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Be very watchful of how who you intend to settle down with, treat people around you!

You'd thank your chi later

Let me get this out of the way: It has always been my policy to only engage a woman physically if she engages me first(slap me, i slap you)

Now a lot of people(women) have been commenting on how wrong it is to beat a woman, one even said there is great strength in walking away

These women are actually forgetting the context and the events that happened prior.

you lost a sister(only sister and only sibling) that is really painful.

the only child of your sister(who most definitely reminds of you of your sister) is being subjugated by your girlfriend(not wife oh!) you had already cautioned your girlfriend, all fell on deaf ears.

the final straw for you was the cry of your niece, that's when you snapped.

You are both wrong, you and your girlfriend.
But under the circumstances i can't fault you.
It is best that you end that relationship.
God has a way pointing out that a potential spouse is not for you

EDITED
I don't agree with those that say beating your girlfriend in front of your niece would give her the wrong idea. No. Rather, your niece would know that her uncle would always have her back.
That would be very reassuring to a girl who lost her mother and does not know her father.

bukatyne:
OP beat up his ex-fiancée
ex-fiancée up his niece

Are we seeing a pattern of the 'strong' beating/bullying the 'weaker'.

Perhaps the world has been looking at the issue of domestic violence in silos.

It is really the stronger picking on/bullying/beating the weaker in a domestic setting.

The pattern does not matter as it is the natural state of things.

However, humans are not animal and must face consequences for violence as it is done
in saner climes whether the victim is a child or adult.

Even if half of Nigerian parents will end up in jail if knocking a child becomes a crime, we can't
continue to look sideways and justify violence.

Intrepid01:
I’m happy for both of you...you just discovered that you were planning to marry an intolerant self- entitled 21st century bi.t.ch. while she too has now discovered that she was about marrying a woman beater, who lacks self-control and has poor reasoning skills to know that such issues are better handled with sense.

Congrats to you both!

Where is the lie here?

Nice one brother...
But next time don't beat up a woman, esp in the presence of a teenager, they pick up on such easily.

Anigreat:
What baffles me is that most of you ladies do not see the ill treatment she meted to my niece.

what if my niece have collapse and die too with the knock she gave her?

Kuboro mmo eyeneka, anything to suit thier wicked and selfish agenda.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....No the little girl she was beating is putting on a death proof vest abi?.

She is immune to death.lol

So a knock on the girl's head warrants a beating that will take her to hospital? I am all for factory resetting slap but not the kind he administered to her.

Next time the stupid girl will not be cohabiting with someone who hasn't paid her bride price.

Beating her is one thing, d injuries is another thing but having no regret after d beating hmmm my brother u be beast o. She is wrong but u handle d matter wrongly. U should hv drawn d line when u notice her suddenly change of behaviour why wait for d matter 2 escalate 2 dat level before u react.

Lightangel65:
Shut up pig, you idi0ts dont have sense you ignored the maltreatment of the little girl and are blasting the man, his ex-fiancee deserved it i understand why he dosent fee remorse.
You see why you feminists can never have sense, isnt feminism womens rights or does this only happen if its a man, so a woman can maltreat a woman and its ok for you.
If you like go and beat your fiancees niece, na ambulance them go use carry you go morturary
Disgusting pig

.....No mind her. She lacks sense.

Anigreat:
What baffles me is that most of you ladies do not see the ill treatment she meted to my niece.

what if my niece have collapse and die too with the knock she gave her?

I support you jare. It's self defense. But you went too far tho. You would have only given her a knock back.

People who have not experienced female bullies are the ones saying this.

Anigreat:
I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

I have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child survive, glory to God she did survive though it wasn't easy, as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it(I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl screamed and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.

As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house for no reasons if you're not strong.

I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel, and no going back and no regret.

Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. Is this how she will be maltreating my niece? obviously i will forever leave in regrets.

If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, and i will never feel sorry for her. If she has the mind to maltreat a poor girl whose mother is late, she's capable of anything.

Insults are welcome.

You are a man

I commend you for realizing this soon before wifing such lady. Family is priority before any girlfriend or fiancee.
Nice one, OP.

Ishilove:
So a knock on the girl's head warrants a beating that will take her to hospital? I am all for factory resetting slap but not the kind he administered to her.

Next time the stupid girl will not be cohabiting with someone who hasn't paid her bride price.

.....A knock can also kill her you know?

Ladies hope una dey see,
She lives with him, does all the house chores plus bed chores, at the end she was beaten and injured to stupor, thrown out of the house, marriage plans cancelled...

She that has ears should hear ooo!!!

So she is doing house chores without being married, radarada.


She will learn to respect her worth during her next relationship


But it like you have mean her before this incident happened self, u better ask God for forgiveness and both of you should give tour life to Christ for proper marriage direction.


If you think another one will be better, u dey device yourself ni o

JONNYSPUTE:
...No the person she was beating is an animal abi?

Please go and control the simp you nicknamed a gentleman.

Mitchewww. She never even see man wey go marry her sef. Keep searching.

What she did was wrong, I am not in supoort of it, but he is also wrong to beat her, both of them are wrong.

Yes I'm taking my time not to end up with a self proclaimed thug male like you

Lazycyndy:
Your ex-fiancee beat your niece, you beat her in return. Now tell me, what's the difference between the both of you.

And why pray tell are you co-habiting with a woman who is not yet your wife and making her do wifely duties?

This story could be fake but not uncommon to the behavior of most Nigerian men.

Why did she agree to live with him in the first place if she wasn't prepared to do wifely duties? Would you go to a person's home and expect them to do all the chores?

Anigreat:
I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

I have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child survive, glory to God she did survive though it wasn't easy, as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it(I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl screamed and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.

As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house for no reasons if you're not strong.

I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel, and no going back and no regret.

Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. Is this how she will be maltreating my niece? obviously i will forever leave in regrets.

If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, and i will never feel sorry for her. If she has the mind to maltreat a poor girl whose mother is late, she's capable of anything.

Insults are welcome.

Makesre u don't marry that girl.

She's so wicked to the extent that she cant hide it

mhizv:
Be very watchful of how who you intend to settle down with, treat people around you!

You'd thank your chi later

Chi? do you practice the ways of the budha

JONNYSPUTE:
.....A knock can also kill her you know?

Jonny stop defending bad thing. What op did is killing a fly with a sledgehammer.

womenareapes:
shut up you piece of trash!

no woman can ever mess with my family because I don't take shit from them like you simps!

Nigeria women are so overated in this country. there value is worth comparing to 5naira note

useless set of black species with entitlement mentality.

the more we guys realise that women are not to be treated like human the more you will have a peaceful life.

I treat women like piece of shiit.

How some of you keep escaping from Yaba left amazes me.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....A knock can also kill her you know?

Oh pls! Enough of this nonsense already. If I use a pestle to hit my man to the point he bleeds and has to be taken to the hospital, all because he knocked my nephew... Will you all be hailing me? You guys should be reasoning well abeg!

No one is saying OP did wrong by defending his niece. Do you know the extent you will beat someone for blood to come out? Haba!!

You did well, my niggar. I hate jealous girls with passion.

donstan18:
A man will ALWAYS accommodate, respect, be friendly, spend and also value people from his wife's family, but a woman will NEVER EVER do the same. I don't just understand the kind of creatures these elements are.

These days, it's easier to make money than to marry a good and accommodating woman in Nigeria,

Wen did u become a female?

Lovelyn451:
Ladies hope una dey see,
She lives with him, does all the house chores plus bed chores, at the end she was beaten and injured to stupor, thrown out of the house, marriage plans cancelled...

She that has ears should hear ooo!!!

They will keep giving boyfriends husband benefits to their own detriment. Serves her right. Next time she will not cohabit, neither will she maltreat other people's children.

alramon:
I love the fact that u said insults are welcome because u urself know that u need to be insulted....

how old are u self in the first place

let me just point out some things for u here:


1.u are not married yet and u are already living together and she has been doing house chores, u have been doing the other night play together. U need to be flogged urself on this.

2. there are ways of resolving things when things go wrong in marriage (u are even cohabiting self) rather than beating. u have started beating her, so when u marry her u will kuku kill her if she does something worse than that.

3. don't marry that woman as it is obvious that she is a lazy woman(girl). You are seeing her true colors gradually

4. In case u see another responsible lady and u finally marry, don't give that ur niece audacity to think she can do anything in ur house because of the bonding.

5. the truth is just that, no woman likes a third-party in their house, so know how to handle things easily with them...


shikena!

""4. In case u see another responsible lady and u finally marry, don't give that ur niece audacity to think she can do anything in ur house because of the bonding.

5. the truth is just that, no woman likes a third-party in their house, so know how to handle things easily with them...""


Th are false.

Beating ur lady is nt d best way 2 pass a msg accross. Him fuckup pass him woman own self.

pocohantas:
Oh pls! Enough of this nonsense already. If I beat use a pestle to hit my man to the point he bleeds and has to be taken to the hospital, all because he knocked my nephew... Will you all be hailing me? You guys should be reasoning well abeg!

No one is saying OP did wrong by defending his niece. Do you know the extent you will beat someone for blood to come out? Haba!!

Exactly my point. Our grouse is not that he is defending his niece; the problem is the action the took in her defence. It is waaay too much.

Anigreat:
I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

I have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child survive, glory to God she did survive though it wasn't easy, as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it(I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl screamed and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.

As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house for no reasons if you're not strong.

I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel, and no going back and no regret.

Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. Is this how she will be maltreating my niece? obviously i will forever leave in regrets.

If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, and i will never feel sorry for her. If she has the mind to maltreat a poor girl whose mother is late, she's capable of anything.

Insults are welcome.

you are indeed a real man.Send her packing immediately. If to say her family member come,she for happy

pocohantas:
Oh pls! Enough of this nonsense already. If I beat use a pestle to hit my man to the point he bleeds and has to be taken to the hospital, all because he knocked my nephew... Will you all be hailing me? You guys should be reasoning well abeg!

No one is saying OP did wrong by defending his niece. Do you know the extent you will beat someone for blood to come out? Haba!!

Yes it would be right, feminists ke, so a woman can oppress another woman and its ok to you people? So feminism only applies if its a guy wrong? Fakes

pocohantas:
Oh pls! Enough of this nonsense already. If I beat use a pestle to hit my man to the point he bleeds and has to be taken to the hospital, all because he knocked my nephew... Will you all be hailing me? You guys should be reasoning well abeg!

No one is saying OP did wrong by defending his niece. Do you know the extent you will beat someone for blood to come out? Haba!!

....I rest my case ma'am

Nuttella:
She didnt beat the niece, she only gave her a knock, which is very wrong but beating her back does not make any sense. I dont believe in an eye for an eye, an eye for an eye makes the world go blind, why should you beat someone you love, na see finish dey cause am sha.

I support him giving her a hard knock back.If she feels okay with intimidating a weak child she shouldn't feel bad with being intimidated.