissful life with your family 1 Like |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by efavour: 8:03pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
dasparrow:It is not only Nigerians, I once loaned money to an Asian friend, when it got time to pay back, she asked for another loan. I gave because the purpose was supposed to help me recover my first loan and then this one. She gave me a time she will pay back, from her mouth oh. When the time came even after she told me she have have secured a job, another story of her unpaid Bill's as if I don't have Bill's to pay oh. What helped me made a decision and cut her off is when she mentioned how unreasonable I am and how the person that use to do that for her have relocated. That is when I know I was dealing with an entitled unreasonable human being . It took me more than 6 months to get my money back in bits oh. Next time, let the person take emergency loan and pay back with interest. Some people spoil it for others. |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by lordfemzy: 8:04pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
@ikoroduarea, you don't owe dem folks any shit. Infact no need to block their lines, simply ignore requests and move on, with time they ll get the drift and find a new maga. Invest on urself and buy assets that ll yield for you later on cos you don't know what tomorrow holds. I am very familiar with these kind of attitudes and it doesnt help the giver on the long run. Yea country is hard but we are surviving, I also have cousins littered all over UK and Canada and I don't ask for any favours from anyone. Life is difficult for everyone in several ways just that some environments are better off. Focus on urself going forward and give with sense. Cheers |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by jonaville29(m): 8:05pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
your wife sent your friend a phone? if you wan lie lie with sense na |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by solonubinho(m): 8:05pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Aboguede: Obviously one of those who do not know how to spell. Plus there's nothing to know. How does this look like a made up story to you now? Something people abroad go through on a steady.. anyways, you're free to air your opinion. I sha know it belongs in the trash can. 1 Like |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by GreaterFuture(m): 8:24pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Kenn55:Juju |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by snipernigga(m): 8:31pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
it's the fault of bad leadership in Nigeria. continue sending them money, God loves a cheerful giver. if you hear they go and steal, you will say why didn't they call me |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Nobody: 8:32pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Hmm, tbh I have asked my uncle in the UK for N50,000 the tym I used my house rent to start a drop shipping business and a PayPal transfer business while I was a student, I didn't have the money to pay back the rent and the time was fast approaching, thank goodness I worked it out and paid, I felt embrassed asking him 4 money, I'm sure he told his wife and children, we are very close and the children are my age and I'm just picturing all of them in d living room in UK watching Disney ND Uncle telling them that Graham told him to send 4 him N50,000! They all came back last yr and I was so damn embrassed cos they were all acting closed off which I'm sure has to do with it, anyways, this friends of urs aren't friends anymore, cut them off, u don't av to change ur phone number cos of them, see d msgs and don't reply, Mr man no long talk! U need to be clear, tell them "No" I'm not sending anything no matter what! And mean it! If they are ur blood brothers then I feel u should as a matter of urgency try to make more lasting investments for them and help them find their grounds, if they are friends, cut them off! Family first! 1 Like |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by bizhop01: 8:36pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Even dangote never give for no reason, Well for me i think is good to help a friend to stand, but not unnecessarily than your side chicks that will use your money to sponsor her boyfriend and still label you MUGU1 in diaspora |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Ndipe(m): 8:39pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Don't be a people pleaser, you can't please everybody. 1 Like |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Farakay10: 8:40pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Don't say what you don't know...My uncle also disturbs me at every opportunity..I think of how we grew up. We slept in the same room for years...Sometimes I just become a fool when he asks for help...I hope God helps me too... Kenn55: 1 Like |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by sexdoll: 8:50pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
ikoroduarea: my fren' go and sit down! see as you dey yarn like say dem take gun put for your head come dey demand the money sef. what stops you from telling them no? will the heavens fall if you refuse to send them money? I no just understand why e be say sometimes people will just be acting as if to say they don't really know the simplest solutions to their problems. |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by Mikeiron78(m): 8:51pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
You act as if you owe them your life, but you gotta close your eyes. I have been living in the United States since 2001, I have sent too much money that I would build 10 mansions, but that's our people and our culture. You need to man up, make the tough decision, change your number or ignore all calls from Nigeria. I still help out, but I now have selective helping. But, at the need of the day, it's your life and your decision to make, whatever works for me, might not work for you. 1 Like |
Re: My Friends Exploiting Money From Me, Advice Needed by armyofone(m): 8:51pm On Jul 27, 2020 |
Nigerians can still whittle ones resolve with just saying NO . Mindfulness ? Mindlog: |
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