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mariahAngel:
To me, I found the it very uncomfortable to watch how the child was desperately begging to be spared.
When he knelt down, I almost cried.
I know children can be naughty and that there's need to discipline them sometimes, but making them go through the mental and emotional torture of not knowing what to expect is not right. It is abuse.
If you're going to spank them, spank them already.
It would've even been fair if she had spanked him and got it over with, than allowing him go through that torture while filming it.
What would be worse would be that she ended up flogging him after that whole begging.

Acidosis:
Correcting a child through threats is not abuse. This is a natural and normal phenomenon all over the world. There's no society without laws, rules, and regulations.

Acidosis:
What's abnormal about this kind of crying and the plea for a second last chance?

All I see is a child that has consistently begged for a second and third chance in the past. For how long should that continue? Till he grows up to become an armed robber or rapist?

Seeing how the child begs in the past, the mom decided to record her child for the world to see his drama. I didn't see her using a rod on him.

More importantly, the governor of Lagos has made a statement without necessarily condemning the mother. Mind you, Lagos state is far ahead of other states when it comes to abuse of any kind so for the governor to speak without indicting the mother speaks volume.

Unnerve:
Okay miss superiority complex

Hathor5:
If you don't feel anything seeing the child like this, I can't help you.

Acidosis:
Of course, I feel something for him. Same way I feel something for people in the prison. So let's free everyone so we can have a chaotic society.

Hathor5:
Are you forming woke and Westernized now?

Because as soon as you speak for healthier ways of disciplining a child on this forum you are.

The video is sickening.

mariahAngel:
It is mental and emotional abuse.
It is not right to put a child through that.

mariahAngel:
Mental and emotional torture can be worse than spanking a child.
I've always said it: Adults who beat children even when they beg desperately are monstrous bullies.

Hathor5:
You have a chaotic society despite all the spanking and abuse. Or because of it?

Oh the irony!

Acidosis:
No, we have a chaotic society because most criminals and violent people don't even have a home to begin with.

Hathor5:
There are thousands of criminals out there sponsoring their 'good families' with shady money.

And you can raise a good child without subjecting him to such forms of punishment.

There is absolutely no proof that child abuse produces healthy citizens. Don't make me laugh.

Acidosis:
We can't prove something we both don't agree on its meaning. What I found in that video is not a form of child abuse especially considering the intent of the video and the fact that the child had initially gotten a second, third, and probably more chances over the same act.

Klass99:
I didn't watch the video. I just did and I am not impressed by mother or child.

Hathor, I actually wish my neighbour would discipline her 5 year old daughter this way.

The girl can't even write her name at age 5 but when she opens her mouth to talk it spews trash that shouldn't be coming from a child, she's her mother's favourite and I see the rod being spared while the child is spoilt.

Hathor5:
You can raise well-behaved children in a more loving way. I have seen it done countless times.

Hathor5:
Even if he suffers the consequences of his naughty behavior, there is nothing funny about him crying like this and highly inappropriate to film and upload it. Nonsense.

Hathor5:
There are thousands of criminals out there sponsoring their 'good families' with shady money.

And you can raise a good child without subjecting him to such forms of punishment.

There is absolutely no proof that child abuse produces healthy citizens. Don't make me laugh.

Hathor5:
You first. No reason to write long epistles mentioning Westerners like you suffer from an inferiority complex.

Elder0001:
Most Nigerians are used to abuse so they won't see anything wrong with the video.

Hathor5:
I know and we see the results of it everywhere.

Hathor5:
You can raise well-behaved children in a more loving way. I have seen it done countless times.

Klass99:
Lol , babe just die this yarn first.

When you meet the child I mentioned in my first post, na you go first ask for cane to flog the living daylights out of her.

You can also raise well behaved children in a loving way by using the rod appropriately and adequately, not sparing it - the rod.

Did you not school or live in Nigeria for a while? Were you not flogged or punished by teachers at school, relatives at home or your own parents? Did you not turn out okay? I did and I still love/appreciate each and everyone of those people.

A friend once told me that when you have kids you need to watch and understand each of them and know which disciplinary measures to apply with each child, because they are all different.

Her point was this - some children are more difficult and stubborn than others, those ones will require closer marking, a firm hand and the rod. Others are okay but lazy and laid back, those ones will also require a different sort of training where they are pushed out of their laziness early so it doesn't follow them into adulthood.

Klass99:
It's not violence, it's discipline but yeah let's agree to disagree.

Hathor5:
It's violence in the name of discipline.

Hathor5:
Let's agree to disagree. All I know and am certain of is that it is possible to raise well-behaved children in the total absence of physical violence. Nigerian parents often resort to violence because they are unaware of better ways to raise children. It's even the same thing with dog owners. Some people will beat up their dogs, Ceasar Milan (my favorite dog trainer) will achieve the best results quickly without raising his hand even once.

Unnerve:
Lol, someone said that westerners will see it as child abuse
Nigerians always want to appear more western than the westerners themselves, more religious than the pope, etc, everything is always more, lol. Wannabes

Go on YouTube and see videos of white kids crying in reaction to something done/said to them, or just crying to avoid doing things a parent wanted them to do. There are television shows (e.g Things Children Do) dedicated to getting a good laugh from the antics of kids, some of the clips shown usually mirror this same situation with kids crying/begging and trying to talk their way out of avoiding things they don't like or want.

Y'all should just get a grip on yourselves, there was no torture, nothing in the video suggests abuse. The mother was desperately trying to hold back her own laughter throughout the whole thing, meaning she was only recording it because she found her son funny in the first place. Perhaps, her decision to share the video is what could be debated, but this still would be adjudged strictly on personal opinion. Some people don't like sharing their lives on SM, others do.
The same western wannabes decrying her decision to share the video with the world are usually the exact same people who will say stuff like 'live and let live' or 'everyone has a right to choices', the very next second.

And fück no, that boy is not going to be emotionally or pyschologically scarred because of what went on in the video, anyone saying this is simply projecting their own emotional scarring from life experiences.
Children don't think like adults, they are completely innocent and free from those things that make adults want to question or distrust situations. An adult who tries to analyze a child's emotional response through his/her own adult coloured lenses will always fail woefully.

That boy was probably playing and running around the house/neighborhood with his friends not more than 30mins after that stuff happened, that's kids for you. They will get scolded, they will cry, even act like they want to die from the tears, but the next second they're back to themselves jumping and being a nuisance with no thought or recollection of what transpired earlier. This is something that an adult is incapable of because we have completely lost that childlike innocence and tend to dwell so much on the whys and hows, depressing ourselves in the process.


You all need to just

DanoskiDaniels:
I have my reservations about this viral "Mommy Calm Down Video" first I don't find it funny nor interesting (but that's my personal opinion). As you are aware, the boy in the video is already getting endorsements and scholarship from both individuals and top brands alike and even the Governor of Lagos State wants to meet with the boy and this of course is always the expected result of anything viral that is seen exceptional by members of the social media community, however I'm only wondering why a parent would decide to punish a child and make a video of it to post in the social media, I mean what is actually the true motive of it? Is it to correct the child or to gain cheap popularity? In as much as there have been an open widow opportunity resulting from its publicity, I am still of the opinion that this act doesn't show maturity as it is not everything that should come to the public space except it is utterly necessary. As this has now become a trend now, just watch as many parent would in the following weeks, be flooding the social media with different versions of their own well scripted melodramas in other to cash out too from the already awaiting pseudo good hearted Nigerians who will also be showing concern for the cameras too. But anyways having said that, it is still my opinion, I mean, what do I know?